[QUOTE=Rusty100;38586619]i would honestly feel less bad if a girl left me for another woman
i don't know there's just not that inherent competitiveness with another woman that you get between men. it's such a different dynamic i imagine a woman being with another woman that it's like
oh. alright. fair enough i guess.[/QUOTE]
I was less disappointed by this girl rejecting me back in February when soon after she got together with another girl I'd had a crush on before her. It's just hard to feel jealous in that situation. I have no idea why.
I should have been like "See? We would have been great together! We even have the same taste in girls!"
like rusty said, people of the same sex tend to be competitive with each other, like it's why girls' fathers tend to be extremely critical of guys she dates etc. i don't know much about it but i think it has to do with gender roles - different qualities are expected of women than men, so there are different standards for what makes someone of either sex a better or worse candidate. it's harder to compare yourself to them when different qualities are ideal.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38602382]lol
step 1. [b]cut your fucking hair[/b][/QUOTE]
He needn't.
My hair is longer than his and it didn't affect me socially in any way.
Well, save for some comments from girls saying "you looked better when you had short hair".
On the other hand lots of girls said that I should never cut my hair and I looked awesome with long hair.
And really, I like it this way.
So, I think if he likes it, he should keep it.
The problem is. He doesn't look like he takes care of himself. That's the problem.
though you may look good with long hair, most men do not and in a lot of cases it makes them appear extremely unkempt. it makes you stand out a bit as a male and in his case it's not in a good way.
[editline]26th November 2012[/editline]
and tbh he doesn't even need to cut it short, just he needs to actually cut it. he has no coherent sort of hairstyle and looks like he's going through chemo or something with he way it currently is.
I think if he gives it a good washing and combing, it'll look good.
Having long hair needs some "maintenance". Once in a while you should cut the edges, otherwise it will run dry and weak. Like Hay.
I had that problem when I had my hair to my waist, I remember that when I passed my fingers through my hair back then I would have lots of hairs stuck in my fingers. Then I cut it all the way up my neck and now it's growing again.
However, during classes I just use a pony-tail. When I have it loose I kinda look like george of the jungle sometimes.
Also, he needs to grow some beard. That face is soft like a babies butt. :v:
yeah, i have curly hair so if it grows past a certain length it gets impossible to tame. i keep it short now just because it doesn't knot frequently that way.
but, if someone isn't willing to take good care of their hair, they shouldn't have long hair.
If he just cut it it would cease to be a problem. Even blokes that look good with long hair can pull off short hair very easily and in his case he just looks a bit of a mess.
[QUOTE=MIPS;38601284]I have no clue how I fucked up so badly. I got a car, I got a job (well, several different ones) that pays, I moved out of my parents house, went to public events and clubs/parties/stuff and tried fitting in with the crowd and after four years I have been met with NO success. I didn't even get past buying food/drink for a girl.
I really just... I can only seem to get really well along with girls that I know through other guys but that's a really dangerous approach.[/QUOTE]
someone who has issues as bad as you and your roommate should be worrying about more than just approaching girls
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;38604707]someone who has issues as bad as you and your roommate should be worrying about more than just approaching girls[/QUOTE]
Many people believe it will be a cure to their social problems and if getting a girl is the quickest way to find out that its a lie then he should keep it up. The sooner you realise that girls will not change you into a sociable person the quicker you can improve yourself.
as a long-hair-haver, you have to be a bit feminine on the inside to pull it off. i have hair somewhere between wavy and curly, more curly once it gets more than about an inch past my ear. so i constantly try to keep it as straight as possible without having to straighten it daily, and boy, does having a single curl popping out of the back or something embarrass the crap out of me (although, i've never had anyone tell me i looked better with short hair so far)
[QUOTE=MIPS;38601284]I have no clue how I fucked up so badly. I got a car, I got a job (well, several different ones) that pays, I moved out of my parents house, went to public events and clubs/parties/stuff and tried fitting in with the crowd and after four years I have been met with NO success. I didn't even get past buying food/drink for a girl.
I really just... I can only seem to get really well along with girls that I know through other guys but that's a really dangerous approach.[/QUOTE]
shorten and dye your hair, get bigger glasses.
be this guy:
[video=youtube;P5bvA8vcYGA]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P5bvA8vcYGA[/video]
[QUOTE=MIPS;38601284]I have no clue how I fucked up so badly. I got a car, I got a job (well, several different ones) that pays, I moved out of my parents house, went to public events and clubs/parties/stuff and tried fitting in with the crowd and after four years I have been met with NO success. I didn't even get past buying food/drink for a girl.
I really just... I can only seem to get really well along with girls that I know through other guys but that's a really dangerous approach.[/QUOTE]
a) you go on about your problems and your problematic life too much and the only girl who would find that attractive would not be a suitable girl
b) Please get some better clothes, a better haircut and generally better everything in terms of the way you dress yourself, please be more hygienic as well
dressing like that will get you not far with girls. generally the excuse is either "fuck corporate culture, I'm not buying into the fucking system" or "I wear clothes that i'm comfortable in" but really it is possible to find comfortable clothes that are still very fashionable and the whole idea of fucking corporate culture by buying clothes that aren't in fashion is not going to get you far with people who judge on looks first and personality second which is everyone including you
[QUOTE=DarkendSky;38606151]as a long-hair-haver, you have to be a bit feminine on the inside to pull it off. [/QUOTE]
Oi. You calling me a puff, m8?
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38607101]Oi. You calling me a puff, m8?[/QUOTE]
u wot m8
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38606998]a) you go on about your problems and your problematic life too much and the only girl who would find that attractive would not be a suitable girl
b) Please get some better clothes, a better haircut and generally better everything in terms of the way you dress yourself, please be more hygienic as well
dressing like that will get you not far with girls. generally the excuse is either "fuck corporate culture, I'm not buying into the fucking system" or "I wear clothes that i'm comfortable in" but really it is possible to find comfortable clothes that are still very fashionable and the whole idea of fucking corporate culture by buying clothes that aren't in fashion is not going to get you far with people who judge on looks first and personality second which is everyone including you[/QUOTE]
yeah i mean there's a difference there
you can still look nice and say "fuck corporate culture", it's more about how much effort you put into looking good.
no fedora's
i swear slacks instead of jeans
people think i look nice
B) fuck corporate colutrre
slacks it depends
if they don't fit good it'll look very funny
[QUOTE=DarkendSky;38607460]i swear slacks instead of jeans
people think i look nice
B) fuck corporate colutrre[/QUOTE]
Slacks can look good but slacks can also look awful also slacks are not a clothing that says 'fuck corporatism'
[QUOTE=thisispain;38607399]yeah i mean there's a difference there
you can still look nice and say "fuck corporate culture", it's more about how much effort you put into looking good.
no fedora's[/QUOTE]
I dont actually know how one would say fuck corporate culture while still looking nice though, I have no idea what clothes would represent that?
fedora's just scream 'i want culture to regress back to the 1940s' though
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38607662]Slacks can look good but slacks can also look awful also slacks are not a clothing that says 'fuck corporatism'
I dont actually know how one would say fuck corporate culture while still looking nice though, I have no idea what clothes would represent that?
fedora's just scream 'i want culture to regress back to the 1940s' though[/QUOTE]
it was a joke
well i hate logo's so the only thing i have with logo's on it are my shoes
plus i also almost never wear t-shirts unless i'm like biking or something
i just look like a hipster ok
I'm totally infatuated with this girl, I should probably slow down.
[QUOTE=Sobek-;38598244]Lass I love just sent me a text along the lines of "Are they from you?". I thought we were talking about something work related (long story) but she replied with "the roses?". Hmmm, looks like she's got a secret admirer...
No idea who it is. No note or anything included with them. Bugger hahaha, we're not even really together and I'm insanely jealous. It's always possible it's just a very concerned friend, but... roses. If it were me she'd have got a huge bunch of flowers in her favourite colour with chocolates and a nice note in my awful handwriting :)
Worst thing is, right before she asked me that I was at the florist discussing just that very thing - what to send her next. She's about to start a new job and I was hoping to surprise her again with something nice (I've sent her flowers before when she previously started a job). Will have to see how this pans out...[/QUOTE]
Just a little update;
It turns out it's one of her girlfriends who sent her the roses... I know the friend pretty well and she's really awesome so it's all cool. I'm actually kinda glad she did that - she's just started this new job and I didn't know yet, otherwise I would have sent her something. She needs the support I think :)
[QUOTE=thisispain;38607717]well i hate logo's so the only thing i have with logo's on it are my shoes
plus i also almost never wear t-shirts unless i'm like biking or something
i just look like a hipster ok[/QUOTE]
This is me also but I never thought I was fucking corporate culture
i know it's so convenient
[QUOTE=killerteacup;38607662]
I dont actually know how one would say fuck corporate culture while still looking nice though, I have no idea what clothes would represent that?
[/QUOTE]
the most "anti-establishment" sorts of clothes are DIY. obviously not actually sewing and looming the cloth, but using your own creative skills to create your own logos and artwork on clothes. create and use patches as well.
basically the idea is to stop buying other people's creativity and start using your own.
there is also(as thisispain pointed out) the hipster method.
You guys are missing out holister / superdry + skinny jeans = instant babe magnet
i like some of superdry's stuff, honestly. their japanese branding looks cool to me. that said i'd never pay full price for it, i have one superdry shirt that i got from the clearance rack in macy's.
[editline]27th November 2012[/editline]
whoa this isn't fix up look sharp.
Met up with girl yesterday and she seemed distant, I asked her what's up but she brushed it off. I kissed her goodbye at the bus and we texted some on the way home. Apparently she's feeling bad for my bro and for me being stressed out about going back home, as well as wanting to enjoy time with someone, so she seem very conflicted about it all.
I told her to not worry about me being stressed, I just need to figure out what I feel about Sweden and I'm generally terrible at my own feelings. I've been sleeping very lightly lately, as well as losing my appetite and I'm having a hard time concentrating. Might be because we've been moving really fast these few days and we both seemed to want to slow things down a bit, but what else can I do to ease her mind?
[QUOTE=Haxxer;38614744]Met up with girl yesterday and she seemed distant, I asked her what's up but she brushed it off. I kissed her goodbye at the bus and we texted some on the way home. Apparently she's feeling bad for my bro and for me being stressed out about going back home, as well as wanting to enjoy time with someone, so she seem very conflicted about it all.
I told her to not worry about me being stressed, I just need to figure out what I feel about Sweden and I'm generally terrible at my own feelings. I've been sleeping very lightly lately, as well as losing my appetite and I'm having a hard time concentrating. Might be because we've been moving really fast these few days and we both seemed to want to slow things down a bit, but what else can I do to ease her mind?[/QUOTE]
Uhm, so you're coming up with rules such as "let's not go to fast" to make your relationship work.
Not a good idea.
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