This is reminding me of how I played clarinet for years.
And also how there used to be a mural of a small band playing... and the clarinet looked like a big black dick :v:
the fuck kind of artist makes a clarinet on a mural look like a big lback dick
-snip-
[QUOTE=thisispain;39665509]the fuck kind of artist makes a clarinet on a mural look like a big lback dick[/QUOTE]
A shitty one, like most who paint murals in schools :v:
i like the fucking part
[QUOTE=thisispain;39664371]you know better than anyone on this forum about your situation, but if she feels really undervalued by your or anyone else it's a personal issue and not something you can make for
[editline]20th February 2013[/editline]
butt out trumpet player[/QUOTE]
True enough, yeah
the issue has been brought up before and I guess I haven't really done much about it. Like in January she said she wanted me to come over more so I went over once, but then things got in the way and I haven't since then. Shit like that would be pretty annoying
I guess my policy is that now I know I'll just try really hard to make her feel special and if she still doesn't then things can end there and I'll know for sure that none of it was down to me because I tried as hard as I could
don't let it get to your self-confidence, you tried and if it works out then great, if it doesn't then just move on and hope youll find someone who appreciates it in the future
i should say that to my ex, and maybe id look less like an asshole lol
Question, guys. This is something I'm a little conflicted over. Now, I wasn't a very kinky dude. I was a little wild, but things have changed big-time since my recent relationship started.
My woman is brilliant - I mean she plays with physics math for fun and has tried to explain quantum mechanics to me a bunch of times with limited success. She's the sort who is talented at whatever she tries her hand at, is more fit than the vast majority of men, and composes music when bored. To be succinct, she's one hell of a catch, and my respect and admiration for her is very strong.
That brings me to the main point of this discussion - Her kinks.
To put it simply, she likes to be objectified, used, taken roughly. She enjoys rape roleplay, heavy BDSM and transformation (Saving up for a rubber doll suit, as a matter of fact.) At first I thought I couldn't get into that stuff, but I find that I have no trouble indulging her. I'm starting to find being the dominator, the master to her slave, and treating her like a sex object in the bedroom very appealing - Because it's what she wants, and I like pleasing her. And I seem to make a good natural dom.
Still, it's not exactly a common series of kinks, and many people think that it's morally wrong somehow. As far as I know, her past holds no dark secrets - Her parents were intelligent, conscientious and nurturing folk, and she's never been sexually assaulted - So the theory that her kinks come from psychological damage seems to hold no water.
I don't know why this bugs me. On one hand, it seems cruel, but on the other, it's what she wants, and I can't ever see her with less respect than her merits have earned her in my eyes.
Maybe a small part of me is worried that I'd be more prone to sexist thinking because of how she's spoiling me.
uhm, get over it???
i have a friend who's into far worse than that, and she's a strong independent person
and sexist thinking? you'd have to be joking lol
if anything's sexist it was automatically assuming she was sexually or psychologically abused just because she likes crazy sex, which is silly
Probably true. Maybe I'm a little uneasy because I'm surprised I enjoy this so much. The picture I'd painted of myself didn't include anything remotely like this.
see it less as a denial of your self-image and more of something to explore in your own sub-conscious
Bit of a funny question here, after sex, I always need to take a shit. Is this normal? It varies in degrees, but I normally just find myself in need after I'm done.
[QUOTE=archangel125;39667182]Question, guys. This is something I'm a little conflicted over. Now, I wasn't a very kinky dude. I was a little wild, but things have changed big-time since my recent relationship started.
My woman is brilliant - I mean she plays with physics math for fun and has tried to explain quantum mechanics to me a bunch of times with limited success. She's the sort who is talented at whatever she tries her hand at, is more fit than the vast majority of men, and composes music when bored. To be succinct, she's one hell of a catch, and my respect and admiration for her is very strong.
That brings me to the main point of this discussion - Her kinks.
To put it simply, she likes to be objectified, used, taken roughly. She enjoys rape roleplay, heavy BDSM and transformation (Saving up for a rubber doll suit, as a matter of fact.) At first I thought I couldn't get into that stuff, but I find that I have no trouble indulging her. I'm starting to find being the dominator, the master to her slave, and treating her like a sex object in the bedroom very appealing - Because it's what she wants, and I like pleasing her. And I seem to make a good natural dom.
Still, it's not exactly a common series of kinks, and many people think that it's morally wrong somehow. As far as I know, her past holds no dark secrets - Her parents were intelligent, conscientious and nurturing folk, and she's never been sexually assaulted - So the theory that her kinks come from psychological damage seems to hold no water.
I don't know why this bugs me. On one hand, it seems cruel, but on the other, it's what she wants, and I can't ever see her with less respect than her merits have earned her in my eyes.
Maybe a small part of me is worried that I'd be more prone to sexist thinking because of how she's spoiling me.[/QUOTE]
I'm not sure whether or not it's a bit taboo around you and your friends, but in Norway, bondage is a pretty common kink, even if it's just soft play with handcuffs.
It's a really good thng that your girl knows what she likes in bed, it most likely doesn't have anything to do with "psychological damage", but that she has explored her sexuality early on.
There's nothing wrong with enjoying it, and definetly no moral issue.
It can spoil you though, if you end up with another girlfriend. Either you'd have to adjust and accept it wont happen, or slowly introduce the idea again. Happened, and worked for me.
woah, ok, that post was weird not gonna lie
[QUOTE=thisispain;39668318]woah, ok, that post was weird not gonna lie[/QUOTE]
Yeah that's not unexpected. It might just be the weird way I'm used to people talking about everything.
[editline]21st February 2013[/editline]
Took some weird stuff out. A bit too many run-on sentences and stuff that didn't make sense to mention.
Well, I ditched a girl. Fairly sure it was the right reason.
Started talking over OkCupid. Seemed pretty interesting. She was talking back and forth with me constantly. Started to draw out over the next couple days, felt like she wasn't interested, never responded to any messages until it was one she got upset over. Like if I asked if she wanted to talk, she basically spun it around against me. I'm fairly sure if you're interested in someone, you're responsive, unless you're busy. Her version of busy is posting on tumblr about some guy from a TV series she adores. That's it. It's not like, oh hey, this guy that I'm interested in wants to talk to me, I'll talk back.
To think I was going to take her to a movie.
I think I need to date older women, or something.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39674343]not particularly, i mean if you're into older women go for it but you just have to get lucky, not everyone is compatible man
that said i sometimes make an account on like okcupid or whatever for a week or two and feel good whenever someone contacts me and then fuck off again
strangely addicting to stroke my ego like that[/QUOTE]
Meh. I never get contacted. I don't look bad either. I'll post a pic if required, but eh.
I made the right decision. I don't trust someone who doesn't respond for hours upon hours, and doesn't say anything, even though I'm practically asking them to talk to me.
Shouldn't work like that.
I'm not trying to brag or anything but while I'm talking to this one and only girl I'm actually interested (on the dating site I'm using here in Aust) I'm getting pretty much bombarded with contacts from other women in the area... it's really crazy, I remember looking at the list of responses to the initial contact (you can only send a preset response from a big list unless you feel comfortable moving on to email contact for a small cost) and there was a response like "Sorry, I'm a little overwhelmed with contact right now etc etc" - I thought "Hah! Who would use that?!".
I really feel like I need to. To be fair, some really lovely people have shown interest, but I just don't feel any kind of connection, you know? Wish I could just hide my profile from everyone else right now :(
[QUOTE=archangel125;39667182]Question, guys. This is something I'm a little conflicted over. Now, I wasn't a very kinky dude. I was a little wild, but things have changed big-time since my recent relationship started.
My woman is brilliant - I mean she plays with physics math for fun and has tried to explain quantum mechanics to me a bunch of times with limited success. She's the sort who is talented at whatever she tries her hand at, is more fit than the vast majority of men, and composes music when bored. To be succinct, she's one hell of a catch, and my respect and admiration for her is very strong.
That brings me to the main point of this discussion - Her kinks.
To put it simply, she likes to be objectified, used, taken roughly. She enjoys rape roleplay, heavy BDSM and transformation (Saving up for a rubber doll suit, as a matter of fact.) At first I thought I couldn't get into that stuff, but I find that I have no trouble indulging her. I'm starting to find being the dominator, the master to her slave, and treating her like a sex object in the bedroom very appealing - Because it's what she wants, and I like pleasing her. And I seem to make a good natural dom.
Still, it's not exactly a common series of kinks, and many people think that it's morally wrong somehow. As far as I know, her past holds no dark secrets - Her parents were intelligent, conscientious and nurturing folk, and she's never been sexually assaulted - So the theory that her kinks come from psychological damage seems to hold no water.
I don't know why this bugs me. On one hand, it seems cruel, but on the other, it's what she wants, and I can't ever see her with less respect than her merits have earned her in my eyes.
Maybe a small part of me is worried that I'd be more prone to sexist thinking because of how she's spoiling me.[/QUOTE]
Nothing wrong with kinks, personally. They spice up sex life and they're often a lot more fun than most people readily admit.
As long as she's comfortable, and you're comfortable, I say don't worry about it. As long as the objectification stays in the bedroom & she wants it, it's okay to do it.
Also one of my friends w/ benefits is into submission & has a bit of a thing for rape fantasy. Statistically, 4/10 women fantasize about rape, and statistics suggest that it's probably more than that because some women might be too embarrassed to admit to rape fantasies. So it's still considered within the normal spectrum of sexuality, but it's neither extremely common nor particularly rare.
[QUOTE=SatansSin;39674333]Well, I ditched a girl. Fairly sure it was the right reason.
Started talking over OkCupid. Seemed pretty interesting. She was talking back and forth with me constantly. Started to draw out over the next couple days, felt like she wasn't interested, never responded to any messages until it was one she got upset over. Like if I asked if she wanted to talk, she basically spun it around against me. I'm fairly sure if you're interested in someone, you're responsive, unless you're busy. Her version of busy is posting on tumblr about some guy from a TV series she adores. That's it. It's not like, oh hey, this guy that I'm interested in wants to talk to me, I'll talk back.
To think I was going to take her to a movie.
I think I need to date older women, or something.[/QUOTE]
try plentyoffish, much better imo
[QUOTE=Ramses;39665844]So i decided to take a quick piss right before sliding a condom on. Big mistake, i couldn't get hard again in the limited time we had. FML
I almost feel as bad as this:
[img]http://puu.sh/24YwW[/img]
[editline]hurrdurr[/editline]
Figured out the condom problem, it's too small.[/QUOTE]
Hahahaha, honestly it wasn't that bad, I just buckled under the pressure and I felt bad about letting her down, within an hour we were laughing about it :v:.
She never let me live it down though, there were two main things she would remind me of:
Crybaby
"I can't get the angles right"
I swear that first time her vagina had a right-angle.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;39681529]I'm fairly sure my girlfriend has some sort of forced sex fantasy, because she implies it a lot. And by imply I mean she'll say things like "Only if you force me to (;"
But I just can't do it because it feels wrong. And not the good kind of wrong that teenagers enjoy, the kind of wrong that's wrong.[/QUOTE]
Would letting her play out her fantasies mean beating her down, or cheating on her? Nah.
Will anyone around you honestly care if you just keep it a private matter between you two, as it should be unless you're into voyeurism and all that? Nah.
If it really rubs you the wrong way, just say that you aren't comfortable with all of those little hints that she is giving.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;39681529]I'm fairly sure my girlfriend has some sort of forced sex fantasy, because she implies it a lot. And by imply I mean she'll say things like "Only if you force me to (;"
But I just can't do it because it feels wrong. And not the good kind of wrong that teenagers enjoy, the kind of wrong that's wrong.[/QUOTE]
it could be that she just wants you to take initiative. maybe you're too timid in bed.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;39681529]
But I just can't do it because it feels wrong. And not the good kind of wrong that teenagers enjoy, the kind of wrong that's wrong.[/QUOTE]
imo i dont consider any consensual sex between human adults wrong at all
[QUOTE=thisispain;39683354]imo i dont consider any consensual sex between human adults wrong at all[/QUOTE]
All's well that end wells unless it hurts someone somehow.
Well, I mean, all of the raunchy stuff seems violent and intimidating to me but I guess I can tolerate it.
some people want to be hurt
[QUOTE=thisispain;39683909]some people want to be hurt[/QUOTE]
No I didn't mean hurt in the kinky sexy, ''I'm paying for your sins master!'' way I meant hurt hurt.
Emotionally or to an intolerable extent physically.
[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;39683944]No I didn't mean hurt in the kinky sexy, ''I'm paying for your sins master!'' way I meant hurt hurt.
Emotionally or to an intolerable extent physically.[/QUOTE]
but that's part of the reason bdsm is attractive to some people, generally the point of it is to make the sub feel ashamed.
[editline]23rd February 2013[/editline]
physical pain can be a part of bdsm as well, i don't think you understand the discomfort usually involved in bondage haha
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39685655]but that's part of the reason bdsm is attractive to some people, generally the point of it is to make the sub feel ashamed.[/QUOTE]
I meant legitimately, outside of play hurt hurt hurt. The kind of hurt that lasts and isn't fun for anyone.
I'd spell out what I mean but I'm sure you'd all go, "Oh, you silly!". BDSM and consensual humiliation has nothing to do with what I was/am trying to say. Neither does rape, for that matter.
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