[QUOTE=404 error;38258947] [B]​(October 28th)[/B]Recently got in contact with a girl I grew up with a few months ago. Started being friends again after I think 3 years of not seeing each other. So about a month ago she told me she liked me and I really liked her, I asked her out but she just wanted to be friends...FRIENDZONED....About 2 weeks ago I was at her place chilling with her and she asked if I wanted "Friends With Benefits" and obviously I agreed. That brings us to last week, She text's me saying she still has feelings for me and wants to get together to talk. Now I have an amazing girlfriend and couldn't be happier!
Just wanted to share my little story of how I escaped the Friendzone and gained something amazing.[/QUOTE]
[B](November 20th)[/B] We broke up and agreed that our friendship is stronger then what our relationship was, We're still very good friends and we like it that way.
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mindless renting about friendzones and shit that nobody cares about anyway.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38534064]Honestly "Are you over me yet" is the most stupid question that one could ask. I do not see the point in that at all, she sounds like a bitch asking that, no offense though.[/QUOTE]
I remember my ex-boyfriend asking me this constantly like a few months after we broke up. He also kept asking if I've found a new boyfriend and if I missed him..really personal stuff that made me feel uncomfortable and mad.
Also hi y'all, just decided to pop in here as I saw the word ''sex'' int the title..yeh.
[QUOTE=HarveySpecter;38540637]piss off, jew boy
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Just kinda throwing this out here
I asked out some girl thats into theater, and music, and stuff. She's really eccentric too(not in a weird way). and another thing is that Im from a more normal-esque, athletic, social group so its a neat little worlds colliding thing we got going on.
Hell, I thought she was a lesbian at first because she hangs out with a bunch of gay dudes and theater babes and she has boyishly short hair. I find short hair quite attractive.
This girl is GREAT. I had some lame-ass chemistry to study for and she came up with the great idea of us going to to my college's auditoreum and she played some piano while I studied. Thats some soothing shit right there. She also introduced me to the idea of Waltzing and all that fancy dancing shit on a saturday night and it was so much better than going to the party my roommates were having at our place where my ex-gf was at who I'm still a teeny bit bitter at but I guess its cool.
She also does not straight up give a fuck. She said to me one day "ay yo lets go to the auditoreum and chill cause that place is the shit" and we did and you know where she sits? Right on the comfy fucking floor. So I say to her "hey um y-you know there are ch-chairs in here right?" and she says back to me "thats a social norm and besides the floor is more comfortable, come sit with me dawg". (She doesnt talk like that)
She also loves nature. We went to this trail up on a mountain and let me tell you about the view at the top of that little mountain. I could see about half of the Shenandoah Valley up on that bitch. I even heard a faclon screech which sounded like something out of a movie. Then we went off the trail for a ways to these places where it would be tottaly wicked to kick back and drink a few brews and enjoy the view.
She's coming over tomorrow to spend some time with me [I]alone[/I] because I have the apartment to myself and im soooooo glad I get to see her. I just love her cute little fun-loving personality.
I hope it goes well.
she sounds crazy
bloody well done
[QUOTE=thisispain;38560404]she sounds crazy
bloody well done[/QUOTE]
She's not crazy. She has normal parents, friends, and ambitions. Her personality is just...different I guess.
My girlfriend and I broke up Tuesday. Essentially I'm too independent and she's to dependent. Not only does she need me to be there for her, which I was okay at, but she needed me to need her to be there for me, and I've never really needed someone to lean on. When we were living in the same city, it wasn't an issue. When we live four hours apart, it destroyed our relationship. 2 years, 5 and a half months, no longer.
It's so weird though. We care so much about each other, we love each other so much... but we were mature enough to realize that, since I'm in the Army, I'm going to be gone for at least 9 months at a time for deployments every five-ish years or so, we could never make it work. I planned on proposing to her if we made it through college... good thing I didn't just propose out of basic training like half of my buddies.
We just held each other for that last hour. Sat next to each other, hand in hand. Neither of us wanted it. I left her house wishing her well, and that she may find a man who could provide for her what I never would be able to.
Dammit, this sucks. Well thanks for letting me vent. Facepunch has always been there heh.
[editline]23rd November 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;38560396]Just kinda throwing this out here
I asked out some girl thats into theater, and music, and stuff. She's really eccentric too(not in a weird way). and another thing is that Im from a more normal-esque, athletic, social group so its a neat little worlds colliding thing we got going on.
Hell, I thought she was a lesbian at first because she hangs out with a bunch of gay dudes and theater babes and she has boyishly short hair. I find short hair quite attractive.
This girl is GREAT. I had some lame-ass chemistry to study for and she came up with the great idea of us going to to my college's auditoreum and she played some piano while I studied. Thats some soothing shit right there. She also introduced me to the idea of Waltzing and all that fancy dancing shit on a saturday night and it was so much better than going to the party my roommates were having at our place where my ex-gf was at who I'm still a teeny bit bitter at but I guess its cool.
She also does not straight up give a fuck. She said to me one day "ay yo lets go to the auditoreum and chill cause that place is the shit" and we did and you know where she sits? Right on the comfy fucking floor. So I say to her "hey um y-you know there are ch-chairs in here right?" and she says back to me "thats a social norm and besides the floor is more comfortable, come sit with me dawg". (She doesnt talk like that)
She also loves nature. We went to this trail up on a mountain and let me tell you about the view at the top of that little mountain. I could see about half of the Shenandoah Valley up on that bitch. I even heard a faclon screech which sounded like something out of a movie. Then we went off the trail for a ways to these places where it would be tottaly wicked to kick back and drink a few brews and enjoy the view.
She's coming over tomorrow to spend some time with me [I]alone[/I] because I have the apartment to myself and im soooooo glad I get to see her. I just love her cute little fun-loving personality.
I hope it goes well.[/QUOTE]
She sounds pretty cool. Good luck bro.
[QUOTE=WastedJamacan;38560453]Wall of text [/quote]
Sorry to hear that buddy distance is always really hard on relationships things will turn around for you soon
[QUOTE=Swearblocked;38560488]Sorry to hear that buddy distance is always really hard on relationships things will turn around for you soon[/QUOTE]
Thanks man. I hope so.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;38560431]She's not crazy. She has normal parents, friends, and ambitions. Her personality is just...different I guess.[/QUOTE]
"I don't sit on chairs because they're a social norm" - sounds pretty crazy to me. In my experience the people who "don't like being pidgeonholed into a type" and intentionally "don't conform to social norms" are arrogant and bloody difficult to get on with.
[QUOTE=metallics;38561032]"I don't sit on chairs because they're a social norm" - sounds pretty crazy to me. In my experience the people who "don't like being pidgeonholed into a type" and intentionally "don't conform to social norms" are arrogant and bloody difficult to get on with.[/QUOTE]
Did you consider she meant it as a joke? I say stuff like that a fair bit as a joke cause people tend to call me weird and such.
Sounded like she just wanted to sit on the floor for whatever reason and as a joke justified it with the social norm bit
[editline]23rd November 2012[/editline]
of course we weren't there, we can't know for sure
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38561070]Did you consider she meant it as a joke? I say stuff like that a fair bit as a joke cause people tend to call me weird and such.[/QUOTE]
I did consider both, it's a running joke in my department when you fuck up to make such a comment. I think the main issue is I don't know what he means by auditoreum, but it makes me think of theater and if you sit on the floor surely you miss everything that's going on?
Guise, all my housemates are goings home this weekend meaning me and my girlfriend have the house to ourselves, which is rare.
However I have work all weekend and it's night shifts. How bad would it be to phone in and give them an excuse as to why I can't come in? I've been genuinely ill the past few months and if I'm off again with sickness then I'll have an attendance review but if I'm off due to bereavement or personal reasons then it doesnt effect my attendance.
I've got no living grandparents (and at work they don't know that). How repugnant would it be for me to say that one of them has passed?
I wouldn't normally consider doing such a thing but it's so rare for us to have peace and quiet with just each other all evening and when we are alone at the weekend i work anyway. What would you guys do? Guide me.
I don't think there was anything going on in the auditorium, they just went there to chill out. That's how I interpreted it, at least.
[QUOTE=thisispain;38560404]she sounds crazy
bloody well done[/QUOTE]
She sounds completely sane. Nothing stands out that could make her insane. If she starts telling him shit like how she was beat as a kid or she thinks her parents don't care for her or that she's bolemic then yeah, she's probably fucking crazy
well i didn't say she was mentally ill.
[QUOTE=metallics;38561032]"I don't sit on chairs because they're a social norm" - sounds pretty crazy to me. In my experience the people who "don't like being pidgeonholed into a type" and intentionally "don't conform to social norms" are arrogant and bloody difficult to get on with.[/QUOTE]
Auditorium floors are pretty comfy. They're lecture halls (I think?). But yeah, the seats are crazy comfy, but the floor can be too.
I don't know, she doesn't seem crazy. It seems like she cracked a joke. My buddies and I have sat on the floor at times, since it's just more chill and more intimate in a way, seeing as we can all sit in a circle and chat, rather than in a line which ends up having us uncomfortably turn to keep a conversation.
Sitting on the floor is also great for playing cards.
Fuck.
My ex and I are seeing each other again, but as she puts it, 'not exclusively'. We both say we want to get back together, and the time we spend together is awesome, but I know she likes some fag hole she works with as well.
Tonight I got absolutely blind and went home with some girl. She wanted me really bad, left the room and came back naked, jumped on me and started touching me.
I teased her for a bit but I never did, or intended to do, anything. The fact that I was the first guy to ever say "no" to her really sent her wild. In the end I just said, "I'm not going to fuck you" and walked out the door.
But I still feel guilty as fuck. I know we're not 'exclusive' and I know she's chasing some other nerd for some reason, and I didn't actually DO anything. But god damn, do I feel guilty. I really want it to work out with my ex but I'm fucking frustrated and confused. I just didn't want to do anything that could ruin our chances of being together again... Even though I did nothing, I feel if she finds out she'll be really mad at me somehow (though I also feel that if she hooked up with someone, if I got mad I'd be the "bad guy").
What do I do :(
[QUOTE=Jebus;38564208]Fuck.
My ex and I are seeing each other again, but as she puts it, 'not exclusively'. We both say we want to get back together, and the time we spend together is awesome, but I know she likes some fag hole she works with as well.
Tonight I got absolutely blind and went home with some girl. She wanted me really bad, left the room and came back naked, jumped on me and started touching me.
I teased her for a bit but I never did, or intended to do, anything. The fact that I was the first guy to ever say "no" to her really sent her wild. In the end I just said, "I'm not going to fuck you" and walked out the door.
But I still feel guilty as fuck. I know we're not 'exclusive' and I know she's chasing some other nerd for some reason, and I didn't actually DO anything. But god damn, do I feel guilty. I really want it to work out with my ex but I'm fucking frustrated and confused. I just didn't want to do anything that could ruin our chances of being together again... Even though I did nothing, I feel if she finds out she'll be really mad at me somehow (though I also feel that if she hooked up with someone, if I got mad I'd be the "bad guy").
What do I do :([/QUOTE]
If she's fucking other guys why should you worry about screwing other women?
I know a girl that collected dead spiders in plastic bags where weed should usually be.
[QUOTE=Sergeant STFU;38564306]If she's fucking other guys why should you worry about screwing other women?[/QUOTE]
She isn't though, but I do know she 'likes' this other retard for some unfathomable reason.
I think she would if she had the chance, but she hasn't.
And I feel bad because I want to fix everything - and if I screwed around that would ruin the chances.
I kind of get the feeling I'm a sort of 'back-up', does that seem like the case here?
It seems like she's using you to get herself off until she gets with the guy she really wants to. So yes, back-up, sorta. She's gonna end it as soon as she gets in the pants of this other guy, methinks.
Fuckin' shit.
[QUOTE=Jebus;38564366]She isn't though, but I do know she 'likes' this other retard for some unfathomable reason.
I think she would if she had the chance, but she hasn't.
And I feel bad because I want to fix everything - and if I screwed around that would ruin the chances.
I kind of get the feeling I'm a sort of 'back-up', does that seem like the case here?[/QUOTE]
You are, don't let her screw you around like that. It might not seem like it, but there are plenty more women out there. Do you really want to be with one who is happy to drop you at the first instance for some other guy? Don't do anything wild, just drop seeing her. Go out with your friends, grab a few beers(if you can) move on with an open mind.
[QUOTE=WastedJamacan;38564432]It seems like she's using you to get herself off until she gets with the guy she really wants to. So yes, back-up, sorta. She's gonna end it as soon as she gets in the pants of this other guy, methinks.[/QUOTE]
He didn't mention that him and his ex were still sleeping together, though. So I don't see how she's using him to get herself off.
Other than that, I'd have to agree. Being backup is bullshit. Just leave her, because like WastedJamacan already said, she's gonna jump ship as soon as she ends up with that egg of a guy she wants to be with.
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