[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;38820233]I thought the whole "slut" thing was based on a body count, I never said anything about calling anyone any names. I was only asking to get schooled.[/QUOTE]
and you got schooled, idk why you want to start a fight with mannly
don't refer to women as sluts; ok?
it's based on the old stupid conception that women who aren't "modest and virginal" are filthy and unclean, don't be surprised when people take issue with it
[QUOTE=thisispain;38820361]and you got schooled, idk why you want to start a fight with mannly
don't refer to women as sluts ok[/QUOTE]
I'm not referring anyone to anything.
What's going on anymore?
I think he meant schooled as in educated, not schooled as in insulted for things he never did or showed intentions of doing. All he did was ask a silly question.
[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;38820375]I'm not referring anyone to anything.
What's going on anymore?[/QUOTE]
ugh
[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;38820375]I'm not referring anyone to anything.
What's going on anymore?[/QUOTE]
You asked how many guys does a girl have to sleep with in order to have the SLUT seal of approval.
What's your point exactly.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;38820442]You asked how many guys does a girl have to sleep with in order to have the SLUT seal of approval.
What's your point exactly.[/QUOTE]
I answered that a few posts back.
i'm tired of this let's talk about fucking
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38820162]Honestly you should tell her she is being overbearing and controlling. She sounds like kind an issue person I wouldn't want to be around at all. That sort of thing can be a real problem in a relationship especially.[/QUOTE]
I was pretty harsh to her but I was tired of being gentle. I never did anything wrong and I trusted her in every way, but she does not trust me it seems. Also arguing with that girl is quite difficult. Her arguments are "every girl is a competitor to you, every girl is like that" and when I try to give a valid argument she answers with "You are not a girl, how should you know?"
Like seriously?
She has some severe anxieties about it, it's not even funny. Her idea of me is being enclosed in a bubble and not being able to have contact with any female human. She always thinks of the worst of people. Ironically she has a friend who constantly ask her to break up with me and tries everything to get her, he is lying and provocing me at every opportunity but she accepts him as a friend. Then she makes a comparison of him and those two colleagues of mine, which makes no sense and is a completely different case.
It's hard to write all this down because it's a pretty long story and my english skills start to fail me.
[QUOTE=thisispain;38820460]i'm tired of this let's talk about fucking[/QUOTE]
perv.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38820468]I was pretty harsh to her but I was tired of being gentle. I never did anything wrong and I trusted her in every way, but she does not trust me it seems. Also arguing with that girl is quite difficult. Her arguments are "every girl is a competitor to you, every girl is like that" and when I try to give a valid argument she answers with "You are not a girl, how should you know?"
Like seriously?
She has some severe anxieties about it, it's not even funny. Her idea of me is being enclosed in a bubble and not being able to have contact with any female human. She always thinks of the worst of people. Ironically she has a friend who constantly ask her to break up with me and tries everything to get her, he is lying and provocing me at every opportunity but she accepts him as a friend. Then she makes a comparison of him and those two colleagues of mine, which makes no sense and is a completely different case.
It's hard to write all this down because it's a pretty long story and my english skills start to fail me.[/QUOTE]
it sounds like a big barrier in your relationship, and if it is you might want to consider breaking up
if she can't deal with her anxieties in a way that doesn't force you to negatively impact your life i don't see how you can continue on
[QUOTE=thisispain;38820460]i'm tired of this let's talk about fucking[/QUOTE]
Yup, I'm out of this. :v:
I believe in the idea that you can work this out, I thought of the same before but I have been through enough shit with this girl, I love her. We spent such an amazing time together, I don't want to whole relationship to die because of such an incident. Although I am afraid the this might happen in the future again. But I don't want to simply accept this and be restricted in my personal space.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38820543]I believe in the idea that you can work this out, I thought of the same before but I have been through enough shit with this girl, I love her. We spent such an amazing time together, I don't want to whole relationship to die because of such an incident. Although I am afraid the this might happen in the future again. But I don't want to simply accept this and be restricted in my personal space.[/QUOTE]
yeah i understand. maybe you can work it out, but it sounds like a pretty deep rooted fear so i don't really know how that would work out. you have to trust each other.
[editline]13th December 2012[/editline]
i think you know what to do anyway, you're just looking for some encouragement :v:
[QUOTE=DatWut?;38820511]Yup, I'm out of this. :v:[/QUOTE]
thread title: "sex, girlfriends and shit"
It doesn't say anything about boyfriends, get out Mannly
[editline]14th December 2012[/editline]
jk i luv u
[editline]14th December 2012[/editline]
and ur bf 2
damn! foiled again
Why are women so difficult to buy christmas gifts for what the fuck.
[QUOTE=JohanGS;38821427]It doesn't say anything about boyfriends, get out Mannly
[editline]14th December 2012[/editline]
jk i luv u
[editline]14th December 2012[/editline]
and ur bf 2[/QUOTE]
We have more right to be here than any of you guys! We are the subject or discussion!
By which I mean she is a girlfriend and I am shit lol only thing left is we need to have sex :v:
Why do people my age tell me to get a bitch aka a girlfriend?
Why the fuck do you want me to have one if obviously NONE of the girls in the school or in life even like me?
Sycophant teens these days. Help me out here guys.
[QUOTE=Swog;38822259]Why do people my age tell me to get a [U][B]bitch aka a girlfriend[/B][/U]?
Why the fuck do you want me to have one [U][B]if obviously NONE of the girls in the school or in life even like me[/B][/U]?
[B][U]Sycophant teens these days[/U][/B]. [I]Help me out here guys[/I].[/QUOTE]
Jesus, man. Just stop. That attitude isn't going to get you anywhere.
Tell us what is actually wrong in your life so we can help. Don't post really vague things, saying how much you hate life and everyone you know is a sycophant. You're making it quite hard to actually help.
It's also delusional, the way you're going on.
[QUOTE=loopoo;38822281]Jesus, man. Just stop. That attitude isn't going to get you anywhere.
Tell us what is actually wrong in your life so we can help. Don't post really vague things, saying how much you hate life and everyone you know is a sycophant.
It's delusional.[/QUOTE]
There's some dude on Facebook.. well I already explained it but he told me to stfu and get a bitch.
He's 12/13. For fucks sake.
I crossed the line too far, and I payed the price. That's what happened.
How can you take someone serious that says "get a bitch", jeez. Also what the fuck is going on?
Wow, your luck is terrible :v: What are the chances of making fun of a guy who has the gift your girlfriend got you? I feel sorry for you, man.
I guess all you can do is apologize, and tell her that since she got it for you, you'll love it either way. "It's the thought that counts", worth a try saying that :v: All you can do is wait it out, or get her a Christmas present that is so astoundingly good, she forgets to be mad at you.
My girlfriend's most prized possession was a VHS copy of Toy Story 2 that she had watched probably over a hundred times since her family bought it ages ago. However, recently her cat tore the tape to shreds. I get a christmas present idea. I go on eBay, find the VHS, buy it. It arrived today!
[editline]13th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Swog;38822259]Why do people my age tell me to get a bitch aka a girlfriend?
Why the fuck do you want me to have one if obviously NONE of the girls in the school or in life even like me?
Sycophant teens these days. Help me out here guys.[/QUOTE]
The people telling you to get a 'bitch' have no idea what they are talking about. They are 12.
[editline]13th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Swog;38822304]There's some dude on Facebook.. well I already explained it but he told me to stfu and get a bitch.
He's 12/13. For fucks sake.
I crossed the line too far, and I payed the price. That's what happened.[/QUOTE]
and as loopoo says, don't be vague, what's actually got you down? ladies not into your fedoras?
I sometimes feel that the best advice I can give to most people here is "break up with her/him" because in most cases, weren't the "dependence" most people are in with their relationships, I'd say that would be the cure for at least 90% of the unhappiness here. But that's only me and my opinion's worth is what it is. And obviously I have to post my reasons because "ditch that bitch" is not the best advice to give all the time.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38820011]I have some serious argument with my girlfriend. A few days my flatmate invited my neighbours to hang out at our flat, both are in our class and we knew them a little from some conversations. Anyway they came by and we had a great time. Having a couple of drinks and chatting. My flatmate was keen on one of them. Anyway they left after a while.
Then one of the girls asked me if I could install something on her pc and configure some stuff. After a day I went to her and I did everything for her, it was fairly trivial. Anyway she offered me a cup of tea and we talked about our studies. Later on I left.
I told my girlfriend about it and assured her that this is nothing to worry about, both girls are colleagues and friends, nothing more. She went batshit insane and overreacted. I can understand that this may sound a bit weird at first, but there is simply nothing to worry about. She said that I should stop visiting them. I cannot understand how she was so mad at me, I told her the whole story in the first place as a sign of trust. I could have said nothing about it, which would be far more dishonest.
I feel like my personal space is threatened, I understand that there are some limits in relationships on how far you can go. But I see no issue with visiting some friends from your class. Furthermore we are not flirting or anything, just chatting and joking around.
Besides they have boyfriends since years and are not particuarly interested in us, I immediatly noticed it.[/QUOTE]
Well, yeah, she's either jealous or she kinda feels that you pay more atention to those girls than to her. Either way, she's over reacting.
You did nothing wrong.
She's feeling that she's losing control over you which is bad for her. I think your GF's problem is the fact that she doesn't hear the words "no" and "I do what I want with my life" as often as she should.
And no, in this case there are no limits. She must understand that your space is your space and that she should have her space too instead of living from your attention.
You shouldn't fight or argue with her. Instead just stand your ground and when she orders you to stop visiting them, just say no.
Don't go all "but baby... please!" that's just a sign that she can do whatever she wants in the relationship and that's not just right.
My ex used to be like that and I started saying no more often as she tried to demand that I changed for her.
Well, not to scare you or anything and I'm not saying it will be your case, but for me, that was the main reason I broke up with her, I couldn't take it anymore.
And one thing you shouldn't do in a relationship is stop being yourself and stop doing the things and visiting the people you like. That's bigger than any relationship because a real love is a person that likes you, TRUSTS you and accepts you.
In fact, I can give you an example of my cousin. He's a biker, had a gf once that wanted him to quit riding bikes and decided it would be a good idea to try to sell his Harley Davidson and throw out all his motorbike gear.
Bad Idea, he broke up with her that instant and she never saw him again.
I used to think that was a little harsh from him to do, but now I understand he's right. She was being oppressive, and my cousin was nothing but oppressive to her.
I just don't know but some girls, damn are they so obsessed with ruling over relationships.
What I'm trying to say is:
- A relationship in which someone's always trying to rule over another is not a good relationship.
- A relationship where couples try to establish norms or rules or terms or whatever so "it may work" is not a good relationship.
- A couple that can only find romance in fancy restaurants, is not a healthy couple.
- A Boyfriend who always passes the responsibility of choice to the other person because "I don't know, I'm ok with whatever you feel like" will only get the other person used to do what she wants, and then, you no longer know what you want, and so when you finally do what you want (or what you think you want), you're not enjoying it at all.
[QUOTE=junker|154;38820011]I have some serious argument with my girlfriend. A few days my flatmate invited my neighbours to hang out at our flat, both are in our class and we knew them a little from some conversations. Anyway they came by and we had a great time. Having a couple of drinks and chatting. My flatmate was keen on one of them. Anyway they left after a while.
Then one of the girls asked me if I could install something on her pc and configure some stuff. After a day I went to her and I did everything for her, it was fairly trivial. Anyway she offered me a cup of tea and we talked about our studies. Later on I left.
I told my girlfriend about it and assured her that this is nothing to worry about, both girls are colleagues and friends, nothing more. She went batshit insane and overreacted. I can understand that this may sound a bit weird at first, but there is simply nothing to worry about. She said that I should stop visiting them. I cannot understand how she was so mad at me, I told her the whole story in the first place as a sign of trust. I could have said nothing about it, which would be far more dishonest.
I feel like my personal space is threatened, I understand that there are some limits in relationships on how far you can go. But I see no issue with visiting some friends from your class. Furthermore we are not flirting or anything, just chatting and joking around.
Besides they have boyfriends since years and are not particuarly interested in us, I immediatly noticed it.[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't go throwing it all away. What I find that works is asking questions that makes her feel ridiculous and see the situation in a different light.
"Can I not have female friends?" and "Can I not hangout with my female friends?" are good ones.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;38823008]I wouldn't go throwing it all away. What I find that works is asking questions that makes her feel ridiculous and see the situation in a different light.
"Can I not have female friends?" and "Can I not hangout with my female friends?" are good ones.[/QUOTE]
That comes off as pretty confrontational, and she will likely just validate it in some way. Also if she is anything like me it will just make her argue it more, and make her more irritated with it. It won't improve the situation and won't make her see the error in her judgement.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;38823008]I wouldn't go throwing it all away. What I find that works is asking questions that makes her feel ridiculous and see the situation in a different light.
"Can I not have female friends?" and "Can I not hangout with my female friends?" are good ones.[/QUOTE]
saying something like that just makes it seem like you don't understand her reasoning. treating her like she's stupid isn't going to make her change her mind.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38823097]That comes off as pretty confrontational, and she will likely just validate it in some way. Also if she is anything like me it will just make her argue it more, and make her more irritated with it. It won't improve the situation and won't make her see the error in her judgement.[/QUOTE]
You're probably right. I usually only say that when people are flipping shit at me.
[editline]13th December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38823119]saying something like that just makes it seem like you don't understand her reasoning. treating her like she's stupid isn't going to make her change her mind.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, you guys are right.
My other favourite solution is just talking about it.
Yesterday marked 1 year since I was dumped.
Still rocking the single thing, but i've not felt this good in a long time.
[editline]fdasf[/editline]
Its strange... 5 or so months ago when the 1 year mark of me meeting her came... I was an absolute wreck. I was closer to depression (or maybe I [I]was[/I] depressed, I don't know) then than I have been in a [I]looong[/I] time.
I was so bad I ended up hitting a turtle on the way in to work... which certainly didn't help things as I've always seen and stopped for them to help them cross. That was the first time I'd hit something with my car.
I was angry, irritable, sad, and... empty. I remained like this for several days until some event of clarity occurred and I bounced back from wherever I was. I remember thinking then about what yesterday was going to be like.
And then 11 o'clock PM passes as I'm driving out to see some friends and watch the Hobbit (great movie, BTW).
It was then that I even remembered what that day was. A rather positive sign of how far I've come, and a testament to show that no matter how much her departure from your life fucks up your head, you absolutely [I]can[/I] recover.
I also mailed out my finalized college application that day. I think its about time I started college. Gonna major in Electrical and Computer Engineering. And I know I'll meet a lot of new people along the way.
[editline]fdsaf[/editline]
Oh and I saw a meteor. That was cool. A single meteor falling in the direction I was driving.
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