I think a great kind of love is compassion, because it motivates us to do good things like giving to charity. Romantic love is simply a means to having a deeper relationship in my opinion, on its own it does not have much importance.
Love is completely been over hyped and I hate the fact that if you say you love something more than a significant other, you're suddenly evil.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32828623]Also, why does the media teach us that love has to be directed at a person?
[B]Your love can be a cause you're devoted to or a hobby that defines your life.[/B][/QUOTE]
Excactly!
Rubs10 have you got links for this? I'd like to read about that.
Love =/= infatuation or sexual attraction. Most teens and/or preteens exhibit the latter because of hormones, but rarely does there emerge a high school relationship based on loving someone for who they are rather than how hot they are. Personally I'd much rather go out with an engaging and kind person who is mildly attractive than a hot girl who's vapid and crude but highly attractive.
I also agree with the broader message that love and sex have a seemingly inordinately high value placed on them in our society, along with attractiveness.
[QUOTE=inkystinky;32830282]Rubs10 have you got links for this? I'd like to read about that.[/QUOTE]
[url]http://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1GGGE_enUS395US395&gcx=c&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8&q=unrealistic+expectations+relationships[/url]
It's hard to find a decent story with no romance in it. Love is a part of life, but it seems to be randomly inserted into irrelevant forms of media- just like propaganda, as said above. It's becoming slightly worrisome when I see this love-centered view in things for children, such as 'princess' movies.
I never really knew what love meant until Clara died. We dated for 3 years, and after the first 4 months or so I finally told her I loved her, and god damn I did, still do; but then it just sort of became habit, loving her became a habit. You feel it yes, and you say it yes but it all becomes sort of like a second nature after a little bit. Now after she's been gone for a year I want to tell her I love her more then anything in the world, I understand now.
[quote][i]When the truth is found to be lies
and all the joys within you dies
don't you want somebody to love
don't you need somebody to love
wouldn't you love somebody to love
you better find somebody to love[/i][/quote]
[QUOTE=Lertez;32839015]I never really knew what love meant until Clara died. We dated for 3 years, and after the first 4 months or so I finally told her I loved her, and god damn I did, still do; but then it just sort of became habit, loving her became a habit. You feel it yes, and you say it yes but it all becomes sort of like a second nature after a little bit. Now after she's been gone for a year I want to tell her I love her more then anything in the world, I understand now.[/QUOTE]Is that a reference to something? Sounds familiar but I can't dig my mind on what it could be.
love isn't what is used to be, thats for sure
just look at the divorce rate
[QUOTE=AceOfDivine;32840899]Is that a reference to something? Sounds familiar but I can't dig my mind on what it could be.[/QUOTE]
No, just my experience.
[QUOTE=Corporal Yippie;32841173]love isn't what is used to be, thats for sure
just look at the divorce rate[/QUOTE]
It's not so much what it used to be but what the media are telling people what it should be, as robs said people are having far too high expectations of it.
[QUOTE=Corporal Yippie;32841173]love isn't what is used to be, thats for sure
just look at the divorce rate[/QUOTE]
The divorce rate doesn't mean a thing about love. It only means people are rejecting living the way they're expected to be. It means that people are taking the courage to make love decisions without feeling pressured by the weight of what's expected from a marriage.
[url]http://maverickib.wordpress.com/2011/06/28/just-a-little-somethin-somethin/[/url]
Infatuation drives people into thinking they're in love.
[img]http://parkyplace.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/dr-nick1.jpg[/img]
[QUOTE=Corporal Yippie;32841173]love isn't what is used to be, thats for sure
just look at the divorce rate[/QUOTE]
Divorce rates can also be explained by the fact that divorce is legal in our country and has become more accepted as a norm over time. So, people have been more willing to end their relationship and try to find a better one instead of feeling pressured by society to stay in a relationship no matter how unhappy they are. People are also able to meet other people much more easily now, so better alternatives are actually found instead of only knowing the people in your city and having to pick from them.
Maybe I should start writing down every fucking movie that I think includes 'love propaganda'. It'll be a long list.
Anyone seen the kids animation: "The frog and the princess"? I find it almost provoking how they show the love in that movie.
[QUOTE=Antdawg;32826292]Love [i]is[/i] belonging to something or someone, but it is not the only concept that belonging can be made from (for example, a person can "belong" to a group not out of love for the group, but for fear of isolation if they are not part of the group). I thought I made that rather clear?[/QUOTE]
did you just finish the english HSC? you said belonging like ten times
[url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjF932SFoCc[/url]
I think Charlie Brooker may have something on this, very interesting and funny.
I've only loved one person so far. Now the interesting part in this is I spent 15 years of my life not loving anyone (and I think 15 is a little young to get started). Now what disney movies like to force down everybody's throat is that you meet someone, it's the most beautiful day of your life, the other person is beautiful and stuff, you achieve some shit and then you start dating with that person.
Before, I thought exactly the same as the OP: medias trying to encourage youngsters to get themselves a girl (even though we see more and more homosexuality today but that's not my point) and kiss and shit. And doing it for no particular reason.
So of course I ended up getting my own love. As planned, exactly similar to me. We like the same things. We dress the same way. We have the same friends. We're both liberals. [B]We both like girls[/B].
:suicide:
Anyway, what I'm saying here, is that the popular definition of love carried by the media has too much of this "affinities" bullshit. Because there, we had so much affinities it was just not compatible. I wish I had not heard any of this bullshit to be honest.
When people discuss how women look in media (example: shopped images of women in magazines), some people argue that media couldn't possibly affect people that much. My example to counter this with is the perception of love in modern society. Media has corrupted it for so long, nobody remembers a time it was different.
Love is not some magical force between two soul mates (You only have one right person for you? LOL), it is a lot more interesting than that actually. There are the feelings, but there's also the choice you make too... a choice to love unconditionally that you have to make every day. Usually it's a pretty easy choice... but not always, and that's the part the media always misses: the strength required to love unconditionally. "In sickness and in health" is serious shit. No one ever realizes this until their wife/husband/whatever gets seriously sick/injured and they have to take care of them.
People also often confuse attraction and love.
[QUOTE=AceOfDivine;32909095]People also often confuse attraction and love.[/QUOTE]
I'm not sure I know the difference myself.
[QUOTE=Scarabix;32927819]I'm not sure I know the difference myself.[/QUOTE]
there are plenty of people I find attractive but I love my gf
huge difference
[QUOTE=Drsalvador;32816793]I'm incredibly sickened by the obsession in modern society with sex and love, I personally think it's almost got to the point where it's hindering us as a species.[/QUOTE]
Society has nearly always been focused on sex and love.
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[QUOTE=Corporal Yippie;32841173]love isn't what is used to be, thats for sure
just look at the divorce rate[/QUOTE]
If there wasn't so much stigma related to divorce then i'm pretty sure the rate would remain the same anyway.
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