Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

[QUOTE=Swog;38171841]I'm not that type of social person, I prefer working alone, and I have no clue how to talk to girls.[/QUOTE] fucking learn by doing

[QUOTE=Swog;38171841]I'm not that type of social person, I prefer working alone, and I have no clue how to talk to girls.[/QUOTE] Here we go again. You talk to girls like you talk to people. It's not difficult and you're making it into something bigger than it is.

[QUOTE=Disseminate;38171887]Here we go again. You talk to girls like you talk to people. It's not difficult and you're making it into something bigger than it is.[/QUOTE] Talking to someone in the opposite sex of me makes me feel like I'm being embarassed. Also my hearing puts me in 90%-of-the-time-I-can't-hear-shit. Oh well, I got to go to bed. I'll just come back tomorrow.

[QUOTE=Swog;38171909]Talking to someone in the opposite sex of me makes me feel like I'm being embarassed. Also my hearing puts me in 90%-of-the-time-I-can't-hear-shit. Oh well, I got to go to bed. I'll just come back tomorrow.[/QUOTE] how old are you

[QUOTE=Swog;38171797]I'm not truely sure, but she seem to shoot me some glares during lunch, and when she walks by, she's whispering in her friend's ear. I can't hear it but it's probably about me. Also, when I walk by her for Social Studies, she shoots me a glance too.[/QUOTE] [B][I]I can't hear it but it's probably about me. [/I][/B] [quote] 'oh god he's staring at me again' 'Hey Sarah, you see that guy over there? Yeah thats the one, Swog. Don't you think he needs to take a shower sometime?' 'its that guy again, oh shit i made eye contact keep walking' [/quote] yeah its about you buddy

[QUOTE=Swog;38171841]I'm not that type of social person, I prefer working alone, and I have no clue how to talk to girls.[/QUOTE] i don't understand if you're not willing to have even casual conversation why do you care about whether she likes you or not? clearly you won't be maintaining much of a relationship in the even that she is into you, and i doubt you'll be bumming if you can't even make basic conversation just talk to her don't be a big baby

Question about if this girl likes me, she's in my grade and has always been shy except for her main group of friends. But suddenly this year it seems we really hit it off, we talk all the time, and she's always laughing at my jokes. Whenever she laughs she looks over at me, and she seems really open to me in conversation. Think she likes me?

What is everyone's opinion on clingyness here?

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38175089]geez give us some fucking room to breathe man[/QUOTE] but i luv u :(

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38175109]i think we need to break up[/QUOTE] w-what ;-;

oh man, some people here...

Clingyness is bad, a relationship is two separate people who are attracted to oneanother, not one person with another hanging onto its leg.

If your woman's only hobby is you, ditch her.

[QUOTE=Swog;38171909]Talking to someone in the opposite sex of me makes me feel like I'm being embarassed. Also my hearing puts me in 90%-of-the-time-I-can't-hear-shit. Oh well, I got to go to bed. I'll just come back tomorrow.[/QUOTE] What's up with your hearing? I have pretty bad hearing, worthy of being given aids, but I ne er wear them. I understand it can be really difficult sometimes, and despite just turning 18, it can make me very nervous when I approach strangers like shop assistants or at tourist information because I'm worried it'll be a clusterfuck because I can't hear them. 99% of the time though its perfectly ok though, you just have to work up the balls and do it. Yeah I'll admit I'm not a overly social person because of my hearing and confidence because of it, but it hasn't stopped me having a girlfriend (it was our 1 year last month) and talking to girls and other people. If you don't be a creep you could easily use the hearing thing to get the sympathy votes of the girls.

Sympathy votes?..... oh man. Sympathy =/ attraction, this is how you want to be treated? these are ur cards... how you play with them is a different story.

[QUOTE=WingedAssailant;38175043]What is everyone's opinion on clingyness here?[/QUOTE] Don't be ever

clinginess/infatuation are a normal part of relationships though everyone experiences it to a different extent. in your case, though.. you need to ditch this girl. it's clear from your previous posts here that she's trying to provoke/inconvenience you and has little regard for your feelings toward the relationship.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38175791]clinginess/infatuation are a normal part of relationships though everyone experiences it to a different extent. in your case, though.. you need to ditch this girl. it's clear from your previous posts here that she's trying to provoke/inconvenience you and has little regard for your feelings toward the relationship.[/QUOTE] This isnt to do with my girlfriend, i was just asking what everyones opinions on it where as my cousin, his boyfriend, a friend of mine and my girlfriend were having a discussion on it

if you weren't implying anything by it, then you asked a pretty vague question the general consensus is that clinginess is bad and makes you come off as creepy/needy. pretty cut and dry

I cant believe the amount of people who're confused about how to talk to girls, and how to know if somebody likes you... I'm not even particularly confident or successful when it comes to girls, but damn it's pretty cringe worthy. Talk to them like regular people, because that's what they are. If you think somebody might like you, strike up a conversation and see how it goes. If you keep having little chats, ask them if they want to do something with you. Coffee, movie, lunch, go to the park, meet for a drink if you're old enough (unlikely...). You dont need to specifically refer to it as a date most times, unless you can't think of other ways to get that across. It's not like you need to be "You there stranger! Do you like me? We should date!"... most of the time a "Hey! My name is [name]" alongside a friendly smile is enough to get the ball rolling.

its because lots of dudes are raised with a really counter productive mindset that women are strange unrelatable creatures that you need to carefully manipulate and plan your interactions with or else you risk a catastrophic failure. once you grow up a bit and realize they're people, talking to women (or men) is piss easy. as soon as i stopped taking dating advice from my father my life drastically improved lol

[QUOTE=Kopimi;38176022]its because lots of dudes are raised with a really counter productive mindset that women are strange unrelatable creatures that you need to carefully manipulate and plan your interactions with or else you risk a catastrophic failure. once you grow up a bit and realize they're people, talking to women (or men) is piss easy. as soon as i stopped taking dating advice from my father my life drastically improved lol[/QUOTE] um according to this if you just pick the right options you will get into any girls pants [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2ryF0IzTAE[/media]

Well, I guess I have a girlfriend now! She said she liked me for a long time, I had no idea. She cute, short, a year younger, likes video games, and has great cheeks /)^3^(\ But... there is one problem. [sp]She's my best friend's little sister[/sp]

[QUOTE=McNab;38178851]Well, I guess I have a girlfriend now! She said she liked me for a long time, I had no idea. She cute, short, a year younger, likes video games, and has great cheeks /)^3^(\ But... there is one problem. [sp]She's my best friend's little sister[/sp][/QUOTE] Eep. Does he know already? I've decided I'm gonna call it a day with this girl I've been dating. Just trying to figure out how best to go about it, I suppose it should really be in person :/

[QUOTE=Scotchair;38178933]Eep. Does he know already? I've decided I'm gonna call it a day with this girl I've been dating. Just trying to figure out how best to go about it, I suppose it should really be in person :/[/QUOTE] In person is always best, make it neutral ground, be gentle but firm.

[QUOTE=Scotchair;38178933]Eep. Does he know already? I've decided I'm gonna call it a day with this girl I've been dating. Just trying to figure out how best to go about it, I suppose it should really be in person :/[/QUOTE] No he doesn't. Also, it should always be in person, that way you can have closure. If you do it over a text or facebook you'll just see eachother again occasionaly and look away without saying anything. That doesnt sound so bad but it kills you a little on the inside every time.

[QUOTE=McNab;38178851]Well, I guess I have a girlfriend now! She said she liked me for a long time, I had no idea. She cute, short, a year younger, likes video games, and has great cheeks /)^3^(\ But... there is one problem. [sp]She's my best friend's little sister[/sp][/QUOTE] oh shit what a twist

[QUOTE=metallics;38179421]In person is always best, make it neutral ground, be gentle but firm.[/QUOTE] Yeah definitely, I dont want to be that guy who does it via text. I'm still kinda struggling with whether it's what I actually want haha. It all boils down to, I cant understand why I'm not that interested in her. I think kissing my best friend has thrown everything off... even though I know that's a dead end. Feels like there must be this subconscious rekindled flicker of hope that we could be more than friends, but that's fucking ridiculous. Half of me thinks the only way to get rid of that is to stay with this girl. Gah.

Why wouldn't it work with your friend? Distance or does she not want it?

A load of reasons. We've been best friends for like 7 years, and I've never been closer to anybody... but I can't help but feel that if you were to add the sexual element of a relationship in (which is all that's missing really) it would mean that we could never go back to being friends if we should break up. Secondly, she broke up with her ex back in February because she felt tied down. She has a lot of ambitions, and ultimately wants to use this time to think about herself without worrying about having to take a boyfriend into account. Which I totally understand, we're both really similar in that sense. We've got these crazy dreams and lust for adventure... and we both do a pretty decent job of [I]actually[/I] having said adventures. Lastly, (ties into reason 2) she's part of an Irish dancing troup, and they travel the world for months at a time on tour. Which would put a strain on things. There was a point in the past where I pretty much confessed my love for her, when she was with her boyfriend. We had a decent enough chat about it, and she'd felt the same in the past. We both knew we were so much more than friends, and we'd both been waiting for ages for the other to mention it. So it wasn't exactly a surprise. Same deal when we kissed, it was clearly something we'd both been curious about for a long time. I'm under the impression she liked it too, certainly at the time. It's a bit of an old "hopeless romantic" situation really. I think it gets in the way of other relationships. Not even the fact that I like her, but because we're so incredibly close in a platonic sense... it leaves me no desire for that female companionship elsewhere. I find it hard to really connect with other girls because I'm so much more comfortable around her, and other close girl mates. The only thing that's missing is the sexual aspect, which bothers me sometimes but it's not a HUGE deal to me personally. Basically; I feel no real desire to meet and connect with somebody else because I've already got it... but that's as far as it's gonna go between us. But I'm 22, and I've never had a committed relationship, I feel a sense of pressure that I should really get a girlfriend. I don't think it's that I can't get a girlfriend... I mean, I've got the opportunity for one right now. It's just the aforementioned situation. They're not as cool as she is. What do?