Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39457635]wait did you hear his bob dylan impression the other night because he's started using it to serenade my bf and i while we do 2s in wow[/QUOTE] no but it sounds beautiful

believe me it's not he hates bob dylan

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39457635] he did christopher walken for you right[/QUOTE] idk ive heard a lot of good walken impressions my standards are very high [editline]2nd February 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39457695]believe me it's not he hates bob dylan[/QUOTE] the fuck

every day for the last few weeks i've had to listen to my bf and roommate have hour-long conversations consisting entirely of "I AM THE LAW!" "I AM THE LAW!" "THE LAW!"

usually with my roommates we just say dingus dangus instead of words sometimes we get confused sometimes we discover something about life's great mysteries [editline]2nd February 2013[/editline] when i asked what they thought aphex twins best album was one of them said "the one with the dingus song" and i knew exactly what he meant and was like ok

im gay. i eat poopy

[QUOTE=ShadowSocks8;39398768](Venting/random string of thoughts being written out incoming) Here goes: I've been dating this girl for 3 months now and I'm crazy about her. She's drop dead gorgeous and has a great personality etc etc. Literally hits everything of my checklist, she may very well be perfect. Whats the problem then, you ask? I've got balls bluer than a sapphire. We both go to the same college, and I see her every day. She's always chilling in my dorm, playing games or watching TV. This is awesome and I love that I get to see her all the time, I mean, this alone puts me in a better position than many of the people on this forum with long-distance relationships, and I'm not complaining. The problem with this is that she's also friends with all of my friends, who happen to all live in the same hall as me (one of them is my roommate). Again, don't get me wrong, this is a great group of guys and I love em to death. But they are around almost 24/7. Once we get started playing League of Legends every night, they don't wanna stop until the wee hours of the morning. This wouldn't be a problem if it weren't for the fact that my girlfriend loves to play League as well. Once she gets started, she doesn't want to stop and gets agitiated if I try to get her to do something else. Writing this out, I feel like I'm complaining about having a gamer girlfriend. And again, don't get me wrong, it has it's benefits and can be great. But sometimes, it's a little too much, and it's seriously detracting from our intimate life. Like I said, we've been dating 3 months, and I'm lucky if I get a makeout session, let alone anything else, more than once a week. It may sound greedy, but I'm a horny college guy with a really hot girlfriend and one mild makeout session a week does not cut it, it's goddamn torture. I just cannot get alone time with her at a time when she's not tired. Usually by the time I can get everyone to fuck off and convince my roommate to give me some private time in the room, she doesn't want to do anything but nap. It's really starting to get to me. The few times I have had a couple hours alone with her where she's not exhausted have been carefully thought out plans that miraculously went off without a snag. But the amount of successful times is far outweighed by the amount of failures. On top of it all, she's a little awkward about intimacy, and gets all weirded out if I'm even slightly blunt about the subject (IE "Hey, wanna kick these guys out and have some alone time" etc etc) I don't know what to do FP. I've sat down and discussed this with her a couple times and each time it's only sunk in for a day or two before shit goes back to its old ways. I could really use some help.[/QUOTE] Update: Just last night, she noticed I'd been acting a little disgruntled and frustrated, took me to her room, and gave me a surprise blowjob. All problems=solved

Me an a bunch of friends participated in a large nerf war, then went to the on-campus Starbucks for refreshments. It was 1AM and the only other customers were this guy and his extremely hot girlfriend. The guy took one look at us and dragged his girlfriend out. No idea why, we all thought it was hilarious though, for whatever reason.

whats the general consensus on talking about sensitive shit via texts? i feel like i'm long overdue for a little heart to heart with this girl and i get the feeling she's been avoiding it. she barely talked to me until the latter half of last night. like i feel i should bring up that i was uncomfortable and i want to get some things straight but maybe after we start talking about it i'd just say "you know what, i'd feel better talking in person about this"

[QUOTE=twoski;39461725]whats the general consensus on talking about sensitive shit via texts? i feel like i'm long overdue for a little heart to heart with this girl and i get the feeling she's been avoiding it. she barely talked to me until the latter half of last night. like i feel i should bring up that i was uncomfortable and i want to get some things straight but maybe after we start talking about it i'd just say "you know what, i'd feel better talking in person about this"[/QUOTE] Personally I'm fine talking about stuff like that via txt or IM. Up to you and how you think she will feel, it's pretty individual.

[QUOTE=twoski;39461725]whats the general consensus on talking about sensitive shit via texts? i feel like i'm long overdue for a little heart to heart with this girl and i get the feeling she's been avoiding it. she barely talked to me until the latter half of last night. like i feel i should bring up that i was uncomfortable and i want to get some things straight but maybe after we start talking about it i'd just say "you know what, i'd feel better talking in person about this"[/QUOTE] Depends on the seriousness of it. But it's different for everyone.

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If I were you I would've walked out on the party the moment she invited that ass to talk with her alone. I mean, that is, if I hadn't just walked away a long while ago instead of putting up with all of that awful shroud of ambiguity. [editline]3rd February 2013[/editline] Really, the stuff you are describing is a [del]nightmare[/del] night terror situation and I don't have the mentality required to know why you haven't just given up on that.

well we talked it over and things are good. i'm partially to blame, i think i overreacted i feel better now that i've discussed it though. i don't think there was anything i needed to be worried about.

[QUOTE=twoski;39462192]Well i bit the bullet and sent her a text: 'I'm not a fan of talking about this stuff over texts but i felt a little uncomfortable last night' E: well we talked it over and things are good. i'm partially to blame, i think i overreacted to some of Phone Guy's comments and embellished them in my head a bit. He's really not as terrible as i depicted him. i feel better now that i've discussed it though. i don't think there was anything i needed to be worried about.[/QUOTE] I'd be worried about her talking with him privately throughout the party all by itself. Stories like yours are why I don't date, or would go out of my way to make damn sure that the relationship is entirely exclusive.

ussr every post you've made in this thread has just been "yep see this is why i hate girls everyone!" give it a fucking rest

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;39463290]I'd be worried about her talking with him privately throughout the party all by itself. Stories like yours are why I don't date, or would go out of my way to make damn sure that the relationship is entirely exclusive.[/QUOTE] There's no way [i]that's[/i] why you don't date. No one says in their head "well some girls might still talk to their boyfriends or not tell me about personal stuff the moment I meet them, and I will feel bad if that happens. Best to stay away." Right? I mean, I could be wrong, you could have said that very thing, but I find it hard to believe that that's what's stopping you, and think it's much more likely that you're justifying the current situation (not dating, that is). [editline]3rd February 2013[/editline] I don't mean that in an aggressive way! I just think you might be being silly. It sounds like you're making excuses and you believe them. Which is unhealthy. It's also unhealthy for me to be this presumptuous though, so I'll quit.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39463634]ussr every post you've made in this thread has just been "yep see this is why i hate girls everyone!" give it a fucking rest[/QUOTE] Buuuut, I don't hate you. :downs: Seriously, though, anything regarding relationships that has a slight hint of ambiguity, non-groundedness (I invented a word), or wrong-doing blows a fuse in my little, idealistic head. And I don't have the apparent ability to separate modern dating from actual relationships, so that makes it worse.

[QUOTE=MindMuncher;39463779]There's no way [i]that's[/i] why you don't date. No one says in their head "well some girls might still talk to their boyfriends or not tell me about personal stuff the moment I meet them, and I will feel bad if that happens. Best to stay away." Right? I mean, I could be wrong, you could have said that very thing, but I find it hard to believe that that's what's stopping you, and think it's much more likely that you're justifying the current situation (not dating, that is). [editline]3rd February 2013[/editline] I don't mean that in an aggressive way! I just think you might be being silly. It sounds like you're making excuses and you believe them. Which is unhealthy. It's also unhealthy for me to be this presumptuous though, so I'll quit.[/QUOTE] well to be fair most people do that to some extent, it's called cognitive dissonance. but this is probably the case. he already has a negative outlook on relationships so when people post about bad things happening he uses it as confirmation of his paranoia.

is it bad of me to still have some reserved skepticism of the whole situation last night? i mean yes it's very likely that they were just talking (they're old friends and she hadn't seen him in a while) but i mean, going off into a dark kitchen for a good while just to to catch up seems... excessive. I'm going to stifle those thoughts and go with the benefit of the doubt but i can't help but wonder. I feel like i'm torn between my gut feeling and my tendency to overthink things.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39463878]well to be fair most people do that to some extent, it's called cognitive dissonance. but this is probably the case. he already has a negative outlook on relationships so when people post about bad things happening he uses it as confirmation of his paranoia.[/QUOTE] I could have said that what twoski is going through is a part of what I dislike about what has, from what I know and see in reality (co-workers, aquaintances) and to a lesser extent, in this thread, the modern dating process is, or at least how many people go about it. Being ambiguous and ready to break off, flaunting the traits that people generally look for in a partner instead of acting normally, dating multiple people at once and generally making it a social and open process.

has it occurred to you that your stance on dating is going to prevent women from wanting to pursue a relationship with you?

[QUOTE=twoski;39463969]is it bad of me to still have some reserved skepticism of the whole situation last night? i mean yes it's very likely that they were just talking (they're old friends and she hadn't seen him in a while) but i mean, going off into a dark kitchen for a good while just to to catch up seems... excessive. I'm going to stifle those thoughts and go with the benefit of the doubt but i can't help but wonder. I feel like i'm torn between my gut feeling and my tendency to overthink things.[/QUOTE] If it was any of my rhetoric that put the thoughts back into you, consider that I'm a neurotic, do-or-die, asocial twig of a person who could go think up a billion awful outcomes of any certain situation.

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;39463290]I'd be worried about her talking with him privately throughout the party all by itself. Stories like yours are why I don't date, or would go out of my way to make damn sure that the relationship is entirely exclusive.[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://us.acidcow.com/pics/20110707/dont_have_a_girlfriend_06.jpg[/IMG] I'm sorry I couldn't resist.

i take all advice with a grain of salt, i mainly just look for perspective on my situations. having a 3rd party to look at a situation is always good.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39464081]has it occurred to you that your stance on dating is going to prevent women from wanting to pursue a relationship with you?[/QUOTE] Yeah, but my fear of the modern/popular/not grounded dating process extends to the people who utilize it, make it popular and 'casual'. So, practically everyone. If, say, I found someone who only wanted a grounded and closed relationship from the start I'd be glad if they chose me, but that isn't going to happen regardless if I live in a conservative area or not.

you want a relationship with someone that's closed and that's your only criteria for a relationship. you're unable to consider the fact that once you get to know someone you might not like them. all this says is that you don't give a shit about who you're with or what their personality is like, all you care about is having a girl who's forced to be in close quarters with you for the rest of your life regardless of how you treat them.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;39464232]dating is casual relationships are not how are you supposed to find someone you want to be in a relationship with if you don't test the waters before you commit you wouldn't buy a car off of ebay without giving it a test drive would you[/QUOTE] You can still, 'date' and commit to an extent, but most people don't do that from what I've seen. Regardless of what 'stage' the relationship was at, I'd be loyal and exclusive and altruistic to the highest extent that I could. If the relationship ends, it ends, but until then I'd hold my partner as high as possible and expect the same from them. I just don't like the concept of dating being casual and a rampant dash for the best person, with sex thrown in between.

like maybe i've been watching too much dexter but your attitude sounds awfully familiar. "well i hate people and i don't understand their complicated emotions but relationships are a thing most people want so i want one too!"

[QUOTE=Yahnich;39464408]so even if you notice very early in the important dating period that she's not the one and barely fits with your personality you'd stay loyal and altruistic although you owe them nothing and are better off finding someone else ok[/QUOTE] If they were [B]that[/B] bad I'd make it clear that I didn't like them, or want them, and leave them and all that, though if they legitimately did need me for something or it wasn't super evident that they weren't right for me, I'd stay. I wouldn't just float away or put in a call (I only have a single landline, no home phones, and I haven't had a cellphone in about six months) to tell them that it was over, though, I'd speak with them privately and in person.