Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

i get butterflies when i read exciting scientific studies, or watch a particularly fascinating chemistry reaction/physics demonstration. i am the saddest man

That is some pretty rad guitar play, I like the touch it gives to the song.

So I've been on Facebook making conversations and talking to some fine ass broads and I'm feeling pretty good. I feel so empowered right now. And I'm really enjoying the attention because I wasn't receiving any in my previous relationship. I guess that's the feeling of "Hey you're single again". Plus, I'm not nervous about going into relationships anymore.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38415790]Does anyone still get those butterflies in your stomach? Because I don't. Sometimes I miss them, but nothing ever gives me butterflies anymore.[/QUOTE] Thats bad man....

I need some advice on my relationship. So six months ago I met this amazing girl and we hit it off basically instantly. We've been hanging out almost every day. We've gone to France together and it's been perfect. She's clearly expressed that she loves me and I love her so. Until about a week ago we never expereianed any major problems, until she suddenly proclaims that she feels a bit smothered and that we should take it easy and not see eachother for a few days. Fine, I say. However during that period I noticed that when texting and talokingo n the phone,, she was always very distant and didn't seem very in love at all. Not in the way that she used to feel in any case. So yesterday I asked her about it, and she agreed that it felt different and she didn't know why. She wanted to take a longer break to re-evaulate her feelings, and I had sort of a breakdown which i thoroughly regret now as it must have only worsened the scenario. We agreed to talk more today via phone after work/school. And I'm worried as fuck. I feel terrible. Less than a week ago she told me that I was the perfect boyfriend, her best friend and that she loved me. It just feels so unreal for me to lose her like this. What should I do/act? I've never felt so awful before.

In my opinion, you haven't lost her, she's just as she says she is. A bit smothered. You need to stop worrying about her and do your own thing. She'll come back to you. I did what you are doing and it didn't work out well for me. You need to understand that in order to get her closer, you must back off. Also, stop telling her you're worried about it too. Put on a smile and whenever you talk, tell her you're having a good time and blah blah blah. I learned something from my past relationship, life is all a bunch of mind games. [editline]12th November 2012[/editline] You actually sound very similar to my situation. We hung out way more than we should have, we were supposed to be the perfect coupe, and six months after we got together, we broke up. We broke up about two days ago and it sucks. But I'm glad it had to be like that because I was miserable in the last few months we were together. By saying I'm glad it was like that, I don't mean I didn't want to be with her. I still love her dearly, we knew each other for many years before we dated. But I needed the break. I needed to realize that she isn't the only woman in the world, and although I might not think there's anyone better, there's certainly some people that are more deserving of my time right now. My advice to you is to back off, give her space, and find something to do for the time being. Come to accept that it might be the end, and be prepared for it because you don't want to be balling your eyes out in front of her. That being said, it's equally as likely you guys won't break up. However, being prepared that it might end will also help you motivation to give her space as you won't be constantly thinking of her.

[QUOTE=Zareox7;38420842]In my opinion, you haven't lost her, she's just as she says she is. A bit smothered. You need to stop worrying about her and do your own thing. She'll come back to you. I did what you are doing and it didn't work out well for me. You need to understand that in order to get her closer, you must back off. Also, stop telling her you're worried about it too. Put on a smile and whenever you talk, tell her you're having a good time and blah blah blah. I learned something from my past relationship, life is all a bunch of mind games. [editline]12th November 2012[/editline] You actually sound very similar to my situation. We hung out way more than we should have, we were supposed to be the perfect coupe, and six months after we got together, we broke up. We broke up about two days ago and it sucks. But I'm glad it had to be like that because I was miserable in the last few months we were together. By saying I'm glad it was like that, I don't mean I didn't want to be with her. I still love her dearly, we knew each other for many years before we dated. But I needed the break. I needed to realize that she isn't the only woman in the world, and although I might not think there's anyone better, there's certainly some people that are more deserving of my time right now. My advice to you is to back off, give her space, and find something to do for the time being. Come to accept that it might be the end, and be prepared for it because you don't want to be balling your eyes out in front of her. That being said, it's equally as likely you guys won't break up. However, being prepared that it might end will also help you motivation to give her space as you won't be constantly thinking of her.[/QUOTE] Thank you friend! Yeah, I guess our situations are similar! I really hope it doesn't end the same way. It feels very unlikely that she just wants to end it as she's always been super in love before (or so it seemed). I'll just give her as much space as possible. I'm a bit afraid that I might have mucked it up yesterday on the phone already though. The problem is that, she's basically the only friend I have who has time to hang out at all nowadays. All my other friends have moved abroad or are out and about, studying and so on. She has loads of friends here since she's still in school, so that might also be a reason as to why she feels a bit smothered. It just seems so surreal. Her and I have just fit together so insanely perfectly. We we're planning on going to see the world next summer which is basically the only reason as to why I'm staying in this crummy town, working a boring ass job. To get money to spend on me and her. I realise also that I've put "all my eggs into one basket" way to quickly. Maybe I could use a break too. When she calls today I'm going to play it as cool as possible and act like I also want a break. I just, really really love her. I know that sounds silly since I'm only 19 and all but I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic, I know.

I think the key is to show you still have interest to her, but at the same time showing that you don't need her. It's almost embarrasing to say, but I'm almost certain I was friend-zoned during my relationship. At least that's what it felt like. Whenever we'd make a day to see a movie together, she'd want to invite other people. She never wanted to show affection or touch me really at all. And she made a point to say she enjoyed bro'ing out. It sucks but I'm coming to terms with it. It's okay, I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic too. I'd say the best advice I could give to help your situation right now, is to stop telling her that you're worrying. All it will do is put her on edge. She will likely feel too pressured by you which will likely cause her to feel guilty because the pressure makes her want to get away. You should listen to the song Hold On Loosely by .38 special. It's quite fitting for the relationship haha. Hold on loosely, but don't let go.

[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38418348]Thats bad man....[/QUOTE] why is everything so dramatic here "not getting butterflies" literally means nothing

nobody said he'll die, that's just my perspective of life... you don't have to have butterflies every waking moment, yet I think having an exciting life is fundamental..

dude I ate a butterfly and its still in my stomach. constant butterflies man.

I live in a pretty big city, but fate decided that the best friend of my ex-girlfriend should be my neighbour. Now my ex-girlfriend will be lurking around, which is very uncomfortable to me.

why is it uncomfortable

Because I cheated on her and said it to her face in a honest way. She hates me and told everyone some shit about me, some is true. But most of it is fairly exagerated.

Well, I can see why it would be a bit annoying to have her around, however, it's not something i think you should have a problem with, you made a decision and now you have to deal with it

[QUOTE=-=killazebra=-;38415805]I have a job right now and have had tons of jobs and get new ones easyly I am a pretty skilled worker just have a hard time in my area getting a good job that i can live comfortably off of[/QUOTE] I suggest you try having mutiple jobs then. Try looking for professional courses that usually are free to take. Just get away from that woman, she'll end you and you'll end up depending on someone who treats you like shit.

[QUOTE=Zareox7;38421807]I think the key is to show you still have interest to her, but at the same time showing that you don't need her. It's almost embarrasing to say, but I'm almost certain I was friend-zoned during my relationship. At least that's what it felt like. Whenever we'd make a day to see a movie together, she'd want to invite other people. She never wanted to show affection or touch me really at all. And she made a point to say she enjoyed bro'ing out. It sucks but I'm coming to terms with it. It's okay, I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic too. I'd say the best advice I could give to help your situation right now, is to stop telling her that you're worrying. All it will do is put her on edge. She will likely feel too pressured by you which will likely cause her to feel guilty because the pressure makes her want to get away. You should listen to the song Hold On Loosely by .38 special. It's quite fitting for the relationship haha. Hold on loosely, but don't let go.[/QUOTE] She called a while ago and we spoke about it some more. I basically said "yeah, I've been thinking about it since yesterday and I think I could probably really benefit from a break too, so I'm all for it". She seemed very gloomy. I tried to sound as calm and okay with it as possible. Her description of her own feelings was that she is basically neutral about everything at this point. She said that she still wanted to text and stuff, and that she wanted to meet up next weekend. I said that I might not be able to then because I have other plans (which was sort-of untrue) but we agreed to meet somewhere around next weekend or shortly thereafter. I think I handled the talk very well. Let's just hope she'll miss me enough. I wont text her but only respond to her texts mostly until then, just to give her as much space as possible and hopefully make her realise that she misses me a lot. Waiting sucks though

Tell me about it. These past few days I've been going from really highs to really lows. Right now I'm on a low. The waiting is the worst part of it all, it makes everything worse.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38424371]deal w/ it nerde[/QUOTE] I guess I have to :v: nothing to change about it.

thats what you get for cheating on her owned

Still worth it, I will never regret my move. I chose the right girl.

Excellent, just dont choose cheating if theres gonna be a next time, its the cowards way

I'll stay faithful to this one, she is the only thing that ever meant something to me.

[QUOTE=junker|154;38432089]Still worth it, I will never regret my move. I chose the right girl.[/QUOTE] See, why didn't you just break up with her before you cheated on her? You obviously weren't happy enough to only be with her, and you could have guessed how she would reacted to the news. Or not told her at all.

I was 650 km away from that girl and was messing around with my ex-girlfriend in my homecountry where I used to live. While we both were busy I used the time to contact my ex because I missed her so much. I had no time to break up with this girl that I was dating, so I cheated on her and told her one week later when she had time.

Anyone have any experience with Durex Play as opposed to other massage oils?

[QUOTE=junker|154;38434008]I was 650 km away from that girl and was messing around with my ex-girlfriend in my homecountry where I used to live. While we both were busy I used the time to contact my ex because I missed her so much. I had no time to break up with this girl that I was dating, so I cheated on her and told her one week later when she had time.[/QUOTE] Pretty lame excuse.

You cannot possibly know the full extend of that story and are unable to judge it by the few poorly written sentences that I wrote down.

[QUOTE=junker|154;38434146]You cannot possibly know the full extend of that story and are unable to judge it by the few poorly written sentences that I wrote down.[/QUOTE] Perhaps you should have explained it better if you were going to try and justify it then?

[QUOTE=junker|154;38434146]You cannot possibly know the full extend of that story and are unable to judge it by the few poorly written sentences that I wrote down.[/QUOTE] Pretty lame excuse for a lame excuse Yeah great start to your relationship by really hurting another girl dude I bet you two will go far!!