[QUOTE=Rhenae;38769522]What is your situation with her? dating/courting/buddies etc cause we dont all remember every post.[/QUOTE]
my gf
[QUOTE=junker|154;38770653]How was it? I cannot imagine having one, seems so strange.[/QUOTE]
Literally the best day of my life.
My girlfriend and her friend are both varsity cheerleaders.
Senior year is the best.
I want details you know :v:
[QUOTE=grr164;38770750]Literally the best day of my life.
My girlfriend and her friend are both varsity cheerleaders.
Senior year is the best.[/QUOTE]
yeah i read this one on literotica too
[QUOTE=thisispain;38770844]yeah i read this one on literotica too[/QUOTE]
I honestly had to Google that to figure out what it is.
I would never lie to my FP brethren.
I'm on the fence with the whole 'relationship' debacle and how people go about it.
To me, a healthy relationship is saying 'Hey I'll still love you, no matter what your plans are' and sticking to it. You give her the freedom to do what she thinks is best and wish her well anyway, even if her plans change and you're no longer part of them - and receiving mutual respect in regards to this.
If you maintain a healthy social life, you can remain open to moving on if another girl who is more suited to your interest appears because why shouldn't you? It's your quality of life.
There seems to be this expectation (amongst young people especially) that you immediately limit your social interaction and personal development, put everything on lockdown to solidify this relationship and stop change from occurring (as it naturally does) ..and if she even thinks of leaving you, introduce huge amounts of jealousy, hatred, bitterness and depression which instantly spoil any happy memories you may have had whilst together.
Pretty much what ScOpE said.
[QUOTE=SCopE5000;38771149]If you maintain a healthy social life, you can remain open to moving on if another girl who is more suited to your interest appears because why shouldn't you? It's your quality of life.[/QUOTE]
That's the same attitude that causes the bad blood in the first place, once people lock in with someone they should expect loyalty and be loyal in return. It isn't that someone refuses to let go just because their partner found someone 'better' out of the blue that causes bad shit to happen, more so the other way around.
Your quality of life is shared with your partner once you pick one, and you deserve all of the hatred and bitterness you get from them if you just want to move on to some other person without any valid reason besides, "they're better." The entire idea that love and romance is some big competition is half the reason why I've sworn to celibacy, it's inhibitive and a flaw in the human psyche.
[QUOTE=SCopE5000;38771149]I'm on the fence with the whole 'relationship' debacle and how people go about it.
To me, a healthy relationship is saying 'Hey I'll still love you, no matter what your plans are' and sticking to it. You give her the freedom to do what she thinks is best and wish her well anyway, even if her plans change and you're no longer part of them - and receiving mutual respect in regards to this.
If you maintain a healthy social life, you can remain open to moving on if another girl who is more suited to your interest appears because why shouldn't you? It's your quality of life.
There seems to be this expectation (amongst young people especially) that you immediately limit your social interaction and personal development, put everything on lockdown to solidify this relationship and stop change from occurring (as it naturally does) ..and if she even thinks of leaving you, introduce huge amounts of jealousy, hatred, bitterness and depression which instantly spoil any happy memories you may have had whilst together.[/QUOTE]
A person that is willing to stay and that is a real partner is the person who's willing to take care of you.
-snip-
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;38773316]Going into a relationship does not limit your social interaction and personal development, I'd say it does the opposite. I have met far more people when I was in a relationship instead of out of one, I'd also say that I've grown more as a person too.[/QUOTE]
that's what scope was saying, he meant there's a general expectation of it among young people.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38773466]that's what scope was saying, he meant there's a general expectation of it among young people.[/QUOTE]
I've somehow become shit at reading. Sorry!
Back from my girlfriend's, the weekend was great. Y'all ain't gonna believe this, but she wants to have a Die Hard marathon, and watch the movies in order! Goddamn my girl is awesome. And fuck am I tired. Very little sleep, and sex twice a day.
I had a Resident Evil "marathon" with my gf during our four day weekend.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38775567]my gf just sent me a text explaining me in detail how she wants to do me
huh, that's new[/QUOTE]
You obviously have to share it with us
Maybe one of the texts to Yahnich was his title underneath.
If so, I feel for you man..
[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;38771423]That's the same attitude that causes the bad blood in the first place, once people lock in with someone they should expect loyalty and be loyal in return. It isn't that someone refuses to let go just because their partner found someone 'better' out of the blue that causes bad shit to happen, more so the other way around.[/QUOTE]
The hatred and bitterness seems to come from this idea that she becomes your property as soon as you start officially 'going out' - that you own her, and if she leaves, well that's simply unforgivable because she's taken something from you.
[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;38771423]Your quality of life is shared with your partner once you pick one, and you deserve all of the hatred and bitterness you get from them if you just want to move on to some other person without any valid reason besides, "they're better." The entire idea that love and romance is some big competition is half the reason why I've sworn to celibacy, it's inhibitive and a flaw in the human psyche.[/QUOTE]
Once you pick one? IMO great relationships don't just consist of you 'picking one' but consist of two people mutually sharing strong emotional experiences.
Whether or not it's an 'official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship' is pretty irrelevant to me. Can I have the same experiences with someone or multiple people without making a 'super serious' yet hilariously inadequate commitment?
Yes.
As far as I'm concerned the idea of the monogamous boy/girl relationship came from Augustinian Christian writings of the 5th century where it was decided that you could strictly have one girl and only for the reason of producing a child, because material desires are meaningless compared to God (and the love you should have for him).
The idea of the woman as a 'beautiful lover/ goddess' didn't even appear until the 12th Century renaissance when it emerged in Arthurian Legend etc (Guinevere, damsels in distress) and the birthplace of romantic engagement/ courtship.
Christianity, from this, took a confused step and declared that now you must 'only have one girl' and it 'must be the one you love' - seemingly throwing away all the stuff about material attachment and only loving god because clearly the impact of the renaissance was too great to avoid. It should be clear how contradictory this statement is.
Religious or not, we all seem to still be under this 'spell' of historic influence and the subtle influences it inflicts on our society. It's absolutely incredible to see how the past has shaped our world, despite much of it being due to misunderstandings/ misinterpretation like some kind of foul chinese whispers.
I just told the girl I like, if there was a propability that she and I could get together.
She always was flirting with me, but she says she has a boyfriend.
For 8 fucking months!!!
Jezus Dick, you could have told me that before....
can't believe I actually googled that and found a wikihow
[url]http://www.wikihow.com/Know-the-Difference-Between-Love,-Infatuation-and-Lust[/url]
I am an unimaginative lout!!
[editline]10th December 2012[/editline]
I could have just told you that infatuation involves objectifying and putting someone on a pedestal, but that would have required, y'know, a second's contemplation
For me it's being able to judge a situation or the relationship objectively and with a certain degree of criticism. It's also about self-respect, not simply following or believing in everything your partner says.
[QUOTE=Marbalo;38776831]How do you differentiate between love and infatuation?[/QUOTe]
I think infatuation becomes love over time if the two of you are really compatable.
[QUOTE=grr164;38770750]Literally the best day of my life.
My girlfriend and her friend are both varsity cheerleaders.
Senior year is the best.[/QUOTE]
Want to share any tips? Other people here might have hot girlfriends with hot friends ;)
tldr
everyone experiences infatuation to some extent early on in a relationship
Infatuation is when they can do no wrong. Love is when they do wrong and you accept it.
[QUOTE=cyclocius;38781229]Infatuation is when they can do no wrong. Love is when they do wrong and you accept it.[/QUOTE]
That is actually an amazing description.
[QUOTE=grr164;38770618]Had a 3 way with my girlfriend and her best friend last night.
Sorry I just had to tell somebody.
It was awesome.[/QUOTE]
Go on...
What if you accept it from the start?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;38781469]What if you accept it from the start?[/QUOTE]
not trying to make any assumptions about you here but usually when i hear things like this it's from people new to relationships trying to glorify their emotions, like teenagers using cliche phrases like "i just want her to be happy" when they don't understand what that phrase really means
[editline]10th December 2012[/editline]
adults tend to be able to suppress emotions better so infatuation isn't always as exaggerated as we make it sound.
My girlfriend tells me a lot of stories about her family. Her family is quite weird and a disorderly. She's experiencing a lot of arguments and fights. It's even so bad that the youth welfare office offered her to pay a flat in order to live alone. Her mother is one crazy woman and I do not know what to do. My girlfriend expects me to take position and get involved into this whole drama.
I understand that if you have a relationship you have to listen and help out your partner, be there for him. But my girlfriend constantly complains on how bad her mother is and how she is a decieving bitch, the issue is that I am not that familiar with her family business to take any position. I hear stuff hear and there, but her mother was always kind to me and respected me.
But my girlfriend looks like she wants me to take position and defend her. I do not want to intrude on family business like some douche without any background whatsoever, she is kind of mad about it.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38782612]My girlfriend tells me a lot of stories about her family. Her family is quite weird and a disorderly. She's experiencing a lot of arguments and fights. It's even so bad that the youth welfare office offered her to pay a flat in order to live alone. Her mother is one crazy woman and I do not know what to do. My girlfriend expects me to take position and get involved into this whole drama.
I understand that if you have a relationship you have to listen and help out your partner, be there for him. But my girlfriend constantly complains on how bad her mother is and how she is a decieving bitch, the issue is that I am not that familiar with her family business to take any position. I hear stuff hear and there, but her mother was always kind to me and respected me.
But my girlfriend looks like she wants me to take position and defend her. I do not want to intrude on family business like some douche without any background whatsoever, she is kind of mad about it.[/QUOTE]
That's too bad for her.
Tell your gf you respect her but you won't be picking sides. That's actually kinda childish. No offence.
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