[QUOTE=Croft;38688109]
I try all the time. He hardly tries at all.[/quote]
[QUOTE=Croft;38688109]Idoubt anything is wrong in the ''love each other'' department.[/QUOTE]
about that..
[QUOTE=Croft;38688109]It's weird that he never asks me if I have time to see him, since he has said that we don't see each other enough. He always talks about how he wants to spend time with me, yet he can't even ask me to come over.
I try all the time. He hardly tries at all.
He still tells me he loves me, is intimate etc when we see each other, so Idoubt anything is wrong in the ''love each other'' department.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I don't know... the best course of action in my opinion is to speak to him about it, as is usually the case with most couples problems :v:
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38688137]Yeah, I don't know... the best course of action in my opinion is to speak to him about it, as is usually the case with most couples problems :v:[/QUOTE]
I have talked to him about it. All he says is that he usually makes plans with his friends pretty early nd that he can't bail on them.. And that he thinks it's a bit sad that I'm not old enough for the pub. He laso says that he really wants to see me a lot more often because he misses me.
He opens up a lot easier to his friends, so they usually tell me all the stuff he says about how he looks upon our relationship.
''She is the only one I can see myself spending the rest of my life with. I love her so much''. Apparently he said that not very long ago.
look, being able to echo cliche phrases like that is one thing. spending time with someone and making them feel loved and needed (without using your friends to pass along things you should be able to say yourself) is different.
[editline]3rd December 2012[/editline]
furthermore using reasons like "i made plans and can't bail" is called making excuses. if he actually wanted to spend time with you he would do it, not come up with superficial reasons why he can't.
[editline]3rd December 2012[/editline]
and he definitely shouldn't be making you feel like a burden. that's ridiculous.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38688376]look, being able to echo cliche phrases like that is one thing. spending time with someone and making them feel loved and needed (without using your friends to pass along things you should be able to say yourself) is different.
[editline]3rd December 2012[/editline]
furthermore using reasons like "i made plans and can't bail" is called making excuses. if he actually wanted to spend time with you he would do it, not come up with superficial reasons why he can't.
[editline]3rd December 2012[/editline]
and he definitely shouldn't be making you feel like a burden. that's ridiculous.[/QUOTE]
We see each other every other weekend, or as often as possible. I go to college and he works, so there isn't much time. But when we are together everything is perfect. He's never been a touhy feely person and thinks he is clingy if he tries to make the first move. He is very inexperienced.
We talk every day and such, so it's not like I never hear from him.
One of my theories is that since he pretty reacently got a job and now has money is a reason for him suddenly spending so much time out on the pub and doing things with his friends. He hasn't been able to do that for very long. And this hasn't been going on for long, maybe 2-3 weeks.
I'm probably over sensitive.
i don't really know enough about your situation to try and judge his feelings from it. all i can tell you is that if you feel unwanted or like a burden as you said earlier, that seems like a problem with how he's treating you and not just you being "over sensitive".
Girlfriend of seven months and I just went split-skis,
I always feel strangely relieved after I get out of a relationship like that.
Am I a bad person?
[QUOTE=Croft;38688418]We see each other every other weekend, or as often as possible. I go to college and he works, so there isn't much time. But when we are together everything is perfect. He's never been a touhy feely person and thinks he is clingy if he tries to make the first move. He is very inexperienced.
We talk every day and such, so it's not like I never hear from him.
One of my theories is that since he pretty reacently got a job and now has money is a reason for him suddenly spending so much time out on the pub and doing things with his friends. He hasn't been able to do that for very long. And this hasn't been going on for long, maybe 2-3 weeks.
I'm probably over sensitive.[/QUOTE]
When I got a bit job me and my Gf broke up (as posted a few posts ago) because I didn't have much time for her as I was working a lot and when I wasn't working I was with my mates taking advanage of all the money I was getting. I say just stick with it, he will soon get bored of spending all his money at the pub (which I did) and start spending time with you, I literally started seeing my GF again after a 2 month split (break or what ever you want to call it) I'm just seeing how it goes. I still don't have much time for her but that's not because of going out but because of business trips aboard. Just like you my gf couldn't go to the pub because of her age. Sorry for the paragraph but I hope this helps, it sounds some much like what me and my GF went through a few months ago.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38688702]no[/QUOTE]
this is good then, yes
[QUOTE=luke7dude;38688687]When I got a bit job me and my Gf broke up (as posted a few posts ago) because I didn't have much time for her as I was working a lot and when I wasn't working I was with my mates taking advanage of all the money I was getting. I say just stick with it, he will soon get bored of spending all his money at the pub (which I did) and start spending time with you, I literally started seeing my GF again after a 2 month split (break or what ever you want to call it) I'm just seeing how it goes. I still don't have much time for her but that's not because of going out but because of business trips aboard. Just like you my gf couldn't go to the pub because of her age. Sorry for the paragraph but I hope this helps, it sounds some much like what me and my GF went through a few months ago.[/QUOTE]
None of us want to split. We are too in love for that. And we have time almost every weekend. So we get to see each other at least once a week. And now I have college concerts and stuff, so that is just another reason for him to see me. And he jut texted me saying he wants to take me to see The Hobbit... so.
[QUOTE=SUPERA1DS;38688677]Girlfriend of seven months and I just went split-skis,
I always feel strangely relieved after I get out of a relationship like that.
Am I a bad person?[/QUOTE]
You're good at convincing yourself.
[QUOTE=Croft;38688713]None of us want to split. We are too in love for that. And we have time almost every weekend. So we get to see each other at least once a week. And now I have college concerts and stuff, so that is just another reason for him to see me. And he jut texted me saying he wants to take me to see The Hobbit... so.[/QUOTE]
I just saying how it went for me and a break isn't the end of the world the time we had apart gave me time to put into my career and it really payed off in the end. and I thought that as well but It just fell apart in the last month. and after that 2 month break (break up) I saw her last weekend and it was pretty good but weird as I hadn't talked to her in such a long time. I wont be able to see her this weekend as well as I'm out of country on business. It will be interesting to see how things go. How long have you guys been together for?
So there I was. In bed with a girl. Kissing pretty heavily after a few episodes of the walking dead.
As it wasn't that late, she suggested I stick something on TV for background noise - probably best if my housemates (a few girls) didn't hear us.
I stand up, stick Netflix on with my PS3. Flick through a few shows. I had been watching The Inbetweeners earlier, may as well stick another episode on in the background.
Get back on the bed, start snogging again. The Inbetweeners intro music plays, covering the noises coming from me and the girl. When suddenly:
Jay: "So I had one bent over the table here, there was one up here who I was fingering and I was just toe fucking the one on the floor."
We had to stop and laugh for a good minute.
[QUOTE=luke7dude;38688845]I just saying how it went for me and a break isn't the end of the world the time we had apart gave me time to put into my career and it really payed off in the end. and I thought that as well but It just fell apart in the last month. and after that 2 month break (break up) I saw her last weekend and it was pretty good but weird as I hadn't talked to her in such a long time. I wont be able to see her this weekend as well as I'm out of country on business. It will be interesting to see how things go. How long have you guys been together for?[/QUOTE]
Almost 16 months. And we're very very tight. And it has been like that since the starts. Never ending feelings.
My girlfriend just had a fight with her dad regarding her eldest sisters engagement. Her dad was nagging my girlfriend about how she wasn't helping out much with the engagement in which she did most of the work. This pissed her off greatly. First off, she has never liked her dad, not even a little bit because her dad never took care of her or cared about her as much as her sisters. Anyways, this engagement debacle finally made her snap. So she told her dad "Why don't YOU help" which pissed her dad off. Her dad then took it out on her by forbidding she ever go out with her friends or with anyone anymore, and then he scolded her greatly until she cried.
This happened yesterday and she only told me now. Since then she's been acting really weird, always being negative and not talking like we used to and also being very aggressive. I asked her if she is okay, she replied with "I'm sorry I'm not talking to you much, it's just that I've lost faith in everything. Even men" and now I'm thinking she's going to break up with me soon. I tried to cheer her up and tell her everything is going to be okay etcetera and she replies with "Yeah yeah. Just stop it" usually she'd reply with "Haha, okay okay" and then get over it.
Then she tells me she's going to sleep, and our usual MO when going to sleep is that we wish each other goodnight and sweet dreams with the usual "I love you". But tonight, she doesn't say the "I love you" which gives me further proof that she's going to give up soon and that she's going to leave me. Plus, she's not actually asleep because her whatsapp still shows her online and that my friend says she's talking to her. Any advice FP? Feeling a little bit depressed here. Sorry for the wall of text.
[QUOTE=AtomicDongo;38689289]My girlfriend just had a fight with her dad regarding her eldest sisters engagement. Her dad was nagging my girlfriend about how she wasn't helping out much with the engagement in which she did most of the work. This pissed her off greatly. First off, she has never liked her dad, not even a little bit because her dad never took care of her or cared about her as much as her sisters. Anyways, this engagement debacle finally made her snap. So she told her dad "Why don't YOU help" which pissed her dad off. Her dad then took it out on her by forbidding she ever go out with her friends or with anyone anymore, and then he scolded her greatly until she cried.
This happened yesterday and she only told me now. Since then she's been acting really weird, always being negative and not talking like we used to and also being very aggressive. I asked her if she is okay, she replied with "I'm sorry I'm not talking to you much, it's just that I've lost faith in everything. Even men" and now I'm thinking she's going to break up with me soon. I tried to cheer her up and tell her everything is going to be okay etcetera and she replies with "Yeah yeah. Just stop it" usually she'd reply with "Haha, okay okay" and then get over it.
Then she tells me she's going to sleep, and our usual MO when going to sleep is that we wish each other goodnight and sweet dreams with the usual "I love you". But tonight, she doesn't say the "I love you" which gives me further proof that she's going to give up soon and that she's going to leave me. Plus, she's not actually asleep because her whatsapp still shows her online and that my friend says she's talking to her. Any advice FP? Feeling a little bit depressed here. Sorry for the wall of text.[/QUOTE]
My advice might seem shit, but I would distance your self from her give her some space, and if you are such a nice person and she treats you like that she's not worth your time. Chin up mate don't let women make you feel like shit. =)
[QUOTE=luke7dude;38689580]My advice might seem shit, but I would distance your self from her give her some space, and if you are such a nice person and she treats you like that she's not worth your time. Chin up mate don't let women make you feel like shit. =)[/QUOTE]
Thanks a bunch. You made me feel better :}
[QUOTE=SuperLoz;38688985]So there I was. In bed with a girl. Kissing pretty heavily after a few episodes of the walking dead.
As it wasn't that late, she suggested I stick something on TV for background noise - probably best if my housemates (a few girls) didn't hear us.
I stand up, stick Netflix on with my PS3. Flick through a few shows. I had been watching The Inbetweeners earlier, may as well stick another episode on in the background.
Get back on the bed, start snogging again. The Inbetweeners intro music plays, covering the noises coming from me and the girl. When suddenly:
Jay: "So I had one bent over the table here, there was one up here who I was fingering and I was just toe fucking the one on the floor."
We had to stop and laugh for a good minute.[/QUOTE]
i was hooking up with a girl on the couch once with Beauty & the Beast playing for background music. we both lost it when Chip showed up. "I THINK I SCARED HIM MAMA."
So I talked to this girl in my precalc class after we both failed a test the other day, and we really hit it off, she was easy to talk to, she was smiling and looking me directly in the face and laughed at things I said, then I had to go to another class so we parted but I forgot to ask for her number.
fast forward to today, I say hi in class and she starts talking to me, same shit again, we leave together, then she has to call her mom so after she's done we talk for a bit and she has to go to work, so I ask for her number and she says "sorry I don't give out my number"
I'm a bit confused. It's not like I asked her on a date or anything, it was just so we could talk more because she was really easy to talk to and she didn't seem like she had a problem with me, does she not like me or am I just reading into this too much and "I don't give out my number" means just that?
means that she doesnt want to talk to you outside of your class
Fuck, I really thought she was interested, especially since the first time we talked she was almost late to her class because she was asking me stuff.
God damnit.
[QUOTE=Bloodshot12;38691531]Fuck, I really thought she was interested, especially since the first time we talked she was almost late to her class because she was asking me stuff.
God damnit.[/QUOTE]
Don't take it personally.
I'll try not to.
So any recommendations for where I could go to meet single people in College, other then joining clubs.
It seems like most people in my classes are taken
My dumbass flatmate invited two girls that we know from our class to our flat without telling me and our appartement looks like a total mess. That guy is such an idiot, he plans on getting one of the girls but he has not enough balls to do it on his own and ask her out or something. Now he drags them into my room which also serves as a living room. It would take almost a day to get our place clean and I have no motivation to do it, only to help him get that girl. Also they only come if I am there and not because of him. The problem is that my flatmate is a total socially awkward idiot, this is sure going to be fun watching him fail at this.
I wonder how my girlfriend will react if I say to her that two pretty attractive girls are comming over, perhaps I'll just withhold it. Besides I have no interest in them at all.
Don't fucking withhold that from her! If you don't tell her and she finds out, she will probably get suspicious, and might think you're cheating on her. Just tell her the truth, and tell those girls you're taken.
[QUOTE=AtomicDongo;38689289]My girlfriend just had a fight with her dad regarding her eldest sisters engagement. Her dad was nagging my girlfriend about how she wasn't helping out much with the engagement in which she did most of the work. This pissed her off greatly. First off, she has never liked her dad, not even a little bit because her dad never took care of her or cared about her as much as her sisters. Anyways, this engagement debacle finally made her snap. So she told her dad "Why don't YOU help" which pissed her dad off. Her dad then took it out on her by forbidding she ever go out with her friends or with anyone anymore, and then he scolded her greatly until she cried.
This happened yesterday and she only told me now. Since then she's been acting really weird, always being negative and not talking like we used to and also being very aggressive. I asked her if she is okay, she replied with "I'm sorry I'm not talking to you much, it's just that I've lost faith in everything. Even men" and now I'm thinking she's going to break up with me soon. I tried to cheer her up and tell her everything is going to be okay etcetera and she replies with "Yeah yeah. Just stop it" usually she'd reply with "Haha, okay okay" and then get over it.
Then she tells me she's going to sleep, and our usual MO when going to sleep is that we wish each other goodnight and sweet dreams with the usual "I love you". But tonight, she doesn't say the "I love you" which gives me further proof that she's going to give up soon and that she's going to leave me. Plus, she's not actually asleep because her whatsapp still shows her online and that my friend says she's talking to her. Any advice FP? Feeling a little bit depressed here. Sorry for the wall of text.[/QUOTE]
It doesn't sound to me like she's fixing to break up with you, it sounds much more to me like she is having a real issue and it's not something you can just "get over it" that easily. Just saying it's going to be okay might not be enough. But give her some space, message her in a little while after asking how she is, and try to let her talk out her problem. It doesn't sound much like she's getting much assistance in it at the moment.
She sounds upset.
[editline]3rd December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Bloodshot12;38689946]So I talked to this girl in my precalc class after we both failed a test the other day, and we really hit it off, she was easy to talk to, she was smiling and looking me directly in the face and laughed at things I said, then I had to go to another class so we parted but I forgot to ask for her number.
fast forward to today, I say hi in class and she starts talking to me, same shit again, we leave together, then she has to call her mom so after she's done we talk for a bit and she has to go to work, so I ask for her number and she says "sorry I don't give out my number"
I'm a bit confused. It's not like I asked her on a date or anything, it was just so we could talk more because she was really easy to talk to and she didn't seem like she had a problem with me, does she not like me or am I just reading into this too much and "I don't give out my number" means just that?[/QUOTE]
Eh, you've talked what? Twice? Not a big thing. Ask for her facebook or something instead if you like her. She might just not have free minutes and texts on her phone and have to pay for it herself, etc.
I don't think I would really give my number out after 2 days of knowing someone either really.
[editline]3rd December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=junker|154;38694922]My dumbass flatmate invited two girls that we know from our class to our flat without telling me and our appartement looks like a total mess. That guy is such an idiot, he plans on getting one of the girls but he has not enough balls to do it on his own and ask her out or something. Now he drags them into my room which also serves as a living room. It would take almost a day to get our place clean and I have no motivation to do it, only to help him get that girl. Also they only come if I am there and not because of him. The problem is that my flatmate is a total socially awkward idiot, this is sure going to be fun watching him fail at this.
I wonder how my girlfriend will react if I say to her that two pretty attractive girls are comming over, perhaps I'll just withhold it. Besides I have no interest in them at all.[/QUOTE]
You might as well tell her about it and what he's up to. Ya never know not telling each other stuff can end up in some major miscommunications and bs completely for no reason. Theres no reason not to if your not interested in them right?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38696385]
Eh, you've talked what? Twice? Not a big thing. Ask for her facebook or something instead if you like her. She might just not have free minutes and texts on her phone and have to pay for it herself, etc.
I don't think I would really give my number out after 2 days of knowing someone either really.
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I was thinking about that. Hell, my sister used to do the same thing because she barely has any minutes so that does make sense.
I suppose it was a good thing that I didn't get upset or respond in a weird way when she said that.
[QUOTE=Bloodshot12;38696536]I was thinking about that. Hell, my sister used to do the same thing because she barely has any minutes so that does make sense I suppose.[/QUOTE]
Maybe just try to get her facebook and gauge her interest independent of that :)
[QUOTE=Pernoccuous;38648164]so i fucked a classmate from school, she claims to have a fiance.
no protection used but did pull out. disquiet about it - advice? comments?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Pernoccuous;38660524]had sex with classmate again
help[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Pernoccuous;38661014]she is having sex with me
i'll probably just ask her to take a morning after[/QUOTE]
so my other classmates found out about our affair
apparently i'm going to get a lecture from them about it next class when i see them
heh
keep me posted!
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