[QUOTE=Number-41;39709669]I tell you what they're all dirty whores.
You don't talk to someone for 2 months and then just cancel a date because "you have a new BF since a week".
/rant[/QUOTE]
she picked someone else over you, deal wit it dood
Yeah she obviously did, but you're not telling me that she only knew she was going to pick someone else just until the last moment. All I'm saying is that she could've turned me down a bit earlier instead of pulling shit like that. It just doesn't make sense to stretch it for another month if you're going for someone else.
Anyway, moving on, there's nothing of (my) interest there any more. I'm just annoyed that people don't communicate and just wait things out until shit hits the fan, it's an inconsiderate dick move that applies not only to dating but to any situation that involves some form of commitment.
[QUOTE=thisispain;39709687]she picked someone else over you, deal wit it dood[/QUOTE]
no really i swear every woman is a whore
[QUOTE=Number-41;39709835]Anyway, moving on, there's nothing of (my) interest there any more. I'm not gonna whine endlessly and feel all entitled and be the frustrated nice guy (even though that may seem so now :v:),[/QUOTE]
the "frustrated nice guy" who calls all women whores just because they don't give him what he wants?
Man my girlfriend and I are having a rough time, she has a lot of problems concerning her family. Furthermore she has serious school issues and skipped tons of classes. We had an incident where she just ran out of school and randomly came to me. She is just so impulsive. Then we had a session with her family and two psychatrist. I am worried about her and her education. She has a head of her own which can cause severe problems.
Besides I am having a bit of trouble with my family, everyone dies. Also I switched universities and there is a ton of trouble right now.
Hopefully this will cease soon, although we both are still in love. When I talk to her about her issues she always replies with "if you are bothered by my issues or if you are being dragged down, just break up with me". That is quite unusual to say for her.
[QUOTE=Number-41;39709835]Yeah she obviously did, but you're not telling me that she only knew she was going to pick someone else just until the last moment. All I'm saying is that she could've turned me down a bit earlier instead of pulling shit like that. It just doesn't make sense to stretch it for another month if you're going for someone else.
Anyway, moving on, there's nothing of (my) interest there any more. I'm not gonna whine endlessly and feel all entitled and be the frustrated nice guy (even though that may seem so now :v:), I'm just annoyed that people don't communicate and just wait things out until shit hits the fan.[/QUOTE]
You just called all women dirty whores and then stated that she could have treated you a little better
hm.
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idgaf anymore
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39716223]You just called all women dirty whores and then stated that she could have treated you a little better
hm.[/QUOTE]
You think I was serious about calling them whores? All I ask is a bit of sensible communication, not that they offer themselves to me. That's not even a man/woman/dating thing, just common sense.
"Oh yeah thanks for making all those sketches & designs but we decided a month ago that we'll go with the other agency, thanks anyway."
[QUOTE=Number-41;39718480]You think I was serious about calling them whores? All I ask is a bit of sensible communication, not that they offer themselves to me. That's not even a man/woman/dating thing, just common sense.
"Oh yeah thanks for making all those sketches & designs but we decided a month ago that we'll go with the other agency, thanks anyway."[/QUOTE]
so let me get your last post straight, the girl [i]stopped talking to you for 2 months[/i] and then revealed when you were too thick to get the hint that she wasn't available to you?
[editline]26th February 2013[/editline]
and you said she had a new bf for a week. so where does the "month ago" thing come in?
like it's not her fault if you don't know how to take a hint.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39718659]so let me get your last post straight, the girl [I]stopped talking to you for 2 months[/I] and then revealed when you were too thick to get the hint that she wasn't available to you?
[editline]26th February 2013[/editline]
and you said she had a new bf for a week. so where does the "month ago" thing come in?
like it's not her fault if you don't know how to take a hint.[/QUOTE]
if i read correctly she had been talking to him for the past two months? it's still a piss poor argument for calling her a whore. you never said your intentions once.
to take your analogy to a whole new level, it's like sending sketches and designs to a company that [I]never even contracted you[/I] and getting angry when they get someone else to do the work.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;39718903]if i read correctly she had been talking to him for the past two months? it's still a piss poor argument regardless. you never said your intentions once.
to take your analogy to a whole new level, it's like sending sketches and designs to a company that [I]never even contracted you[/I] and getting angry when they get someone else to do the work.[/QUOTE]
whoops. pretty drunk, probably misread. [sp]today's my birthday[/sp]
either way a week isn't that much and was she really hinting that she wanted to be with you or were you just interpreting it that way?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;39719180]whoops. pretty drunk, probably misread. [sp]today's my birthday[/sp]
either way a week isn't that much and was she really hinting that she wanted to be with you or were you just interpreting it that way?[/QUOTE]
congrats on another year of age!
just try not to drink as much as thisispain
i went from the advice headmaster to the drunken sod everyone uses as a cautionary tale oh gluttony thy name is tpain!!
[QUOTE=Number-41;39709669]I tell you what they're all dirty whores.
You don't talk to someone for 2 months and then just cancel a date because "you have a new BF since a week".
/rant[/QUOTE]
Basically this exact thing happened to me a really long time ago. There was a girl I was friends with for a few months, took her out on a date once (first date I ever went on, actually), but there was another guy she liked better. At the time I was a bit too stupid to get the hints, and she wanted to remain friends and not be mean about it, so she wasn't direct with me and still tried to be friendly. This went on for 2 months, she gave me the "wait for summer" excuse. When summer finally came, I asked her on another date via text and she replied with something along the lines of "I can't that day cause I'm going on a date with my boyfriend".
Didn't talk to her for just over a year after that. That year was basically my senior year of high school and the two summers surrounding it. We started texting a little bit just before we went off to college, I can't remember exactly what we started talking about, but it happened. We kept texting each other throughout the semester, spent a pretty good amount of time with each other over winter break, and just recently started writing letters to each other (She stayed in California, I went to New York for college, and letters are cool). At this point I'd consider her one of my closest friends.
The point I'm trying to make is that people have to make decisions, and it's not always going to be in your favor. Not picking you doesn't necessarily make her a bad person, it just means she made a choice. It's fine if you need some time to let go of your feelings for her and any frustration that came as a result of her choice, but from my viewpoint it's silly to burn a bridge over something like that.
Hey I've never been on one of these threads before. Is there like a turn order or do you just go with your story whenever? I'm a little down and confused right now and could use some advice or something.
[QUOTE=Ryannerker;39720178]Hey I've never been on one of these threads before. Is there like a turn order or do you just go with your story whenever? I'm a little down and confused right now and could use some advice or something.[/QUOTE]
Just go on, it's a very liberal thread.
Alright. So I have been out of the dating scene for like a year basically. My last girlfriend cheated on me so i've been riding solo for a long time, and enjoying it! So I get to my second semester of college and I change dorms cause my old one was shit; the one is a single and the hall i'm in is pretty chill. Anyway two doors down theirs this three room dorm with three pretty cute girls,and one of them really starts to dig me. She talked to me, hung out in my room a few times, asked me to dinner with her and her friends. It was pretty great. And I didn't even really like her that well at first, I was just glad to be making friends, but I was getting some serious vibes that she liked me.
Anyway I began to fall for her after a little over two weeks of hanging with her, which scared the shit out of me cause of my last relationship and so I was nervous. But I went with my feelings and asked her out on a date on Valentines day. Before the date I was talking with her two roommates and I asked if I should ask her to be my girlfriend, and they said I should go for it. They said she talks about me and says she could see me as a guy she could date. So I thought what the hell, ill go for it!
So the date goes great! Get he flowers, chocolate, see the Hobbit, it was good. After we get back to school I ask if she wants to be my girlfriend and she says yes! SCORE...
Until the next day when she says she just wants to be friends. So that really pissed me off/ upset me. I thought I was in the clear and then boom... I was upset of course, but also mad I got so many mixed messages. And I told her that too. So a week goes by and we start to hang out again. I then discovered recently that she's going out til like 3 am and visiting this guy at his apartment. You don't need to be a genius to know whats going on...
So here I am a little heartbroken, still kinda fond of this girl while she's out banging this other dude like a week after I had my shot. Is this fair? I wanna be her friend, but this just really pisses me off and kinda makes me feel like shit. I wanna call her out again on this and ask about this guy, but I don't want things to get awkward, cause I like hanging with her and her friends. Should I not hang out with her anymore? Should I just move on? I just need a little advice.
sucks that she said yes, then changed her mind the next day, but i would just move on if i were you. also calling and asking about the guy would be incredibly awkward and dumb, its none of your business. it was just a couple week fling anyway, no reason to get too hung up about it
you weren't in a relationship with her, all that happened is you went on one date. it isn't your problem if she's involved with other guys when you weren't in a committed relationship.
I know. That's what I thought too. Honestly last night I was just really swept in emotions and stuff lol. Having a good nights rest and taking a step back, it's probably best not to make it my problem. And also I can see that we were looking for two different things.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;39718903]if i read correctly she had been talking to him for the past two months? it's still a piss poor argument for calling her a whore. you never said your intentions once.
to take your analogy to a whole new level, it's like sending sketches and designs to a company that [I]never even contracted you[/I] and getting angry when they get someone else to do the work.[/QUOTE]
Maybe I wasn't clear. I asked her out, she agreed (and not in a "okay, if we really have to..."-tone), but we didn't have an actual time & date yet because planning it was a bit complicated because she's like 100km away, (oh and the night I met her she actually asked if I was gonna crash at the party or not, but I couldn't because I'd be stranded there and I had shit to do next day).
FYI she actually came at me the first time I saw her. So uh, those are some weird hints then. Why do you all react so violently to a joke?
[editline]26th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=robmaister12;39720064]Basically this exact thing happened to me a really long time ago. There was a girl I was friends with for a few months, took her out on a date once (first date I ever went on, actually), but there was another guy she liked better. At the time I was a bit too stupid to get the hints, and she wanted to remain friends and not be mean about it, so she wasn't direct with me and still tried to be friendly. This went on for 2 months, she gave me the "wait for summer" excuse. When summer finally came, I asked her on another date via text and she replied with something along the lines of "I can't that day cause I'm going on a date with my boyfriend".
Didn't talk to her for just over a year after that. That year was basically my senior year of high school and the two summers surrounding it. We started texting a little bit just before we went off to college, I can't remember exactly what we started talking about, but it happened. We kept texting each other throughout the semester, spent a pretty good amount of time with each other over winter break, and just recently started writing letters to each other (She stayed in California, I went to New York for college, and letters are cool). At this point I'd consider her one of my closest friends.
The point I'm trying to make is that people have to make decisions, and it's not always going to be in your favor. Not picking you doesn't necessarily make her a bad person, it just means she made a choice. It's fine if you need some time to let go of your feelings for her and any frustration that came as a result of her choice, but from my viewpoint it's silly to burn a bridge over something like that.[/QUOTE]
I completely respect her choice to pick someone else, but you have to understand that I feel cheated because she agreed to go on a date, while she clearly knew at the time of agreeing that she'd actually go for someone else (but that is something I had to find out afterwards). You all interpret my story in the wrong way (or I just explained it badly)
[QUOTE=Number-41;39723590]Maybe I wasn't clear. I asked her out, she agreed (and not in a "okay, if we really have to..."-tone), but we didn't have an actual time & date yet because planning it was a bit complicated because she's like 100km away, (oh and the night I met her she actually asked if I was gonna crash at the party or not, but I couldn't because I'd be stranded there and I had shit to do next day).
FYI she actually came at me the first time I saw her. So uh, those are some weird hints then. Why do you all react so violently to a joke?
[editline]26th February 2013[/editline]
I completely respect her choice to pick someone else, but you have to understand that I feel cheated because she agreed to go on a date, while she clearly knew at the time of agreeing that she'd actually go for someone else (but that is something I had to find out afterwards). You all interpret my story in the wrong way (or I just explained it badly)[/QUOTE]
There still is no cheating in nonexclusive relationships.
[QUOTE=Number-41;39723590]You all interpret my story in the wrong way (or I just explained it badly)[/QUOTE]
usually this just means you're not getting the answer you want, so we're all wrong
[QUOTE=thisispain;39719331]i went from the advice headmaster to the drunken sod everyone uses as a cautionary tale oh gluttony thy name is tpain!![/QUOTE]
im sorry tpain, i was just joking. you are a p cool guy.
[QUOTE=thisispain;39719331]i went from the advice headmaster to the drunken sod everyone uses as a cautionary tale oh gluttony thy name is tpain!![/QUOTE]
oh how have the mighty fallen??
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;39728359]im sorry tpain, i was just joking. you are a p cool guy.[/QUOTE]
you dont even know me i might be a serial rapist for all you know
[editline]26th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39728448]oh how have the mighty fallen??[/QUOTE]
its true i had it all
[QUOTE=thisispain;39729178]you dont even know me i might be a serial rapist for all you know
[editline]26th February 2013[/editline]
its true i had it all[/QUOTE]
Doesn't matter if you're a serial rapist or Holden Caulfield without the Marfan syndrome, I'd still snuggle into your side given the chance.
And I'm sure mostly everyone else here would, too.
Been having a chat with this girl from one of the dating sites (for anyone who's following). We've exchanged some pretty long emails, it does seem we have quite a bit in common, she seems really really cool! But the weather has been horrible and she's just moved so not only does she not have internet at home, the library she was going to to reply also just got flooded. The upside to that is that she's given me her mobile number to contact her on, which is a really nice gesture I think.
Anyway, nothing terribly exciting at this stage. I just really like everything I'm finding out about her and thought I'd mention that. I honestly didn't expect to find someone I could have so much in common with :)
Girlfriend and I had sex and maintained eye contact the entire time, just sort of happened and I gotta say, I recommend it.
my girlfriend plays percussion next to me in our high school's band and the director gets upset because pda at football games
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