I found many girls with the same musical taste as I.
It didn't get me anywhere with them.
Don't go there Nowhere Man.
[QUOTE=loopoo;38508179]Hey buddy, sorry for this late reply, but this post made me feel for you real bad, so I had to help. I've underlined key points in your post which - at least to me - indicate she isn't interested in you and that she is an utter bitch. I've replied in the quote to make it easier for you. She's a bitch, stay away from her.
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
It means everything, man. She's going out of her way to be a bitch. I've seen girls do it loads of times in highschool, and they'd be doing the same shit: spreading rumours and talking about a person they don't like behind their back. Basically shitty highschool drama that ends with some poor sap being the butt of a tonne of abuse for no particular reason.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=greendevil;38508532]She either A). is awkward and trying to make herself feel cool by being a bitch to you when she doesn't know how to express herself or B). (way less likely) she's awkward and likes you but doesn't know how to show it.
To find out which, just talk to her.[/QUOTE]
Hmm, now I really don't know what to think as people seem to have conflicting opinions about her, guess I'll just wait a little bit and see how it goes.
Right now I'm more leaning towards the 'complete and utter bitch' side though, that's the impression I'm getting anyway.
There's no other explanation for it. I mean, people don't laugh out of the blue when they walk past someone for no reason other than to make them feel uncomfortable. She's a bitch, man. I'd just steer clear of her if I were you. I've seen guys who get toyed with and it's pretty shitty to witness.
Actually I've had a girl and her friend do this to me before too, her friend was a classmate of mine who I'm on pretty good terms with so it definitely wasn't ill-intended. She did show other signs of attraction too but none of that shit matters because I didn't find her attractive at all.
Fairly sure this chick was doing it to get my attention though, not sure what the one I am currently dealing with is trying to do.
I guess it depends entirely on the laugh. If it's cutesy and giggly, I suppose that means she likes you. But if it's mocking? Yeah.
I've had the giggly cutesy one happen to me before (studying in Ireland with a British accent has it's perks). I guess you're the best judge of it. But the staring, as well as the talking about you behind your back, I dunno, that's the vibe I got from it.
holy shit sherlock holmes , hold your horses. this is what you're looking for; it doesn't matter.
either you go for it or you don't, that's like contemplating on eating a candy on a contest prep, as if that whole candy is gonna make the difference between winning and losing. Well, it doesn't, so stop warping your heads around it
What do you mean "either you go for it or you don't". This isn't a situation he can just barrel through. If he does just barrel through it, he'll be digging himself a hole and it'll just be awkward as fuck.
Also, [I]what the fuck are you even saying[/I]
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
You're always using really obscure analogies.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38511955]holy shit sherlock holmes , hold your horses. this is what you're looking for; it doesn't matter.
either you go for it or you don't, that's like contemplating on eating a candy on a contest prep, as if that whole candy is gonna make the difference between winning and losing. Well, it doesn't, so stop warping your heads around it[/QUOTE]
wait contest prep.??
oh fuck you're Seith I didn't even realize until now, remember ya back from the time I still used to be dedicated to the entire weightlifting thing
So I think my girlfriend must be on her period or something or something is very, very wrong...
The past couple days I've been getting nothing but one word answers and even grunts as answers and a lot of the time stuff I'll say gets taken completely the wrong way...
I've tried giving her space, she refuses to talk about it and everything else I have tried has done nothing except seemingly piss her off more.
I'm scared. :(
I told her I love her and all I got as a reply was "thank you."
Fuck.
[QUOTE=kman866;38507012]Maybe I'm just paranoid. I dunno.
His ex has done some really shitty things though. She left a note on derpina's (look I can't think of a better name got dommit) saying he taught her everything he knows, which is pretty low. She also messaged her some nasty stuff before, so if anything, wouldn't SHE be in trouble?[/QUOTE]
Holy shit what, the ex was pissed off? Unheard of!
Dude what, all I see is some general dickery and bad choices, I don't see how [I]ANY[/I] of this would be illegal. Nobody's in trouble, but the girl could probably get a bit of hate for the herpes. Stop giving a fuck, cause your problem is gone unless you got herpes yourself.
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=orcywoo6;38513431]So I think my girlfriend must be on her period or something or something is very, very wrong...
The past couple days I've been getting nothing but one word answers and even grunts as answers and a lot of the time stuff I'll say gets taken completely the wrong way...
I've tried giving her space, she refuses to talk about it and everything else I have tried has done nothing except seemingly piss her off more.
I'm scared. :(
I told her I love her and all I got as a reply was "thank you."
Fuck.[/QUOTE]
How much space did you give her? 15 min, or a couple of days off?
[QUOTE=CAPSMAN!;38513456]Holy shit what, the ex was pissed off? Unheard of!
Dude what, all I see is some general dickery and bad choices, I don't see how [I]ANY[/I] of this would be illegal. Nobody's in trouble, but the girl could probably get a bit of hate for the herpes. Stop giving a fuck, cause your problem is gone unless you got herpes yourself.
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
How much space did you give her? 15 min, or a couple of days off?[/QUOTE]
I gave her a good few hours, most of the day but she insisted on calling me.
She just came around and literally said:
"just to let you know
I love you
But you need to trust me
And I feel like you don't"
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
Ah, well its just come out...her brother was in a car accident... :(
[QUOTE=loopoo;38512003]What do you mean "either you go for it or you don't". This isn't a situation he can just barrel through. If he does just barrel through it, he'll be digging himself a hole and it'll just be awkward as fuck.
Also, [I]what the fuck are you even saying[/I]
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
You're always using really obscure analogies.[/QUOTE]
He said he likes her. This is what he has to do. There's always a way out, if awkwardness is what's stopping you prepare for some major shit storms if you can't handle such basic shit when interacting with people.
you know that feeling when you realize you enjoy cuddling with a specific person than having sex with them
i love that feeling
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38513699]He said he likes her. This is what he has to do. There's always a way out, if awkwardness is what's stopping you prepare for some major shit storms if you can't handle such basic shit when interacting with people.[/QUOTE]
Yes, because he likes her, and because she's made it blatantly obvious that she doesn't like him (and is even stooping so low as to try and be a bitch to him), it's clear that he has to soldier on despite all the odds stacked against him, because robo-seith will be damned if he doesn't overcome it with his sheer mindpower and incredible self-control and skill over his own thoughts and emotions. Because there's a way through everything if you have enough willpower, right seith?
Oh wait, I forgot: this is the real world, and the real world is a bitch some times.
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
And just because you like someone, it doesn't mean you force yourself on them. If they aren't reciprocating, just back off, else you come across as some creepy, socially-inept idiot.
Nobody can be mean to you or insult you. Stop being a victim, it's your goddamn fault if you feel like a little shit because she decided to whisper a few words or give you "the look".
Robo-Seith is looking at the facts, which are; he likes her, so he should go for it regardless of what he thinks she thinks about him. Would it be a waste of time? Possibly, however, he said so himself he likes her, so instead of supporting made up interpertations of the truth, I will suggest going and talk to her.
If "awkwardness" and "creepy" and all the terms are your only reason, then you know it's nothing but bullshit. These are not reliable reasons, it's nothing but emotions. "She might not like me" , "she told me to piss off" it's in the same realm of "if it's too hard then don't bother trying, it will feel horrible to fail"
I agree however, the real world is a bitch and even though you know that, you continue to act like you should curl up and cry. You can't control people's thoughts, so I rather be a person that goes after what he wants than make assumptions and hopes the world drops golden apples at his door.
What the hell is up with you. I'd love to see you in your day-to-day life. Do you even socialize with other people? You're like one of those dudes who base their entire life on weird sim games. "If I try hard enough, I can get the girl. I'll just level up my "mind-over-matter" skill and I'll be good to go".
No. Just no. If she doesn't like you, trying hard isn't going to work. She [I]doesn't [/I]like you. Just move on and find someone who reciprocates your feelings.
We're not even talking "she might like me". It's a simple "she doesn't like me at all, and is - in actual fact - going out of her way to be a bitch to me. I'm better off distancing myself from such a despicable person".
What is wrong with you? Again, I'd love to witness a day in the life of Seith. I'm sure it'd be hilariously opposite to everything you preach.
You might just have a psychological disorder. The more you post, the more I realize it's not too far-fetched a thought. Stop reading bullshit self-help books and books titled "How To Be An Alpha Male", they don't work in the real world.
"Nobody can be mean to you or insult you" 2012 best comment all years every years.
I actually pity you - which is a shame, seeing as you can't interpret or register human emotion at all.
"I don't feel your pity because I am in control of my mind and there is no such thing as pity"
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38507375]You're not being shortsighted. You're just experience the first hand pain that most teenagers go through after they say goodbye to their great love.
They say it's about 17 and 18 years old when you meet your big love, in your case it was earlier so its not far from the truth, and you, my friend, were able to be in a relationship for 4.5 years through yoru teenage years.
Now that's amazing! and yeah, you really marked her, she won't forget 4.5 years that easy. Even if she's with another guy - a thought to unbearable to even imagine, I know, I too went through it - it will never be the same as the relationship she had with you.
Not to get your hopes up but, there's a great chance she'll be with this new guy for a short time and she will probably look for you again. She will miss you.
I once had a love like that and it was terrible to handle the break up.
Man, I know that you're going through hell right now. Nights without sleep, emptiness, food tastes like nothing, you probably feel like doing some crazy shit like running to wherever she is and tell her you love her.
Right now, the only advice I can give it is to try to get a hold on yourself.
She won't contact you so soon so don't even stare at your cell phone, your messenger, or whatever you guys used for communicating. In fact, as much as you want to call or text her, get that idea off of your head while you're still a wreck. Anything you would do if you text her, is to terrorize her with a gigantic wall of text and make things worse.
1st - Take some time to yourself. Cry and scream all you need to and let it all out.
2nd - You need to get back on the road and don't let yourself go.
It's time for you to get used to the single life, either you like it or not. It takes courage, to leave it all behind and move on but it's a really ballsy move you have to pull out on your own. In the end after you get over her, you'll learn about yourself, you'll change and you'll grow up inside. You'll start seeing that there's life beyond a relationship and you can handle it on your own.
You're young, just 4 years younger than me, and I met my great teenage love exactly at your age, but be sure that others will come in their time.
Just take it easy. Now it's the time to take care of yourself, go out there, have fun, enjoy some quality time with your friends without constantly talking about your ex (unless you really need to vent). And go try to have fun. Get a hobby too or a sport.
It will be tough at first but with time, keeping active will help you feel better and will make it way easier to deal with what you're going through.
Good luck, man. It's not the end of the world! :yarr:[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38507206]Mate, don't get with someone - it's a feeling that passes quite quickly once you leave from a long distance relationship, you just want to fill up the gap with something, regardless of who or what it is. Take my word for it though, you'd only be trying to replace what you've lost and it'll never work.
Use the time to be alone. Take stock, make some new friends, spend some more time alone without having any obligations. You'll learn a lot about yourself by doing that. You don't need to be with someone to be happy, and getting with someone is only going to make you less happy min the long run in your situation. To be honest, you should really only start looking once you're 100% sure you're over it, and okay. Otherwise it's unfair to you, your ex, and the new girl who's been fooled into thinking you're not just trying to run away.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=junker|154;38507146]That sounds like a hell of a story, especially that you got together with 12/13. Such a serious relationship is really a big deal in that young age. Especially when you grew into all that, you have to get used to being single. It sounds harsh but there is not much that you can do, you should also try to be solo for some time. Rushing in something might hurt you even more in the end.
You are 17, you have time. Do not try to find a girl immediatly, it will only hurt. As I said, try to be alone for a while. The experience and all that will come with time. At 17 I was pretty much an idiot when it came to relationships. It got better over time as I met more people and girls, now I still make mistakes, but it gets better.[/QUOTE]
Thank you guys so much. It helps a bit.
In the meanwhile I have been thinking to myself why I am afraid to stop loving her.
I think part of it stems from jealousy. I don't want anyone else getting her super-sweet birthday and christmas cards. At the same time I'm going to miss them. How do I deal with thoughts of her being with someone else? It's killing me.
VU, I know it seems impossible right now, but with time, it'll get easier. Sure, you might always harbour feelings of love for her, but I assure you, the tumultuous emotions you feel when you think of her being with someone else will die down.
This is a fresh feeling for me, as I broke up with my ex in June. At the time, I never thought I'd get over it. I was gloomy, majorly upset, pretty lethargic. But now, a few months after it, I'm totally cool. I'm not moping about anymore, or checking my emails constantly to see if she's replied to me, or looking over old photos and cards. Now, the thought of her being with someone else is pretty normal, the same feeling I'd have of thinking of another girl being with someone else. It's not an issue. Sure, I still love her, I probably always will, but I'm not hopelessly in love anymore. If I don't get a reply from her, it doesn't bother me nearly as much as it used to, I'm not hanging on to her every word.
Feels good. I hope it comes quick for you, being heartbroken isn't a nice feeling. All the best man, and I know exactly how it'll feel right now, despite this advice you doubt it'll work, but trust me, time heals all wounds.
You sound exactly like me, makes me feel really comforted that I know others have gone through this too. I'll hang on then.
[QUOTE=VU;38514506]You sound exactly like me, makes me feel really comforted that I know others have gone through this too. I'll hang on then.[/QUOTE]
It gets worse before it gets better, buddy. You'll have real shit days, but just keep getting through it and you'll eventually be okay.
[QUOTE=VU;38514311]Thank you guys so much. It helps a bit.
In the meanwhile I have been thinking to myself why I am afraid to stop loving her.
I think part of it stems from jealousy. I don't want anyone else getting her super-sweet birthday and christmas cards. At the same time I'm going to miss them. How do I deal with thoughts of her being with someone else? It's killing me.[/QUOTE]
You learn to accept it. There's no other way. Your goal is to respect her choices and learn acceptance.
You'll learn to accept that and be ok with it over time. Right now there's nothing you can do.
Just stop thinking about it really. It'll turn out in a huge paranoia.
But if it makes you feel any better. I don't believe the other guy will be able to top 4 years of relationship.
I mean, most relationships that come right off another are pretty much doomed to fail.
So there's someone I've been thinking about for the past few months. And by thinking about, I mean I can't get her out of my head. My heart is just dying to be with her. I don't know if this sounds creepy, but I was at an intersection for like ten minutes because an ambulance skipped the cycle or whatever, and I look up and see her drive by the intersection. I could tell it was her car, but she passed by too fast for me to see her. I try to get every opportunity to meet her and talk to her and I feel like I just missed an opportunity. Now I'm really really pissed off and I feel like my day has been ruined.
[QUOTE=orcywoo6;38513579]I gave her a good few hours, most of the day but she insisted on calling me.
She just came around and literally said:
"just to let you know
I love you
But you need to trust me
And I feel like you don't"
[editline]19th November 2012[/editline]
Ah, well its just come out...her brother was in a car accident... :([/QUOTE]
Oh man, that's rough. Is it a serious accident? And were they close? You gotta be there for her, accidents like that are always rough.
I was at a funeral today, extended family, never been to one before. It was nice, they were celebrating her life rather than over-mourning her death. It was still horribly sad though.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38516417]just popped in to say my title is causing people from fp to hit on me thnx disseminate[/QUOTE]
I'm sure I could convince you babe ;)
[QUOTE=loopoo;38514216]What the hell is up with you. I'd love to see you in your day-to-day life. Do you even socialize with other people? You're like one of those dudes who base their entire life on weird sim games. "If I try hard enough, I can get the girl. I'll just level up my "mind-over-matter" skill and I'll be good to go".
No. Just no. If she doesn't like you, trying hard isn't going to work. She [I]doesn't [/I]like you. Just move on and find someone who reciprocates your feelings.
We're not even talking "she might like me". It's a simple "she doesn't like me at all, and is - in actual fact - going out of her way to be a bitch to me. I'm better off distancing myself from such a despicable person".
What is wrong with you? Again, I'd love to witness a day in the life of Seith. I'm sure it'd be hilariously opposite to everything you preach.
You might just have a psychological disorder. The more you post, the more I realize it's not too far-fetched a thought. Stop reading bullshit self-help books and books titled "How To Be An Alpha Male", they don't work in the real world.
"Nobody can be mean to you or insult you" 2012 best comment all years every years.
I actually pity you - which is a shame, seeing as you can't interpret or register human emotion at all.
"I don't feel your pity because I am in control of my mind and there is no such thing as pity"[/QUOTE]
Why should I address your comment when you hardly addressed the points in mine? Your comment barely has any information besides pathetic slandering.
You give no facts, you produce bullshit emotions and it shows perfectly by your inability to even stay on topic. You may think whatever you want, however, I really don't like people who talk as if somethings are true and some are not and that's it. Just because you can't apply "self-help books" into your life doesn't mean they're shit, it just means you can't control your emotions (evidently).
How about you produce an actual reason as to why he shouldn't besides "awkwardness"? Can you supply a definite, factual, information to be able to state so dogmatically what is right and what is wrong? Please do so, as right now you're dogmatically showing you're inability to control your emotions so much that you need to feel sorry for a person you don't know. as if it has any relevance or bearing in real life ....
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38517469]Why should I address your comment when you hardly addressed the points in mine? Your comment barely has any information besides pathetic slandering.
You give no facts, you produce bullshit emotions and it shows perfectly by your inability to even stay on topic. You may think whatever you want, however, I really don't like people who talk as if somethings are true and some are not and that's it. Just because you can't apply "self-help books" into your life doesn't mean they're shit, it just means you can't control your emotions (evidently).
How about you produce an actual reason as to why he shouldn't besides "awkwardness"? Can you supply a definite, factual, information to be able to state so dogmatically what is right and what is wrong? Please do so, as right now you're dogmatically showing you're inability to control your emotions so much that you need to feel sorry for a person you don't know. as if it has any relevance or bearing in real life ....[/QUOTE]
Hi. Hi.
If I may interject:
Stop posting.
Thankya.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38517469]Why should I address your comment when you hardly addressed the points in mine? Your comment barely has any information besides pathetic slandering.
You give no facts, you produce bullshit emotions and it shows perfectly by your inability to even stay on topic. You may think whatever you want, however, I really don't like people who talk as if somethings are true and some are not and that's it. Just because you can't apply "self-help books" into your life doesn't mean they're shit, it just means you can't control your emotions (evidently).
How about you produce an actual reason as to why he shouldn't besides "awkwardness"? Can you supply a definite, factual, information to be able to state so dogmatically what is right and what is wrong? Please do so, as right now you're dogmatically showing you're inability to control your emotions so much that you need to feel sorry for a person you don't know. as if it has any relevance or bearing in real life ....[/QUOTE]
I feel like the robot joke is getting old but at the same time never stops being applicable
in all honesty I doubt anyone really takes you very seriously anymore, considering you seem to privilege proving other people wrong over proving yourself right
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38515853]Oh man, that's rough. Is it a serious accident? And were they close? You gotta be there for her, accidents like that are always rough.
I was at a funeral today, extended family, never been to one before. It was nice, they were celebrating her life rather than over-mourning her death. It was still horribly sad though.[/QUOTE]
It doesn't seem to be anything bad, he didn't even go to the hospital. I guess its just a shock and the fact his car is pretty wrecked now. They weren't really close, they don't like each other much at all.
I don't think that's the full picture but I'm just doing what I can providing support.
I could use some counseling right now :/
[QUOTE=Abrown516;38521918]I could use some counseling right now :/[/QUOTE]
I'll be up for another hour or so if you would like to PM me. Or you could try the love advice thread, there is a steam chat someone may be in, and there is a list of members you can pm any time for advice :) someone else may be online
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