[QUOTE=junker|154;38434008]I was 650 km away from that girl and was messing around with my ex-girlfriend in my homecountry where I used to live. While we both were busy I used the time to contact my ex because I missed her so much. I had no time to break up with this girl that I was dating, so I cheated on her and told her one week later when she had time.[/QUOTE]
It only takes a quick phone call/email/text.
Lame excuse is a lame excuse.
everybody here is so happy to just point that out, "lame excuse" ...... since when does facepunch even notice when people are petting their own heads subtly that way or another?
except a few people, you guys hardly even punish the thousand of innocent posters that come by , yet whens someone admits cheating and is having a hard time explicitly saying he shouldn't have done it and probably had the time the whole crowd turns their head at the bull and starts pissing on him when now [i]it is completely unnecessary[/i]?
what the fuck?
[QUOTE=junker|154;38434008]I was 650 km away from that girl and was messing around with my ex-girlfriend in my homecountry where I used to live. While we both were busy I used the time to contact my ex because I missed her so much. I had no time to break up with this girl that I was dating, so I cheated on her and told her one week later when she had time.[/QUOTE]
Bull. Shit.
"I'll be back in 5 minutes, gotta make a call"
"blah blah not working it's me not you la de da"
[QUOTE=Flapadar_;38435167]Bull. Shit.
"I'll be back in 5 minutes, gotta make a call"
"blah blah not working it's me not you la de da"[/QUOTE]
keep going .... it's not like he was told that his behaviour wasn't top notch at the time.....
My cheated on my girlfriend with whom I was 3 or 4 months together, it was neat but it felt more like something superficial. We had a great time together but it felt like we were like friends, only sleeping together. She was from Italy, I study near the border of Italy. But during all that time I felt his pain inside of me and I missed my ex-girlfriend. We have been together for 3 years before I departed for my studies. Everything went kind of awry because we both made mistakes, she was a bitch and I an ignorant bastard. Anyway all that time here made me realize how much I acutally love this girl. I got a crazy call on one of my first dates where the mother of my ex-girlfriend begged me to help here, my ex-girlfriend attempted to kill herself, she was found halfdead in the snow somewhere in Germany. She was delivered in a psychatric hospital where I called her. This made me realize how much I think of her, even while being together with this other girl.
Well during the summer holidays I went home, one particular way I just drove to her place because I felt like it. Suprisingly she was really friendly and quite happy about it, I thought that she would hate me for various reasons. We had some insane fights and such. We proceeded to spent the day together, confessing all kinds of things and being totally honest to each other. It was fairly great to be with her again, we talked about every issue that we had. Anyway a bit later we both kissed. It was fairly surprising but it felt right. When I am with this girl, I feel this intense feeling inside of me, which will never happen with any girl.
The shit thing is that I had to break up with my girlfriend and I did it really badly, I told her everything in an honest way. I tried to remain calm and not rude at all, but I felt like our relationship was already damaged because we had some major differences of what we wanted from eachother. I got chaotic and I already got enough sermons from family and friends. But I just acted on my feelings, nothing more.
My ex-girlfriend told me later on that she had a boyfriend to, but she did not want to tell me because it would scare me off. So in conclusion, we both broke up with your partners only to be together. There is more detail and background to the story, but it is simply to long.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38437833]My cheated on my girlfriend with whom I was 3 or 4 months together, it was neat but it felt more like something superficial. We had a great time together but it felt like we were like friends, only sleeping together. She was from Italy, I study near the border of Italy. But during all that time I felt his pain inside of me and I missed my ex-girlfriend. We have been together for 3 years before I departed for my studies. Everything went kind of awry because we both made mistakes, she was a bitch and I an ignorant bastard. Anyway all that time here made me realize how much I acutally love this girl. I got a crazy call on one of my first dates where the mother of my ex-girlfriend begged me to help here, my ex-girlfriend attempted to kill herself, she was found halfdead in the snow somewhere in Germany. She was delivered in a psychatric hospital where I called her. This made me realize how much I think of her, even while being together with this other girl.
Well during the summer holidays I went home, one particular way I just drove to her place because I felt like it. Suprisingly she was really friendly and quite happy about it, I thought that she would hate me for various reasons. We had some insane fights and such. We proceeded to spent the day together, confessing all kinds of things and being totally honest to each other. It was fairly great to be with her again, we talked about every issue that we had. Anyway a bit later we both kissed. It was fairly surprising but it felt right. When I am with this girl, I feel this intense feeling inside of me, which will never happen with any girl.
The shit thing is that I had to break up with my girlfriend and I did it really badly, I told her everything in an honest way. I tried to remain calm and not rude at all, but I felt like our relationship was already damaged because we had some major differences of what we wanted from eachother. I got chaotic and I already got enough sermons from family and friends. But I just acted on my feelings, nothing more.
My ex-girlfriend told me later on that she had a boyfriend to, but she did not want to tell me because it would scare me off. So in conclusion, we both broke up with your partners only to be together. There is more detail and background to the story, but it is simply to long.[/QUOTE]
I feel like I should feel like you're an asshole for cheating but I don't
[QUOTE=junker|154;38437833]Storytime[/QUOTE]
We got time, this is the internet.
How do I get over performance anxiety?
keep performing
[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38442481]How do I get over performance anxiety?[/QUOTE]
You just keep trying and eventually you'll get calmer with experience
i legit pissed my pants the first time i performed music
i was a little child and i was performing an excerpt of fur elise
i'm the opposite. i'm incredibly shy when it comes to talking to people but i can do presentations in front of classes really easily. if all my grades were based on presentations i'd have straight a's...
doesn't apply to piano though, i always panic when i play for anyone, no matter how many people are there. if i'm practicing by myself i can do everything perfect but even if i'm playing in front of someone i'm friends with i worry about messing up and play badly.
I hate the suspense building up to it. It takes a lucky moment of clarity and a sudden "fuck it lets rock" and then suddenly I'm up there going for it.
Was supposed to make a quick presentation in school once, something about slavery. Our group literally did [I]no[/I] planning, winged the [I]whole thing.[/I] We were the only group to leave with applause and a teacher asked if I had ever considered acting. I was so scared that they would see through our bullshit, but our bullshit just fit together so well... it was unbelievable.
heh
in middle school woodshop for our last project we had to design a video game. my group came up with x-treme ping-pong and it was my job to do an animation with this program called pivot. when we were presenting our projects i initially thought i had done really bad on mine even though i had spent hours working on it, and then i realized how much better it was than everyone else's in the class. our teacher ended up making some comment about how our entire group was incredibly gifted because all of us did the best on our parts of the project
i miss that class... i did the best out of everyone on every project and got an a on an assignment i was absent for because of how good my technical drawings were
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38444814]heh
in middle school woodshop for our last project we had to design a video game. my group came up with x-treme ping-pong and it was my job to do an animation with this program called pivot. when we were presenting our projects i initially thought i had done really bad on mine even though i had spent hours working on it, and then i realized how much better it was than everyone else's in the class. our teacher ended up making some comment about how our entire group was incredibly gifted because all of us did the best on our parts of the project
i miss that class... i did the best out of everyone on every project and got an a on an assignment i was absent for because of how good my technical drawings were[/QUOTE]
I remember doing pivot animations!
But I swear this is story of my whole school career. Constantly felt I was making shit, all my work was shit, and I half ass'd most of it after a while cause there was no point in me really trying and dissliking my results just as much, or more.
Yet it was somehow always massively better than everyone elses crap and I never understood it.
I still don't.
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And it sounds like I have a superiority complex or something so I never mention it to anyone cause I dont it was just true...
I just discovered that my ex just "came to terms with her sexuality" and is now has a thing with some girl.
I really don't know how I feel.
I used to piss myself in public speaking. I can remember doing speeches in primary school to be school prefect when I was 12, I got up and just said the most embarrassing things. Told teh whole school I would make the work HARDER, because it was so easy it made me cry. I meant to say easier, but I breathed out after the word work and the breath became an H and the H became the word harder and the rest is history
Also one time I stopped playing halfway through a guitar performance without even realising I had done so. Such a bad performance. Funnily enough, after all that traumatising shit (it was pretty awful) I had no problem with public speaking or performances ever again. In fact, i got REALLY good at them. I guess there is a way of being so bad you become good
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38444869]she discovered she's either bisexual or a lesbian
congratulations this shouldn't change anything[/QUOTE]
It should when this contributed to the real reasoning as to why she broke up with you.
i came to terms with my sexuality after i broke up with my ex
i realized i am, indeed, heterosexual and it was just him i wasn't sexually attracted to
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anyway she's still your ex. it doesn't make a difference
i'm older than you wienies and i'm still coming to terms with my sexuality
i don't even know if i wanna be a dude anymore i'm that confused
but it's an ongoing cycle
wow check your cisprivileges
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38434300]Pretty lame excuse for a lame excuse
Yeah great start to your relationship by really hurting another girl dude I bet you two will go far!![/QUOTE]
Yeah, that'll be great for her knowing you never fuck around on the side. :downs:
it doesn't really work like that.
i'm gonna be honest (and i really don't care what you guys think of this) but i cheated on my ex once. i was good friends with another guy from high school, we're still friends actually, and for a while we liked each other a lot. when we hung out together i'd sometimes sit on his lap or something and eventually we kissed and both of us realized we weren't sexually attracted to each other. and a few months later he found out he was gay and i realized that part of it was just that my relationship had been INCREDIBLY sexually lacking, my ex was really bad at that sort of stuff and didn't care about my needs at all. the guy i cheated with was always incredibly respectful toward me and just made me feel like my opinion mattered.
i never felt guilty about it, i know it's something that people consider morally wrong because it's betraying your partner's trust but i couldn't even fathom feeling bad about it because trust wasn't even a factor in the relationship i was in. furthermore i didn't feel like my ex's "girlfriend", i just felt like another guy he hung out with. i felt like he treated me exactly like his vulgar stoner friends he played video games with except he'd occasionally feel me up and then bitch about it if i wasn't in the mood for something.
ever since i met my current boyfriend i've never felt sexually attracted in the slightest to anyone else. i can't even comprehend being in a relationship with another person. my current bf and i both spent a while dating other people and trying to meet someone else so we wouldn't have to deal with a ldr and we both realized we weren't remotely interested in other people because nobody else compares. it's cheesy as hell but yeah.
lmao no one should think less of you for kissing another dude while you were in a bad relationship
i don't think i'd call that cheating but that's just my judgement idk
cue USSR's rants about adultery.
yeah, i guess what i'm trying to say is that it's not always as cut and dry as people make it sound. it's not like cheating on your partner automatically makes you part of some exclusive group of manipulative sociopaths. the whole "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing is bull because there are usually reasons behind it.
[editline]14th November 2012[/editline]
and even if it's not cheating in your book, if i hadn't given the explanation and just said "i made out with another guy while i was in a three-year relationship" most people would just assume i'm "that type of person" and it's something i'll do again in every future relationship
I agree, cheating was never an option for me nor did it appeal to me. But because of circumstances that were quite surprising me I actually did it. Things can change so fast.
yeah exactly, it sounds like your situation was the same as mine. if anything i was worse about it because i stayed with the guy for months after that happened and he never found out i had cheated.
yeah it might have been better to have ballsed up (in honour of your username) and tell the truth, but honestly in many cases bad relationships can't be summed up in simplistic bad person v. good person scenarios no matter how much some on the internet portray it that way.
tbh i wasn't really with him because i wanted to be. i guess it's hard to explain without sounding really manipulative but i didn't have any real-life friends at the time and until last winter (a bit before i broke up with him) i didn't even have my driver's license so there was no way for me to interact with other people. i couldn't break up with him because he didn't want to be just friends and i found out after discussing this with him that our relationship meant nothing to him without sex. so for a year or so i just tolerated the stuff i didn't like just so i had someone i could spend time with. i considered him a sort-of friend (after all that's how he treated me) but nothing more.
[editline]14th November 2012[/editline]
you know what's funny? a few months before we broke up he had found some chat logs with my current bf on my comp and started insulting me when we argued for being dumb enough to fall for some guy i met over the internet. they weren't even incriminating, he just got jealous that i had saved 20 different steam convos with this guy and didn't hold onto a single conversation i had with him. my current bf was the only person i ever saved chatlogs with. and then a few weeks after we broke up for good he messaged me on steam saying that he would be traveling for 6 months (read: 20 years old and not attending college) and asking if i would wait for him.
we're allowed to make mistakes, good for you that you found the one and let people learn to take responsibility for their actions...
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