I'm turning 20 in november and she 17 now in march.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39376470]well you can't really mess with her love life, she has to solve it for herself or you risk fucking it up even more
as for finding out if she's interested in her here's my stock answer: ask her out (be clear it's a date)[/QUOTE]
I know I should'nt, and I don't want to fuck things up even more. It's just that I care for the people around me. We see each other quite often actually. We've met almost every day for the last 2 and a half week, but by the time I had a very good friend of mine with me, AND her sister has been with us to.
We had like movie night 3 times, and she showed atleast a little interrest in me, but I'm not sure if it's because we've become friends or something else.
But I'm still afraid she might fall back to space one if I ask her out and she finds out that theres one more guy liking her, and that she will have some kind of trouble choosing or something like that, you get me?
The longer you wait, the harder you're going to make it for yourself. Take her out on an actual date. Be clear and honest with your intentions (I don't mean to just outright confess your feelings, but let the way you act and speak to her communicate how you feel). Her love life isn't your business and the longer you spend sitting on your hands, scared of making it difficult for her or whatever, the less likely she's going to see you as anything other than a friend.
Maybe you should explain to her that her happyness matters too. Yes it sucks the guy was so attached and is not dealing with it well, but there isn't anything she could do about that, it's not like she could just give up what she wants to have a relationship with him she wouldn't be happy with and eventually it would fall apart anyway and he would be even more hurt then.
Well, I asked her straight out. "Would you like to go on a date with me". She replied with "I don't want to see that movie. ;)". We have a group chat on Facebook which consists of my 3 people from my school, (her sister and two of my friends), her and her friend. I wrote earlier in the chat that I wanted to go see Django Unchained, so she was refering to that.
I told her we could do something else and all I got back was ";)".
Dunno what it means right now but it feels good so I'm gonna go with that it's positive. :)
[editline]27th January 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Rhenae;39377305]Maybe you should explain to her that her happyness matters too. Yes it sucks the guy was so attached and is not dealing with it well, but there isn't anything she could do about that, it's not like she could just give up what she wants to have a relationship with him she wouldn't be happy with and eventually it would fall apart anyway and he would be even more hurt then.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I talked to her for an hour that night when she told me she had broken down in tears the day before because of it. She thanked me for being there for her and stuff and she feels good about it now I think.
I will, I feel positive as fuck now.
I've recently lost my girlfriend i had for over 3 years. /cry
My feels go out to you Sir.
[QUOTE=roxter;39377725]I've recently lost my girlfriend i had for over 3 years. /cry[/QUOTE]
That sucks dude, wish I had some helpful advice for you.
[QUOTE=roxter;39377725]I've recently lost my girlfriend i had for over 3 years. /cry[/QUOTE]
What happened?
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;39378864]What happened?[/QUOTE]
Too much fighting, made both of us sad and we decided to brake up. Thing is she seems to be alright while i'm a wreck.
[editline]27th January 2013[/editline]
Also, man hugs to you guys<3
[editline]27th January 2013[/editline]
also break
I had a great day, got woken up by a college friend calling to ask if I wanted to hang out, met up with him and his more-than-friend/early days girlfriend that he said that if I hadn't bailed on hanging out with a couple of weeks back he wouldn't have gotten close with, we went to the park and then to my place to play some Mortal Kombat.
There was no sex, nor shit, but nobody specified this thread had to be about our OWN girlfriends.
Plus I love all you guys. Well, most of you. :v:
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;39381802]I had a great day, got woken up by a college friend calling to ask if I wanted to hang out, met up with him and his more-than-friend/early days girlfriend that he said that if I hadn't bailed on hanging out with a couple of weeks back he wouldn't have gotten close with, we went to the park and then to my place to play some Mortal Kombat.
There was no sex, nor shit, but nobody specified this thread had to be about our OWN girlfriends.
Plus I love all you guys. Well, most of you. :v:[/QUOTE]
Sounds like a kick-ass day, mate.
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;39381802]Plus I love all you guys. [B]Well, most of you.[/B] :v:[/QUOTE]
Rude, I fell left out. :v:
[QUOTE=roxter;39379037]Too much fighting, made both of us sad and we decided to brake up. Thing is she seems to be alright while i'm a wreck.
[editline]27th January 2013[/editline]
Also, man hugs to you guys<3
[editline]27th January 2013[/editline]
also break[/QUOTE]
Shit, dude, 3 years. I'm on my phone so I probably can't give you the reply that you might need right now (but then again, I don't think anyone but yourself could anyway) but I'll say this much: Girls and guys generally deal with shit like this very differently. Don't let her reaction, or apparent lack thereof, make it any harder for yourself than it has to be. Focus on yourself and just take it day by day, because I promise you, it can and does get easier. Stay strong, brother; there are brighter days ahead <3.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;39383263]Shit, dude, 3 years. I'm on my phone so I probably can't give you the reply that you might need right now (but then again, I don't think anyone but yourself could anyway) but I'll say this much: Girls and guys generally deal with shit like this very differently. Don't let her reaction, or apparent lack thereof, make it any harder for yourself than it has to be. Focus on yourself and just take it day by day, because I promise you, it can and does get easier. Stay strong, brother; there are brighter days ahead <3.[/QUOTE]
Man, i'll write a longer reply tomorrow, thank you!<3
Does anyone have/had an issue where they want more space from their gf? Shee has slept over at my apartment like 10 times in a row now and it's gotten a little stale.
I'm sure with spring semester starting up and us being busier I'll have more time for myself and my interest in her will be regained once we don't spend 3/5 of the day together
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;39383328]Does anyone have/had an issue where they want more space from their gf? Shee has slept over at my apartment like 10 times in a row now and it's gotten a little stale.
I'm sure with spring semester starting up and us being busier I'll have more time for myself and my interest in her will be regained once we don't spend 3/5 of the day together[/QUOTE]
You guys intend to move in with eachother at any point man?
No we're in college and the school owned apartments won't allow it
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;39383543]No we're in college and the school owned apartments won't allow it[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Rhenae;39383370]You guys intend to move in with eachother [B]at any point[/B] man?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;39383328]Does anyone have/had an issue where they want more space from their gf? Shee has slept over at my apartment like 10 times in a row now and it's gotten a little stale.
I'm sure with spring semester starting up and us being busier I'll have more time for myself and my interest in her will be regained once we don't spend 3/5 of the day together[/QUOTE]
I kind of know the feeling. Sometimes it feels like I'm only allowed to spend time by myself when it suits her, i.e. she can be busy and I can't. We only live 5 mins apart and are at uni together though so we spend most nights together.
It's the same as always though, just talk to her about it. Organise a few things with some friends or something, go for a hike for a bit maybe? Don't be afraid to make a little breathing room for yourself, but you have to do it in a sensitive manner, everybody is different and what might seem as a suffocating lack of personal space might seem terribly distant to your partner. Communication is key.
[editline]28th January 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Rhenae;39383727].[/QUOTE]
I don't see how this is relevant.
She seems like she would understand. Ill talk to her if things stay like this
Had multiple really hot make out sessions with my girlfriend over the course of the night. Finally get home and go to the bathroom. Notice wet splotches on my underwear :|
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39387213]did u PE dude[/QUOTE]
Nope, but it's the first time i've ever had that much precum...
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She must of had it worst thinking i was rubbing her down there
[QUOTE=metallics;39384006]I don't see how this is relevant.[/QUOTE]
If they do want to move in together some point down the line it's an issue they'll need to work through. If not; well: No big deal.
fart
[QUOTE=twoski;39392447]i have a really... Interesting situation on my hands. If anyone here has a similar story/experience could you let me know how it turned out?
Ok so background: I met this girl on Okcupid and we hit it off so we met up and went out for drinks. Things went well. 2 dates later we went back to my place and got naked etc.
We text all the time and we get along great. We've only been seeing eachother sparsely as of these last 2 weeks (like once or less a week) but the mutual attraction is just so obvious. I want to step this up into a relationship and i've been waiting for a night when it would be good to sit and have a little chat with her to see what she's looking for (her profile says she wants a relationship so i'm assuming that'll be her response).
I've gotten to know a lot about her since we first started talking:
- I'm the youngest guy she's ever dated. She was once in a relationship with a 40+ year old man. She's 20 now.
- She seems to have some esteem problems. She won't hesitate to note that she's nothing special, shrugs off complements, etc.
- She's kinky. In a previous relationship she had a pile of sex toys (she left them with her ex) and she's very open minded. She had a swingers profile on AdultFriendFinder with her ex and they were looking to have a threesome with another girl but it never happened.
- She denies it, but she's made it painfully obvious that she's bi.
None of this really phased me, it's not my place to judge her previous relationships and i'm no saint either. But recently (a week ago) she mentioned she was casually browsing the swingers site for fun on her old profile. I thought nothing of it. Today she told me that a girl in her late late 20's has been messaging her on this site. And she sent me a topless photo of the girl. She told me that she messaged the girl and told her she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore and the girl wanted to meet up. So she told the girl she wants to meet up next week for coffee.
So this is where a giant fucking red flag is popping up in my head. She's just casually texting me about how she met this girl on a swingers website and is excited to go meet up with this girl that she basically wants to fool around with/fuck. We're going to meet up sometime this week so i have the chance to tell her that i really want to step up our relationship to the next level. If she doesn't want to be in a relationship then i'm basically going to tell her that i'm finished (she knows that i'm not just looking for someone to have sex with). Am i justified in being a little disconcerted with the current turn of events? I have no doubt that she's still very attracted to me but this whole recent swingers site thing has made me wonder what exactly she's looking for. Does she want a relationship, and if so, does she think this casual encounter with some random older girl from the internet is kosher? Because it's giving me weird vibes.
The opportunist in me says that i should try and turn this into a threesome but the grounded side of me says that this needs to be discussed at our next date before i make any further commitments.
Actually, you know what, that would be really fucking weird. We've had sex once, there's no way in hell i'm ready to just up and have a threesome with some random internet swinger girl and her. I mean physically i could do it but that's a really fucked up way to kick off a relationship.[/QUOTE]
I would leave that, sounds way to fucked up for my taste. It might be an experience for once or for some casual sex but a relationship, I would not want that at all. At least on how you described her.
gerty
[QUOTE=junker|154;39392833]I would leave that, sounds way to fucked up for my taste. It might be an experience for once or for some casual sex but a relationship, I would not want that at all. At least on how you described her.[/QUOTE]
you sound incredibly old-fashioned
do you wear bowties unironically at anything other than a wedding or opera night
[QUOTE=twoski;39392447]i have a really... Interesting situation on my hands. If anyone here has a similar story/experience could you let me know how it turned out?
Ok so background: I met this girl on Okcupid and we hit it off so we met up and went out for drinks. Things went well. 2 dates later we went back to my place and got naked etc.
We text all the time and we get along great. We've only been seeing eachother sparsely as of these last 2 weeks (like once or less a week) but the mutual attraction is just so obvious. I want to step this up into a relationship and i've been waiting for a night when it would be good to sit and have a little chat with her to see what she's looking for (her profile says she wants a relationship so i'm assuming that'll be her response).
I've gotten to know a lot about her since we first started talking:
- I'm the youngest guy she's ever dated. She was once in a relationship with a 40+ year old man. She's 20 now.
- She seems to have some esteem problems. She won't hesitate to note that she's nothing special, shrugs off complements, etc.
- She's kinky. In a previous relationship she had a pile of sex toys (she left them with her ex) and she's very open minded. She had a swingers profile on AdultFriendFinder with her ex and they were looking to have a threesome with another girl but it never happened.
- She denies it, but she's made it painfully obvious that she's bi.
None of this really phased me, it's not my place to judge her previous relationships and i'm no saint either. But recently (a week ago) she mentioned she was casually browsing the swingers site for fun on her old profile. I thought nothing of it. Today she told me that a girl in her late late 20's has been messaging her on this site. And she sent me a topless photo of the girl. She told me that she messaged the girl and told her she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore and the girl wanted to meet up. So she told the girl she wants to meet up next week for coffee.
So this is where a giant fucking red flag is popping up in my head. She's just casually texting me about how she met this girl on a swingers website and is excited to go meet up with this girl that she basically wants to fool around with/fuck. We're going to meet up sometime this week so i have the chance to tell her that i really want to step up our relationship to the next level. If she doesn't want to be in a relationship then i'm basically going to tell her that i'm finished (she knows that i'm not just looking for someone to have sex with). Am i justified in being a little disconcerted with the current turn of events? I have no doubt that she's still very attracted to me but this whole recent swingers site thing has made me wonder what exactly she's looking for. Does she want a relationship, and if so, does she think this casual encounter with some random older girl from the internet is kosher? Because it's giving me weird vibes.
The opportunist in me says that i should try and turn this into a threesome but the grounded side of me says that this needs to be discussed at our next date before i make any further commitments.
Actually, you know what, that would be really fucking weird. We've had sex once, there's no way in hell i'm ready to just up and have a threesome with some random internet swinger girl and her. I mean physically i could do it but that's a really fucked up way to kick off a relationship.[/QUOTE]
She probably already knows the girl and is just using you for meat between their sandwich.
Not that that's a bad thing. But she's lying to you.
I'd play along if I were you and just don't get emotional about it. Sounds like fun.
[editline]28th January 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=DarkendSky;39396449]you sound incredibly old-fashioned
do you wear bowties unironically at anything other than a wedding or opera night[/QUOTE]
Hey! Boeties are cool.
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