[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;39606788]I hear this a lot, but I'm in the US and I feel between Health and biology they have the important parts covered. Maybe it's just my school?[/QUOTE]
from what i've read about 30% of schools in the us teach abstinence-only sex ed.
"its because its the us" - common but wrong assumption
Okay, so I was at this little get together with my closest friends yesterday, and massive loads of alcohol were consumed. As far as I can remember I had half a bottle of vodka, four ciders and a bit of Bacardi.
AND APPARENTLY I HAD SEX WITH MY CLOSEST FRIEND WHO IS A STRAIGHT GIRL. I have no fucking memory of this. And I got told that a guy who is headoverheels in love with me sat in the room next to where we were, and heard everything. He is now devasted. One of my guy friends is this guys closest friend and he is raging right now.
He is blaming me for all this guys pain, is cursing a lot,, says I can never talk to him again.
Seems like my drunk ass mistake has put me out of my social circle.
Getting ready for 3 more years of being the complete outcast. I could fucking lay down and die right now.
[QUOTE=Croft;39611272]Okay, so I was at this little get together with my closest friends yesterday, and massive loads of alcohol were consumed. As far as I can remember I had half a bottle of vodka, four ciders and a bit of Bacardi.
AND APPARENTLY I HAD SEX WITH MY CLOSEST FRIEND WHO IS A STRAIGHT GIRL. I have no fucking memory of this. And I got told that a guy who is headoverheels in love with me sat in the room next to where we were, and heard everything. He is now devasted. One of my guy friends is this guys closest friend and he is raging right now.
He is blaming me for all this guys pain, is cursing a lot,, says I can never talk to him again.
Seems like my drunk ass mistake has put me out of my social circle.
Getting ready for 3 more years of being the complete outcast. I could fucking lay down and die right now.[/QUOTE]
so were you also 'head over heels' in love with him or is this just something you recently learned about on the day after?
because honestly he has no reason to be devastated if he hasn't communicated his feelings. if he can't sack the fuck up and actually talk to you (and see if you are actually interested in him in the first place) then it's his fault that he ends up in that situation. his close friend has no right to be angry at you either. they sound pretty immature and you're better off without them, tbh.
[QUOTE=twoski;39613227]so were you also 'head over heels' in love with him or is this just something you recently learned about on the day after?
because honestly he has no reason to be devastated if he hasn't communicated his feelings. if he can't sack the fuck up and actually talk to you (and see if you are actually interested in him in the first place) then it's his fault that he ends up in that situation. his close friend has no right to be angry at you either. they sound pretty immature and you're better off without them, tbh.[/QUOTE]
I knew he liked me, but we had both talked about us and i told him long ago that i wasn't interested in a relationship. He is a great guy but way too shy for my taste. His friend had him delete my number now and is bashing me to pieces.
Like it couldn't get any worse.
Okay so you shut him down long ago and he's too infatuated/clingy/chldish to let go. Not your problem. You aren't banned from seeing other people just because someone you shut down is in love with you. That's not how it works. It's sad that so many people feel that it's okay to act this entitled.
Here, have a free copypaste message for the angry guy:
GRUMPY_MAN_69, you may not know this but i told CHILDLIKE_SAD_GUY_420 that i wasn't interested in him a while back. Just because he's still overly attached to me that doesn't mean I can't see other people and enjoy myself. I'm sorry that he's depressed but it's not my problem. Hop the fuck off my D and tell your buddy to ranger the fuck up.
[QUOTE=twoski;39613540]Okay so you shut him down long ago and he's too infatuated/clingy/chldish to let go. Not your problem. You aren't banned from seeing other people just because someone you shut down is in love with you. That's not how it works. It's sad that so many people feel that it's okay to act this entitled.
Here, have a free copypaste message for the angry guy:
GRUMPY_MAN_69, you may not know this but i told CHILDLIKE_SAD_GUY_420 that i wasn't interested in him a while back. Just because he's still overly attached to me that doesn't mean I can't see other people and enjoy myself. I'm sorry that he's depressed but it's not my problem. Hop the fuck off my D and tell your buddy to ranger the fuck up.[/QUOTE]
I don't want to make anything worse.
Thank you facepunch for being kind to me tonight. I needed it to not cross the line with myself.
Well my message may be a little over the line and aggressive but the underlying principles are important. If what you posted was accurate then that guy has no good reason to blame you for his 'heartbreak', and his angry friend is being a straight up asshole. I assume he's just sticking up for his buddy but chances are he's only heard that guy's side of the story. And god knows what melodrama that guy cooked up in his head since he seems like he's incapable of communicating his feelings.
Yeah, don't hide from your friends over something so stupid. So you got drunk and made a mistake, people do it all the time. It would be different if you had any sort of obligation to him, but you don't, and considering he got stuck on you despite you already saying you weren't interested long ago, the fact that his feelings are hurt is really his fault.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39615147]Yeah, don't hide from your friends over something so stupid. So you got drunk and made a mistake, people do it all the time. It would be different if you had any sort of obligation to him, but you don't, and considering he got stuck on you despite you already saying you weren't interested long ago, the fact that his feelings are hurt is really his fault.[/QUOTE]
And unless the girl objected, you honestly didn't do anything wrong here.
And it demands some kind of special level of jealous guy to be angry/sad at a girl doing another girl.
My gf and I started having sex way before we were together but we were exclusive. We went on our first date for valentines and it was really chill, she's like my best friend and I guess I just want to share some of that joy here.
Also it's interesting how our relationship started, supposedly these are supposed to end quick
"Supposedly these are supposed to end quick"? Who dictates how a relationship is supposed to start?
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;39617189]My gf and I started having sex way before we were together but we were exclusive.[/QUOTE]
I'm still kicking myself for not saying something when the girl i'm dating told me she was going to "have fun" with her ex before he leaves the country forever. I've described my situation to my friends and all of them think it's weird. Some of my friends even told me to just straight up leave her.
I haven't seen her for a good while so i'm going to try and do something with her this coming wednesday or friday or something. If she can't make time for me on any of those days then i think i'm just going to do myself a favor and leave because if she can't make time for me in a 3 week period then obviously she isn't putting any effort in.
I'm basically going to tell her that i feel like i've been having to badger her to do anything which isn't cool, and that i'm not trying to guilt trip her but i don't want to have to twist her arm every time i want to see her. I'm not being overly clingy, i try and do something with her every 2 weeks or so which is plenty of space. I'm going to bring up her ex and how i feel uncomfortable being "the other guy". Basically, i'll just ask her to put herself in my shoes so she can see where i'm coming from because it's kind of unfair that she's pretty much just putting me on hold so she can do whatever she wants.
Having a conversation with my ex.
Worst choice ever.
Now I feel even more depressed than before.
Downing another sleeping pill.
I hate exes.
[QUOTE=Croft;39623139]Having a conversation with my ex.
Worst choice ever.
Now I feel even more depressed than before.
Downing another sleeping pill.
I hate exes.[/QUOTE]
Always so melodramatic
[QUOTE=metallics;39623394]Always so melodramatic[/QUOTE]
well fuck you right back Mr.
[QUOTE=Croft;39623139]Having a conversation with my ex.
Worst choice ever.
Now I feel even more depressed than before.
[U]Downing another sleeping pill. [/U]
I hate exes.[/QUOTE]
Jesus that was so pre-teen-ish it hurts to read.
p sure you need help if you are turning to pharmaceutical drugs to deal with post breakup depression
[QUOTE=Croft;39623139]Having a conversation with my ex.
Worst choice ever.
Now I feel even more depressed than before.
Downing another sleeping pill.
I hate exes.[/QUOTE]
Well honestly after seeing your last few posts you seem to pretty much roll out the welcome mat for all forms of drama.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;39623541]p sure you need help if you are turning to pharmaceutical drugs to deal with post breakup depression[/QUOTE]
It's not post breakup depression. I'm just mad at him for the way he treated me.
I'm depressed due to family stuff.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;39618874]"Supposedly these are supposed to end quick"? Who dictates how a relationship is supposed to start?[/QUOTE]
Anecdotal evidence, and there's not really a who it's just the way the relationship is built is changed, [I]supposedly[/I]
"non-conventional"
Our brains and the way it builds relationships is what dictates how relationships should start, that's for sure, but I'm not saying I know exactly how they should start
[QUOTE=Croft;39624124]It's not post breakup depression. I'm just mad at him for the way he treated me.
I'm depressed due to family stuff.[/QUOTE]
You should still go see a doctor regardless if you are resorting to taking drugs outside their intended use. It's not healthy.
[QUOTE=Croft;39611272]Okay, so I was at this little get together with my closest friends yesterday, and massive loads of alcohol were consumed. As far as I can remember I had half a bottle of vodka, four ciders and a bit of Bacardi.
AND APPARENTLY I HAD SEX WITH MY CLOSEST FRIEND WHO IS A STRAIGHT GIRL. I have no fucking memory of this. And I got told that a guy who is headoverheels in love with me sat in the room next to where we were, and heard everything. He is now devasted. [/QUOTE]
MAN IF MY GIRLFRIEND WAS IN THE OTHER ROOM HAVING DRUUNK SEX WITH A STRAIGHT GIRL ID BE SO HAPPY AND ID JUST GO IN THERE AND WATCH THE WHOLE DARN THING!
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;39624072]I had a conversation with my ex once.
Now we're friends.[/QUOTE]
I had an encourter with my ex at the station the other day.
We said hi, talked about what we were going to do.
Said goodbye.
Red a book on the train.
Had a normal day at uni.
Arrived home.
Peed.
Had dinner.
Played some video games.
Had another piss.
Brushed my teeth.
Went to bed.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;39624900]I had an encourter with my ex at the station the other day.
We said hi, talked about what we were going to do.
Said goodbye.
Red a book on the train.
Had a normal day at uni.
Arrived home.
Peed.
Had dinner.
Played some video games.
Had another piss.
Brushed my teeth.
Went to bed.[/QUOTE]
Not even a single sleeping pill downed? Day wasted.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;39624900]I had an encourter with my ex at the station the other day.
We said hi, talked about what we were going to do.
Said goodbye.
Red a book on the train.
Had a normal day at uni.
Arrived home.
Peed.
Had dinner.
Played some video games.
Had another piss.
Brushed my teeth.
Went to bed.[/QUOTE]
You don't pee so much, i pee like 4 times a day
[QUOTE=locojaws;39624704]MAN IF MY GIRLFRIEND WAS IN THE OTHER ROOM HAVING DRUUNK SEX WITH A STRAIGHT GIRL ID BE SO HAPPY AND ID JUST GO IN THERE AND WATCH THE WHOLE DARN THING![/QUOTE]
She wasn't in any fucking way his girlfriend.
And yeah, I'd do that.
[QUOTE=lolerot95;39625238]You don't pee so much, i pee like 4 times a day[/QUOTE]
once in the shower, once after breakfast, once after lunch, once after dinner??
oh okay then, i was starting to wonder
I explained to my friend last night (who is in a ~2 year relationship) that he's really lucky to have what he has. He gets along great with his girlfriend and they are awesome together. He told me he wonders sometimes if he's missing out on "the college experience".
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