Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

"I AM AN ANTI-SPERM PRO-OVUM CANDIDATE. WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GAYS?" my god, this woman is brilliant

I understand where you got that general idea of associating poor people to dumb people. I live in a city where juvenile delinquency is frequent. It's not by chance that those "delinquents" mostly come from the hoods and from poor families who in addition are pretty darn dysfunctional. And I mean alcohol problems, absent parents, ugly divorces... etc etc. However, I also have colleagues at my university (some grew up with me) who came from those hoods, were always poor during the time they lived there and now are taking the same EEE course as I am and are taking pretty good grades at it. I also had colleagues that came from really rich backgrounds who grew up to be the dumbest people I've ever known and their parents always provided them everything they needed to succeed. The thing is, people can't be reduced to statistics. We are not numbers. Human unpredictability is what makes us different from one another and what makes statistics only accurate to a certain degree. That's why most times statistics do not accurately represent reality.

And now for something more thread appropriate: my girlfriend is out of town for the weekend, and it's crazy how much I miss her.

My girlfriend did the sweetest thing today. So she's working a night shift so it would be kinda difficult for us to find some time, I get a text saying: "Hey can you call me?" So I'm all... uh yeah 2 secs. I call her and she's like "I just wanted to tell you that I miss you and I love you so much" :smile:

Why don't I have a girlfriend. I want one that I can talk to.

[QUOTE=Swog;38837647]Why don't I have a girlfriend. I want one that I can talk to.[/QUOTE] I'm starting to realize myself that if you keep questioning why you don't have a girlfriend, then you aren't trying hard enough to get one :v: Does that make sense to you guys?

[QUOTE=Swog;38837647]Why don't I have a girlfriend. I want one that I can talk to.[/QUOTE] stfu get a bitch

Swog is a melodramatic preteen.

[QUOTE=Turnips5;38835375]hey I don't mean to tread on your toes here (I was almost waiting for someone to say this, it's very common) but nobody aborts a child. people abort [I]foetuses[/I], not children. I think it's important to get the language right[/QUOTE] To some people, a foetus is still a child. [editline]15th December 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=viper shtf;38835746]And now for something more thread appropriate: my girlfriend is out of town for the weekend, and it's crazy how much I miss her.[/QUOTE] I didn't see my girlfriend since thursday morning and I already feel like I'm dying.

Aw, she answered my text and she has to work this weekend, so we decided to see if we can manage to watch some movie either next weekend or one of the coming weekdays. Atleast she said that she was happy to be asked, so even if we never so get along to watch a movie i will still feel like i gained more than i lost.

I'm now single. ''I love you just as much as I did when I first saw you. But we're on different paths in life, sp right now this can't work'' Fuckfuckfuck I'm so fucking heartbroken I've cried fo hours and I drank away my sorrows yesterday which resulted in a massive hungover

Alright guys, I know I'm kind of clogging this thread, but something has been rattling around and bothering me, and I don't want to seem like "the jealous ex" or anything but I'd like to get an outside view on this because it seems a bit off... So the timeline around my break-up goes something like this: -On the Tuesday she goes and and hangs around with an old school friend, and has a good time, nothing unusual. -Wednesday through Friday I have college and so I don't get to spend a whole lot of time with her because of time-zones etc -Saturday she goes and hangs out with one of her online friends who lives in the area, has a good time and because she's out for the day I don't get to see her much then either -Sunday she seems distant and doesn't speak to me much, we Skype but she spends a lot of it talking to the online friend -Monday I have a funeral on the other side of the country, don't get to speak to her at all -Tuesday she breaks up with me, saying it's the long distance etc, she says she wants to stay best friends and she still has feeling for me but it's not working I don't remember a whole lot from Wednesday till Monday, we didn't talk much, I had a shit week, was pretty numb -Next Wednesday is her birthday, I speak to her some, wish her happy birthday, ask how she is. She tells me that she's going to the online friends to watch a couple of films, then having a family dinner out -Thursday I try to speak with her but she can't talk much because the online friend is over Things just continue as normal for a couple of weeks, me and her talk occasionally, still act as friends, friendship is getting back on track, but she spends most of her time talking to the online friend, I get my life back together, things are looking good. And that little thought at the back of my head just bugs me, because we had always been really honest with each other and we agreed to stay really honest with each other as good friends, I've always preferred the harsh truth of a sweetened half-truth, but I can't help but think she likes him and so to spare my feelings she lied to me about the reasons we broke up, which hurts me more than simply being able to deal with her liking him more. I'm not saying I definitely think she likes him or was lying to me, like I said its just a thought that has been bugging me, and overall it doesn't make a difference at this point, but the way she's been acting about it hasn't exactly given me a great feeling.

[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38840492]text[/QUOTE] Sorry dude, but that sounds like textbook cheating.

[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38840492]Alright guys, I know I'm kind of clogging this thread, but something has been rattling around and bothering me, and I don't want to seem like "the jealous ex" or anything but I'd like to get an outside view on this because it seems a bit off... So the timeline around my break-up goes something like this: -On the Tuesday she goes and and hangs around with an old school friend, and has a good time, nothing unusual. -Wednesday through Friday I have college and so I don't get to spend a whole lot of time with her because of time-zones etc -Saturday she goes and hangs out with one of her online friends who lives in the area, has a good time and because she's out for the day I don't get to see her much then either -Sunday she seems distant and doesn't speak to me much, we Skype but she spends a lot of it talking to the online friend -Monday I have a funeral on the other side of the country, don't get to speak to her at all -Tuesday she breaks up with me, saying it's the long distance etc, she says she wants to stay best friends and she still has feeling for me but it's not working I don't remember a whole lot from Wednesday till Monday, we didn't talk much, I had a shit week, was pretty numb -Next Wednesday is her birthday, I speak to her some, wish her happy birthday, ask how she is. She tells me that she's going to the online friends to watch a couple of films, then having a family dinner out -Thursday I try to speak with her but she can't talk much because the online friend is over Things just continue as normal for a couple of weeks, me and her talk occasionally, still act as friends, friendship is getting back on track, but she spends most of her time talking to the online friend, I get my life back together, things are looking good. And that little thought at the back of my head just bugs me, because we had always been really honest with each other and we agreed to stay really honest with each other as good friends, I've always preferred the harsh truth of a sweetened half-truth, but I can't help but think she likes him and so to spare my feelings she lied to me about the reasons we broke up, which hurts me more than simply being able to deal with her liking him more. I'm not saying I definitely think she likes him or was lying to me, like I said its just a thought that has been bugging me, and overall it doesn't make a difference at this point, but the way she's been acting about it hasn't exactly given me a great feeling.[/QUOTE] Uh seems to me like you're just reading too much into it.

[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38840492]Alright guys, I know I'm kind of clogging this thread, but something has been rattling around and bothering me, and I don't want to seem like "the jealous ex" or anything but I'd like to get an outside view on this because it seems a bit off... So the timeline around my break-up goes something like this: -On the Tuesday she goes and and hangs around with an old school friend, and has a good time, nothing unusual. -Wednesday through Friday I have college and so I don't get to spend a whole lot of time with her because of time-zones etc -Saturday she goes and hangs out with one of her online friends who lives in the area, has a good time and because she's out for the day I don't get to see her much then either -Sunday she seems distant and doesn't speak to me much, we Skype but she spends a lot of it talking to the online friend -Monday I have a funeral on the other side of the country, don't get to speak to her at all -Tuesday she breaks up with me, saying it's the long distance etc, she says she wants to stay best friends and she still has feeling for me but it's not working I don't remember a whole lot from Wednesday till Monday, we didn't talk much, I had a shit week, was pretty numb -Next Wednesday is her birthday, I speak to her some, wish her happy birthday, ask how she is. She tells me that she's going to the online friends to watch a couple of films, then having a family dinner out -Thursday I try to speak with her but she can't talk much because the online friend is over Things just continue as normal for a couple of weeks, me and her talk occasionally, still act as friends, friendship is getting back on track, but she spends most of her time talking to the online friend, I get my life back together, things are looking good. And that little thought at the back of my head just bugs me, because we had always been really honest with each other and we agreed to stay really honest with each other as good friends, I've always preferred the harsh truth of a sweetened half-truth, but I can't help but think she likes him and so to spare my feelings she lied to me about the reasons we broke up, which hurts me more than simply being able to deal with her liking him more. I'm not saying I definitely think she likes him or was lying to me, like I said its just a thought that has been bugging me, and overall it doesn't make a difference at this point, but the way she's been acting about it hasn't exactly given me a great feeling.[/QUOTE] So this is an internet relationship or something? Seems so, as you didn't actually come into physical contact with her over the entire duration.

Internet-only relationships never works.

[QUOTE=Swog;38837647]Why don't I have a girlfriend. I want one that I can talk to.[/QUOTE] God why don't just get your head out of your ass and stop whining about what you don't have. Being a positive and cheerful person'll get you a lot further, seriously. Who would ever want to get together with some angsty fuckwit that just sits around all day and complains about shit. God [I]damn[/I]

I don't get these people going like OH GOD I NEED TO FIND A GIRLFRIEND AAAA. I never searched for one and my current girlfriend just came by herself and she's like the best kind of girlfriend any internet guy can hope for.

I find it harder to be in a relationship than it is to have a girlfriend. Actually I dunno if they're all insane or just the ones I tend to go for :P

[QUOTE=FamousCra;38842007]I find it harder to be in a relationship than it is to have a girlfriend. Actually I dunno if they're all insane or just the ones I tend to go for :P[/QUOTE] Both are the same?

[QUOTE=SCopE5000;38840694]So this is an internet relationship or something? Seems so, as you didn't actually come into physical contact with her over the entire duration.[/QUOTE] Oh, uh, kinda yeah. 9 months of the year it was internet only, 3 months over the summer we were inseparable. I'm UK and she's US, we were going out for 2 years.

[QUOTE=Regorc's Chest;38842154]Oh, uh, kinda yeah. 9 months of the year it was internet only, 3 months over the summer we were inseparable. I'm [b]UK and she's US[/b], we were going out for 2 years.[/QUOTE] You can not have a proper relationship with someone who is on the other side of the globe, just leave this "relationship" be. Consider her as a friend but not a girlfriend.

[QUOTE=junker|154;38842275]You can not have a proper relationship with someone who is on the other side of the globe, just leave this "relationship" be. Consider her as a friend but not a girlfriend.[/QUOTE] I agree, a relationship needs a physical aspect and being that far apart is a miracle to make work.

I miss him. I fucking hate knowing that there's no ''us'' anymore, that I won't get to wake up next to him ever again. It's so horrible having to end it with someone that you still love just as much as you did the in the begining. I'm trying to drown my sorrows in ambient black metal, rum and cigarettes. It's not helping. At all.

[QUOTE=Croft;38843448]I miss him. I fucking hate knowing that there's no ''us'' anymore, that I won't get to wake up next to him ever again. It's so horrible having to end it with someone that you still love just as much as you did the in the begining. I'm trying to drown my sorrows in ambient black metal, rum and cigarettes. It's not helping. At all.[/QUOTE] I feel your pain. I'm still in love with my ex and it hurts that I won't get to see her. But I'm glad we had broken up, unfortunately. I wasn't in my right mind, it's been a little over a month and I'm finally getting my shit together. My head was all fucked up after the first couple months, I became paranoid and increasingly dependent on her and I'm glad it's over for now. I started looking for a job, I'll be getting my first car soon, and I actually picked classes I think I'll enjoy. On my off time, when I don't have things to do, I still wish I could see her again, but recently I've tried to block that out because it only makes me feel worse. Whiskey was my choice after we broke up, it sorta helped. It helped me get my feelings out in the open, rather than being unable to explain. I still wish I was with her, or that I could be in the future. I like to be optimistic that things might become better between us and maybe even become something again, but for now, I need to focus on myself. Might help you to do the same.

[QUOTE=Croft;38843448]I miss him. I fucking hate knowing that there's no ''us'' anymore, that I won't get to wake up next to him ever again. It's so horrible having to end it with someone that you still love just as much as you did the in the begining. I'm trying to drown my sorrows in ambient black metal, rum and cigarettes. It's not helping. At all.[/QUOTE] If it makes you feel any better, at least it ended when you guys still loved each other. At least you guys aren't all bitter and full of hate.

I feel like it's an appropriate time for me to spill out my thoughts at the moment. The thought of breaking up has ran across my mind a lot during this week. Simply put it just boils down to dissatisfaction from what I have put into my relationship and what I'm getting out of it (mostly waiting). One of the main issues I have is being smothered, spending every evening together and getting a bunch of texts with a flavour of desperation when I'm spending time with my friends. Stagnation coming from her not suggesting that we spend time out and with me neither giving the suggestion or wanting to because it's usually me paying for it. And the time I wasn't paying for her part I had to wait 3 hours for her to show up when every place was closing. As I never got the feel of care from her side mine degraded too, changing from feeling guilty from her sleeping for too long and getting late for school, to; "you want to keep on sleeping? Go ahead then. And her traits that point towards that she isn't very good at making changes with herself which doesn't give a good light ahead. To top it all off I've been having someone else on my mind lately, someone whom I used to hang out with before meeting my girlfriend. Someone who can take other people better into account and whom has a more positive outlook. _____ The sex has been alright, hand jobs have had the tendency to bee a bit too rough. :rant, with all of the threads title covered

[QUOTE=Swog;38837647]Why don't I have a girlfriend. I want one that I can talk to.[/QUOTE] I don't know. If you want us to help with your search for love, you should tell us what the problem is, and what's the situation! We can't really help you too much when you won't tell us what "line" you crossed, and why you want a girlfriend so badly! The Sex, Girlfriends, and Shit thread is full of wonderful people who love to help! Just give us something to work with, and I'm sure we can help you with your problems. Just saying "Why don't I have a girlfriend." and not filling us in can't help us too much! If you still don't feel comfortable posting here, try lurking "The super friendly social Advice" Thread as well as "Fix Up! Look Sharp!" to look fancy. If you need someone to talk to I'll gladly discuss over PMs.

[QUOTE=junker|154;38842275]You can not have a proper relationship with someone who is on the other side of the globe, just leave this "relationship" be. Consider her as a friend but not a girlfriend.[/QUOTE] I know that it isn't really a relationship when were apart like we were but we got through the first time without much of a problem and so it was unexpected when she ended it after just a comparatively short time. And I do consider her a friend but not a girlfriend, since, you know, we broke up :v: [editline]16th December 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Zareox7;38842436]I agree, a relationship needs a physical aspect and being that far apart is a miracle to make work.[/QUOTE] And yeah, it was a miracle it worked when it did, but because it had before I kinda expected it to continue doing so :/

[QUOTE=Croft;38843448]I miss him. I fucking hate knowing that there's no ''us'' anymore, that I won't get to wake up next to him ever again. It's so horrible having to end it with someone that you still love just as much as you did the in the begining. I'm trying to drown my sorrows in ambient black metal, rum and cigarettes. It's not helping. At all.[/QUOTE] There's not a lot that does help. Time is the only real cure, as far as I know. I'd say: Don't mope, it just makes things worse. It's hard, but if a reconciliation is out of the picture, then you have to move on. It's hard to give specific advice because everybody's different, but if he was a big part of you, then you need to fill the void he left. Keep living. I opted for swinging wildly between staring-at-a-wall-all-day depression and desperately seeking replacement relationships with any women who had any interest in me (and with my emotional state at the time... lets just say I wasn't very successful). I seriously wouldn't recommend it. If I'd been more in control, I would've tried getting used to being single, then maybe become happy being single, then moved on.