Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

[QUOTE=BlazeFresh;38326123]literally just keep busy, you'll be stuck in a rut of overthinking if you don't. also I wrote on my blog about a girl, and my ex (who i broke up with 3 months ago) text me and was like 'its cute that you're moving on but do you might not putting it all over your blog?' Does that mean she's still not over it? I dunno i thought she would be by now aha[/QUOTE] She has no business saying this, why is she even on your blog then? Sounds like she failed to cope with the break up so far.

[QUOTE=Death King83;38324345]My girlfiend of 3 years and 10 months broke up with me just now, no hard feelings against her, but the sadness is of course overwhelming. She was my first love, and my first real girlfiend so this is pretty hard for me. To make things worse it hit me so hard and so sudden, I thought we were just in a "low spot" of our relationship that we have quickly recovered from in the past but she evidently thought it was worse than I did. In our last moments together which was less than an hour ago we both felt the most in love. We always said when we broke up we would continue to be friends, because she's my best friend, and I'm her best friend and I know everything there is to know about her. The hardest part is going to be realizing she has gone from girlfiend to just friend. I'm scared for the future. All our friends are mutual so that complicates even more things as they've started to "pick sides" when really there is no need. We both made the mistake of being in such a serious, long relationship at such young ages (18 now) and we effectively grew up together. To add to all this we've been trying to have sex for the last year or so now, and each time we "couldnt" too much pain on her end and I didn't want to hurt her too much. So now both of us are feeling down about that because we both feel we were "supposed" to lose it together. I'm still in the stages of not being able to handle any of this. This is going to be the most difficult next couple of weeks I've ever experienced I think. Not trying to make this my blog or ask for your sympathy, just trying to get things out ya know.[/QUOTE] I feel so bad for you. Break ups are never fun, but they get even worse when it's someone you really really love and has spent a lot of time with. You'll hopefully get over it, but it might take time. And if you two were truly meant to be, then there might come a new chance for you to be together in the future. Uuh, this made me think about how much it would suck to lose my partner.

I think my first breakup with my first girlfriend was the best thing I ever did in my life, there is no seed of doubt or regret. I dumbed that bitch, she was so stupid. You would presume that I am an arrogant and ignorant cunt. But she was simply stupid beyond beliefs. Well at least we did not fit together at all.

Okay. I don't know how to put this out there so first some background I guess. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years as of last September. I am 18 and she will be 18 as well in December. We basically were the first everything for each other. First kiss, lost our virginity to each other (that was a year and 3 months into the relationship), etc. I love her a lot, more than I can really describe. She is in agreement of course, and people have told us we are perfect for each other and that if anybody is likely to end up together past college and such it would be us. We both can also see this being the case. We used to see each other almost every day and never really tired of each other - we pretty much always have a good time together no matter what we are doing. I say we used to see each other almost every day because now due to work (we both got jobs at Starbucks), college apps and school, we don't have as much time together anymore. It is all very stressful and that might be part of what is affecting us. Because recently she broke down crying saying she felt horrible for feeling more distant from me. Haven't pinpointed an exact reason why, but I attribute it to the stress and us being unable to see each other as much. So that is one problem, as she also mentioned that she wonders if it is bad that we haven't really ever seen anyone else. That if not having that experience is bad. So she wonders if taking a break down the line would be a good idea, I suppose to see if we are compatible with other people although she says she doesn't see herself with anybody other than me. Regardless it scares the shit out of me, the possibility of losing her - and the thought of her being with someone else or doing things with someone else. I can't really, or don't want to imagine myself with someone else either. She just wants to be sure that I am the one I guess, and that would include a break and seeing other people so that she doesn't have to wonder. Keep in mind she feels horrible for thinking it, and the possibility of losing me also scares her. Like if one of us were to find someone while the other didn't, and then wanted to get back together, but yeah. or something. I don't know. I also think there is something special in that we are the only ones we have really ever dated if that makes sense. And maybe it is just me being selfish and clingy but it hurts to imagine anyone else being with her or anyone else doing anything to her, idk. I don't know. I guess it just comes down to me not wanting to be apart from her. I don't know how long this break would even be, and the prospect of her finding someone else scares the shit out of me. I don't want to lose her. And of course I have wondered it too, but never really dwelt on it because I feel happy with her. I don't feel a need to dwell on it and wonder I guess I apologize for all that but I didn't know how to organize it. Typed from my phone as my mind is turned into a mush by allergies. Please help me though.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38026102]i am a male and i am grossed out by male genitalia especially my own[/QUOTE] I'll second that.

[QUOTE=junker|154;38328503]I think my first breakup with my first girlfriend was the best thing I ever did in my life, there is no seed of doubt or regret. I dumbed that bitch, she was so stupid. You would presume that I am an arrogant and ignorant cunt. But she was simply stupid beyond beliefs. Well at least we did not fit together at all.[/QUOTE] THATS FUCKING BEAUTIFUL, TOO BAD NOBODY GIVES A FUCKING SHIT

[QUOTE=KEEL THE EEL;38330162]THATS FUCKING BEAUTIFUL, TOO BAD NOBODY GIVES A FUCKING SHIT[/QUOTE] SOMETHING TELLS ME THAT YOUR STAY ON FACEPUNCH.COM WON'T BE TOO LONG 'SPECIALLY CAUSE IT LOOKS LIKE YOU CAN'T READ A FUCKING THREAD TITLE.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;38330224]SOMETHING TELLS ME THAT YOUR STAY ON FACEPUNCH.COM WON'T BE TOO LONG 'SPECIALLY CAUSE IT LOOKS LIKE YOU CAN'T READ A FUCKING THREAD TITLE.[/QUOTE] Dude...chill on the capslock :v: :downs:

[QUOTE=KEEL THE EEL;38330162]THATS FUCKING BEAUTIFUL, TOO BAD NOBODY GIVES A FUCKING SHIT[/QUOTE] I bet you experience a lot of stress in your life.

So as it's getting closer to winter, the people in the groups I hang out with are all getting in relationships. Makes me happy for them, yeah, but also kind of sucks... In addition to that, the one guy we all know that is the least likely to get a girl...got a girl.

[QUOTE=azurelao;38341487]So as it's getting closer to winter, the people in the groups I hang out with are all getting in relationships. Makes me happy for them, yeah, but also kind of sucks... In addition to that, the one guy we all know that is the least likely to get a girl...got a girl.[/QUOTE] If it happens, it happens, don't stress about it.

I agree, take a chill pill. Your friends should not influence you in that way.

[QUOTE=azurelao;38341487]So as it's getting closer to winter, the people in the groups I hang out with are all getting in relationships. Makes me happy for them, yeah, but also kind of sucks... In addition to that, the one guy we all know that is the least likely to get a girl...got a girl.[/QUOTE] stop caring so much a relationship is not the be all end all of life

life is shit when you keep comparing what other people have instead of being happy with what you have. "if i get a girlfriend ill be happy" "if i get enough money ill be happy" all of that is bullshit. If you're not happy now then you'll never be magically happy.

So I got a problem I don't want a girlfriend but I still love my girlfriend and enjoy spending time with her, but I'd still prefer being single. I'd feel shit for leaving her, but eh, I'd just prefer being single, I don't want one.

[QUOTE=Pooplari;38343970]So I got a problem I don't want a girlfriend but I still love my girlfriend and enjoy spending time with her, but I'd still prefer being single. I'd feel shit for leaving her, but eh, I'd just prefer being single, I don't want one.[/QUOTE] Man I would I think about that carefully, being single is most appealing when you're with someone, you never have any time, you feel weighed down, there seems to be other girls interested in you, but you're probably taking the relationship for granted. By all means leave them if you're not happy, but you could be making a huge mistake.

So my girl and I have been kinda going through a rough patch lately so I thought it would be really nice to plan a day (This Friday) for a really nice dinner that we would prepare together and we could eat in front of a fire with some calm music playing and some wine. Does this sound as cheesy as I think it does?

Yes, but sometimes cheesy is good. I think it sounds like a great idea.

[QUOTE=Pooplari;38343970]So I got a problem I don't want a girlfriend but I still love my girlfriend and enjoy spending time with her, but I'd still prefer being single. I'd feel shit for leaving her, but eh, I'd just prefer being single, I don't want one.[/QUOTE] Then don't have one. Tell her your reasons, and maybe you guys can still keep the 'love' on with a casual relationship...

[QUOTE=Scotchair;38344517]Yes, but sometimes cheesy is good. I think it sounds like a great idea.[/QUOTE] Thanks. I came up with the idea, which stemmed from the other night, we happened to cook dinner together with music playing and I really enjoyed it and she seemed to as well. So I thought of essentially a similar idea, just more prepared and romantic. I got a dinner planned that Im sure she will love and I asked her about a romantic dinner together and she said she'd like that.

so my friend, the one who we finally got together the week before i left for college idk if you guys remember, but i see on her profile which i had to find because it wasnt posted that shes in a relationship with some other guy. which happened like 5 days ago i was in a state of shock in disbelief because we just got done talking literally all day (she had to goto work) and talked to her on sunday too. asked her how life was and the such and nothing out of the ordinary according to her. apparently fucking not. i dont want this to be long winded but i talked to some of her friends asking if its a joke or not because i knew they were good buddies and it was true. so i was fucking furious because 1.) we never had a clear ending it was just "i cant handle this distance" it was no "we should stop this" nothing was ever clarified and 2.) she never fucking told me. im not telling her to ask for my permission but again how we never had a definitive ending and her having a several chances to tell me and she never fucking did. of all fucking people, me. so i call her and i confront her. i have never been this pissed off at her and it basically goes like she thought she has done nothing wrong. she acted all condescending the whole time and said shit like "drew we ended it all remember?" no we fucking didnt. her reaction of acting like she was completely in the right was so unbelievable to me that i was in such disbelief that i didnt even say half the shit i wanted to. it really fucking shows how much i mattered to her. i told her that she could've at least told me and she thought it was no big deal and that she didnt have to. i just told her "wow have fun then bye" and hung up shes making me feel like im crazy one so i ask, am i? [editline]6th November 2012[/editline] im talking to her friends which are my friends too and they all are on my side and say that they think she doesnt know what she really wants and is just doing shit on a whim to be fair, i guess i was basically asking her to wait for me which isnt fair i guess but this is fucking ridiculous

[QUOTE=Pooplari;38343970]So I got a problem I don't want a girlfriend but I still love my girlfriend and enjoy spending time with her, but I'd still prefer being single. I'd feel shit for leaving her, but eh, I'd just prefer being single, I don't want one.[/QUOTE] Let me tell you something: if you love her like you say you do, you will regret it. I'm not talking about BEING IN love, naw, that's high-school hip-hooray bullshit. I'm talking about actually LOVING someone, I'm talking deeply rooted love that's carved into your being that you can feel. It's true, the forbidden fruit seems the tastiest, but once you come over that hill and notice the forbidden fruit tastes just the same as anything else ever has, and you no longer have that certain someone to catch you when you fall, it will rip you up inside. Taking things for granted is going to be your downfall if you don't think your shit through. Nothing is forever though and you will eventually come out of it, depending on the circumstances as well. But certain feelings never really go away and they'll remain within you. The problem isn't whether you'll find someone to love again, but rather why would you try to fix something that's not broken.

[QUOTE=Zareox7;38344378]So my girl and I have been kinda going through a rough patch lately so I thought it would be really nice to plan a day (This Friday) for a really nice dinner that we would prepare together and we could eat in front of a fire with some calm music playing and some wine. Does this sound as cheesy as I think it does?[/QUOTE] Cheesy, but wonderful. By the sound of it it's something you will enjoy together.

[QUOTE=Hana-San;38355076]Cheesy, but wonderful. By the sound of it it's something you will enjoy together.[/QUOTE] I planned the day to be just us. We've been having an issue of intimacy lately and I'm hoping that this might bring it back. We'll see.

Thought i would share a bit of success. At the age of 26, i went on my first date. I've had 4 girlfriends over the years since i was 15, but somehow, i never actually went on a date. Never went out to dinner or anything like that, just hung out with friends and then eventually started dating. But, he other day, I went out with this girl who i've worked with for a few years now. It was a really great night. Went to dinner, watched a movie, and then i took her home. All in all, it was a pretty good time.

[QUOTE=JohnStamosFan;38357696]Thought i would share a bit of success. At the age of 26, i went on my first date. I've had 4 girlfriends over the years since i was 15, but somehow, i never actually went on a date. Never went out to dinner or anything like that, just hung out with friends and then eventually started dating. But, he other day, I went out with this girl who i've worked with for a few years now. It was a really great night. Went to dinner, watched a movie, and then i took her home. All in all, it was a pretty good time.[/QUOTE] Yes, aaaand....

[QUOTE=JohnStamosFan;38357696]Thought i would share a bit of success. At the age of 26, i went on my first date. I've had 4 girlfriends over the years since i was 15, but somehow, i never actually went on a date. Never went out to dinner or anything like that, just hung out with friends and then eventually started dating. But, he other day, I went out with this girl who i've worked with for a few years now. It was a really great night. Went to dinner, watched a movie, and then i took her home. All in all, it was a pretty good time.[/QUOTE] And you gave her the dick, right?

Vaginal discharge smells fucking rancid.

[QUOTE=Zethiwag;38358923]Vaginal discharge smells fucking rancid.[/QUOTE] What a wonderful topic of conversation.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38359064]What a wonderful topic of conversation.[/QUOTE] Sorry. But can you say you've never sniffed your fingers after fingering a girl? Jesus christ, that stench is unholy.