Got a breakfast date with missy tomorrow, our situations leave us little room for privacy which kinda sucks, but I'm having a nice time getting to know her better.
[QUOTE=Pernoccuous;38697421]oh god it's jeoffrey fuck
[editline]4th December 2012[/editline]
legitimate question how do you guys feel about the effectiveness of a diaphragm[/QUOTE]
Statistically they have a 16% failure rate in typical use 6% in "perfect use". It would also require you to get a spermicide, as without one they aren't really that effective. The percentages quoted are with the two combined.
It doesn't seem the best option for the two of you either in getting it and using and such, and also in actually getting to sex. Both of you seem pretty impulsive, and it's not exactly the most impulsively viable option.
If she doesn't mind the idea of messing with her hormones, I would recommend one of the hormonal solutions, as they often have a much higher success rate. On the other hand messing with hormones shouldn't be done lightly and all hormonal contraceptives prevent ovulation, which kills a bit(or a lot) of the girls sex drive.
Condoms are the most likely cheapest and easiest non-commital route, having a 15% failure rate in actual use, 2% in perfect.
If you would like info on contraceptives feel free to PM me, I did a lot of research into it for myself and I always like re-evaluating and digging up new info. I'm guessing most of the female members in the chat may know a fair amount, since we actually have options.
Guys side of things the options are pretty much condoms, or Vasectomy (never ever do this)
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Also yes I am using wikipedia stats because they are easiest access but I find all sources are quite similar or the same.
I have entered a woman twice.
[QUOTE=Secrios;38698489]I have entered a woman twice.[/QUOTE]
Feet or head first? Did she split into two halves?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38698424] Vasectomy (never ever do this)
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I'd like to ask why.
As long as the surgeon who does this, does it properly they are all pretty much reversible now.
[QUOTE=Hana-San;38701060]I'd like to ask why.
As long as the surgeon who does this, does it properly they are all pretty much reversible now.[/QUOTE]
They're known to heal up by themselves in rare cases.
The typical success rate of pregnancy following a vasectomy reversal is around 55% if performed within 10 years, and drops to around 25% if performed after 10 years. After reversal, sperm counts and motility are usually much lower than pre-vasectomy levels. There is evidence that men who have had a vasectomy may produce more abnormal sperm, which would explain why even a mechanically successful reversal does not always restore fertility. The higher rates of aneuploidy and diploidy in the sperm cells of men who have undergone vasectomy reversal may lead to a higher rate of birth defects. direct copy paste wikipedia
pretty sure they are all NOT pretty much reversible now
i don't know why people thought getting your junk cut up was easily fixed
[QUOTE=Pernoccuous;38702301]i don't know why people thought getting your junk cut up was easily fixed[/QUOTE]
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Guys, why is it getting worse day by day?
I was under the impression that I would miss her less with time, and I know it's only been 2 weeks and I guess I'm being silly but it's getting worse and worse each day.
I can't get to sleep at night and my motivations all shot to hell, I'm not getting my assignments done and everything is increasingly boring, each time that I speak to her and she puts off playing games hurts more each time, everything I do and all the songs I hear and all the places I go make me remember her, and the fact that we still see each other just as much but now it's different but the same is so weird, and I just don't get it guys.
I used to have a tendency to get really stressed over things, and I've realised that I'm doing all the things I used to do when I did that. I mean, it's not really the topic of this thread but it's linked because the break-up is having a knock on effect on this, but with college and the work not getting done and her on my mind I just end up feeling like everything is closing in but I never get anything done about it, I'm sitting here not doing the work.
What do you do to make it easier?
My GF broke up with me today, she said that our relationship was moving to fast.
which is weird because my LAST GF, broke up with me because she said our relationship is moving to slowly.
what the hell?
ah well, she was a dumb girl anyway and i mean DUMB, like.. couldn't do math dumb
well anyway she had moved in with her stuff, now she moved out she said i could keep it, sweet.
My parents would always feel so sorry for family friends who would have a vasectomy. They just thought it was such a stupid option, seeing as men can still father children in old age, whereas women go through menopause and can't (much earlier than men). A bunch of our family friends got vasectomies because their wives were pushing it on them, and it's pretty weird, because my parents guessed right. After a few years, most of the guys we knew ended up breaking off their relationship for various reasons (no more compatibility etc.) and got with someone else, and a few of the guys regretted having the vasectomy as they wanted kids with this new person. Must suck big time.
[QUOTE=_Maverick_;38703128]My GF broke up with me today, she said that our relationship was moving to fast.
which is weird because my LAST GF, broke up with me because she said our relationship is moving to slowly.
what the hell?
ah well, she was a dumb girl anyway and i mean DUMB, like.. couldn't do math dumb
well anyway she had moved in with her stuff, now she moved out she said i could keep it, sweet.[/QUOTE]
I do not see how this is a valid point of breaking up, if things go to "fast" just try to talk about it and take things slower. If the relationship is dear to her she would work on it and not abandon it. Sounds more like an excuse to me.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38704156]I do not see how this is a valid point of breaking up, if things go to "fast" just try to talk about it and take things slower. If the relationship is dear to her she would work on it and not abandon it. Sounds more like an excuse to me.[/QUOTE]
It's a cover for a total lack of communication.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38704156]I do not see how this is a valid point of breaking up, if things go to "fast" just try to talk about it and take things slower. If the relationship is dear to her she would work on it and not abandon it. Sounds more like an excuse to me.[/QUOTE]
don't get the wrong idea, it was HARDLY the perfect relationship
i wanted out of it too.
[editline]4th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=metallics;38706467]It's a cover for a total lack of communication.[/QUOTE]
quite the opposite actually, we talked all the time and had great fun
So I want to ask a girl on a date, but neither of us can drive, and i don't know what would be good. Suggestions? (age 17)
Meet up at the date place.
[QUOTE=metallics;38706467]It's a cover for a total lack of communication.[/QUOTE]
Failure to communicate or a lie to cover up a different reason. My current relationship was moving too fast for me in the beginning so I said so and we slowed down and we're still together three quarters of a year later. The end.
The moral of the story is learn how to talk to your significant other.
[QUOTE=Hana-San;38701060]I'd like to ask why.
As long as the surgeon who does this, does it properly they are all pretty much reversible now.[/QUOTE]
It's not that reversible, it isn't meant to be. After some time after having had a vasectomy many men will actually develop anti-sperm immune parts.
These numbers are getting better over the years, but it would suck to get stuck with: [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-vasectomy_pain_syndrome#Incidence[/url]
Thats an article on Post-vasectomy pain syndrome, which can be a very painful, and permanent, situation.
When the alternative of the girl getting her tubes tied, I would always advocate for that as it is less likely to have side effects of this sort.
[editline]4th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=_Maverick_;38706496]don't get the wrong idea, it was HARDLY the perfect relationship
i wanted out of it too.
[editline]4th December 2012[/editline]
quite the opposite actually, we talked all the time and had great fun[/QUOTE]
Just because you talk a lot doesn't mean you communicate with each other. The fact you don't understand that I think may be part of your problem.
Mmm, I'd never get a vasectomy... the post-surgery pain syndrome is a remarkably high risk. I had to have a dual inguinal hernia repair a couple of years back (some spots of my abdominal wall are now held together by this fancy mesh which is actually stronger now than the muscle ever was). I read and heard so much about the potential for ongoing incurable pain as a result of the surgery, either due to a nerve becoming trapped or crushed or damaged during surgery, and that scared the crap out of me.
I didn't wind up with any permanent pain, however some nerves were damaged and as a result I have a semi-numb area running down my inner right thigh - thankfully the numb area stops before it gets anywhere near my genitals but that had me extremely worried. This is just the sort of thing that can happen when you start having surgery around nerve rich areas... a vasectomy really is no different. If anything, there's more room for trouble there than anywhere else.
I'd rather be super cautious than have that kind of surgery.
not that i plan on having kids at all, but i wouldn't get a vasectomy before doing so. because then if i care about having a child that is (genetically) mine, i have to freeze a bunch of sperm for later. my uncle had to do that due to his chemotherapy causing sterility, and now he is only ever going to have 1 kid because of failure to impregnate with most of the frozen stock
basically: terrible idea
[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38702651]Guys, why is it getting worse day by day?
I was under the impression that I would miss her less with time, and I know it's only been 2 weeks and I guess I'm being silly but it's getting worse and worse each day.
I can't get to sleep at night and my motivations all shot to hell, I'm not getting my assignments done and everything is increasingly boring, each time that I speak to her and she puts off playing games hurts more each time, everything I do and all the songs I hear and all the places I go make me remember her, and the fact that we still see each other just as much but now it's different but the same is so weird, and I just don't get it guys.
I used to have a tendency to get really stressed over things, and I've realised that I'm doing all the things I used to do when I did that. I mean, it's not really the topic of this thread but it's linked because the break-up is having a knock on effect on this, but with college and the work not getting done and her on my mind I just end up feeling like everything is closing in but I never get anything done about it, I'm sitting here not doing the work.
What do you do to make it easier?[/QUOTE]
It gets better don't worry. Just get your motivations right. I recently broke up with my gf and my life hasn't been so good. Instead of thinking about her I kept myself busy with work, got a promotion a load of over time pay and all that. Just get your life sorted out. Where do you want to be in 10 years? (career wise, health) work towards that. Don't let her get to you.
I indirectly told my girlfriend that the sex with my ex was better, fuck.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;38707821]Failure to communicate or a lie to cover up a different reason. My current relationship was moving too fast for me in the beginning so I said so and we slowed down and we're still together three quarters of a year later. The end.
The moral of the story is learn how to talk to your significant other.[/QUOTE]
This couldn't be anymore true. If you always find yourself wondering what your significant other is thinking, the motivations and meaning behind their words/actions then you can definitely conclude that there's a lack of communication.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38711499]I indirectly told my girlfriend that the sex with my ex was better, fuck.[/QUOTE]
Smooth
[QUOTE=junker|154;38711499]I indirectly told my girlfriend that the sex with my ex was better, fuck.[/QUOTE]
How does anyone go about doing that? :v:
This is recoverable though if you didn't crash and burn too hard.
It's me and my girlfriend's three year anniversary this Sunday. I'm sort of already planning on just taking her to dinner but I'm curious to see if you guys have any better ideas. Suggestions please!
hey i live in a small town in california, looking for some unique date first date ideas. i want to make an impression any ideas?
*first date
[QUOTE=junker|154;38711499]I indirectly told my girlfriend that the sex with my ex was better, fuck.[/QUOTE]
Spin it into romance,
"It's nice to be with someone more my speed"
I really like the sex with my girlfriend, she is a attractive girl and I truly love her. Although sometimes she is very reluctant or hesitating when it comes to sex. She is not very active and is afraid that she might do something that I do not like. Thus making sex sometimes not that exciting, so I am not always in the mood. My girlfriend complained about it and asked my why I would not sleep everyday with her.
My ex-girlfriend was a beast, we both had great sex and it was always pretty great. Although it felt more like sports fucking instead of love.
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