• Im afraid
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If you need to talk I don't really know what to say but I lost my father back in October 2007. My situation is different though, I had lots of family to fall back in, I was only 13. I can't offer much but I promise it'll get better.
Be strong, be strong for mother.
[QUOTE=ChronoBlade;41516525]"Worse", he says. Just to clarify. Sorrow measures differently to different people. I don't know if you knew that or not, sounds like you don't...[/QUOTE] Doesn't matter who you are, there will be always someone who's had it worse, and someone who's more happy. think bill gates, he is the richest man in the world, everyone wishes to have the life he has, but there's always that homeless man you see on the street, and the starving children in third world countries that need more attention than our problems
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41519327]Doesn't matter who you are, there will be always someone who's had it worse, and someone who's more happy. think bill gates, he is the richest man in the world, everyone wishes to have the life he has, but there's always that homeless man you see on the street, and the starving children in third world countries that need more attention than our problems[/QUOTE] No one gives a fuck. Shut it already.
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41519327]Doesn't matter who you are, there will be always someone who's had it worse, and someone who's more happy. think bill gates, he is the richest man in the world, everyone wishes to have the life he has, but there's always that homeless man you see on the street, and the starving children in third world countries that need more attention than our problems[/QUOTE] What are you even trying to say? What's your point?
[QUOTE=Spirit_Breaker;41520028]What are you even trying to say? What's your point?[/QUOTE] What's the point in even explaining? I tried doing that earlier in the thread. Nobody fucking understands me, I try to help the OP but it backlashes against me somehow, and now everyone is against me?
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41520069]What's the point in even explaining? I tried doing that earlier in the thread. Nobody fucking understands me, I try to help the OP but it backlashes against me somehow, and now everyone is against me?[/QUOTE] Can you get banned again? It was so quiet when you vanished. Your "help" is laughable, if not insulting to a person in need.
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41510628]I grew up without a father. You'll get through it. Life's a harsh lesson sometimes.[/QUOTE] [URL="http://i254.photobucket.com/albums/hh97/Calliuswaffles/evilpaper.jpg"]and look where it got you[/URL]
I hope everything goes well for you OP. Even though I still have both of my parents (luckily), last year my father was diagnosed with wolf-parkinson-white syndrome, a rare heart condition that made his heart rate suddenly jump and he often ran out of oxygen and passed out. His condition was getting really bad towards the beginning of this year, and we were immigrants who had no insurance or anything for him to get a corrective surgery for the syndrome. Thankfully he managed to have his surgery done in our home country through social security. He's better now, but there was a time where I was absolutely certain he would die any day and I knew that if he did my family and my future would be completely doomed. It was the scariest time of my life. Hang in there!
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41520069]What's the point in even explaining? I tried doing that earlier in the thread. Nobody fucking understands me, I try to help the OP but it backlashes against me somehow, and now everyone is against me?[/QUOTE] Telling someone "lol get over it faget" is not the way to go, this isn't even about his father.
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41520069]What's the point in even explaining? I tried doing that earlier in the thread. Nobody fucking understands me, I try to help the OP but it backlashes against me somehow, and now everyone is against me?[/QUOTE] They understand you fine, it's you who doesn't seem to understand friend; what you don't seem to understand is that in fact you [I]don't have a fucking point and you'd be doing yourself a favor if you shut your damn trap[/I], consarn it. Everybody has heard the old tried and true whining and bitching about african children somewhere else on the globe in an argument before and failed miserably. /Throwing out steak /No starving african children around /Shrug and throw it away See what I'M trying to say here? My point lays in making your point relevant to what's going on now, and you're way off relevancy bubba. "There are people out there who have it worse" is not something you say to console someone; just because you grew up without a dad you twit doesn't mean this isn't possibly the single worst event he's ever experienced in his entire life and he doesn't have a point of reference like fucking starving african children next door to make his issues seem petty so he actually has to fucking deal with them. Never give out advice on daddy issues again, go stick your head in the mud.
[QUOTE=Sir Spicy Buns;41515594]i'm like your biggest fan ever on youtube, it's my birthday today and i'd be more than willing to chill with you talking on steam if you want to add me. I know how you feel i've lost both my parents. [url]http://steamcommunity.com/id/Fuhrer-of-pop[/url][/QUOTE] This post made me happier than any post I've read in years.
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41519327]Doesn't matter who you are, there will be always someone who's had it worse, and someone who's more happy. think bill gates, he is the richest man in the world, everyone wishes to have the life he has, but there's always that homeless man you see on the street, and the starving children in third world countries that need more attention than our problems[/QUOTE]I get what you're trying to say and yeah all that shit is terrible and they shouldn't have to live their lives that way, but honestly you come off as trying to guilt trip people.
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41510684]I was implying that there are people who had it much worse[/QUOTE] look, i know thats pretty fucking bad. A lot of my friends grew up without a father. i always thought this was one of the worst things you can experience while being a child, and i didnt even had a great relationship with my father. A friend of mine was having a hard time about this because a lot of assholes tried to have a laugh at him because he didnt have a father, yes, kids can be pretty evil. I stood up for him, not because he was my friend, because i even as a child knew that was wrong and stupid. But life can be worse, yes, so much worse. I really dont even dare to wish anyone what i had to do the night my father died. It wasnt as simple as recieving a call of some uncle telling you "i dont know how to say this, but your father has died", no, it slowly started as stomach pain, i tried to give him the pills for his blood preasure but he couldnt because he had too much saliva coming out of his mouth. He started spiting it like crazy. My mom called my uncle to go to the hospital. My father started to scream in pain and i had to hold him because he couldnt even stand by his own. As it was pretty late, he had his pijamas on, so i had to dress him up for the hospital while the saliva started becoming red and more excessive. He finally sat on a chair, holded my shoulder and in a mix of desesperation and awareness he said "this is it, take care of your mother". My mom came (she was trying to call a doctor who lives near by) and started screaming that he couldnt die and everything you say in this situations. I screamed one big and loud "fuck it" and ran outside. I got to the front garden and as i didnt have the keys for the main entrance i climbed the fucking thing, jumped and hurted my knees. Ran to the doctors house and started screaming for help so fucking loud like i never did. As there was no answer i ran in the middle of the street and jumped in front of a running car. I waved my hands screaming "stop! please!". The guy started going backwards as he may have thought i was going to robb him or something. The moment i thought about that i told him my dad was having a hearth attack (just to say something) he inmediatly got out and said "ok lets bring him here!" i jumped again, got to the house and my father was almost dead at this point. I ran to the entrance, opened it now with my keys and the guy ran inside the house (his girlfriend was inside the car). So we both grabbed my father and took him to his car. Before closing the door i told him "ill be right back ok?" and he nodded his head. My mom ran to the car but i still had to close the doors of my house. So im doing this (took me like 15 seconds) and i start hearing the guys claxon. im running to the car and i see my father with his eyes closed, a lot of fucking saliva in his mouth and my mom screaming her lungs out trying to get a response from him. The way to the hospital was the worst thing in my life. He had no pulse, my moms trying to give him air with her mouth and im screaming to him trying to get a fucking response. We even punched his chest to get some form of reaction, but no. When we got there, i jumped from the car and started screaming that my father was dying. A crew of doctors took him out of the car and got him to a room. My uncle arrives and starts asking what happened and all of that. 45 minutes in and they dont share a word with us. To be honest, i thought that with that much time they already reanimated him and that they were doing some kind of surgery or whatever, but no, the doctor came out and said that they tried to get a response but he was dead too long by the moment they recieved him. My mom collapses in pain and starts screaming. As im in this whole situation, i dont even get to cry about it because my moms fucking bad i have to hold her and console her. I do know there are things worst than this, but honestly, i dont care at this point.
[QUOTE=autodesknoob;41525020]look, i know thats pretty fucking bad. A lot of my friends grew up without a father. i always thought this was one of the worst things you can experience while being a child, and i didnt even had a great relationship with my father. A friend of mine was having a hard time about this because a lot of assholes tried to have a laugh at him because he didnt have a father, yes, kids can be pretty evil. I stood up for him, not because he was my friend, because i even as a child knew that was wrong and stupid. But life can be worse, yes, so much worse. I really dont even dare to wish anyone what i had to do the night my father died. It wasnt as simple as recieving a call of some uncle telling you "i dont know how to say this, but your father has died", no, it slowly started as stomach pain, i tried to give him the pills for his blood preasure but he couldnt because he had too much saliva coming out of his mouth. He started spiting it like crazy. My mom called my uncle to go to the hospital. My father started to scream in pain and i had to hold him because he couldnt even stand by his own. As it was pretty late, he had his pijamas on, so i had to dress him up for the hospital while the saliva started becoming red and more excessive. He finally sat on a chair, holded my shoulder and in a mix of desesperation and awareness he said "this is it, take care of your mother". My mom came (she was trying to call a doctor who lives near by) and started screaming that he couldnt die and everything you say in this situations. I screamed one big and loud "fuck it" and ran outside. I got to the front garden and as i didnt have the keys for the main entrance i climbed the fucking thing, jumped and hurted my knees. Ran to the doctors house and started screaming for help so fucking loud like i never did. As there was no answer i ran in the middle of the street and jumped in front of a running car. I waved my hands screaming "stop! please!". The guy started going backwards as he may have thought i was going to robb him or something. The moment i thought about that i told him my dad was having a hearth attack (just to say something) he inmediatly got out and said "ok lets bring him here!" i jumped again, got to the house and my father was almost dead at this point. I ran to the entrance, opened it now with my keys and the guy ran inside the house (his girlfriend was inside the car). So we both grabbed my father and took him to his car. Before closing the door i told him "ill be right back ok?" and he nodded his head. My mom ran to the car but i still had to close the doors of my house. So im doing this (took me like 15 seconds) and i start hearing the guys claxon. im running to the car and i see my father with his eyes closed, a lot of fucking saliva in his mouth and my mom screaming her lungs out trying to get a response from him. The way to the hospital was the worst thing in my life. He had no pulse, my moms trying to give him air with her mouth and im screaming to him trying to get a fucking response. We even punched his chest to get some form of reaction, but no. When we got there, i jumped from the car and started screaming that my father was dying. A crew of doctors took him out of the car and got him to a room. My uncle arrives and starts asking what happened and all of that. 45 minutes in and they dont share a word with us. To be honest, i thought that with that much time they already reanimated him and that they were doing some kind of surgery or whatever, but no, the doctor came out and said that they tried to get a response but he was dead too long by the moment they recieved him. My mom collapses in pain and starts screaming. As im in this whole situation, i dont even get to cry about it because my moms fucking bad i have to hold her and console her. I do know there are things worst than this, but honestly, i dont care at this point.[/QUOTE] If you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to PM me man, that's heavy.
Moving is one miraculous way to remedy this. You can try going somewhere with your mother (doesnt matter how shitty is the place), it will change your mindstate like magick.
[QUOTE=autodesknoob;41525020]I do know there are things worst than this, but honestly, i dont care at this point.[/QUOTE] I'm going to be honest, very few things are worse than that Very... very few
SEE A THERAPIST i cant stress this enough. people on facepunch arent going to be able to help as much as a professional can.
[QUOTE=autodesknoob;41525020] I do know there are things worst than this, but honestly, i dont care at this point.[/QUOTE] Ok, after reading that, I believe you now. That's quite an experience you had. Maybe everyone IS right, you can't measure other people's problems against your own. [QUOTE=frankie penis;41520587][URL="http://i254.photobucket.com/albums/hh97/Calliuswaffles/evilpaper.jpg"]and look where it got you[/URL][/QUOTE] That was me in 2007. I assure you that I look a lot more different (better). Why do people think it's funny to post that picture everywhere i'm in
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41510628]Nevermind this post, i try to help/give advice but it fell back against me[/QUOTE] holy shit you're still around here
Get a job fast
Your family life seem to remind me of my own, but I still have my parents. My mom 51, lost her parents in less then a year because of breast cancer, and a brain tumor, after her loss she has been smoking more then normal, and coughing. My dad 54, lost his farther when he was 19, and has pretty much never talked about him to me. He is atleast drinking 5-9 cans of beer everyday, and sleeps half the day. Thinking it could happen everyday
You should leave everything behind and settle in another state.
My father also passed away recently, just a month ago. I was 19, him 53. I posted a message on your wall. So sorry for your loss.
[QUOTE=Evil_Paper;41526422]Ok, after reading that, I believe you now. That's quite an experience you had. Maybe everyone IS right, you can't measure other people's problems against your own. That was me in 2007. I assure you that I look a lot more different (better). Why do people think it's funny to post that picture everywhere i'm in[/QUOTE]Want some actual fucking advice? Make an alt. Better yet, just get out.
[QUOTE=frankie penis;41520587][URL="http://i254.photobucket.com/albums/hh97/Calliuswaffles/evilpaper.jpg"]and look where it got you[/URL][/QUOTE] what is wrong with it? i think it is cute
[QUOTE=Pace.;41526097]SEE A THERAPIST i cant stress this enough. people on facepunch arent going to be able to help as much as a professional can.[/QUOTE] This, or at least talk to friends/family.
I know this isn't much help to you, but I send my prayers to you and your family. I'm sorry for all your loses. Good luck.
It's a hard thing, I'm close to my mother too, so I can kinda see where you're coming from. The bad part is I'm not sure how to help you. All I can suggest is to stick by her and try to be positive for her. Giving up on her is not the way to go, but I doubt you were anywhere near giving up on her, seeing how you talked about her and all that.
Holy shit Falcon this thread is a hard read... I've been going through some of the same problems although I never have had it as hard as you have man. I know you as a great video maker and a great poster here on FP. I hope you stay strong as you can man and work through this.
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