Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

[QUOTE=Deathhunter;39341047]I got two questions. 1. What do I do if I do not want to start a relationship with a girl but just be fuck buddies instead? 2. How difficult is it for a guy with a small penis (4.4in length 5in girth) to get into a hook-up? Ex said I was okay at sex but I've heard girls who hook-up say size matters. [editline]25th January 2013[/editline] For some reason I feel so insecure. Shit[/QUOTE] 1. If people have feelings to the other person things usually go horribly, just a word of warning. Just say that you are not interested in a relationship, continue being sexy. 2. Typically most people don't care (or at least say they don't) but statistics say otherwise. [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=JohnnyGoGo;39341089]I wouldn't bother messaging her again, if she's genuinely ignored you then don't go after her about it. It wont help, if she really wanted to stay friends with you wouldn't have to ask her to be so. I think everyone, including him can see that, but it's easier said than done.[/QUOTE] It's pretty easy. You just need to put your mind in a different place, and stop putting it back there. Focus on your work and your studies. Breakdowns, especially online, make you look ridiculous. You should channel your emotions somewhere else. Next time, break down here instead of at your ex, and we probably can help you out.

Yeah I know guys, and sorry for being so dramatic, that's kind of how I get when I'm out of it emotionally. It's not that I'm just messaging her and she's not replying/ignoring me, we talk on steam every couple of days at least, it's just that last night I... went a little wonky? :v: Honestly apart from the embarrassment and worry that I might have freaked her out a little, I feel a lot better for it. I guess I'd just been kinda pushing it aside and bottling it up ever since the break-up, and finally just kinda letting it loose, although not the most tactful, with much weeping and foetal positioning, really just cleared my system overall. So yeah, sorry for freaking out there. And I would have come to you guys first but it wasn't really an option at the time and I wasn't exactly thinking straight. I just wanna say thanks to you guys, both for being there, even if it is to point out what a fool I'm being or just by posting your own stuff. This thread has become part of my routine that has been helping to keep my mind off of things, and it's been helpful. [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] And that was my devil post. Woo. :v:

[QUOTE=Deathhunter;39341047]I got two questions. 1. What do I do if I do not want to start a relationship with a girl but just be fuck buddies instead? 2. How difficult is it for a guy with a small penis (4.4in length 5in girth) to get into a hook-up? Ex said I was okay at sex but I've heard girls who hook-up say size matters. [editline]25th January 2013[/editline] [B] For some reason I feel so insecure.[/B] Shit[/QUOTE] that's the only issue you need to address, have some confidence and work with what you've got [QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;39342400]Yeah I know guys, and sorry for being so dramatic, that's kind of how I get when I'm out of it emotionally. It's not that I'm just messaging her and she's not replying/ignoring me, we talk on steam every couple of days at least, it's just that last night I... went a little wonky? :v: Honestly apart from the embarrassment and worry that I might have freaked her out a little, I feel a lot better for it. I guess I'd just been kinda pushing it aside and bottling it up ever since the break-up, and finally just kinda letting it loose, although not the most tactful, with much weeping and foetal positioning, really just cleared my system overall. So yeah, sorry for freaking out there. And I would have come to you guys first but it wasn't really an option at the time and I wasn't exactly thinking straight. I just wanna say thanks to you guys, both for being there, even if it is to point out what a fool I'm being or just by posting your own stuff. This thread has become part of my routine that has been helping to keep my mind off of things, and it's been helpful. [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] And that was my devil post. Woo. :v:[/QUOTE] in all his dramatic glory, regorc's chest discovers after sending those messages that he has no milk to go with his cereal and cues the music in his head [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azcgp37uzMo[/media]

[QUOTE=djshox;39344307]that's the only issue you need to address, have some confidence and work with what you've got in all his dramatic glory, regorc's chest discovers after sending those messages that he has no milk to go with his cereal and cues the music in his head[/QUOTE] Ooh I love that song, and film. However you are inaccurate, I do not eat cereal (often). It's more likely that that tune started when I realised that I'd started to shit without any toilet roll around. [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] :v:

Got to the topic of sexual history with a clearly experienced girl whilst I've only really ever fooled around a little. That shit makes me feel awkward as fuck, I hope it doesn't make her abandon ship. >:

[QUOTE=orcywoo6;39345629]Got to the topic of sexual history with a clearly experienced girl whilst I've only really ever fooled around a little. That shit makes me feel awkward as fuck, I hope it doesn't make her abandon ship. >:[/QUOTE] If you're after a relationship and she's worth any effort, she won't.

I was honest about it, we'll see what happens I guess. Lets hope so because I kind of am. Like I'm confident about it and it doesn't bother me. I'm just worried it'll bother her. [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] This is not good for my anxiety, the lack of reply is disturbing me. :suicide:

I had a pretty interesting discussion with my girlfriend about dates. I wondered what a date actually is and how it can be defined. She was pretty upset because I tried rationalising something as beautiful as *love* :v: Also some people use the word quite differently, she says that a date is when a couple does something together or go to a place. I use it when two persons meet the first time and build up a relationship together. Most of my friends say that a when you are already long in a relationship, the word date is not applicable anymore. What do you guys think?

[QUOTE=orcywoo6;39345749]I was honest about it, we'll see what happens I guess. Lets hope so because I kind of am. Like I'm confident about it and it doesn't bother me. I'm just worried it'll bother her. [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] This is not good for my anxiety, the lack of reply is disturbing me. :suicide:[/QUOTE] Hey dude take it easy. There are countless reasons to explain the lack of response and only one of them is "she's bailing, sux". Give it time, take it easy, distract yourself in the meantime.

EVERYTHING WENT BETTER THAN EXPECTED. WAY BETTER. :v:

Good on ya mate.

Backstory: Went out with a girl two months ago. We were hitting it off, but I wasn't sure if she liked me. She would've been my first girlfriend, and I wanted to make sure that the next time we went out, I could get a kiss, so I told one of her friends when I gave a signal to move everyone out. That friend told everyone else beforehand, and they all teased her so badly about it that during the night out with friends, she left in tears. I didn't know what happened to her, but I felt like shit and I thought I did something, she didn't talk about why she cried so I thought she hated me so I dropped off the radar. For two months, I didn't text her because I thought she didn't want to, and just drifted from girl to girl, but nothing really clicked with them. Something made me pick up the phone and text her, and we got to talking, and she told me the whole thing, how she did really like me and she just got so embarrassed by her friends that she had to leave, and how she thought it sucked that everything got ruined. I invited her out for coffee, just so that she wouldn't have her last memory of me be through a veil of tears, and she accepted emphatically. My question to you Facepunch, is, do you think I'll be able to revive her feelings for me and get my first girlfriend?

You seem to be a player, drifting from girl to girl in two months and that without any girlfriend experience :v:

[QUOTE=junker|154;39347772]You seem to be a player, drifting from girl to girl in two months and that without any girlfriend experience :v:[/QUOTE] No, I mean just talking to girls, not trying to get involved with them...

I tried lube for the first time last night and this morning, it's awesome

So a little screwed up, but I got to know her a lot better. Went to one of her church meetings with other people, hit me in feels, hung out with her other friend which they both were talking about sex. They told me to loosen up, so I did. We had a nice talk about what the whole "i just wanna be friends thing", which was basically she is wanting to go fully with me, but she doesn't feel ready herself. How do I respond to that? [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] I don't. [sp]She got raped by the last person she dated. We sort of met out of a spur of the moment of when I was at work, she is just not falling into trust so easily anymore.[/sp]

[QUOTE=BackSapper;39350980]So a little screwed up, but I got to know her a lot better. Went to one of her church meetings with other people, hit me in feels, hung out with her other friend which they both were talking about sex. They told me to loosen up, so I did. We had a nice talk about what the whole "i just wanna be friends thing", which was basically she is wanting to go fully with me, but she doesn't feel ready herself. How do I respond to that? [editline]24th January 2013[/editline] I don't. [sp]She got raped by the last person she dated. We sort of met out of a spur of the moment of when I was at work, she is just not falling into trust so easily anymore.[/sp][/QUOTE] Ahhh I remember when I learned my ex's complete backstory crammed into one evening staring the girl of the hour in an emotional, sobbing puddle in my arms. That was the only time in existence where I have ever been legitimately motivated to murder a specific person. [editline]25th January 2013[/editline] ON topic though, this is gonna be tough. You want this to work out? Patience and understanding are your [I]best[/I] tools here.

For the love of God, always be honest with her. Don't break her trust a second time. (And let me know if you need help killing the rapist.)

[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;39347585]Backstory: Went out with a girl two months ago. We were hitting it off, but I wasn't sure if she liked me. She would've been my first girlfriend, and I wanted to make sure that the next time we went out, I could get a kiss, so I told one of her friends when I gave a signal to move everyone out. That friend told everyone else beforehand, and they all teased her so badly about it that during the night out with friends, she left in tears. I didn't know what happened to her, but I felt like shit and I thought I did something, she didn't talk about why she cried so I thought she hated me so I dropped off the radar. For two months, I didn't text her because I thought she didn't want to, and just drifted from girl to girl, but nothing really clicked with them. Something made me pick up the phone and text her, and we got to talking, and she told me the whole thing, how she did really like me and she just got so embarrassed by her friends that she had to leave, and how she thought it sucked that everything got ruined. I invited her out for coffee, just so that she wouldn't have her last memory of me be through a veil of tears, and she accepted emphatically. My question to you Facepunch, is, do you think I'll be able to revive her feelings for me and get my first girlfriend?[/QUOTE] You told het friend to move everyone out when you gave "the signal". Omg what did you expect. :v: Anyways, feelings for someone dont just dissapear. So I think you have a good chance.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;39333789]what do you want us to do, she wants fwb but not a relationship, either you are comfortable enough to go with fwb or you just stay friends and eventually meet another girl[/QUOTE] Uhm, I never was the one who had that choice.

She asked me to go steady last night. I had no other choice but to accept (well of course lol, but I don't want to feel like I pressured her into going steady), I mean it's only been a couple weeks, but understanding her point of view and the problems she faces everyday makes me feel for her hard. Monday when her friends tricked her into seeing whatever horror film it was when we went out, she was genuinely depressed over it, and I was there for her. [editline]25th January 2013[/editline] It felt good.

[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;39347585]Backstory: Went out with a girl two months ago. We were hitting it off, but I wasn't sure if she liked me. She would've been my first girlfriend, and I wanted to make sure that the next time we went out, I could get a kiss, so I told one of her friends when I gave a signal to move everyone out. That friend told everyone else beforehand, and they all teased her so badly about it that during the night out with friends, she left in tears. I didn't know what happened to her, but I felt like shit and I thought I did something, she didn't talk about why she cried so I thought she hated me so I dropped off the radar. For two months, I didn't text her because I thought she didn't want to, and just drifted from girl to girl, but nothing really clicked with them. Something made me pick up the phone and text her, and we got to talking, and she told me the whole thing, how she did really like me and she just got so embarrassed by her friends that she had to leave, and how she thought it sucked that everything got ruined. I invited her out for coffee, just so that she wouldn't have her last memory of me be through a veil of tears, and she accepted emphatically. My question to you Facepunch, is, do you think I'll be able to revive her feelings for me and get my first girlfriend?[/QUOTE] I'm trying to revive a girl I dated before my ex. She kinda got stuck on the back of my mind for most of my relationship and it got even stronger closer to the end of my relationship with my ex. When we broke up I didn't feel like shit or something. I was actually quite happy because all that depression my ex had and how it eventually started to wear me down to just faded away with the break-up. But anyways that girl I've been trying to revive my feeligs for just goes up and down. You gotta work hard for it.

[QUOTE=lolerot95;39356789]I'm trying to revive a girl I dated before my ex. You gotta work hard for it.[/QUOTE] Hehehehehe [editline]26th January 2013[/editline] Necrophilia

I usually grade a Taco Bell employee's performance on getting my order right. But to separate the good from the great - to truly recognize the cream of the crop that is the Americanized Mexican food service industry - that depends entirely on how much sauce they put in your bag. Well, Miss Taco Bell Drive-Thru Girl, you are truly among the fast food elite this night. [editline]25th January 2013[/editline] Just the very manner in which she used both hands gripped around that big pile of verde sauce packets [I]screamed[/I] "I wish this was your cock instead." So I just threw her a smile, told her to have a good night, and drove off into the sunset.

[QUOTE=loopoo;38958834]Are you twelve? Your girl has just done you a favour by giving you a BJ, and you won't even kiss her afterwards, that's pretty selfish. What would you prefer she do, go and brush her teeth then come back? Grow up.[/QUOTE] I know this is old, but I'm reading through this thread again after a large delay in forum activity. And this is exactly what my ex would have me do after going down on her. Like, I would have kissed her even if she had spooge all over her face just because I liked kissing her and something from my own body, that I readily accepted as something that she would get on her, wasn't going to make me squeamish about it. She always had me wash her fluids off my face before she'd even let me kiss her. It's really kinda hurtful actually and upset me more than I showed. So if you're expecting your girl to give you a blowjob, and refusing to kiss her afterwards, you're being a total dick about that particular thing.

Hahahaha fuck, joshdasmif. Good times.

Okay Facepunch, last night was a first date thing for me. Things were going smooth and stuff, but the way she was looking at me, she wanted me to kiss her (trust me it was fucking obvious) but I couldn't build up the courage to do it and I ended up kissing her on the cheek. I did want to, but things got awkward and I don't know what went wrong. All my past girlfriends, I've had confidence in kissing, but why is it when I wanna kiss this girl I can't seem to?

[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;39365887]Okay Facepunch, last night was a first date thing for me. Things were going smooth and stuff, but the way she was looking at me, she wanted me to kiss her (trust me it was fucking obvious) but I couldn't build up the courage to do it and I ended up kissing her on the cheek. I did want to, but things got awkward and I don't know what went wrong. All my past girlfriends, I've had confidence in kissing, but why is it when I wanna kiss this girl I can't seem to?[/QUOTE] Even a kiss on the cheek can be enough to prove interest. Do not despair.

[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;39365887]Okay Facepunch, last night was a first date thing for me. Things were going smooth and stuff, but the way she was looking at me, she wanted me to kiss her (trust me it was fucking obvious) but I couldn't build up the courage to do it and I ended up kissing her on the cheek. I did want to, but things got awkward and I don't know what went wrong. All my past girlfriends, I've had confidence in kissing, but why is it when I wanna kiss this girl I can't seem to?[/QUOTE] means she really badonkadonks your heart. relax, you'll get around to it, might not be good to rush things. then again it all depends on how she likes you

So there this girl in my school who's little sister I've become really interrested in. She's 2 years and 8 months younger than me. I'd really like to take our relationship further, but recently she told me she "ruined a guy in her schools life" and that she was VERY sad about it. At first she didn't want to talk about it, but we contiuned to talk and soon we got onto that part she didn't want to talk about first, and I realized it wasn't THAT bad. Basically this guy is really really in love in her, and she told him she has more feelings for another guy than him, but she still likes him. So this guy became heartbroken and depressed and she blamed herself for it. I really feel sad for this guy and for her at the same time, and now I don't know who either of these other two guys are. The one she likes more could be anyone, and I'm kind of hoping it's me. But I don't know about taking our relationship further because this guy who's in love with her may become even more depressed. I'm not sure if she knows that I like her and I'm to afraid to ask her about this because of him. I don't know what to do guys...