i'm not emotionally mature enough to think about being married, and i can keep my penis in my pants and drink responsibly*.
(*on a good day)
I know holy shit what a predicament I'm in, it's aweful. I don't want to end it with her cause I am sure we can go far. We are interested in nearly all the same stuff and she makes me things when I ask for them, she even promised to make me bacon/coffee whenever I ask for it
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38401039]i've decided he's trolling
i can't live in a world where people get married one month into a relationship because they think someone's cute[/QUOTE]
I'm not trolling fs? I came here for help and now I'm trolling, alright.
Crappy 1000th post ftw
[quote]she even promised to make me bacon/coffee whenever I ask for it[/quote]
haha whatever mate it's your fucking life
either say no and accept the consequences, or get engaged and find out what a big mistake feels like
[QUOTE=thisispain;38401088]haha whatever mate it's your fucking life
either say no and accept the consequences, or get engaged and find out what a big mistake feels like[/QUOTE]
Is there no middle line? Can I not say something to stall it for a few years
Yeah okay, seems harsh though
stalling it is still a no, there's no way to make it not sound like a no
if she breaks up with you, then she does; the relationship would never have worked anyway
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38401108]you say: "bitch back the fuck off we've been dating for a month"
i didn't even make commitments like 4 months in the future when i was dating my gf for a month
[editline]11th November 2012[/editline]
ALSO i think we might've gone batshit too fast because i think you're a retard:
did she EXPLICITLY say she wants to get married now/soon[/QUOTE]
This is pretty much what she said "I know you don't believe in marriage but I want to know what you think about engagement? I saw this couple and (blah blah blah cute) so I was wondering what you think?"
being together for a month isn't even a relationship, it's just "hey i like you let's hang out and feel each other up a bit maybe"
would you ask the guy you get drunk with every week to sign an agreement to do this for the rest of his life no matter how much of a bitch you are to him
[QUOTE=thisispain;38401131]stalling it is still a no, there's no way to make it not sound like a no
if she breaks up with you, then she does; the relationship would never have worked anyway[/QUOTE]
Okay fine, I'll have to just make sure she knows it's a no
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38401140]being together for a month isn't even a relationship, it's just "hey i like you let's hang out and feel each other up a bit maybe"
would you ask the guy you get drunk with every week to sign an agreement to do this for the rest of his life no matter how much of a bitch you are to him[/QUOTE]
yeah good point
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38401146]i reread and apparently she just made a passing comment; a question for possibly the future. you say you have no interest in getting engaged now or in the near future and leave it at that
you are making a federal fucking issue out of NOTHING[/QUOTE]
If you were the one on the phone to her, listening to the way she said it you'd know she was pretty much asking me to stick a ring on her finger
"bitch don't kill my vibe" <- use that quote
Okay so it's been decided, I'll just tell her no and if she dumps me then fuck it. Thanks guys
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38401200]yeah gee, whoda thunk that not getting married one month in a relationship would be the wise thing to do???[/QUOTE]
I didn't know what to do, I am shit at decision making. The future doesn't phase me
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38401200]yeah gee, whoda thunk that not getting married one month in a relationship would be the wise thing to do???[/QUOTE]
good job ladies and gents we did it
a toast to all of our good work
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;38400622]I'd like to apologise about before as I know I annoyed you folk but I need some real advice in "real-time". I have been with this girl about a month and a week and she said she wants to know what my view is on getting engaged because she was out having a meal with some friends and there was this couple who were engaged who were soooo "cute" and she loves me a lot too. Now I am not entirely sure but I think she wants me to get engaged with her, I have butterflies in my stomach because of nerves and I don't want to upset her? I like her a lot but fuck, engagement is a big thing right? And a ring costs money... Halp[/QUOTE]
Okay so I haven't finished reading this conversation as it continue because there with a shitload of new comments but I'm going to just go back and respond to this.
She asked what you VIEW is on getting engaged. She did not say "lets get engaged" she asked you what you thought of it.
She is most likely looking for an answer more like "Getting engaged would be a nice show of commitment to the person you care about most" also " but I wouldn't commit to it too early in the relationship, since it means a lot" and then continue the conversation forward at a natural pace by showing interest "How long have your friends been together anyway?"
Jesus no need to flip your shit just because someone uttered the e-word in casual conversation.
edit:
Read the rest of the conversation and still state the above. Also she isn't asking you to get engaged, she wants you to prove you will at some point be willing to commit, that your not going to be perpetually stuck at the less secure boyfriend girlfriend stage forever.
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;38401073]I'm not trolling fs? I came here for help and now I'm trolling, alright.
Crappy 1000th post ftw[/QUOTE]
probably because you're being retarded
christ, just TELL her you think its too early to get married but you really like her and want to keep what you have, and let things develop to that stage later down the track
she's probably not even wanting to do it but is afraid to back down now she's said it
To be honest, josh, based on your past posts and such you probably don't want to get engaged anyway, especially since you seem unable to stop cheating on your current partner with anything vaguely feminine.
Holy shit, major deja vu in this thread. I feel like this exact same scenario has happened before.
It's odd the amount of people who seem to be pissed off when they break it off with someone and then that person doesn't care, or wanted to also. That should be a relief, you didn't have to hurt them and you can both go your way with no strings attached.
It's like somehow they want to hurt them, to punish them for some perceived wrong doing which ruined the relationship.
edit:
Obviously I mean in cases where they didn't cheat on you in which that is kinda fair to be angry about
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38402062]because someone has got to be the bad guy obviously; i think that's why some people start slandering their partner
i likeloved all of my gfs and i wouldn't even think about slandering any of them[/QUOTE]
Yeah it's a dick move, especially if they haven't done anything terrible.
[QUOTE=Zareox7;38400528]That bitch. Wasn't even surprised at all that I broke up with her. She was glad. Fucking caused me hell for a month. I'm feeling a mixture of sadness and hatred and I don't know which one is right. I gave her all that I could and put everything into our relationship and she gives up halfway through and chalks it up to "we're just not compatible with each other". Just be frank with me and tell me it's not working and end it if you feel that way. Instead of giving me hope that it might improve.
[editline]10th November 2012[/editline]
I feel so cheated and used. :frown:[/QUOTE]
I know the feel. I sometimes feel really bad when I break up with a girl and she is not sad at all.
You know, you put effort into the relationship and she doesn't even miss it? Feels bad.
Well I posted that when I was super angry. In retrospect, I know she's really upset about it too and didn't want to show me. I know she was glad because she knew it had to end because there wasn't a way it was gonna work. One of those lines "It's not you, it's me" would be certainly true in this part. It's her fault the relationship ended. Anyway, I got drunk last night and threw up a few times and today I'm feeling quite better emotionally. Although I'm having trouble fighting the urge to make out with something...
[editline]11th November 2012[/editline]
In stages of grief, I've now went through bargaining, sadness and anger. Don't think I've came to disbelief, but that might have came hand at hand with the bargaining. Still going through sadness though, unfortunately.
[editline]11th November 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38401963]i'm going to say it anyway: you sound incredibly entitled and quite frankly whiny also if you noticed she 'gave up' why didn't you end it sooner. she probably didn't want your feelings to be hurt or ego destroyed by her breaking up with you
[editline]11th November 2012[/editline]
also guys it's ok we solved josh's little hissyfit he won't get engaged[/QUOTE]
She was my first, so I was holding onto it. When I think about it now, I realize that I should have broken it off a long time ago, but during the relationship I just wouldn't consider it. I found it more worthwhile to try to work on it a little more. Maybe try something different and see if anything changes. That dinner I was planning as the last straw and I told myself if it didn't work out, I was ending it. Sometimes life sucks I guess.
Well Ive lurked on here for a long time and decided to post my own story, not sure if anyone can provide good advice for me but oh what the hell. Im 22 years old and have been on my own since i was 17, i had a troubled life with my parents who were drug addicts and abusive so i left lived with girlfriends and friends for a while pretty much homeless then my grandparents said i could live with them. I lived with them for about 2 years then I met my current girlfriend who at the time I thought I loved. after about 7 mouths of dating i moved in with her at her mothers because it was closer to my job, at the time i moved in she told me she wants to get her own place and all this stuff, now we are a year and 1/2 into the relationship and things have gone horribly wrong like most things in my life. She finally got a job after almost 2 years of not looking at all, I recently found out shes just waiting on her mom to get this job in florida to move there with her and mooch off her more. The house is a constant mess neither of them clean anything, she doesn't respect my stuff, drops controllers, eats all my food without buying any, smokes my weed with her friends, etc. At this point in my life i have no idea what to do, Im living with a girl i thought i knew but now i relieze i didn't at all, soon they will move to Florida and Ill be left with nothing my grandparents are divorced so i can't move back with them and my mother and stepfather are pieces of shit and id never move back in with them. Im considering selling all my things that ive worked hard to obtain in my life and just join the military, at this point im truly lost but i try my best to stay optimistic
Firstly, tell her to piss off is the first thing that should happen. Take control of your life.
What had happened to u is in the past and should stay there. Dont give up on everything just because its easier... Its so easy to say fuck it all and not have to deal with anything.... Joining the army will give u a reason to escape reality especially as its done out of whim and emotions....
In the end, its just escaping once u take responsibility and life by the balls, fuck the past and feeling sorry for yourself i promise u ull see clearly the path which is now obscured and vague. Emotions will be at peace, your thoughts clear and u will be able to focus at doing or finding what makes u happy.
I try not to feel sorry for myself but i am having a hard time finding a job to support myself on which is why I've been thinking about the Military so much lately, not as a way to escape quite literally just to survive and not be homeless, but i see your point and strive to take control of my life everyday.
So she's a fucking parasite.
Tell her to fuck off.
After that, I think you need a plan.
How easy for you is to get a job?
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38414379]So she's a fucking parasite.
Tell her to fuck off.
After that, I think you need a plan.
How easy for you is to get a job?[/QUOTE]
I have a job right now and have had tons of jobs and get new ones easyly I am a pretty skilled worker just have a hard time in my area getting a good job that i can live comfortably off of
seeing St. Vincent gives me butterflies
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