My ex came up to me today and talked to me face to face for the first time since the breakup more than a month ago. It was strange. All the muscles in my stomach and arms felt like they were leaning forward. I wanted to hug her.
I feel like I've moved forward much more than she has since we split. She acts like she's incapable of moving on at all, and she knows it's her fault that we broke up. She apologized a lot, but I don't feel like it makes a difference. Knowing that she's guilty about it gives me a moment of pleasure, but that's awful and doesn't last anyway. Really, I'd like her to be able to find someone else, as uncomfortable as that makes me feel. I want her to acknowledge that she fucked up, but not to wallow in it or anything. I don't know. It's all weird. I know that I'm not going back, so it's not as if I need to make a decision here. I feel strangely relaxed about it.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38067540]This is gonna sound harsh but I mean it in the most helpful way possible:
You sound like my ex boyfriend, can you guess why he is my ex?[/QUOTE]
my ex actually did the exact same thing too. always threw around cliche shit like "i'll always love you no matter what happens" etc etc, none of it ever meant anything. our whole relationship was just us going through the motions even though i had no feelings toward him and he didn't really give a shit about how i felt
and then we broke up and he started posting private photos of me on the internet and talking shit about me to all his friends!
[editline]16th October 2012[/editline]
oh and the other thing is he always made me seem like i was in the wrong when he talked about me and implied i was an abusive bitch, when he was incredibly clingy and demanding the whole time i was with him. so upgrade's sob story isn't getting much sympathy from me
[QUOTE=Spirit_Breaker;38056843]Why didn't you make a move if you had hots for her for for 7 years? I don't think that you're unlucky, it's just your fault you didn't initiate anything.[/QUOTE]
Oh I tried. I tried many times.
So I need some advice..
There's this girl we had a thing from around Marcch to the end of July she we never really dated we would just spend time together when we could stayed at eachothers houses or me going to visit her at her vacation house but at most it was maybe 8-10 days out of a month because she lives about 140 miles away but her vacation spot was only about 30 (that's how I met her my neighbor has a spot too). But over the summer she had always kind of hinted at being more than friends but seeing as I was about 2 months past 21 I was more interested at chasing tail at bars. So I put that off and just gave we a lot of excuses but I digress back to my story. She even took a week off of her job to come stay with me after I wrecked my motorcycle and almost died and apparently spent everyday taking care of me when I was in the hospital and the first few days I was home. During that time I guess she told my friends and family that we were in a serious relationship and my friends knowing most of the stories about what was going on at the bar kind of told her what was really up that we were just friends and I wasn't looking for anything more. So we hung out a few more times and then she kind of gave me an ultimatum which I don't do we'll with because of my stubbornness so I told her we ha no chance of working out because of the distance. It's been about two-three months since I've seen her and I'm really regretting my decision. We have been texting on and off mostly her getting drunk and bitching me out(for "playing" and how i had hurt her feelings") and me texting her asking when I can see her. Now I think I really would like to persue a real relationship with her but I don't know if its to late she is incredibly short with me when we talk and would I just be opening an old wound with her if I told her this?
(written on my phone so sorry for misspellings)
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38070180]He should "upgrade" to a better person.
Haha. Ha.[/QUOTE]
An upgrade requires a new hairstyle *wink wink*
[editline]17th October 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Swearblocked;38071235]So I need some advice..
There's this girl we had a thing from around Marcch to the end of July she we never really dated we would just spend time together when we could stayed at eachothers houses or me going to visit her at her vacation house but at most it was maybe 8-10 days out of a month because she lives about 140 miles away but her vacation spot was only about 30 (that's how I met her my neighbor has a spot too). But over the summer she had always kind of hinted at being more than friends but seeing as I was about 2 months past 21 I was more interested at chasing tail at bars. So I put that off and just gave we a lot of excuses but I digress back to my story. She even took a week off of her job to come stay with me after I wrecked my motorcycle and almost died and apparently spent everyday taking care of me when I was in the hospital and the first few days I was home. During that time I guess she told my friends and family that we were in a serious relationship and my friends knowing most of the stories about what was going on at the bar kind of told her what was really up that we were just friends and I wasn't looking for anything more. So we hung out a few more times and then she kind of gave me an ultimatum which I don't do we'll with because of my stubbornness so I told her we ha no chance of working out because of the distance. It's been about two-three months since I've seen her and I'm really regretting my decision. We have been texting on and off mostly her getting drunk and bitching me out(for "playing" and how i had hurt her feelings") and me texting her asking when I can see her. Now I think I really would like to persue a real relationship with her but I don't know if its to late she is incredibly short with me when we talk and would I just be opening an old wound with her if I told her this?
(written on my phone so sorry for misspellings)[/QUOTE]
Well that was a mouthful. I've never been a fan of 'chasing tail at bars' I was in a relationship at 17 so when I turned 18 and could go to clubs (legally) I was never interested at hooking up with anyone. I think it's must nicer that way instead of hooking up and looking to get laid. But that's just what I think, I don't care much for clubbing.
It's obvious she cares about you a lot and you 'friendzoned' her but you have to ask yourself if you really want a relationship with her. If you do, then you should go for it, even if it is long distance. I've heard of these being successful, personally I couldn't do it.
if you don't want to be with her then that's fine too, she has to get over it. There are girls you would rather just be good friends with and there is nothing wrong with that. Heck you guys can be fuck buddies, but I don't recommend that because she does seem quite into you.
Since this is like a dating topic I feel like I should post here, so here we go.
Today when I was sitting with my best friend (I usually call him bro, since we're almost twins. 1 day apart and we almost look exactly alike, so people mix us up a lot). Today, a dude rumored that a girl liked my best friend. Does this mean, she likes both of us? I don't know who, but she sits in a table near her. It's weird about having a girl liking you when you really have a few friends. For now, I've noticed some girls are giving out signs, but I'm absolutely not certain if they do or don't. It's kind of a mix in between. I, never have dated anyone before but I don't plan on it, as I have enough stress and high workload (I'm in 3 advanced classes) so it'd be more stressing and such. Would anyone tell me this is normal thinking that if one of my best friends almost look like me, and a girl likes him, does it mean she also likes me?
I'm curious.
[QUOTE=Swog;38078659]Since this is like a dating topic I feel like I should post here, so here we go.
Today when I was sitting with my best friend (I usually call him bro, since we're almost twins. 1 day apart and we almost look exactly alike, so people mix us up a lot). Today, a dude rumored that a girl liked my best friend. Does this mean, she likes both of us? I don't know who, but she sits in a table near her. It's weird about having a girl liking you when you really have a few friends. For now, I've noticed some girls are giving out signs, but I'm absolutely not certain if they do or don't. It's kind of a mix in between. I, never have dated anyone before but I don't plan on it, as I have enough stress and high workload (I'm in 3 advanced classes) so it'd be more stressing and such. Would anyone tell me this is normal thinking that if one of my best friends almost look like me, and a girl likes him, does it mean she also likes me?
I'm curious.[/QUOTE]
No.
Well, my friend acts a little more dumber than me. So no it is. Alrighty.
[QUOTE=Swog;38078659]Since this is like a dating topic I feel like I should post here, so here we go.
Today when I was sitting with my best friend (I usually call him bro, since we're almost twins. 1 day apart and we almost look exactly alike, so people mix us up a lot). Today, a dude rumored that a girl liked my best friend. Does this mean, she likes both of us? I don't know who, but she sits in a table near her. It's weird about having a girl liking you when you really have a few friends. For now, I've noticed some girls are giving out signs, but I'm absolutely not certain if they do or don't. It's kind of a mix in between. I, never have dated anyone before but I don't plan on it, as I have enough stress and high workload (I'm in 3 advanced classes) so it'd be more stressing and such. Would anyone tell me this is normal thinking that if one of my best friends almost look like me, and a girl likes him, does it mean she also likes me?
I'm curious.[/QUOTE]
What grade are you in? Just for perspective
[QUOTE=myng;38066087]Apparently now he's suckled her tit too![/QUOTE]
I am also inclined to believe he touched her no-no square. She might've touched his dong aswell.
it's called a vagina and a penis
[QUOTE=thisispain;38079453]it's called a vagina and a penis[/QUOTE]
I used substitute words in an attempt to be funny but I guess it didn't work.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38070382]my ex actually did the exact same thing too. always threw around cliche shit like [B]"i'll always love you no matter what happens" etc etc, none of it ever meant anything.[/B] our whole relationship was just us going through the motions even though i had no feelings toward him and he didn't really give a shit about how i felt
and then we broke up and he started posting private photos of me on the internet and talking shit about me to all his friends!
[editline]16th October 2012[/editline]
oh and the other thing is he always made me seem like i was in the wrong when he talked about me and implied i was an abusive bitch, when he was incredibly clingy and demanding the whole time i was with him. so upgrade's sob story isn't getting much sympathy from me[/QUOTE]
I'm kinda ashamed to admit it but I used to be like that. Now looking back I think that I was so stupid for doing that. I feel that I should have respected me more and establish a respectable distance from that girl, but noooo... mr nice guy had to crawl.
However, now talking about it, I feel relieved knowing I'm no longer like that, and that I could respectfully withdraw from my last relationship without loosing my "gentlemanship" :eng101:
I kinda feel that nowadays, at least teenager boys from 13 to 18 tend to be more immature than girls when it comes to relationships at least I was pretty immature and most of my friends were too.
I think most of us have been in that situation at least once... certainly taught me a lesson.
The girl I've been hanging out with got mad at me the other day because she thought i tried to intentionally make her look bad in front of our JROTC teachers, so she ignored me for two days and finally i got her to talk to me. My sister told me to forget her that she was just a bitch.
Then last night she told me that i cause too much drama for her and we should stop talking, and then a little bit later in the conversation she asks me how i feel about her, i tell her and then she responds with "I'm engaged" and doesn't text back as I'm drowned in confusion.
The next morning she texts me and says "I typed 'just kidding' but it didn't send and i fell asleep, woops haha'
Then she texts me later on in the day saying she has a great idea and shes going to tell me it later on in the day, her idea is that she teaches/helps me out with my unarmed drill (for JROTC, since i'm bad at it and need to learn it) tonight.
First off, she accuses me of causing drama, but what did she do, she ignores me for two days over something i didn't do (was a miss-communication).
Then she tells me she doesn't want to talk to me anymore,
and then the next day she tells me she wants to hang out and teach me drill.
The fuck...
I really like this girl, but this is getting fucked up.
she sounds like a bit of a clot
i don't think she really knows what she's doing
guys, I convinced two twins to send me nudes together
they're going to let me fuck both of them regularly
am I doin it rite?
[QUOTE=Remscar;38080128]The girl I've been hanging out with got mad at me the other day because she thought i tried to intentionally make her look bad in front of our JROTC teachers, so she ignored me for two days and finally i got her to talk to me. My sister told me to forget her that she was just a bitch.
Then last night she told me that i cause too much drama for her and we should stop talking, and then a little bit later in the conversation she asks me how i feel about her, i tell her and then she responds with "I'm engaged" and doesn't text back as I'm drowned in confusion.
The next morning she texts me and says "I typed 'just kidding' but it didn't send and i fell asleep, woops haha'
Then she texts me later on in the day saying she has a great idea and shes going to tell me it later on in the day, her idea is that she teaches/helps me out with my unarmed drill (for JROTC, since i'm bad at it and need to learn it) tonight.
First off, she accuses me of causing drama, but what did she do, she ignores me for two days over something i didn't do (was a miss-communication).
Then she tells me she doesn't want to talk to me anymore,
and then the next day she tells me she wants to hang out and teach me drill.
The fuck...
I really like this girl, but this is getting fucked up.[/QUOTE]
girls in jrotc are weird deluded bitches 80% of the time
[editline]17th October 2012[/editline]
actually most people that take jrotc overly serious are
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38080279]depends; did this happen during your rem cycle[/QUOTE]
wtf is that
[QUOTE=fairy;38080241]guys, I convinced two twins to send me nudes together
they're going to let me fuck both of them regularly
am I doin it rite?[/QUOTE]
Teach me how panda.
[QUOTE=fairy;38080306]wtf is that[/QUOTE]
A shitty rock n roll band.
[QUOTE=Boss;38080307]Teach me how panda.[/QUOTE]
im resetfairy not panduh
[QUOTE=Remscar;38080128]The girl I've been hanging out with got mad at me the other day because she thought i tried to intentionally make her look bad in front of our JROTC teachers, so she ignored me for two days and finally i got her to talk to me. My sister told me to forget her that she was just a bitch.
Then last night she told me that i cause too much drama for her and we should stop talking, and then a little bit later in the conversation she asks me how i feel about her, i tell her and then she responds with "I'm engaged" and doesn't text back as I'm drowned in confusion.
The next morning she texts me and says "I typed 'just kidding' but it didn't send and i fell asleep, woops haha'
Then she texts me later on in the day saying she has a great idea and shes going to tell me it later on in the day, her idea is that she teaches/helps me out with my unarmed drill (for JROTC, since i'm bad at it and need to learn it) tonight.
First off, she accuses me of causing drama, but what did she do, she ignores me for two days over something i didn't do (was a miss-communication).
Then she tells me she doesn't want to talk to me anymore,
and then the next day she tells me she wants to hang out and teach me drill.
The fuck...
I really like this girl, but this is getting fucked up.[/QUOTE]
Dude shes batshit crazy, abort.
Damn, I need to get me a chick. You don't realise how slow and boring everything is when you're single. Relationships truly are the shit.
You wanna pick up all the wenches? Grab some crunchy food, and eat it slowly while staring into the desired mate's eyes. Use carrots for extreme effectiveness. Works every time.
[QUOTE=thisispain]she sounds like a bit of a clot
i don't think she really knows what she's doing
[/QUOTE]
[sp]
Both her previous relationships ended very badly
Has gotten pregnant before and had an abortion
Thinks that pulling out is contraception
Possibly bulimic (she described that she has binges/purges sometimes)
Insecure of herself (body and mentally)
Afraid to get into a relationship because she doesn't want to be manipulated like before
[/sp]
[QUOTE=W0w00t;38080257]girls in jrotc are weird deluded bitches 80% of the time
[editline]17th October 2012[/editline]
actually most people that take jrotc overly serious are[/QUOTE]
I'm the Commanding Officer of the JROTC unit, and i'm a game programmer (irony)
But i plan on attending Digipen, and not enlisting in the military.
[QUOTE=Deadman123]Dude shes batshit crazy, abort.[/QUOTE]
Everyone i have talked to online, and my sister as well, has told me to abort. But for some reason even after i tried (I told her all i wanted was sex, i was lying about that, she got mad and we fought but i apologized and told her i was lying and was sorry), i just can't... There is just something about her...
[QUOTE=Remscar;38080667][sp]
Both her previous relationships ended very badly
Has gotten pregnant before and had an abortion
Thinks that pulling out is contraception
Possibly bulimic (she described that she has binges/purges sometimes)
Insecure of herself (body and mentally)
Afraid to get into a relationship because she doesn't want to be manipulated like before
[/sp]
I'm the Commanding Officer of the JROTC unit, and i'm a game programmer (irony)
But i plan on attending Digipen, and not enlisting in the military.
Everyone i have talked to online, and my sister as well, has told me to abort. But for some reason even after i tried ([B]I told her all i wanted was sex,[/B] she got mad and we fought but i apologized and told her i was lying and was sorry), i just can't... There is just something about her...[/QUOTE]
no no no no no no no no
no no no
just leave it, abort and never talk about this again
[editline]edit[/editline]
your fucking [i]sister[/i] is telling you to abort for christs sake
also foetus joke
[QUOTE=Yahnich;38080748]you should def coathanger her[/QUOTE]
What's that?
The problem is, she has a lot of JROTC friends and she can easily spread a lot of shit about me. She sort of did when that one thing happened... However i could easily destroy her, but that's not me.
[QUOTE=Remscar;38080667][sp]
Both her previous relationships ended very badly
Has gotten pregnant before and had an abortion
Thinks that pulling out is contraception
Possibly bulimic (she described that she has binges/purges sometimes)
Insecure of herself (body and mentally)
Afraid to get into a relationship because she doesn't want to be manipulated like before
[/sp][/QUOTE]
i think she's definitely a clot
[quote]I told her all i wanted was sex[/quote]
but you don't sound particularly smart either so whatever
im sorry remscar but you're EXACTLY why i hate half the people that are in jrotc
[editline]17th October 2012[/editline]
and im sorry but you're the fucking cadet officer
carry your fucking self with some pride and respect for yourself and others if you're gonna be the topdog of your unit
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