alright, I've digested your story CanadianBill. azurelao is pretty much right, give her time to get back to you, and don't let your insides get all twisted up waiting for her to say something, because there's a decent chance she won't. if she does say something, then obviously proceed, but this is starting to sound like your opportunities with her are running very low.
you might be presented with more at some point, but like azure said, don't get too hung up on her. you've been associated with those girls for like four years now; I can't stress enough that there are [I]plenty[/I] of fish in the sea. I know you say you're pretty terribly awkward, but the good thing is that you've shown that you at least have the balls to talk to girls, and ask them out, and that's really all you need. you still have half your senior year to start talking to other people, don't be afraid to try your hand with some of them. you're already many steps ahead of most other "horrendously awkward" facepunchers that come asking for advice, so don't think you're necessarily in a bad position.
[editline]22nd December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38935003]My girlfriends religion really gets on my nerves sometimes.
For example, if I told her I was going to die, she'd just respond with "Don't worry, we'd see each other in heaven!"
And sometimes she gets sad and tells me shes sad that I might not go to heaven because I'm not a Christian.
I usually just ignore it, but it gets irritating. How do I confront her?[/QUOTE]
you can only 'confront' her to the extent that you're willing to offend her and risk losing her. she sounds obnoxious, but that's why personally I wouldn't date a Christian girl. I think there's probably bigger issues you should worry about dividing you two as far as religion goes than something as petty as her annoying you with her dumb quirks about heaven. but it also depends on how far you see yourself going with her; realistically, you can easily get past things like that if you know the relationship isn't that serious.
Well I went out on another date with her, it went really well.
I have a girlfriend now.
yay
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38935003]My girlfriends religion really gets on my nerves sometimes.
For example, if I told her I was going to die, she'd just respond with "Don't worry, we'd see each other in heaven!"
And sometimes she gets sad and tells me shes sad that I might not go to heaven because I'm not a Christian.
I usually just ignore it, but it gets irritating. How do I confront her?[/QUOTE]
I suppose accept her decision to be christian, but open her mind a little and say not all people follow religions and/or have other religions, and there are different definitions of the way people call heaven and stuff, try to keep it simple, just tell her you want her to be supportive of you, whichever religion you choose.
also tell her you love her first, just in case this turns into a fight, i don't know how she might respond to this, but you know, so think about what you're going to say.
[QUOTE=Canned Induvidual;38897424]Getting a woman into bed, when you are a long-haired strange metalhead, is like a long walk through the desert without water.[/QUOTE]
Nah man. It's just a confusion of hair that makes you think you're knee deep in a dense jungle.
Experience talking.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38935003]My girlfriends religion really gets on my nerves sometimes.
For example, if I told her I was going to die, she'd just respond with "Don't worry, we'd see each other in heaven!"
And sometimes she gets sad and tells me shes sad that I might not go to heaven because I'm not a Christian.
I usually just ignore it, but it gets irritating. How do I confront her?[/QUOTE]
Well first, think of it from her point of view. To her after you die there is an eternal and supposedly "perfect" life. it's very different from thinking there is nothing and a void first of all. Second I can see why she is concerned about that because if you think about it from her point of view she honestly believes that after you die you may be left in eternal torture in hell. Which if you care about someone is rather a worrying idea.
You have to really think about her side before you started getting annoyed at her. My mom is always pushing me to go to church and questioning my lack of belief for the same reason, she worries about me and cares. Because she honestly believes in a perfect heaven and a really shitty place for those who don't get the pass of god.
Newsflash: she broke up with me again, not sure if anybody cares, I just wanted to tell someone about this. Any tips on how to make oneself less fucking boring and annoying? Because she felt like us spending time together every week for like 1-2 days was a routine.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38936437]Cook together, go driving, try eating at different places, have sexy adventures.[/QUOTE]
We did all that (well except for driving 'cause I don't have a license yet). Could it be that she just wasn't the one? Or is it actually my fault, maybe I was just too good (I don't wanna sound big headed, just hear me out), y'know, I bought her flowers everytime we met, we had so little arguments. Could that be the problem? I've heard that girls like small arguments once in a while. Then again, that's generalizing, but I don't know.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;38935819]Well first, think of it from her point of view. To her after you die there is an eternal and supposedly "perfect" life. it's very different from thinking there is nothing and a void first of all. Second I can see why she is concerned about that because if you think about it from her point of view she honestly believes that after you die you may be left in eternal torture in hell. Which if you care about someone is rather a worrying idea.
You have to really think about her side before you started getting annoyed at her. My mom is always pushing me to go to church and questioning my lack of belief for the same reason, she worries about me and cares. Because she honestly believes in a perfect heaven and a really shitty place for those who don't get the pass of god.[/QUOTE]
This man has a point. You should also note, however, that she needs to offer him the same acceptance that he offers to her with her religious views. Just as he accepts the fact that she believes she'll be in heaven after she dies, she needs to accept the fact that he simply doesn't believe that. It's an acceptance that, although she cares about you deeply and that's why she worries about you not going to heaven, she needs to know to give you space with your beliefs. That being said, to confront her about the issue, don't make it into an argument. You're not there to bash her beliefs and she's (as far as I know) not there to bash yours. It's an understanding that both of you need to come to terms with that you have different belief systems, and while things may or may not change in the future as to both beliefs, it is where it stands present.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38936584]I'm going to assume you're young. You bought her flowers every time you met? That is definatly overkill, in my relationship of 2 years, I've bought my girlfriend 1 bouquet of flowers, and I think that was for valentines day. You can't do things like that all the time or else they get boring.
If you had a chocolate bar 3 times a day in comparison to once a year, wouldn't that one chocolate bar a year be so much sweeter than the one you eat 3 times a day? When you do something too much, it loses it's specialty-ness.
As for arguments, I don't think that'd be the problem, but it is okay and normal to have them. Me and my girlfriend don't argue that often and we work out just fine.
While every girl is different, constant presents are always bad.[/QUOTE]
It feels so great when I have someone respond to me, thank you so much.
Yeah, well I'm 17, so I guess these relationships are sort of shaping my personality, because both of my relationships (one lasted about 4 months, this one lasted over 7) have taught me and just basically made me a better person. Again, thanks for the advice, man, appreciate it.
This is honestly a messed up situation. My girlfriend came over yesterday, we chilled on my bed and watched "Drive". I gave her a couple of gifts for christmas and we chilled for a while, then she started to make out with me as usual, after a little while her hand was down my pants and she was rockin it, she started staring off into space with a strange look in her eyes and a smile on her face. She likes it when I play with her tats, so I was, as usual, but this time she grabbed my head and threw it into the pillow and kissed me, she then said "I have to go". She claimed she had no curfew that night, but she bolted so fast, leaving all her gifts and everything. I didn't even get a chance to put my shirt back on and I tried to get the door for her, and give her her shit but she bounced already..
I texted her and said "Seriously, somethings up, please tell me whats wrong". She responded with "I have a wierd question for you, why is your dick like...abnormally large haha". I was a bit flabbergasted when she said this. I made an innocent joke about protein consumption, she replied with a giggle, but she has been in incommunicado since then, and she's pretty much completely ignoring me today. DaFuq is going on.
I texted her not long after and she didn't respond, but around the same time she posted something on her FB saying: "If something happens to you, you can either let it destroy you, deal with it, or not give a damn".
I'm confused. Really confused.
Is she a virgin?
Maybe she just has deeper family problems going on etc. that she doesn't want to bring up
Has she grabbed your dick before or was that the first time?
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;38937235]This is honestly a messed up situation. My girlfriend came over yesterday, we chilled on my bed and watched "Drive". I gave her a couple of gifts for christmas and we chilled for a while, then she started to make out with me as usual, after a little while her hand was down my pants and she was rockin it, she started staring off into space with a strange look in her eyes and a smile on her face. She likes it when I play with her tats, so I was, as usual, but this time she grabbed my head and threw it into the pillow and kissed me, she then said "I have to go". She claimed she had no curfew that night, but she bolted so fast, leaving all her gifts and everything. I didn't even get a chance to put my shirt back on and I tried to get the door for her, and give her her shit but she bounced already..
I texted her and said "Seriously, somethings up, please tell me whats wrong". She responded with "I have a wierd question for you, why is your dick like...abnormally large haha". I was a bit flabbergasted when she said this. I made an innocent joke about protein consumption, she replied with a giggle, but she has been in incommunicado since then, and she's pretty much completely ignoring me today. DaFuq is going on.
I texted her not long after and she didn't respond, but around the same time she posted something on her FB saying: "If something happens to you, you can either let it destroy you, deal with it, or not give a damn".
I'm confused. Really confused.[/QUOTE]
just give her a bit of time and space.
If she has curfew I'm assuming she's young, maybe she just felt she was getting ahead of herself?
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;38937235]This is honestly a messed up situation. My girlfriend came over yesterday, we chilled on my bed and watched "Drive". I gave her a couple of gifts for christmas and we chilled for a while, then she started to make out with me as usual, after a little while her hand was down my pants and she was rockin it, she started staring off into space with a strange look in her eyes and a smile on her face. She likes it when I play with her tats, so I was, as usual, but this time she grabbed my head and threw it into the pillow and kissed me, she then said "I have to go". She claimed she had no curfew that night, but she bolted so fast, leaving all her gifts and everything. I didn't even get a chance to put my shirt back on and I tried to get the door for her, and give her her shit but she bounced already..
I texted her and said "Seriously, somethings up, please tell me whats wrong". She responded with "I have a wierd question for you, why is your dick like...abnormally large haha". I was a bit flabbergasted when she said this. I made an innocent joke about protein consumption, she replied with a giggle, but she has been in incommunicado since then, and she's pretty much completely ignoring me today. DaFuq is going on.
I texted her not long after and she didn't respond, but around the same time she posted something on her FB saying: "If something happens to you, you can either let it destroy you, deal with it, or not give a damn".
I'm confused. Really confused.[/QUOTE]
give her the dick.
wow your the first 1 to have ever said that
[editline]22nd December 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=cyclocius;38937868]If she has curfew I'm assuming she's young, maybe she just felt she was getting ahead of herself?[/QUOTE]
idk we can speculate on it all we want, but whatever personal issues shes having is obviously bothering her and trying to prod at it won't really help
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38935003]My girlfriends religion really gets on my nerves sometimes.
For example, if I told her I was going to die, she'd just respond with "Don't worry, we'd see each other in heaven!"
And sometimes she gets sad and tells me shes sad that I might not go to heaven because I'm not a Christian.
I usually just ignore it, but it gets irritating. How do I confront her?[/QUOTE]
I don't believe in God but it's cuter to say that you're going to meet her in heaven than this ([url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyD3nc7dltA[/url])
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38938585]I wish I could tell her things she wants to hear, but it's just a kick right in the self respect.
I think I'll just tell her how I feel, I know she'll understand. Then all will be well![/QUOTE]
Speaking from experience, this is the best.
I was lucky because my girl started to see reason and became atheist around the time, so there wasnt much religious differences for long.
But when there were, I just respected it as her thing and we just seperated faith from our relationship, then when we felt the same it was just another part of it.
Welp, she had a huge go at me, tried to blame everything on me and then removed me from facebook, skype, everything.
I guess that's that then. Getting the tears out of my system but I think I'll be alright... :(
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;38937235]This is honestly a messed up situation. My girlfriend came over yesterday, we chilled on my bed and watched "Drive". I gave her a couple of gifts for christmas and we chilled for a while, then she started to make out with me as usual, after a little while her hand was down my pants and she was rockin it, she started staring off into space with a strange look in her eyes and a smile on her face. She likes it when I play with her tats, so I was, as usual, but this time she grabbed my head and threw it into the pillow and kissed me, she then said "I have to go". She claimed she had no curfew that night, but she bolted so fast, leaving all her gifts and everything. I didn't even get a chance to put my shirt back on and I tried to get the door for her, and give her her shit but she bounced already..
I texted her and said "Seriously, somethings up, please tell me whats wrong". She responded with "I have a wierd question for you, why is your dick like...abnormally large haha". I was a bit flabbergasted when she said this. I made an innocent joke about protein consumption, she replied with a giggle, but she has been in incommunicado since then, and she's pretty much completely ignoring me today. DaFuq is going on.
I texted her not long after and she didn't respond, but around the same time she posted something on her FB saying: "If something happens to you, you can either let it destroy you, deal with it, or not give a damn".
I'm confused. Really confused.[/QUOTE]
Do you know if she has done anything sexual with previous partners? Maybe she was just feeling pressured to move toward sexual stuff too soon or something? (You dont have to be pressuring her she just might feel like she needs to to keep you for no good reason)
But i'm pretty much just as confused as you. She must have seen other guys dicks before to know yours is supposedly "abnormally large"??
Hey all any tips for a 20-year old engineering student? I've been going to a few parties here and there, but I'm not too interested in picking someone up at a party. At this point I just want to meet someone, but after talking with my sorority neighbor she kept saying that "no sane girl wants to date at this age". Any merit in that?
That is as stupid as a sorority
[QUOTE=ewitwins;38941046]Hey all any tips for a 20-year old engineering student? I've been going to a few parties here and there, but I'm not too interested in picking someone up at a party. At this point I just want to meet someone, but after talking with my sorority neighbor she kept saying that "no sane girl wants to date at this age". Any merit in that?[/QUOTE]
It's lies! I'm 20 and many of the girls I know are interested in forging a relationship with some guy they are interested. My girlfriend was!
Why do many girls and even guys say they are not interested in dating? Many of them feel that being in a relationship will hinder the fun that they can have in their 20s. Most people end up realizing that there is only so much fun you can have while single.
I've been slightly hung up on a girl I asked out a while ago for a few months (I'm in a relationship with someone else and it makes me feel terrible) but today I found out she's been in a relationship with another guy for a month and it kind of makes me feel free.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;38941046]Hey all any tips for a 20-year old engineering student? I've been going to a few parties here and there, but I'm not too interested in picking someone up at a party. At this point I just want to meet someone, but after talking with my sorority neighbor she kept saying that "no sane girl wants to date at this age". Any merit in that?[/QUOTE]
When I was 19 I exited out of a relationship and by the time I was 20 i was seeking a relationship with another girl and it's going swimmingly
She's from a sorority dude what do you expect
[QUOTE=ewitwins;38941046]Hey all any tips for a 20-year old engineering student? I've been going to a few parties here and there, but I'm not too interested in picking someone up at a party. At this point I just want to meet someone, but after talking with my sorority neighbor she kept saying that "no sane girl wants to date at this age". Any merit in that?[/QUOTE]
4th year Electronic Engineering student here, no tips specifically, being an engineer doesn't really change anything, just make sure you leave your lab once in a while :v
I found that joining a society/club at uni is the best, pick one that you really enjoy and invest time in it. I've been in the mountaineering club all of my uni life and it's gained me many friends (a few enemies too!) and plenty of opportunities to socialise, but more importantly it's given me something interesting to talk about. Sadly, as an engineer, the only people interested when you start talking about your course is other engineers, so just having something else to discuss makes a huge difference.
what to do with gf? watch movies, listen to music stuff like that
find stuff to do too, you can go out to eat, go to the zoo, go ice/rollerskating, bowling, arcade, walk around a city, beach, hiking, anything.
[QUOTE=JUOPPO;38946872]what to do with gf? watch movies, listen to music stuff like that[/QUOTE]
Find stuff you both like, and do that. Getting out of the house can be a good idea, it's refreshing.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;38941046]Hey all any tips for a 20-year old engineering student? I've been going to a few parties here and there, but I'm not too interested in picking someone up at a party. At this point I just want to meet someone, but after talking with my sorority neighbor she kept saying that "no sane girl wants to date at this age". Any merit in that?[/QUOTE]
Shes a sorority girl and SHE just wants to get fucked.
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