Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

[QUOTE=loopoo;38564546]He didn't mention that him and his ex were still sleeping together, though. So I don't see how she's using him to get herself off. Other than that, I'd have to agree. Being backup is bullshit. Just leave her, because like WastedJamacan already said, she's gonna jump ship as soon as she ends up with that egg of a guy she wants to be with.[/QUOTE] I assumed that sex was part of seeing each other, mostly because of the "not exclusive" statement, but I see how I could be in error.

[QUOTE=WastedJamacan;38564784]I assumed that sex was part of seeing each other, mostly because of the "not exclusive" statement, but I see how I could be in error.[/QUOTE] You've got a point. You were right, I misread his post. My bad!

Nah bros we're doin it

[QUOTE=Doozle;38561130]Guise, all my housemates are goings home this weekend meaning me and my girlfriend have the house to ourselves, which is rare. However I have work all weekend and it's night shifts. How bad would it be to phone in and give them an excuse as to why I can't come in? I've been genuinely ill the past few months and if I'm off again with sickness then I'll have an attendance review but if I'm off due to bereavement or personal reasons then it doesnt effect my attendance. I've got no living grandparents (and at work they don't know that). How repugnant would it be for me to say that one of them has passed? I wouldn't normally consider doing such a thing but it's so rare for us to have peace and quiet with just each other all evening and when we are alone at the weekend i work anyway. What would you guys do? Guide me.[/QUOTE] Sounds like an excuse that would work... once. Chance of a lifetime. Unfortunately I'm not sure what to tell you here, but maybe me quoting it will get others to see it again.

[QUOTE=Jebus;38564366]She isn't though, but I do know she 'likes' this other retard for some unfathomable reason. I think she would if she had the chance, but she hasn't. And I feel bad because I want to fix everything - and if I screwed around that would ruin the chances. I kind of get the feeling I'm a sort of 'back-up', does that seem like the case here?[/QUOTE] [video=youtube;pIePiQ61Rmo]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIePiQ61Rmo[/video]

guize I've been texting two girls and they're both going to be at the same party tomorrow do i; - get with them both, with no fucks given if either of them see's - get with both on the sly so neither find out that night - get with only one - force them to get with each other - that last one was a joke

[QUOTE=BlazeFresh;38570014]guize I've been texting two girls and they're both going to be at the same party tomorrow do i; - get with them both, with no fucks given if either of them see's - get with both on the sly so neither find out that night - get with only one - force them to get with each other - that last one was a joke[/QUOTE] Relax in a friendly capacity with both. No need to be making a ton of advancements. You've just been texting them.

oh no thats not what i was asking! They're both being hella flirty so i'm sure that i could easily kiss them without any issues. thanks though. I mean the morals of it, should i pick just one or just pick both because i probably can and it doesn't really matter?

[QUOTE=BlazeFresh;38570014]guize I've been texting two girls and they're both going to be at the same party tomorrow do i; - get with them both, with no fucks given if either of them see's - get with both on the sly so neither find out that night - get with only one - force them to get with each other - that last one was a joke[/QUOTE] #5

If you pick one and the other sees you hanging with her or chatting with her most of the time, then consider that other girl to be out of the picture. Bear that in mind... If you're actually interested in one or both, then you have a choice to make. If you're only in it for a root, then it really doesn't matter what you do or who you go with. Bit of an odd situation.

get with ≠ kiss

[QUOTE=Sobek-;38570655]If you pick one and the other sees you hanging with her or chatting with her most of the time, then consider that other girl to be out of the picture. Bear that in mind... If you're actually interested in one or both, then you have a choice to make. If you're only in it for a root, then it really doesn't matter what you do or who you go with. Bit of an odd situation.[/QUOTE] are you Australian? I swear you're the guys that say root. And i don't like like either of them, i'll just play it by ear and see how it goes.

soo uhhh I posted this yesterday in the other thread, but it's still irking me and I still don't know how to react :v: [QUOTE]So.... not really an advice question just kind of something that's pissing me off I asked this girl to see Skyfall last weekend. She said she really wanted to, but her sister was coming out and she hasn't seen her sister in ages and blah blah busy weekend alright? Next weekend though. And then I get a message today saying "Sorry.... I saw it with another guy... (Let's call him Marcelo, because I was just playing Max Payne 3.)" I'll make it up to you though, we can see something else Friday!" [/QUOTE] I... I don't know. We had a talk about it today. She was all apolagetic, and she said she couldn't explain a way to make it any better, and she was sorry for what she'd done but on the other hand still fuck erahgha Also is it at all a good sign if out of all of her male friends, I'm the only one who goes to her house? Is that a plus or a minus in my favour

[QUOTE=BlazeFresh;38570709]are you Australian? I swear you're the guys that say root. And i don't like like either of them, i'll just play it by ear and see how it goes.[/QUOTE] Yes mate strewth I'm an Aussie. Well if you don't actually like them, that kind of simplifies things right? Essentially, you're not looking for a commitment so the only possible outcome would be some kind of sexual relation, but you have to accept that maybe they want more and you shouldn't string them along? I don't know, it depends on what kind of people THEY are and what you expect they want. But if they're flirty well... it all sounds a-ok casual to me! Just see how each reacts on the night, if they even both turn up, and just run with it. [QUOTE=Sardonus;38570728]soo uhhh I posted this yesterday in the other thread, but it's still irking me and I still don't know how to react :v: I... I don't know. We had a talk about it today. She was all apolagetic, and she said she couldn't explain a way to make it any better, and she was sorry for what she'd done but on the other hand still fuck erahgha Also is it at all a good sign if out of all of her male friends, I'm the only one who goes to her house? Is that a plus or a minus in my favour[/QUOTE] Did she actually saw "saw it with another guy"? Without knowing the specifics between the two of you, it almost sounds like she's throwing a hint out there that some kind of intimacy isn't on the cards. But then again, some people just say that stuff and it means nothing to them like it does to you or I. She might just have some really good man friends, as a lot of women do... This girl I love has some guy friends she went to school with and from time to time she goes on a little holiday with them or to a movie or something. There's nothing there it's just friends being friends. Just stick to it for now, line something up with her and see where it goes. If she blows you off again you might start to give it some serious consideration as to what her intentions truly are, but if you catch up, then you can gauge her reactions on the night, you know? I have a feeling it's nothing strange, just the timing is off or it was someone she couldn't seriously decline at that stage. Wait and see!

[QUOTE=Sobek-;38570820]Yes mate strewth I'm an Aussie. Well if you don't actually like them, that kind of simplifies things right? Essentially, you're not looking for a commitment so the only possible outcome would be some kind of sexual relation, but you have to accept that maybe they want more and you shouldn't string them along? I don't know, it depends on what kind of people THEY are and what you expect they want. But if they're flirty well... it all sounds a-ok casual to me! Just see how each reacts on the night, if they even both turn up, and just run with it. Did she actually saw "saw it with another guy"? Without knowing the specifics between the two of you, it almost sounds like she's throwing a hint out there that some kind of intimacy isn't on the cards. But then again, some people just say that stuff and it means nothing to them like it does to you or I. She might just have some really good man friends, as a lot of women do... This girl I love has some guy friends she went to school with and from time to time she goes on a little holiday with them or to a movie or something. There's nothing there it's just friends being friends. Just stick to it for now, line something up with her and see where it goes. If she blows you off again you might start to give it some serious consideration as to what her intentions truly are, but if you catch up, then you can gauge her reactions on the night, you know? I have a feeling it's nothing strange, just the timing is off or it was someone she couldn't seriously decline at that stage. Wait and see![/QUOTE] She mentioned him by name :v: so yes I don't know. We caught up today about it, like I said. She was really apologetic about the whole thing. Sorry it happened. I don't know. I feel stupid. Petty jealousy, almost. It's just I asked the weekend before, but oh, he came up and he's more important second best but then today she tells me I'm he's never been to her house and I have multiple times so points for me?

[QUOTE=Sardonus;38570879]She mentioned him by name :v: so yes I don't know. We caught up today about it, like I said. She was really apologetic about the whole thing. Sorry it happened. I don't know. I feel stupid. Petty jealousy, almost. It's just I asked the weekend before, but oh, he came up and he's more important second best but then today she tells me I'm he's never been to her house and I have multiple times so points for me?[/QUOTE] Maybe she forgot or something or figured it wasn't that big a deal it may surprise you but most girls aren't on the look out for every social convention in case they break one Sounds like she's playing the field. Maybe you should too?

I appear to be in a position to maybe have a 3-way. I met a girl online who lives nearby, and my GF would be for it. Fingers crossed, I guess. [editline]23rd November 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38570821]Today I made my girl orgasm during sex for the first time ever![/QUOTE] Such a good feeling when you both orgasm at the same time.

[QUOTE=NickFury666;38570914]I appear to be in a position to maybe have a 3-way. I met a girl online who lives nearby, and my GF would be for it. Fingers crossed, I guess. [editline]23rd November 2012[/editline] Such a good feeling when you both orgasm at the same time.[/QUOTE] My ex had an orgasm with my first time. Although I won't toot my own horn because I really didn't do anything, she was on top.

[QUOTE=Zareox7;38570959]My ex had an orgasm with my first time. Although I won't toot my own horn because I really didn't do anything, she was on top.[/QUOTE] Yeah, that's the only way my GF has ever cum from PIV sex. She still enjoys me fucking her, but that's mostly for me.

The worst part of being broken up isn't even the fact that I wake up every morning knowing I won't see her. It's the dreams. Ugh it's so horrible. Every night since we broke up two weeks ago, I've had a dream about her.

[QUOTE=BlazeFresh;38570014]guize I've been texting two girls and they're both going to be at the same party tomorrow do i; - get with them both, with no fucks given if either of them see's - get with both on the sly so neither find out that night - get with only one - force them to get with each other - that last one was a joke[/QUOTE] I'm getting a strange sense of deja vu. Haven't you asked a question like this in the past? I doubt that if a bunch of strangers tell you to "Only get with one" yet the opportunity to get with both arises, you'll listen to us. So yeah, at the end of the day, you know what you really want. Your moral compass seems a bit skew-whiff anyways (because I'm pretty sure you've asked the same in the past, regarding a similar predicament, but oh god will I seem like a massive douche if you haven't). [editline]24th November 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Zareox7;38571430]The worst part of being broken up isn't even the fact that I wake up every morning knowing I won't see her. It's the dreams. Ugh it's so horrible. Every night since we broke up two weeks ago, I've had a dream about her.[/QUOTE] I dreamt that terrorists attacked my house and my ex was there and I saved her, and the minivan we were going to escape in was full, so I kicked out this fat dude that was taking up lots of space. Was pretty weird. Then another night, I dreamt she saved me from something (can't remember what). Dreams suck, sometimes. Hate how you can wake up in the morning feeling the full-on force of the emotion you were experiencing in your dream.

I have a bit a problem; I got to know a girl out last night on a student drinks at the local bar, she's clever and hot as hell. We clicked pretty well, and in my semi-drunken state I felt her up a bit and she responded well to my touch. I pulled her to the side and asked her if I'm overstepping any bounds, but she said she liked it and I got her number (as a side note, I felt manly as hell when I pulled her to the side; she put her hands on my chest with my slightly open shirt and looked straight into my eyes). After an hour or so we had to go, cause the bar was closing so we took a bus home to my place with my flatmate (who is also her best friend). We snuggled a bit on the bus, but when we arrived at our house I didn't want to take advantage of her. She [B]did[/B] have a lot to drink and she's a lightweight, so I didn't take it any further and she slept in my flatmate's room. She left this morning to catch a bus back home and we said our good byes. I texted her a bit today and she thought it was pretty hot what we did, which is an achievement for me since I'm still still a virgin, ha. My problem is however that I don't want her to get her hopes up too much 'cause I'm leaving NZ (I'm an international student) for Sweden in 6 months to probably not come back. I don't want her to get hurt, she seems like a nice girl, that's all. I'm not actively looking for someone cause I don't really feel the need right now. Facepunch, in your endless fountain of knowledge, how do you think I should handle this? Be upfront with it? Act upon it? [B]TL;DR[/B] cause I'm a nice person: Met girl at bar, felt up, she enjoyed, didn't do anything with her due to her being lightweight and drunk as hell, texted a bit with her but I'm leaving NZ in 6 months (international student) and don't want her hurt, what do?

[QUOTE=loopoo;38571857] I dreamt that terrorists attacked my house and my ex was there and I saved her, and the minivan we were going to escape in was full, so I kicked out this fat dude that was taking up lots of space. Was pretty weird. Then another night, I dreamt she saved me from something (can't remember what). Dreams suck, sometimes. Hate how you can wake up in the morning feeling the full-on force of the emotion you were experiencing in your dream.[/QUOTE] Yeah in my dream last night, her cousin texted me for some reason and needed me to bring her something, so I hopped into the car with my brothers and friends to the store to grab the stuff. We got done at the store and came out to the car and I hopped back into a car full of people, but sitting right next to me was my ex. I remember being upset I had to sit next to her because I figured it would be awkward. From there we went to this big house/mansion. Inside the house, it was awkward between us and I figured she was mad at me still and she followed me into a separate part of the house with a bunch of movie screens. We stopped and started talking since it was just the two of us and something had changed and it was like she was no longer the ex that I became unfamiliar with, but it was like the girl I had first started dating. She hugged me the way she used to and looked at me the same way she did before. We kissed and then I woke up. Worst feeling in the world too because the dream felt so good and then I woke up and realized it was all fake and unreal. The instant you open your eyes, you still feel the great feelings from it, but as you notice your surroundings, the dam that's holding back reality breaks and suddenly everything changes. In retrospect, the dream doesn't really make much sense, but eh, it's a dream, they're not really supposed to.

I had a dream yesterday morning that my ex and I were arguing in my kitchen about... something. I forget what. We were just going back and forth until I paused and yelled "Wait, WHY ARE YOU EVEN HERE?" and then I woke up.

[QUOTE=Haxxer;38571916]I have a bit a problem; I got to know a girl out last night on a student drinks at the local bar, she's clever and hot as hell. We clicked pretty well, and in my semi-drunken state I felt her up a bit and she responded well to my touch. I pulled her to the side and asked her if I'm overstepping any bounds, but she said she liked it and I got her number (as a side note, I felt manly as hell when I pulled her to the side; she put her hands on my chest with my slightly open shirt and looked straight into my eyes). After an hour or so we had to go, cause the bar was closing so we took a bus home to my place with my flatmate (who is also her best friend). We snuggled a bit on the bus, but when we arrived at our house I didn't want to take advantage of her. She [B]did[/B] have a lot to drink and she's a lightweight, so I didn't take it any further and she slept in my flatmate's room. She left this morning to catch a bus back home and we said our good byes. I texted her a bit today and she thought it was pretty hot what we did, which is an achievement for me since I'm still still a virgin, ha. My problem is however that I don't want her to get her hopes up too much 'cause I'm leaving NZ (I'm an international student) for Sweden in 6 months to probably not come back. I don't want her to get hurt, she seems like a nice girl, that's all. I'm not actively looking for someone cause I don't really feel the need right now. Facepunch, in your endless fountain of knowledge, how do you think I should handle this? Be upfront with it? Act upon it? [B]TL;DR[/B] cause I'm a nice person: Met girl at bar, felt up, she enjoyed, didn't do anything with her due to her being lightweight and drunk as hell, texted a bit with her but I'm leaving NZ in 6 months (international student) and don't want her hurt, what do?[/QUOTE] Just let her know you are an international student and let her know you will be leaving then. She can make her choices depending on what she wants then. [editline]23rd November 2012[/editline] One of the greatest gifts I have ever appreciated is the fact I remember almost all of my dreams, but they very rarely include people I know.

6 months ago women were the least of my concern. That intimate desire just wasn't part of my life. I remember years ago fearing that I would never really have a great desire for women. Something changed though in the past 3 months. I can't contribute it all to halving my dosage of Cellexa (antidepressant) but I can say that I have noticed a number of changes since then though. Now my interest for women runs pretty rampant. I get interested in a new girl every week, I've found myself texting about 2x as many women as men. Video games bored and I haven't spent an hour working on my game in nearly a month. I've started excersizing more (however I already was over the summer, I lost 20 pounds) and my upper body is really developing muscles, which I find immensely sexy. However I'm hindered by my absence of a drivers license (I have to wait till Febuarary, when I turn 18), which makes dating difficult. I also feel like I'm not super good at flirting... I have no problem being funny and being witty, I can make girls laugh quite easily, or atleast the ones I choose to. However I still need to figure out how to take it to the next step. I don't have a problem being friends with a girl before any romantic element comes into the equation, that way I'll know more about the person beforehand and not get a surprise like my last adventure (which I'm still paying for). However I still am aware that sometimes women "friendzone" (yes I know shitty term but you get what I mean) men because they don't act quick enough and just become "friends". The downside is that my life has become so much more complicated thanks to having to deal with emotions and what not when in the past I've just suppressed them. However I don't let rejection get me down, and I stay upbeat. Anyways just venting... It's difficult being an ENTJ sometimes

[QUOTE=Rhenae;38572600]Just let her know you are an international student and let her know you will be leaving then. She can make her choices depending on what she wants then.[/QUOTE] She knew and she is definitely interested anyway. There's kind of a raging battle between my dick, brain and heart right now. [editline]24th November 2012[/editline] Aw shit, this sucks so bad. My flatmate bro (he's a really fucking cool dude) has had a crush on this girl forever and has been stuck in the friendzone and now she's swooning over me. Gahhhh... Here I was, thinking life was simple

Same girl I posted about yesterday guyz She went to the city over an hour away to have fun and stuff, then she fails to read the train timetable and realises she'll be stuck in a dangerous part of the city for hours, alone, until the train comes to bring her home. So she calls me, lets me know and asks if I want to catch the train there, have some drinks at the bar and keep her company, and come home with her. I say no, because I've made other commitments and am still recovering from a night out. She hangs up on me, and then starts texting me saying I "missed my chance" and she's incredibly pissed off with me because apparently I don't care enough to 'just get on a train' and be with her so she doesn't get stabbed or mugged or whatever. I explain to her I didn't realise that it was a big deal and I offer to sort out my current obligations and get there to be with her. But no, too late, I fucked up apparently. Starts with the whole "as if you care no one else does" stuff, passive-aggressive "oh well guess I'll just get raped" shit and so on. I offer again, "obviously if you don't tell me that you're worried about that I can't know, I thought you just wanted to hang out and have a drink. I will sort out what I have to do and come" "No I don't want to see you this is why we can't work you don't do anything for me" fffff tl;dr I'm not psychic and that's grounds for being immediately and unreasonably pissed off at me, when I suggest this and say "I'll come, I didn't realise it was that serious" it's not good enough and it's Allll myyyy faaaault! So now I'm here pissed off and worried even though I didn't do anything wrong and I'm such a gosh-darn asshole. Fuck it guys, what am I supposed to do here [editline]24th November 2012[/editline] I even considered shitting out my spine, and just gettin on the train anyway and just being there regardless, but I know now she's that pissed off she won't even look at me if I did and I'd have wasted my night. I say I'll do it, she argues some more and now it's too late because the last trains have left. Welp.

girlfriend just said PC games suck and nobody plays them anymore [b]WHILE PLAYING BLACK OPS 2 ON PS3[/b] how should i kill her?

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38571879]My girlfriend has dreams she has sex with women. She also dreams I call her a bad name, then playfully gets mad at me for it.[/QUOTE] Take the hint.