Recently got in contact with a girl I grew up with a few months ago. Started being friends again after I think 3 years of not seeing each other. So about a month ago she told me she liked me and I really liked her, I asked her out but she just wanted to be friends...FRIENDZONED....About 2 weeks ago I was at her place chilling with her and she asked if I wanted "Friends With Benefits" and obviously I agreed. That brings us to last week, She text's me saying she still has feelings for me and wants to get together to talk. Now I have an amazing girlfriend and couldn't be happier!
Just wanted to share my little story of how I escaped the Friendzone and gained something amazing.
Cool! A success story!
But it's impossible to escape the friend zone!!1! :v:
[QUOTE=404 error;38258947]Recently got in contact with a girl I grew up with a few months ago. Started being friends again after I think 3 years of not seeing each other. So about a month ago she told me she liked me and I really liked her, I asked her out but she just wanted to be friends...FRIENDZONED....About 2 weeks ago I was at her place chilling with her and she asked if I wanted "Friends With Benefits" and obviously I agreed. That brings us to last week, She text's me saying she still has feelings for me and wants to get together to talk. Now I have an amazing girlfriend and couldn't be happier!
Just wanted to share my little story of how I escaped the Friendzone and gained something amazing.[/QUOTE]
Proof the friendzone does not exist
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38260790]Proof the friendzone does not exist[/QUOTE]
Or proof that it isn't the bottomless pit of hopelessness the world makes it out to be.
[QUOTE=404 error;38258947]Recently got in contact with a girl I grew up with a few months ago. Started being friends again after I think 3 years of not seeing each other. So about a month ago she told me she liked me and I really liked her, I asked her out but she just wanted to be friends...FRIENDZONED....About 2 weeks ago I was at her place chilling with her and she asked if I wanted "Friends With Benefits" and obviously I agreed. That brings us to last week, She text's me saying she still has feelings for me and wants to get together to talk. Now I have an amazing girlfriend and couldn't be happier!
Just wanted to share my little story of how I escaped the Friendzone and gained something amazing.[/QUOTE]
this is exactly what im talking about, it doesn't help at all to say 'it doESNT FUCKING Exist NOOB" its just a happy story
[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;38261092]Or proof that it isn't the bottomless pit of hopelessness the world makes it out to be.[/QUOTE]
A 'friendzone' is just a term, a name. It doesn't exist, people just recognize it's existence so firmly because it happens to so many people.
Fact to the matter, it's easy to make something general, a problem, "a zone" so you don't have to deal with it and call it a day. What this story proves is that if you want something real bad, you go for it and fuck the zones, fears.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38261455]A 'friendzone' is just a term, a name. It doesn't exist, people just recognize it's existence so firmly because it happens to so many people.
Fact to the matter, it's easy to make something general, a problem, "a zone" so you don't have to deal with it and call it a day. What this story proves is that if you want something real bad, you go for it and fuck the zones, fears.[/QUOTE]
Its also easy to ignore the potential existence of it because you don't like it.
Regardless of whether or not this concept exists, he got out of "it". He was stuck in a bad spot and he recovered and then some.
Bravo dude.
Potential existence of what? That's some bullshit cold reading.
Is there a zone where you mystically lose ability to charm women and start drooling like a honey dog? No, there's not. The "zone" is nothing but an unsuccessful attempt by someone to advance things sexually and get rejected for it. And get rejected badly i.e negging, neediness, constant pursuit and put all your cards on the table too soon.
The only legitimate use of the friendzone is when a person got hit hard and it's something you can't recover from over a period of a few days. Being friendzoned is used to describe a time when you should reset completely, let her go and sort of "repeat process" after you realize your mistakes and she forgets them. Or more... Blinded by your new found "self".
It's a calibration thing. That's it's only use, it's not a limitation and it shouldn't be a "recognized zone / force of nature".
Also, Yes, Bravo, life turned around mysteriously. It doesn't work like that and I hate the illusion created by that post. It's misleading and trust me, I am a complete optimist.
Personally I believe, in order to have a healthy relationship with someone, you should be friends first
[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;38262457]Personally I believe, in order to have a healthy relationship with someone, you should be friends first[/QUOTE]
Define 'Healthy'. If it worked for you personally, then go for it. It's not a given.
I mean it just seems that being friends before can usually make a stronger relationship. I mean its all variables, there's no rules.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38255721]Good work man, hopefully you and her will sort it out[/QUOTE]
I just found out I posted that on the wrong thread, it was suppose to be in the SFLAT.
Oh well, she gave the impression she doesn't want to work with me anymore though.
[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;38262605]I mean it just seems that being friends before can usually make a stronger relationship. I mean its all variables, there's no rules.[/QUOTE]
agree
i was 'bestfriends' with my current girlfriend for FOUR years before we started dating
firstly, there is no friendzone
secondly, i've never been closer to anyone in my life, so yes being friends beforehand is good
semi related, we had sex for the first time last friday, and now its a daily thing. my life.
You got paitence, son.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38265790]So my girlfriend is mad I don't want to spend Halloween with her.
I want to sit at home and rest. I am tired. I have had a busy school week and I am tired. She does not understand this.
She says we don't spend a lot of time together. Fair enough, we haven't had quality time in a few weeks. BUT every time I make plans "Oh, I'm spending the night at my friends house!" What the shit, how are we suppose to spend the weekend together if you make plans,? And then you complain we never spend time together? Yeeahh, okay.
also she threatens to breakup over every petty argument, such as the one above. She also gets mad when I talk to her about things she doesn't understand, but she, not once, has asked me to explain anything.
Facepunch, what the hell do I do?[/QUOTE]
Tell her to come over, god damnit!
Wear the pants, man. :v:
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38265790]
also she threatens to breakup over every petty argument[/QUOTE]
this is dumb/immature and you should probably break it off if this and other things mentioned are regular occurances.
Joking asside.
What the fuck. She's threatening to break-up... who in his right mind does such blackmail? Certainly not someone who likes and respects you.
So, she expects and pressures you to go with her regardless of your life and well being. Man, tell her to fuck off, really. She's suppose to be your gf, not your boss. And still, if she so much want's to be with you, she could come over instead. That's just like the type of person who wan't a boyfriend to carry around in social events.
If she wants to breakup, then do her the favor.
Really, next time she threatens to break-up, just say "fine".
You shouldn't go through that kind of stuff.
[QUOTE=Rediscover;38265348]firstly, there is no friendzone[/QUOTE]
Yeah I feel like the closest actual thing "friendzone" could come close to describing is "she has been friends with you long enough to know you are not someone she wants to date"
Well, if a girl tells you "no, we will never be more than friends" well, you're pretty much friendzoned, mate.
The only friendzone that does not exist it the kind of friendzone in which people put themselves in even before they actually try or do anything.
i mean, "friend zone" can just mean that they aren't into who you are as a person. of course there's always the chance they just didn't know you well enough and you gave them a weird first impression or something, but people really don't change that much. if someone doesn't like your personality, they probably aren't going to have some abrupt change of heart.
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[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;38262605]I mean it just seems that being friends before can usually make a stronger relationship. I mean its all variables, there's no rules.[/QUOTE]
in the long run i don't think it has much of an impact. you're just getting to know each other in two different ways. if you start getting to know each other when you start dating you'll probably reach the same level of familiarity with about the same amount of time.
So, since when was I the one with self control?
A couple days ago, I kicked it at my girlfriend's house for a couple hours. Her parents were out, so naturally, things turned hot pretty quickly, and we retreated to her room for comfort. So we do some things but I don't have a condom. Now, she's on her period, at which time, according to her, she gets really horny for extended periods of time. So she's pleading for me to just stick it in a little, but then saying no, then turning to pleading again.
I won't lie, it was a major turn-on, but I left without doing much else. I thought I was fighting against the stereotype of uncontrollable boy hormones. Needless to say, I'll be buying some rubbers pretty soon.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38268016]Well, if a girl tells you "no, we will never be more than friends" well, you're pretty much friendzoned, mate.
The only friendzone that does not exist it the kind of friendzone in which people put themselves in even before they actually try or do anything.[/QUOTE]
That just means she doesn't want to date you though.
When people use "friendzone" it's usually with the implication that the girl would otherwise be interested in dating them if she hadn't put them in the magical friend zone box in her head because they don't want to admit maybe the girl just isn't into them like that. If someone is seriously mad about being "friendzoned" it means that A. they don't respect her decision to say "no" to dating them and B. they don't value her friendship except as a path to dating her. It's pretty shitty.
[QUOTE=TH89;38269330]That just means she doesn't want to date you though.
When people use "friendzone" it's usually with the implication that the girl would otherwise be interested in dating them if she hadn't put them in the magical friend zone box in her head because they don't want to admit maybe the girl just isn't into them like that. If someone is seriously mad about being "friendzoned" it means that A. they don't respect her decision to say "no" to dating them and B. they don't value her friendship except as a path to dating her. It's pretty shitty.[/QUOTE]
this
getting tired of all the posts saying "never give up, you can make any girl want your dick, you just have to ~try harder~"
[editline]31st October 2012[/editline]
i don't think the issue is whether the "friend zone" exists so much as what "friend zone" actually means, and whether we should view it as an actual thing because of how it affects our outlook on dating
[QUOTE=TH89;38269330]That just means she doesn't want to date you though.
When people use "friendzone" it's usually with the implication that the girl would otherwise be interested in dating them if she hadn't put them in the magical friend zone box in her head because they don't want to admit maybe the girl just isn't into them like that. If someone is seriously mad about being "friendzoned" it means that A. they don't respect her decision to say "no" to dating them and B. they don't value her friendship except as a path to dating her. It's pretty shitty.[/QUOTE]
nailed it
i don't know why people get would mad about being 'friendzoned' anyways lol
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;38269564]i don't know why people get would mad about being 'friendzoned' anyways lol[/QUOTE]
because guys see girls as machines that if you input enough love and compassion they'll output sex etc etc
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;38269564]i don't know why people get would mad about being 'friendzoned' anyways lol[/QUOTE]
Initially after getting denied by whatever girl i was trying with, i'm rather angry/disappointed.
However, past that, unless I just [I]really[/I] fucked up the attempt, I at least got another friend out of it.
Yanich, you make it sound as if it's a bad thing.
Friend zone is just what happens when you're good friends with a girl and you fancy her but she isn't interested in that way.
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