[QUOTE=killerteacup;38520062]I feel like the robot joke is getting old but at the same time never stops being applicable
in all honesty I doubt anyone really takes you very seriously anymore, considering you seem to privilege proving other people wrong over proving yourself right[/QUOTE]
In all honesty, I appreciate your opinion, however the problem lays within your very comment; "proving wrong or right" ... there are no wrongs or right, I am looking at the facts in that specific context. He said he likes her, this is what he should do, so whatever I think he should do is irrelevant ....
Diversified input and opinions are rather interesting, I like Seiths comments, even if they sound unusual at times.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38517776]look seith; this girl doesn't like him sure he likes her but she doesn't like him back so let's look at this logically:
people don't change opinions unless you do a butt ton of work to do it; trying to get with her is fruitless and a waste of energy if you know there's other girls that are compatible with him who he probably could like if he would stop his silly crush; i mean people are in full control of their own emotions right? So, he should try to pursue someone else who he finds to his standards and who might like him back
no point rolling a boulder up a mountain if there's an enormous chance it'll just roll off again if you can instead carry a pebble up a hill (did i do the weird analogy right)[/QUOTE]
How do you know she doesn't like him? Have you read her mind? In the end it's either he gains a bit of confidence doing something a bit hard, maybe even the girl or not doing shit, thinking whether he may or may not have gotten her and running in place. That is the fact, the cold-truth, and not an emotions based - "i feel, will feel, am feeling awkward/shit/moronic" which obviously don't mean anything besides a very reliable set of excuses .
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38523121]In all honesty, I appreciate your opinion, however the problem lays within your very comment; "proving wrong or right" ... there are no wrongs or right, I am looking at the facts in that specific context. He said he likes her, this is what he should do, so whatever I think he should do is irrelevant ....[/QUOTE]
so you come into an advice thread to impress upon us the sheer futility of giving advice in the first place or am I interpreting this wrongly
Don't get me wrong though often your points of view are very different but still valid which is nice
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38523173]How do you know she doesn't like him? Have you read her mind? In the end it's either he gains a bit of confidence doing something a bit hard, maybe even the girl or not doing shit, thinking whether he may or may not have gotten her and running in place. That is the fact, the cold-truth, and not an emotions based - "i feel, will feel, am feeling awkward/shit/moronic" which obviously don't mean anything besides a very reliable set of excuses .[/QUOTE]
Go back and read his comments. You've completely misunderstood this whole situation. She was giving clear signs that she doesn't like him. My advice is to move on and find someone worthwhile, rather than wasting time and resource trying to win a girl over who - to put it simply - isn't interested in him in the slightest.
It's not a matter of "you never know until you try". Her signs have made it pretty obvious that if he tries, he's just going to be making more shitty HS drama for himself, which will end up with him feeling worse off. And girls in HS have a talent for fucking you over, making going to school a living nightmare.
No. If a person asks for my experience on the matter aka "advice" then yes it's the right path to go at. In his case, not only was he not asking for advice specifically, you guys actually turned completely from the facts and shared (although again unneeded) your life's experience. i.e loopoo who immediately stated the situation as such and such and that he shouldn't proceed with it although the facts are not completely known besides the girl doing a few gestures ...
Although, you were right to say "futility of giving advice" because that is something I also think is wrong in it's essence; people have different life experiences, good and bad, about the same things. Clearly, for example, me and loopo, have made it through similar things and yet I reply with a different course of action than him. In it's essence, giving advice is futile, because it's completely dogmatic and has no room for other opinions (which may be why I am getting so many dumbs...). Call it whatever, I am not giving advice rather sharing my experiences and as you know experiences differ, so, if I think someone and dumb, and give him a reason and that's being a "dick" then yes advice is even more so prominently moronic.
[editline]20th November 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=loopoo;38523392]Go back and read his comments. You've completely misunderstood this whole situation. She was giving clear signs that she doesn't like him. My advice is to move on and find someone worthwhile, rather than wasting time and resource trying to win a girl over who - to put it simply - isn't interested in him in the slightest.
It's not a matter of "you never know until you try". Her signs have made it pretty obvious that if he tries, he's just going to be making more shitty HS drama for himself, which will end up with him feeling worse off. And girls in HS have a talent for fucking you over, making going to school a living nightmare.[/QUOTE]
You know what I am going to respond pretty well I suppose, so no point in repeating it. In short, my experiences are that I have gotten a huge amount of weird gestures, signs, facial expressions and even been walked away from, and yet, I am happily familiar with those girls intimately. Point is you can't clearly see what's on her mind and in combination with my beliefs aka no one can humiliate you besides you, the better way is to go at it imo. It's not like he shat his pants, I doubt she'll make such a big deal and it actually sounds like irrational fears than experiences. Maybe, with the right approach and mind state, he can become even more popular. We'll wait and see what works for him, your point is very solid. Up to him to decide which path he likes better.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38523397]No. If a person asks for my experience on the matter aka "advice" then yes it's the right path to go at. In his case, not only was he not asking for advice specifically, you guys actually turned completely from the facts and shared (although again unneeded) your life's experience. i.e loopoo who immediately stated the situation as such and such and that he shouldn't proceed with it although the facts are not completely known besides the girl doing a few gestures ...
Although, you were right to say "futility of giving advice" because that is something I also think is wrong in it's essence; people have different life experiences, good and bad, about the same things. Clearly, for example, me and loopo, have made it through similar things and yet I reply with a different course of action than him. In it's essence, giving advice is futile, because it's completely dogmatic and has no room for other opinions (which may be why I am getting so many dumbs...). Call it whatever, I am not giving advice rather sharing my experiences and as you know experiences differ, so, if I think someone and dumb, and give him a reason and that's being a "dick" then yes advice is even more so prominently moronic.[/QUOTE]
Look, Seith, I have nothing against you. It's just sometimes the stuff you say is moronic. And you have a bad habit of phrasing your paragraphs in such a way that it's like trying to decipher a code. That's probably where all the problems lie, you're not getting your points across clearly.
But back to the point at hand, from his original comment:
[QUOTE]Hey guys, I've never been to this thread before but here goes:
So there's this girl who I've been really into for a few months now, she's very shy and I don't think she's ever had a boyfriend (we're both in HS). I started talking to her a little while ago and it appeared to me that she's started losing interest in me, which became more apparent when I found out she was talking about me behind her back about how she wants to stop talking to me (something like that anyway).
So a month or so ago we stopped talking and I guess I just kind of started ignoring her in general, thinking I'll just move on and find someone else. Now she's for some reason trying her hardest to get my attention back.
eg. Fakely laughing as I pass by, talking louder when I'm around, staring at me etc...
It's becoming very hard to ignore her and I obviously still like her so I don't know what she wants and what I'm supposed to do now.
Thanks in advance.[/QUOTE]
It just seems to me she's a huge waste of time. I've been friends with the type of girl I think he's talking about. They toy around with other's feelings, laughing at nothing to unnerve you or make you feel uncomfortable, staring at you, talking loudly when you're near, trying to drown you out. I wouldn't have thought all this if it wasn't the fact he mentioned she was saying behind his back to people how she wish he'd stop talking to her. You read the "How To Be An Alpha Male" self-help books, well this is like the female equivalent. She isn't worth the time and effort, and NotMeh seems like a decent guy, I don't want him ending up hurting and being mocked because of your misinterpretation of his situation, even though your advice was given earnestly.
At the end of the day, NotMeh knows the situation most clearly. For all we know, she could be flirting. But, based on him saying he doesn't know what she wants, I thought I'd take the opportunity to give my own advice, because - from an outsider's point of view - it seems as if she's just an asshole.
Who got dumped today?
[sp]This guy[/sp]
I'm gonna butt out
[QUOTE=404 error;38524328]Who got dumped today?
[sp]This guy[/sp][/QUOTE]
This one too, rather unexpectedly.
Really... really rather unexpectedly.
The gist of it came down to the long distance just making it bad, we both still have strong feelings for each other, and we agreed that we might still get back together someday when it's more viable, and of course we're staying best friends.
One of the best bits is also one of the most painful, the realisation that this barely changes anything. We stop calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, we no longer say we love each other, and we don't necessarily tell each other everything, that was one of the main things, we were living separate lives, held back by the framework of our relationship.
Overall, I'm still not sure how I'm feeling. I don't feel bad, but I'm constantly on the edge of tears. I think it hasn't really hit me yet. Her birthday is in 8 days.
After the last 2 years and everything we've pushed through, to get this almost of of the blue really knocked me off balance.
Fuck.
How far away are you from her? And how often do you get to see her? That really sucks man. Two years you've put into that relationship, so many obstacles overcome, and in the end it amounts to this. I feel for you, buddy. Same thing sorta happened with me.
Hopefully you guys end up back together.
I'm 17 (almost 18), and today will signify three months of me being in a relationship with my current girlfriend. Many of you will call me young still, which I probably am strictly speaking, but in all fairness over the past few years I have experienced my fair share of shit when it comes to being messed around with girls. Now I've finally found a girl who cares about me, actually loves me for who I am, and we're both making each other extremely happy. Before I met her I was almost about to give up looking for girls (I know most of you will say that is stupid because of how young I am), but I want to say to anyone who is feeling crap/lonely, that there is someone out there for you. Even I found that hard to believe when I was on my own living with just my Mum.
Random post, but yeah
[QUOTE=YWNJack;38525595]I'm 17 (almost 18), and today will signify three months of me being in a relationship with my current girlfriend. Many of you will call me young still, which I probably am strictly speaking, but in all fairness over the past few years I have experienced my fair share of shit when it comes to being messed around with girls. Now I've finally found a girl who cares about me, actually loves me for who I am, and we're both making each other extremely happy. Before I met her I was almost about to give up looking for girls (I know most of you will say that is stupid because of how young I am), but I want to say to anyone who is feeling crap/lonely, that there is someone out there for you. Even I found that hard to believe when I was on my own living with just my Mum.
Random post, but yeah[/QUOTE]
I was basically in the same state when I was 18, suddenly understanding where I had been going wrong with girls. Best years of my life.
It actually took me a few more years to meet a really special girl, but it was some time around 18 when I opened my eyes and realised that I didn't have to be a female-repelling loner.
I made a huge mistake in the past, seeing a relationship and love as self-evidently, I did not appreciate my relationships that much until I got one girl where I did the same thing. But once we broke up and lost touch I realized that this girl meant so much to me. Although I did not appreciate it to the fullest, there was a huge gap that I never felt before. A piece that is missing, a part of me.
Anyway we got back together after much trouble, now I fully understand what love means. I will never try to fuck this up again, this girl means the world to me.
Realizations like that make you feel good.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38526278]I made a huge mistake in the past, seeing a relationship and love as self-evidently, I did not appreciate my relationships that much until I got one girl where I did the same thing. But once we broke up and lost touch I realized that this girl meant so much to me. Although I did not appreciate it to the fullest, there was a huge gap that I never felt before. A piece that is missing, a part of me.
Anyway we got back together after much trouble, now I fully understand what love means. I will never try to fuck this up again, this girl means the world to me.
Realizations like that make you feel good.[/QUOTE]
You're a lucky guy. Take it from somebody who didn't get a second chance.
Don't let go
That second chance was something I fought for, it was rather a chaotic mess but worth in the end. We both had our fair share of problems and issues.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38522390]I'll be up for another hour or so if you would like to PM me. Or you could try the love advice thread, there is a steam chat someone may be in, and there is a list of members you can pm any time for advice :) someone else may be online[/QUOTE]
Whoops, I totally fell asleep moments after posting that.
[QUOTE=Abrown516;38526522]Whoops, I totally fell asleep moments after posting that.[/QUOTE]
I can help out a bit, if you want. PM or post in the thread.
So my bud hooks me up with a date for a military ball next month.
[img_thumb]http://filesmelt.com/dl/Untitled954.jpg[/img_thumb]
What do? Should I establish contact beforehand of this ball?
Bring sunglasses
This is my paranoia speaking, but I'm just going to give you a heads up: if anyone was remotely bothered, they could use that picture to find out who she is. Something about the numbers in the Facebook URL they can use to track back to either your account or hers.
Just saying it, since I saw this horrifying picture of some 4channers who basically fucked up some guys social life cause he did what you just did.
[QUOTE=loopoo;38529368]This is my paranoia speaking, but I'm just going to give you a heads up: if anyone was remotely bothered, they could use that picture to find out who she is. Something about the numbers in the Facebook URL they can use to track back to either your account or hers.
Just saying it, since I saw this horrifying picture of some 4channers who basically fucked up some guys social life cause he did what you just did.[/QUOTE]
The metadata is stripped.
[QUOTE=Legend286;38529546]The metadata is stripped.[/QUOTE]
I think he edited it. It wasn't before.
[QUOTE=loopoo;38525542]How far away are you from her? And how often do you get to see her? That really sucks man. Two years you've put into that relationship, so many obstacles overcome, and in the end it amounts to this. I feel for you, buddy. Same thing sorta happened with me.
Hopefully you guys end up back together.[/QUOTE]
I'm in the UK, she's Washington State, so an ocean and a continent away.
We get to see each other for 2-3 months each summer, which is great, and I have the time of my life, but the 9 month gap it leaves, I can understand why she did what she did. Still blew my heart out with a .44 called [i]inconvenience[/i] loaded with love.
It's worth noting when I get at all depressed I get all poetic, except I'm really bad at it :V:
-snip-
[QUOTE=loopoo;38529368]This is my paranoia speaking, but I'm just going to give you a heads up: if anyone was remotely bothered, they could use that picture to find out who she is. Something about the numbers in the Facebook URL they can use to track back to either your account or hers.
Just saying it, since I saw this horrifying picture of some 4channers who basically fucked up some guys social life cause he did what you just did.[/QUOTE]
Not true, facebook doesn't embed the uploader's profile ID in their image URLs anymore. They stopped doing this several months to a year ago once they realized how fucking stupid it was.
A girl I know just texted me out of the blue saying she's going to pierce her nipples. :v:
[QUOTE=mblunk;38531587]Not true, facebook doesn't embed the uploader's profile ID in their image URLs anymore. They stopped doing this several months to a year ago once they realized how fucking stupid it was.[/QUOTE]
Oh right, that's awesome, I had no idea.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38531594]A girl I know just texted me out of the blue saying she's going to pierce her nipples. :v:[/QUOTE]
Play it off that you must see them first to see if they are worthy of a piercing. :v:
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