Our first time was pretty good (we were both virgins at the time too). I guess I am one of the lucky ones.
i think its the disappointment, i was expecting my first time to involve me wearing a dress and whipping someone who was bound with rope
instead i got uhm, ughhhh
[QUOTE=thisispain;39648736]i think its the disappointment, i was expecting my first time to involve me wearing a dress and whipping someone who was bound with rope
instead i got uhm, ughhhh[/QUOTE]
I always compare first times to the movement that a fish makes when it's just been fished out of the water and is flopping around on the pavement
ive heard that one before, but for me she was just completely frigid and stuck in one place, like i was having sex with a corpse or something
btw i don't like having sex with corpses
[QUOTE=Rhenae;39648003]Cause it pretty much always is, or awkward and disappointing in some other way. Like a first time doing anything really.[/QUOTE]
What makes it clumsy/awkward per se (except for like cumming too fast)?
[sp]curious[/sp]
no-one has any confidence so all the movements are awkward and you feel disappointed but you dont want to be mean so you both just pretend it was far better than it was with a real reluctance
And there's a rhythm/technique to sex that you don't really have unless you've had sex a few times, so for your first time you really don't know what you're doing and just try and awkwardly thrust your dick forward in a motion you've normally never done before
man what even happened to my relationship, we used to jump head over heels to see each other and now she can't come today for the reason that "she woke up late and can't be bothered"
I really miss her and don't see her half as often as I'd like to but nowadays it feels like she's either lashing out at me or is completely indifferent either way. She also keeps accusing me of not wanting to be with her but christ I do and I've been trying for months to convince her and it never seems to work
Sucks because we're really similar and overall I love being with her, everyone says that she's a keeper and for once with girls I've actually agreed with them, I don't know what the hell is happening though
yeah the same thing happened to me months ago, at a certain point i just cooled off and became indifferent to her in pretty much every way
maybe it's boredom, or maybe it's because what we wanted was different from what we got
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39650029]man what even happened to my relationship, we used to jump head over heels to see each other and now she can't come today for the reason that "she woke up late and can't be bothered"
I really miss her and don't see her half as often as I'd like to but nowadays it feels like she's either lashing out at me or is completely indifferent either way. She also keeps accusing me of not wanting to be with her but christ I do and I've been trying for months to convince her and it never seems to work
Sucks because we're really similar and overall I love being with her, everyone says that she's a keeper and for once with girls I've actually agreed with them, I don't know what the hell is happening though[/QUOTE]
As if she would prefer you go over there then?
I already offered last night to go over there on the weekend for dinner with her family so idk seems a bit odd. What basically happened is I asked her to come over yesterday ,she said she had stuff on with friends then later said "turns out that's starting at 4, I'll come over and we'll go for a swim during the day", then doesn't text me today until I text her asking what's happening and she says she got up really late and "ceeeebs"
I don't know things aren't indifferent like this all the time, generally pretty nice but holy shit it was a bit hurtful
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39650392]I already offered last night to go over there on the weekend for dinner with her family so idk seems a bit odd
I don't know things aren't indifferent like this all the time, just at the moment. I still really enjoy what I have with her most of the time[/QUOTE]
She might just be going through a mood phase. Sometimes once you settle in and get used to seeing someone all the time it isn't as big of a thing to see them?
Sometimes I go through low-mood phases where I don't really want to do much, including see my bf. It's nothing serious just sorta a very blehhh week or so. She might be having that. I wouldn't concern yourself too much so long as it doesn't keep up for a long time.
Might as well ask if anything is wrong though, cause maybe there is.
Rhenae you didn't suggest anything to me :(
[QUOTE=Rhenae;39650440]She might just be going through a mood phase. Sometimes once you settle in and get used to seeing someone all the time it isn't as big of a thing to see them?
Sometimes I go through low-mood phases where I don't really want to do much, including see my bf. It's nothing serious just sorta a very blehhh week or so. She might be having that. I wouldn't concern yourself too much so long as it doesn't keep up for a long time.
Might as well ask if anything is wrong though, cause maybe there is.[/QUOTE]
We've just been through a really rough patch where she ended up deciding to see a psychologist or something (which she never got around to). She was really low and lashing out at me about all this shit and treating me horribly but we got through it and talked about it and I took her out for a nice valentine's day dinner. After all that it seemed better so I'm trying to kind of reestablish the affection which hasn't been there the last couple weeks. Guess that's why I'm taking it so hard when she didn't want to hang out
[QUOTE=wanksta11;39648007]She always answers but it's not like before since she used to start most of the convos now she doesn't at all, I mean she goes to a school where all millionaires send their rich blond kids maybe she met somebody. I just don't wanna over react and fuck it up. She's coming back at easter[/QUOTE]
She might be busy, I wouldnt worry too much just keep in general contact with her and catch up when she gets back. School can take up a lot of persons spare time, and of course she will have friends there that she will be hanging out with a lot too (I would assume at least)
You can mention it to her if you really want to, but its not that long till she is back so I wouldnt stress and find out more then. Should be easier to find out how she feels about you in person.
[editline]19th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39650540]We've just been through a really rough patch where she ended up deciding to see a psychologist or something (which she never got around to). She was really low and lashing out at me about all this shit and treating me horribly but we got through it and talked about it and I took her out for a nice valentine's day dinner. After all that it seemed better so I'm trying to kind of reestablish the affection which hasn't been there the last couple weeks. Guess that's why I'm taking it so hard when she didn't want to hang out[/QUOTE]
Ok, yeah it sounds to me like she might not be completely over whatever was bothering her before.
I guess
pretty worried though how do you deal with mental instability its like ughughgu
a shitload of patience
so now I'm probably getting dumped tomorrow
this is the fucking worst
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39654583]so now I'm probably getting dumped tomorrow
this is the fucking worst[/QUOTE] goodluck man. why is that so? gf say something that sparked such a thought?
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39654289]you don't have any real rhythm to your thrusts, the girl either awkwardly tries to match you or just lays down like a confused dead fish meaning the guy has to do the movements and he's new at this bullshit too so he kinda just does whatever meaning at least one party isn't satisfied[/QUOTE]
My gf still awkwardly matches my rhythm sometimes lol.
Sex is kind of like music actually, The girl decides the key, and the guy decides what scale to play in, sometimes switching to other scales
I usually play solos
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;39659064]My gf still awkwardly matches my rhythm sometimes lol.
Sex is kind of like music actually, The girl decides the key, and the guy decides what scale to play in, sometimes switching to other scales[/QUOTE]
This is a terrible analogy. Music isnt all just scales you know!
"the girl decides the key, the guy decides the scale"? aside from those words meaning the exact same thing don't both parties have a say in what happens?
i think im over-thinking that metaphor because im trying to think what whole-tone scale would be like
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39659910]i have no idea what you're saying; but isnt the key basically the thing you gotta write so people actually know what to play[/QUOTE]
key is what scale the piece of music is based on. it isn't specific to sheet music, you should be able to tell the key of a song by what notes are used most commonly and generally what notes/chords are used to end it.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39661166]"the girl decides the key, the guy decides the scale"? aside from those words meaning the exact same thing don't both parties have a say in what happens?[/QUOTE]
no not necessarily a key would decide the tonic, not the scale
you could still play a mode different from the tonic scale, and major or minor would differ based on how the piece plays out
yeah sex or something
[editline]20th February 2013[/editline]
wait what are accidentals then....
So I'm safe but only just
she was resolved to dump me when she went to bed and we both slept on it and now feel a bit better but I'm skating on thin ice, I want to get it fixed though so I need to be going over to her more and making more of an effort for her because apparently the mental stuff was actually just her feeling really undervalued by me. I value her a hell of a lot but I'm resolved to show it way more now and make her feel more special because she deserves that.
Anyway I hope it's just that we're skating on thin ice and it's not that thing where the relationship is already over and we're just trying to convince ourselves it can be fixed. I want to fix it.
[quote=thisispain]wait what are accidentals then....[/quote]
It's when a note deviates from the key. In C D E F G A B C, if in a measure the F should be noted as F#, that would be an accidental, it creates tension, or can change the key for a measure without necessarily indicating so. Modern composers don't acknowledge key's as much anymore. (Everything's in Bb and if they want a key change they just throw tons of accidentals instead of marking a key change. Concert Etude by Alexander Goedicke does this a number of times during the [I]cantabile[/I].)
To actually contribute something to the thread subject, would it be creepy if I were to match thrusts to the beat of the song playing, say Chameleon? I think it'd be cool but geeky at the same time.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39664040]So I'm safe but only just
she was resolved to dump me when she went to bed and we both slept on it and now feel a bit better but I'm skating on thin ice, I want to get it fixed though so I need to be going over to her more and making more of an effort for her because apparently the mental stuff was actually just her feeling really undervalued by me. I value her a hell of a lot but I'm resolved to show it way more now and make her feel more special because she deserves that.
Anyway I hope it's just that we're skating on thin ice and it's not that thing where the relationship is already over and we're just trying to convince ourselves it can be fixed. I want to fix it.[/QUOTE]
you know better than anyone on this forum about your situation, but if she feels really undervalued by your or anyone else it's a personal issue and not something you can make for
[editline]20th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Cows Rule;39664342]It's when a note deviates from the key. In C D E F G A B C, if in a measure the F should be noted as F#, that would be an accidental, it creates tension, or can change the key for a measure without necessarily indicating so. Modern composers don't acknowledge key's as much anymore. (Everything's in Bb and if they want a key change they just throw tons of accidentals instead of marking a key change. Concert Etude by Alexander Goedicke does this a number of times during the [I]cantabile[/I].)
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butt out trumpet player
[QUOTE=thisispain;39664371]
butt out trumpet player[/QUOTE]
Now we're really getting sexual
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