Again I got laid last night, again I didn't cum.
It wasn't awkward and nervous filled fucking like our first time was, and apparently she was completely satisfied but I wasn't. I haven't fully masturbated for the past week and a half, is there something wrong with my dick not wanting to cum?
[QUOTE=BackSapper;39475702]Again I got laid last night, again I didn't cum.
It wasn't awkward and nervous filled fucking like our first time was, and apparently she was completely satisfied but I wasn't. I haven't fully masturbated for the past week and a half, is there something wrong with my dick not wanting to cum?[/QUOTE]
That is hard to tell. You seem unexperienced. Some guys just can't cum during sex, and for others it happens after a few times.
Or maybe the girl was just terrible in bed.
[editline]5th February 2013[/editline]
Is it normal to feel completely incapable of romantic love after you have ended a long term relationship even though you have no feelings left for that person, whatsoever? I'm experiencing that feeling. No matter how nicely guys or girls treat me, no matter how much they want me i basically can't feel anything besides disgust or wanting to fuck them.
I don't know what is going on.
[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;39475274]I do hold myself to all of the standards that I set in my head for what I want out of a person, and when I fall short I feel a punishing bout of guilt until I fix everything and get ahead again. I don't expect to meet anyone perfect, but I don't want to chance meeting a flawed, awful person again.
My rambling about my problems have become more of a plea for the people here to not call me a failure or subnormal, or at least to gain some sort of confirmation from others about whatever I want, rather than asking for help with all of it.[/QUOTE]
maybe that's part of the problem then? your standards are unrealistic. people make mistakes, it's part of human nature and maybe if you can stomach that then you can see why there's no logical reason to be afraid of rejection. you say things like "flawed, awful person" which is kind of redundant. we all have flaws, we're all just glorified apes when it comes down to it.
if you go on a date and it doesn't work out then it's not the end of the world. dating is basically a process where you take 2 puzzle pieces and try to connect them. sometimes they don't fit so you try again with a different one till it fits. i went on a date before christmas and although the girl liked me, i wasn't attracted to her. does this mean it ended in disaster and heartbreak? no, i politely let her off and told her i'd like to remain friends. if we had remained together then it probably would have turned out worse since i could tell we would have a hard time getting along.
you're going to grow to be a lonely, bitter man if you don't change your attitude.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;39476041]I think you should buy a butler. He follows your orders, and he won't leave you as long as you pay him.[/QUOTE]
Call him Niles or Jeeves for dramatic effect.
Okay, I need some advice
So I met this girl a couple months ago through my friend. I started texting her and we texted pretty much everyday. Eventually I ended up liking her and we made a few moves on eachother the few times we would hang out. However, she lives about 40 mins away from me and is a freshman in high school whilst i am a junior. She said that she wasnt ready for a relationship, yet we are pretty much in one, since we talk every day, care for eachother and have already kissed. She asked to be "fwb" but we havent really had any overtly sexual contact. Then, last week she went to a school dance with another guy as her date (just friends though) and told me she grinded on a few guys. As I like her a lot I thought she wouldn't do anything like that to me. but now i feel terrible and angry at her but i still like her a lot. i talked to her about it and she said she didnt think i really liked her that much. i told her i did but she said she doesnt beleive me and thinks its just my hormones. she said once again that she isnt ready for a relationship but that "we dont know what the future could hold." she agreed to not do things with other guys though, but im not sure if i believe her. i kind of feel like I'm being used
Sorry for my horrible spelling and grammar I'm pretty emotional right now. any advice on what to do would be very much appreciated.
[QUOTE=bloke68;39477347]Okay, I need some advice
So I met this girl a couple months ago through my friend. I started texting her and we texted pretty much everyday. Eventually I ended up liking her and we made a few moves on eachother the few times we would hang out. However, she lives about 40 mins away from me and is a freshman in high school whilst i am a junior. She said that she wasnt ready for a relationship, yet we are pretty much in one, since we talk every day, care for eachother and have already kissed. She asked to be "fwb" but we havent really had any overtly sexual contact. Then, last week she went to a school dance with another guy as her date (just friends though) and told me she grinded on a few guys. As I like her a lot I thought she wouldn't do anything like that to me. but now i feel terrible and angry at her but i still like her a lot. i talked to her about it and she said she didnt think i really liked her that much. i told her i did but she said she doesnt beleive me and thinks its just my hormones. she said once again that she isnt ready for a relationship but that "we dont know what the future could hold." she agreed to not do things with other guys though, but im not sure if i believe her. i kind of feel like I'm being used
Sorry for my horrible spelling and grammar I'm pretty emotional right now. any advice on what to do would be very much appreciated.[/QUOTE]
Be glad with what you have. It's obvious that she isn't in love with you, and she stated early on that she doesn't want a committed relationship. Why're you getting angry at her for having fun with some other guys? Does she [b]owe[/b] you for your love? If she says you two aren't in a relationship, then why are you trying to make her exclusive to you - let alone be suspicious about it?
Feelings aren't always mutual, you can't assume that she's committed to you - especially not when she literally said she thinks of you as a friend with benefits and isn't ready for a relationship, no matter how much [i]you[/i] like to believe otherwise.
If you like and care for this girl, accept that she doesn't have the same amount of feelings for you, and just be glad that she doesn't avoid you outright. Keep being her friend while you still can. If you're only in it because you want a girlfriend and long-term commitment and sappy Disney movie love, then break it off with her. Chances are, she isn't going to suddenly change her opinion and love you. Even if she did, that isn't going to happen with you being suspicious and trying to control her.
[QUOTE=TurtleeyFP;39477486]Be glad with what you have. It's obvious that she isn't in love with you, and she stated early on that she doesn't want a committed relationship. Why're you getting angry at her for having fun with some other guys? Does she [b]owe[/b] you for your love? If she says you two aren't in a relationship, then why are you trying to make her exclusive to you - let alone be suspicious about it?
Feelings aren't always mutual, you can't assume that she's committed to you - especially not when she literally said she thinks of you as a friend with benefits and isn't ready for a relationship, no matter how much [i]you[/i] like to believe otherwise.
If you like and care for this girl, accept that she doesn't have the same amount of feelings for you, and just be glad that she doesn't avoid you outright. Keep being her friend while you still can. If you're only in it because you want a girlfriend and long-term commitment and sappy Disney movie love, then break it off with her. Chances are, she isn't going to suddenly change her opinion and love you. Even if she did, that isn't going to happen with you being suspicious and trying to control her.[/QUOTE]
But the thing is I feel like she's using me to get all the benefits of a relationship (love, support, intimacy) without any of the restrictions
A real fwb wouldnt be as intimate as we are. it would be more casual
[QUOTE=bloke68;39478188]But the thing is I feel like she's using me to get all the benefits of a relationship (love, support, intimacy) without any of the restrictions
A real fwb wouldnt be as intimate as we are. it would be more casual[/QUOTE]
You realize that she pretty much told you that she would be doing this from the start by asking for a purely friends-with-benefits relationship. You can't get mad about it. Well you can, obviously, since emotions aren't controllable like that, but you aren't [i]justified/i] in being mad about it.
As was said earlier in this thread or some other, if the two people in a relationship have different basic desires from the relationship, then it's probably best to not be in that relationship.
[QUOTE=twoski;39457832]well its been an interesting night. im writing this here so i can remember it all because its so fresh in my head and im genuinely just feeling like shit right now
went to her place. she lives like an hour away from me, i took the metro there but the metro closes at 1am so i knew i'd be fucked if i end up having to leave that night. she had about 8 people total over. it started out great, a bunch of her friends i had known from prior encounters that i got along great with. but these 2 guys i'd never met were there. one was a pretty big shithead and we started talking about android phones and i mentioned i had cyanogen on mine and he went off on this fucking mini rant about how cyanogen is crap and i should have this other mod and he'd help me install it right then and there. i politely declined because what the fuck, who fucking installs new roms their phone at a party. not to mention i don't want this random guy i've just met mucking with my phone and backing up my personal info and installing things. if i want some other rom i'll do it myself.
anyways fast forward about 1 or 2 hours and we're all pretty comfortably drunk. Phone Guy takes The Girl to the kitchen and they sit in there talking for about half an hour in the dark. It made me really goddamn uncomfortable and i'd hazard a guess some of the other people in the room felt it too. I slowly picked up pieces and bits of conversation from people over the course of the night and from what i gather they must have been an item at one point but now they've "moved on", or so it would seem.
i remained calm and collected, sat and had a fun time with her friends and tried to ignore the fact that she's sitting in the kitchen having a big ole heart to heart with this guy. eventuall they came back and she started dancing to the music with her friends, falling all over the place and being 'drunk'. there was a fair bit of physical contact between her and the guy, mainly that he took a video of her dancing then was bugging her about how he was going to post it on facebook so of course she tackles him on the couch and tries to wrestle the phone from his hands. i think at this point her friends started feeling sorry for me, one of her friends managed to get her phone and took the liberty of texting her ex (the one i mentioned like 3 pages ago) that he should fuck off and stop contacting her. this friend is really cool and i get along great with her but even i knew that was a terrible fucking idea. what does that even accomplish? the guy knows it's obviously someone else texting him and he sent back this snarky reply or whatever.
so the 2 guys i'd never met before end up leaving. I made a point early in the night of telling Phone Guy that i met this girl on okcupid and he got the hint eventually and gave up his creepy routine and left with the other guy. half an hour later, Phone Guy ends up back at the house somefuckinghow. There's definitely some sort of unrequited shit going on here and it just made me more uncomfortable. I didn't have many options aside from "sit on the couch and talk to her friends" while she continues to have another private conversation with Phone Guy.
Eventually she kicks us all out of the house (she had to work at 6am and needed her sleep apparently) and the window of opportunity i'd hoped to have where we could have some time alone never happened. She had to wake up at 6am the next morning so i didn't bother trying to weasel some alone time with her. I honestly just wanted to get out of that house and away from the entire situation. I wandered the neighborhood and froze my ass off until i found a cab in the street.
the worst part is that pretty much everyone at the party picked up on the awkwardness of it all, i felt horrible being there. like there was this big elephant in the room and the only person that really remotely addressed it was the friend that picked up The Girl's phone and texted her ex to fuck off. I think she liked me and was trying to help me out.
I don't even know what to do now. I don't want to discuss anything over texts because it's fucking lame but i haven't had any genuine time alone with this girl in over 2 weeks.[/QUOTE]
Remember how some pages ago I gave you a mini Warning/Rant about that girl and you denied everything, assuring yourself that "she's alright?".
There you have it.
[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;39472233]People who suffer from sociopathy are far from docile, though, at least those with anti-social or dissocial disorders. And then there is the deception and manipulation and deluded sense of morals.
There isn't a possibility that I'm a sociopath or psychopath unless I belong in one of the sub-categories.
I just don't want to take any risks, and I'd like to know how to get along while keeping that rule in mind, even if it means making myself look like a pretentious dick to the rest of you.[/QUOTE]
Getting hurt is a character building experience. If you never get hurt, you'll never build the coping skills a relationship requires.
Even when you're in a solid relationship, your other will still do things that make you mad, or don't seem to be in line with what a loving caring person would do, but once you've been in a few relationships you realize that you're not excepted from that either.
It's hard to put yourself out there knowing that by their nature, other people might harm you, but not knowing at all times how the other person will act makes the nice things they do so much better
You have to have rainy days to appreciate the sunny ones
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;39478398]Remember how some pages ago I gave you a mini Warning/Rant about that girl and you denied everything, assuring yourself that "she's alright?".
There you have it.[/QUOTE]
Did you read any of the follow up? I made my share of mistakes that night as well, i embellished parts of the story in my shitty frame of mind and on top of that i made some fairly baseless accusations.
Yeah, i still think it's weird that she was in a dark room talking to this guy privately for a long period of time but we talked it over and all things considered, i'm fairly sure i was just overreacting. If anything i should have apologized to her for being neurotic and irrational.
I'm beginning to notice that attitude really clouds your perception of a situation, a shitty attitude can make even the most harmless things look wrong. If you're stewing in jealousy or insecurity it's going to ruin our perceptions of everything.
[QUOTE=Croft;39475749]That is hard to tell. You seem unexperienced. Some guys just can't cum during sex, and for others it happens after a few times.
Or maybe the girl was just terrible in bed.
[editline]5th February 2013[/editline]
Is it normal to feel completely incapable of romantic love after you have ended a long term relationship even though you have no feelings left for that person, whatsoever? I'm experiencing that feeling. No matter how nicely guys or girls treat me, no matter how much they want me i basically can't feel anything besides disgust or wanting to fuck them.
I don't know what is going on.[/QUOTE]
obviously youre not ready for a new relationship when you've just come out of one, however, that doesn't mean you've become immune to feelings for other people - liking someone has to do with way more than them treating you nicely or wanting you
youre probably just not looking for a relationship right now and haven't met a person to start a relationship with either
Ok, so im the guy that lost my 3 year old relationship. Now she says that she loves me but doesn't want to be with me. I don't fucking know what to do..That feels even worse.
Anyone got ideas on where to take one's girlfriend for her birthday?
[i]To the bedroom?[/i]
But uh, seriously, hmm. Depends, do you go out a lot together normally, and if so where?
I'd say a nice meal at a nice place is always good, movies are a bit low-key on their own. Walks in nice places like parks are rarely a miss.
Really it depends on you and your girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Vacuum;39484191]Anyone got ideas on where to take one's girlfriend for her birthday?[/QUOTE]
strip club
[QUOTE=twoski;39485319]strip club[/QUOTE]
Someone's been playing too much GTA IV.
omg this girl said i was smart and cute i have to ride up on her while shes smoking and be like i have a crush on you please go out with me (;
[editline]5th February 2013[/editline]
i dont need your sarcastic informatives ok !
but the question is
was this girl smart and cute
yeah totally
she reminds me of like a young cat power in both dress and looks lol
and then shes like "i don't read" but she'll reference things shes read and im like ffs dont act dumb around me
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;39484913][i]To the bedroom?[/i]
But uh, seriously, hmm. Depends, do you go out a lot together normally, and if so where?
I'd say a nice meal at a nice place is always good, movies are a bit low-key on their own. Walks in nice places like parks are rarely a miss.
Really it depends on you and your girlfriend.[/QUOTE]
ive been so bothered by your avatar ever since you first came to LA so here regorc damn
[img]http://filesmelt.com/dl/bd_smugglers_chest.png[/img]
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;39489670]ive been so bothered by your avatar ever since you first came to LA so here regorc damn
[img]http://filesmelt.com/dl/bd_smugglers_chest.png[/img][/QUOTE]
Nice cropping job bro.
um what
if youre referring to it have approximately no antialiasing then i challenge you to go look at his avatar right now, there isn't much more to be had, all i did was cut it out in gimp
Don't let this become a thing.
What are everyone's plans for the weekend? My gf and I are volunteering at the North Texas secular student convention (or is it conference?) . We'll probably catch a movie too, and dinner out as usual.
Lil', I tried using the file you uploaded, but all I got was a smaller jaggier chest still with the white box ;_;
It's been bothering me too, I think I'll actually get around to making something decent for it later this week, maybe tonight.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;39489670]ive been so bothered by your avatar ever since you first came to LA so here regorc damn
[img]http://filesmelt.com/dl/bd_smugglers_chest.png[/img][/QUOTE]
Blue members can only have up to 60x60 and ~9KB
[QUOTE=mblunk;39511916]Blue members can only have up to 60x60 and ~9KB[/QUOTE]
meh, it's already under 9kb, just have to size it down a little
Just curious - who here has tried online dating with some success? I'm seriously considering giving it a go... Had a quick peek online at two of the major sites for my area, and while most of the women I've come across I don't have any particular attraction to, there is one on each site that I think I could really hit it off with (lots in common, nice personality, attractive in their own ways).
I'm just interested to hear others experiences with online dating and how things progressed for you - from contact to regular catch-ups, that sort of thing. This is all very new to me! I've always worked so hard most of my life that meeting people has never made it to the priority list, but now that I'm approaching 27, I'm finding myself thinking more about finding a partner and experiencing everything I never had the chance to earlier in my life.
There's all this stigma about online dating, I know, but I've had good friends put themselves out there before and from what I could gather found it quite a pleasant experience. The women I've spotted that caught my interest both seem to be quite normal people - one runs her own little business, occasionally works with kids, likes cars, video games and whatnot and is rather pretty at that.
rant rant rant
[QUOTE=Sobek-;39513512]Just curious - who here has tried online dating with some success? I'm seriously considering giving it a go... Had a quick peek online at two of the major sites for my area, and while most of the women I've come across I don't have any particular attraction to, there is one on each site that I think I could really hit it off with (lots in common, nice personality, attractive in their own ways).
I'm just interested to hear others experiences with online dating and how things progressed for you - from contact to regular catch-ups, that sort of thing. This is all very new to me! I've always worked so hard most of my life that meeting people has never made it to the priority list, but now that I'm approaching 27, I'm finding myself thinking more about finding a partner and experiencing everything I never had the chance to earlier in my life.
There's all this stigma about online dating, I know, but I've had good friends put themselves out there before and from what I could gather found it quite a pleasant experience. The women I've spotted that caught my interest both seem to be quite normal people - one runs her own little business, occasionally works with kids, likes cars, video games and whatnot and is rather pretty at that.
rant rant rant[/QUOTE]
You should probably go for it, in my opinion. It's not like internet-people are a different species who have a 94% chance of being a rapist that will kill your family. Just don't expect anything too special.
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