[QUOTE=thisispain;39411264]noooo thats a bad idea, you could damage it that way[/QUOTE]
If you keep a condom in it at all times, it will probably break. It's okay if you put it in your wallet before you go out/visit your special lady friends. As long as you don't run a marathon with it in your pocket, it won't break.
poopy
she hasn't done anything wrong - she's just looking to have some fun
as long as she hasn't committed to a relationship with you, you really have no say in what she does and does not do. it might feel like you're entitled to some kind of guarantee that the two of you are headed for a relationship, however, that is not the case - far from it actually. talk with her about how you're feeling, but do not expect a relationship out of it, doesn't really seem like that's what she wants.
cum
[QUOTE=twoski;39413543] My profile says i'm looking for a relationship and so does hers.[/QUOTE]
yes this is definitely a great way to figure out her intentions, look at her facebook profile that probably hasn't been updated for years
[editline]30th January 2013[/editline]
tbh she seems like the kind of person who doesn't take dates and sex too seriously, but is just open and relaxed about her sex life
i know plenty of people like that, who don't really think much about hooking up with a guy
and you just seem kinda clingy, like you want to force her into a full relationship even though she just considers it some casual sex and dating fun
[editline]30th January 2013[/editline]
i mean if you dont like it and you've told her you dont like it, and she still keeps doing these things, why are you dating her?
oh yeah i see that now
so twoski why are you getting worked up over this?
like you already said, you're gonna tell her how it bothers you, so up until that point theres no need to be annoyed at her, maybe she didn't even realize what she was doing
or of course maybe she did, and if that's the case just stop seeing her, it's only been 4 weeks
[editline]30th January 2013[/editline]
im being blunt here, but you come across as being very angry at this girl and it just doesn't even seem like she's worth the effort
You're right I'm giving it too much thought. Ill reserve judgement until we've discussed things.
just want to hear others opinions on this matter. so I'll start from the beginning, without going too deep into the story of my first girlfriend. Me and her were inseparable, I couldn't drive yet so it was semi-long distance. we talked for HOURS on the phone each day, always texting, always going on video-chat, the works. So this got to the point in the relationship where I literally had no idea what to talk about, and I basically had to make up shit to talk about. What im trying to get at is, I feel like the amount of privacy I didnt have while with her truly ruined my need to talk to people, especially significant others. my girlfriend of a year now is awesome, no doubts about that. But I find myself on the phone with her feeling just like I did at the end of my first relationship, always waiting for the phone call to eventually end, always having this little voice in my head saying to myself "get some time alone negro". any ideas?
I love giving my SO massages and stroking her, usually to the point where she's so relaxed that she's dribbling haha. But she rarely gives anything back which makes me feel a bit left out, and I'd love for her to do the same for me, how can I put it to her without sounding like an asshole?
I'm generally terrible with my own feelings, being mentally and emotionally abused for a decade or so
Is k's, you couldn't have known haha, I should have given some background maybe. I found it incredibly hard to open up to her in the first place, but I guess it's just a matter of asking. She never asks me, I just do because I know she feels amazing because of it :v:
[QUOTE=SaWAH;39410724]As far as I know, precum doesn't get you pregnant - there's a tiny tiny chance, but not worth worrying about. Getting pregnant isn't that easy, especially if you aren't even trying, seeing as a girl can only get pregnant a few days a month.[/QUOTE]
Those few days a month are when girls really want to have sex though, so particularly with spontanious sex thats still a very real risk.
Edit:
Frig I didnt refresh the page since this morning :v:
this entire conversation can be summed up by Don't Be A Fucking Fool, Wrap Your Tool
i know a guy who got a girl preggers when she was 16. the baby ended up having cystic fibrosis. this is more than enough reason to put a fucking condom on.
[QUOTE=twoski;39418434]this entire conversation can be summed up by Don't Be A Fucking Fool, Wrap Your Tool
i know a guy who got a girl preggers when she was 16. the baby ended up having cystic fibrosis. this is more than enough reason to put a fucking condom on.[/QUOTE]
What I like to say is:
"Don't be a dummy; cum on her tummy."
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39418547]because a baby could have a disease nobody should have kids ever?[/QUOTE]
I think he meant, "use birth control if you are too young to, or don't want to have children," I mean, he specifically mentioned that the girl was sixteen.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39417499]what have we learned from rhenae's comment? if she really really really wants you to stick your cock in her, it's not a good idea to do so without birth control
[editline]30th January 2013[/editline]
i just saw the two disagrees
it doesn't, there's two stages of precum afaik, the first one where it is a lubricant which happens in the first stages of arousal and the second one where it acts as a neutralizer to make the vagina more hospitable for semen so it doesn't die. the first spurts are completely semenfree, the second one is still debated, with some research finding it to clean or low level of semen and others finding it has moderate-high amounts of semen. the second stage only happens moments before ejaculation and if you're still inside by the time you feel your ejaculation hitting it's probably too late anyway!!!
EDIT: THAT SAID, you're still at risk for STDs and doing it without birth control always carries the risk of you not being able to control yourself and not pulling out in time so don't fucking do it without birth control kids i don't condone this shit[/QUOTE]
Just so you know, if you blow your load and then go again without taking a leak, your precum can potentially contain semen.
An afterthought: with the general sense of people reading this it's probably not a good idea to sell the whole "you'll be fine without a condom" mentality. Be safe kids, use protection (unless you REALLY want a nasty itch).
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39418547]because a baby could have a disease nobody should have kids ever?[/QUOTE]
well i should mention the baby was born with that condition because it didn't get enough oxygen while being birthed. 16 year old vajayjay isn't made for babyhaving
[QUOTE=twoski;39419349]16 year old vajayjay isn't made for babyhaving[/QUOTE]
Biologically: Nope.
Not saying it's a good idea, just that 16 is pretty much the age we evolved to be ready to reproduce at.
Does it look like i'm discussing biology? Yeesh
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39419688]you kinda were????????
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well if it were about biology then i would have been way off, there are recorded instances of like 13 year old girls getting pregnant. but that's beside the point i was trying to make, generally speaking i think anyone below the age of 20 having a child is making a big mistake.
Twoski, stop backtracking, what's said is said, and you said that her vajayjay was too small due to her age. That's a biological thing (unless you're supposing that vaginal birthing capacity is based upon mental maturity or something).
But yes, I think most people in here [i]do[/i] agree that people below twenty should be avoiding making more people.
Facepunch, I come to you with a request for advice. My girlfriend has planned a dick move in advance, and told me about it, (not to mention a physical security hazard to herself). So far she has said no to requests to cancel said move. Am I justified in pulling one back, without the self endangerment?
Not a prank, just something rude and hurtful like she did. (Mentally hurtful.)
I'm really, really confused by this
who plans a dick move to you in advance and tells you about it and refuses to change her mind
Your relationship sounds very weird.
[QUOTE=viper shtf;39422888]Facepunch, I come to you with a request for advice. My girlfriend has planned a dick move in advance, and told me about it, (not to mention a physical security hazard to herself). So far she has said no to requests to cancel said move. Am I justified in pulling one back, without the self endangerment?[/QUOTE]
What is the dick move
[QUOTE=viper shtf;39422888]Facepunch, I come to you with a request for advice. My girlfriend has planned a dick move in advance, and told me about it, (not to mention a physical security hazard to herself). So far she has said no to requests to cancel said move. Am I justified in pulling one back, without the self endangerment?[/QUOTE]
Don't be so vague and actually tell us the situation.
[QUOTE=twoski;39425343]What is the dick move[/QUOTE]
It's when you make it wiggle
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;39426139]It's when you make it wiggle[/QUOTE]
Then I suppose it'd only be emotionally hurtful if it wasn't his dick she was wiggling.
Now we're getting to truth.
[QUOTE=twoski;39413543]I disagree on one point - she knows ALL TOO WELL i'm only looking for a relationship. We even discussed casual sex and i flat out told her that's something i have no interest in. If i wanted one night stands i'd go to the campus bar. She agreed with me. My profile says i'm looking for a relationship and so does hers. I'm not just looking to just have a little sex on the side and she made it pretty apparent from the get-go that she wasn't either. I'm beginning to have second thoughts about that though.
I'm a very simple person. I am easy to please and I get along with everyone. All i ask is that she be truthful and respectful. She has certainly been truthful but i can't help but feel a little disrespected. She knows what i'm looking for and she's doing things that go against that. Would you want to date a guy who brings up his history of cheating and actively searches the internet for people to have sex with? It would be a little weird, wouldn't it?
If i'm hearing you right, you're saying it's okay for people who are dating (but not yet in an explicit relationship) to go and have sex with other people just because there's no explicit bond or relationship that was verbally discussed? That just sounds wrong to me and i'm pretty sure that the average dating couple doesn't do things like that.
[B]She may not even think we're dating. But if that's the case then we have a fundamental communication problem. Mainly that everything i've told her has gone in one ear and out the other[/B][B].[/B][/QUOTE]
It's literally the other way around. It seems to me that this chick wants a semi-casual relationship where you guys go to dates and hang out and shit but you aren't in some kind of straightforward serious relationship. You, on the other hand, just want to date someone I guess and have that person to be 'respectful' or whatever. Yeah, probably not going to happen in college.
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