[QUOTE=Vacuum;38750348]My girlfriend just broke up with me. There's been a couple times when I've done some stupid shit without really knowing why, and she kept getting mad that I don't know why I did it. I guess she's had enough. I feel so fucking lonely right now, facepunch, help me.[/QUOTE]
stop doing stupid shit
like getting caught up in arousal and disregarding sexual education
that was pretty dumb of me
[editline]8th December 2012[/editline]
but legit some relationships are fickle things you have to learn how to abide properly in, you'll lose some as you learn your way - but each one teaches you something
I'll keep trying to get her back though. I really don't want to lose her.
[QUOTE=Vacuum;38755862]I'll keep trying to get her back though. I really don't want to lose her.[/QUOTE]
Just make sure you realize when to let go. If you start bugging her about it all the time she's just gonna push you away completely and you ruin event he chance at a frendship. If she wont accept and apology and explanation it's best to just let it lie.
My boyfriend refuses to let me go now. Even though I said that I don't think this will work anymore because I'm way to hurt by him. All he said was ''give me time to think so we can meet up later, because I love you''.
Stop it.
[QUOTE=Croft;38756485]My boyfriend refuses to let me go now. Even though I said that I don't think this will work anymore because I'm way to hurt by him. All he said was ''give me time to think so we can meet up later, because I love you''.
Stop it.[/QUOTE]
let me rephrase this,
he won't accept its over. give him some time and say it to him again, if he keeps this bullshit, best way to end this is making him know you're REALLY done with this or else he'll probably follow you around the place and keep doing post breakup crap
[editline]8th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Vacuum;38755862]I'll keep trying to get her back though. I really don't want to lose her.[/QUOTE]
never invade someone's privacy like that, or you're bound to let people think you're not a trustworthy person. if you just get a urge to look when you have a chance shown to you, then you should just resist it.
now go fix things up. tell her you're sorry, and be reasonable with her.
Make him hate you? That's the worst advice I've ever heard. If the guy doesn't stop even after you tell him, and you really don't want to get back with him since he's made a habit of hurting you, just cease all contact with him.
If you make him hate you, he might pull the "poor me" card and get people to think you're nasty.
[QUOTE=loopoo;38756905]Make him hate you? That's the worst advice I've ever heard. If the guy doesn't stop even after you tell him, and you really don't want to get back with him since he's made a habit of hurting you, just cease all contact with him.
If you make him hate you, he might pull the "poor me" card and get people to think you're nasty.[/QUOTE]
only way for my brother was the hard way. his last gf was so arrogant she thought of him as a prize rather than a person. so when he said its over she wouldn't accept it, as my brother moved on, a friend of hers saw him with a girl at the mall and shit happened, but still, she never appeared again. breakups are a horrible and hard thing to deal, you just need to examine how the dude or gal reacts to stuff like this to really say how to end this.
[QUOTE=Croft;38756485]My boyfriend refuses to let me go now. Even though I said that I don't think this will work anymore because I'm way to hurt by him. All he said was ''give me time to think so we can meet up later, because I love you''.
Stop it.[/QUOTE]
i went through something similar with my ex, all you can really do is be as firm as possible about not wanting to get back with him.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38757589]i went through something similar with my ex, all you can really do is be as firm as possible about not wanting to get back with him.[/QUOTE]
exactly what I should have said. anyway, listen to guy mannly, he just gave you the ultimate tip.
I think i'm a the breaking point now, and i don't know what to do. I don't know if i want to stay or go. And he doesn't know either. He is still thinking, and i don't know how much longer it will take. I've been crying for 24 hours now, almost. And i'm incapable of leaving my bed.
[QUOTE=Croft;38767585]I think i'm a the breaking point now, and i don't know what to do. I don't know if i want to stay or go. And he doesn't know either. He is still thinking, and i don't know how much longer it will take. I've been crying for 24 hours now, almost. And i'm incapable of leaving my bed.[/QUOTE]
Look, you need to be strong about your feelings at this moment. review what happened in your relationship, see if you still think there is a point of return, if all he does is screw up everything, than its time to be firm and tell him its over. cry, because letting it in is worse, but still, think about what you really want.
[QUOTE=Dovahkiin;38767609]Look, you need to be strong about your feelings at this moment. review what happened in your relationship, see if you still think there is a point of return, if all he does is screw up everything, than its time to be firm and tell him its over. cry, because letting it in is worse, but still, think about what you really want.[/QUOTE]
Just to consider, meet up somewhere on neutral ground and say "this is what needs to be done in order for this to work. ". You're in control. I did the exact same thing and so far we're working out happier than ever before.
He says he isn't ready to meet yet...
[QUOTE=Croft;38767957]He says he isn't ready to meet yet...[/QUOTE]
1. Wait on him for his return
OR
2. You move forward.
Shit, I felt like I was being choked from the inside out until I got to meet up with her again. I made it clear that what she did was wrong and how I felt ridiculed. She's been a better girl friend this time around than before.
I know that moving may seem hard now, you'll want to sleep for ages and hope to wake up from this, but honestly, you'd feel better if you move. Chances are dudes are going to dig you, and your friends are going to be your supportive network. If not, you'll always have a friend amongst these forums to vent to.
It's kust the confusion. I don't know what i want all of a sudden.. And it is scary to see that as soon as other guys noticed my relationship was fucking up, they were instantly over me like eagles.
You should wait awhile before you head back into the ring. Granted, you're covered in eagles, you need to wipe away the previous bird residue before you can appreciate a new one.
This metaphor has taken a turn for the worst.
Yeah i know. I think all the guys sudden interest in me scares my boyfriend, because he can see that if he leaves i have options.
Hate to take the freud approach, but how does that make you feel? Do you think he's jealous or wants to be protective?
It makes me feel like he still cares. That it hurts him to think that i could be with some other guy i wanted to.
[QUOTE=blacksam;38768636]Hate to take the freud approach, but how does that make you feel? Do you think he's jealous or wants to be protective?[/QUOTE]
does it matter? she's already said that he's hurt her repeatedly, trying to get her to reconsider whether she thinks he cares isn't going to help her move on.
I really think this is where facebook is extremely cruel on relationships: in finding one, during, and post.
When finding a relationship and the other person is single I think it is okay to hit up chat and talk for a bit, but some people can be real creeps about talking on facebook.
While in a relationship it definitely feels like there are some vultures.
After the break up though it does feel kind of weird to see what you're *missing out on*.
I don't know if I am wrong in feeling that way, but we've been using facebook less and less to justify ourselves as human beings and in turn has really benefited us.
The science behind relationships and facebook is really cool though if anyone is interested
[B]Links of Love[/B]
[URL]http://www.facebook.com/notes/facebook-data-science/the-links-of-love/10150572088343859[/URL]
[B]Maintained Relationships on Facebook[/B]
[URL]http://www.facebook.com/notes/facebook-data-science/maintained-relationships-on-facebook/55257228858[/URL]
[B]Relationships and Happiness[/B]
[URL]http://www.facebook.com/notes/facebook-data-science/relationships-and-happiness/304457453858[/URL]
[editline]9th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38768650]does it matter? she's already said that he's hurt her repeatedly, trying to get her to reconsider whether she thinks he cares isn't going to help her move on.[/QUOTE]
I was under the impression she was on the fence on moving on. I apologize if that wasn't the case.
to some extent i think that is the case. however, every time she's posted in this thread about her boyfriend, it's been (the way i interpreted it at least) about him treating her badly or managing to make her feel like less of a person in one way or another.
i was in a 3 year relationship with a guy who treated me like a trophy and didn't give a damn about my feelings. we didn't treat each other well at all and i repeatedly broke up with him, but i kept going back to him and immediately regretting it. it sounds like she's in a very similar case and all i can say is that it can be very hard to leave someone who isn't treating you right when you've been with them for a long time. it's strange readjusting to being single. but in the long run, once you've had some time away from the relationship you'll realize you're better off.
[QUOTE=Croft;38756485]My boyfriend refuses to let me go now. Even though I said that I don't think this will work anymore because I'm way to hurt by him. All he said was ''give me time to think so we can meet up later, because I love you''.
Stop it.[/QUOTE]
Honestly, after reading a bit more then going back to this I don't think HE should be the one who needs time to think or to be the one figuring out if he wants to continue the relationship. Your the one who was getting hurt by him and it should be up to you if you even want to give him another chance.
she told me she was going to see her friend and got picked up by a guy, 3 hours later she comes back and i said "did you see ** then?" she said "no i just went cruising with *** to see the lights, it was great"
i dont know how to feel about this, apparently they were drifting round corners and roundabouts, nearly crashed and had a jolly good time when there's me lying in bed on the laptop expecting her to only be about 20 mins and it turns out she was fucking around with some other guy who she has been talking a lot about recently. i dunno
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;38769480]she told me she was going to see her friend and got picked up by a guy, 3 hours later she comes back and i said "did you see ** then?" she said "no i just went cruising with *** to see the lights, it was great"
i dont know how to feel about this, apparently they were drifting round corners and roundabouts, nearly crashed and had a jolly good time when there's me lying in bed on the laptop expecting her to only be about 20 mins and it turns out she was fucking around with some other guy who she has been talking a lot about recently. i dunno[/QUOTE]
What is your situation with her? dating/courting/buddies etc cause we dont all remember every post.
[QUOTE=Croft;38768649]It makes me feel like he still cares. That it hurts him to think that i could be with some other guy i wanted to.[/QUOTE]
He cares because he feel's he's losing you. Besides, he doesn't have anyone else. He felt the king of the world while he was with you, now when you're leaving he starts to think things through.
The way I see it he's been taking you for granted, and boys are very keen on it because oh are we insecure at times.
Thing is, you should take some time to let it all out of your system but still... if he was the one, you wouldn't have any second thoughts. It's not like he's gonna change because you reconsider. It doesn't work that way. Words are just easily spoken.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38769522]What is your situation with her? dating/courting/buddies etc cause we dont all remember every post.[/QUOTE]
fiance?
Had a 3 way with my girlfriend and her best friend last night.
Sorry I just had to tell somebody.
It was awesome.
How was it? I cannot imagine having one, seems so strange.
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