"I don't smoke" is such a bullshit excuse.
Have one of these, OP
[img]http://www.spitsnet.nl/uploaded/IMAGES/_Nieuws/Drugs/space_cake.jpg[/img]
[QUOTE=PN_Redux;25661099]No shes really loyal to me. She cares about me but I feel like an ass for pushing her away when I dont care about life.[/QUOTE]
Dude, shes cheating on you. If you're pushing her away, and you dont care. She probably doesn't either, and is pushing against your friends dick.
[QUOTE=killa101;25661316]Having a girlfriend was what used to be my motivation because I had somewhere for all of my potential effort to be put towards, but she left me and now I'm trying to find ways to create motivation out of my own terms.[/QUOTE]
Ah Im so sorry to hear that. We'll youre single again so youre free to date people again. But you say on your own so maybe get a new hobby?
Dude, ever tought about start playing music or something?
it worked for me.
[QUOTE=Richard Simmons;25661914]Dude, shes cheating on you. If you're pushing her away, and you dont care. She probably doesn't either, and is pushing against your friends dick.[/QUOTE]
If she is then tough luck on me. Also we cant hangout because her dad is a strict indian dad who doesnt like her being around guys so we have to date in secrecy. the only place we can safely see each other is at school. Thats why.
automerge....
[QUOTE=Richard Simmons;25660950]Sounds like you're the addict by denying the fact.[/QUOTE]
Your avatar is LSD-Striped. Don't start.
[QUOTE=PN_Redux;25662245]If she is then tough luck on me. Also we cant hangout because her dad is a strict indian dad who doesnt like her being around guys so we have to date in secrecy. the only place we can safely see each other is at school. Thats why.
automerge....[/QUOTE]
Damn, :saddowns:
That shit does suck...
[QUOTE=Strongbad;25662261]Your avatar is LSD-Striped. Don't start.[/QUOTE]
if you print it out, and put it on your tongue.. it contains LSD.
Murder her, it's the only way.
[QUOTE=lapsus_;25662223]Dude, ever tought about start playing music or something?
it worked for me.[/QUOTE]
I've been making music for a few months now and I'm having fun with it, but mostly I just end up getting frustrated because I can't put shit together. It's something I really have to have the patience for.
Okay so far you tell us
-bad grades
-1-2 friends
-dont do drugs
You might as well do drugs. You're already getting bad grades and you'll make more friends which, may suprise you, will do other things with you instead of smoke pot.
Start improving your grades.
Good grades = better self-esteem and mood
Better self-esteem and mood = Easier to make friends
and maybe find a hobby. Drawing or 3d modelling.
[QUOTE=killa101;25660800]17, last year of school and which is why I am concerned about grades.
[/QUOTE]
Well get those grades in order for college, right?
College can mean more friends and good memories with them, drinking stories, et cetera.
Vyvanse
Well, what do you enjoy doing? What are you good at? Have you thought about what you want to do at the end of education? Maybe finding what you really enjoy, and settling on what you'd love to do as a job should help you narrow down some activities you could undertake, whilst finding motivation in the subjects that are important to you. And, if you don't really see your friends out of school, why? If you dislike being unable to see friends out of school, maybe try and isolate the cause of distractions/obstructions.
I hope things work out for you.
I feel ya bro. Doesn't help with no self esteem either.
wait at a local freight yard and hop on a train
[QUOTE=killa101;25660800]17, last year of school and which is why I am concerned about grades.
I've been trying to do both of these, but it keeps getting put off.[/QUOTE]
If you're in your last year of high school you might as well just get through until college and make new friends there because even if you get a lot of close friends this year, many of them you will probably never see again.
If you're going to college that is.
[quote=killa101;25660703]for example, to make something that can be constructed out of common objects to mess around with or whatever.[/quote]
minecraft!!
I suggest getting into costumed vigilantism.
You get to make your own costume and name, and you get good exercise, and you get to save pretty ladies.
Learn guitar
Play on the streets for money
Buy some LEGO with your new money
Use the LEGO for fun and motivation somehow.
Go raise money for charity
[QUOTE=Richard Simmons;25661017]Your GF is probably cheating on you by now too.[/QUOTE]
Morbid jealousy (also known as delusional jealousy, or Othello syndrome) is a psychiatric disorder in which a person holds a delusional belief that their spouse or sexual partner is being unfaithful.
An affected person typically makes repeated accusations of infidelity based on insignificant or minimal evidence, often citing seemingly normal or everyday events or material to back up their claim. They may also take great pains to test their partner's fidelity, endlessly checking and re-checking mobile phones and diaries, and can go to considerable lengths to monitor their behavior and movements. This may be taken to extremes, such as "private-eye" type surveillance outside of the partner's residence or workplace, following them into the bathroom in case their partner has an illicit meeting, or even hearing the voice of the perceived lover.
Delusional jealousy can occur in either sex, and regardless of an individual's sexual orientation.
Unlike other delusional disorders, delusional jealousy has a strong association with violence and in some cases stalking behavior. At the very least affected individuals tend to be irritable, aggressive, or confrontational.
It can be found in the context of schizophrenia and delusional disorder, such as bipolar disorder, but is also associated with alcoholism and sexual dysfunction and has been reported after neurological illness.
The name "Othello syndrome" comes from the character in Shakespeare's play Othello, who murders his wife as a result of a false belief that she has been unfaithful. Recently some workers have asserted that Othello was deceived rather than deluded about Desdemona’s alleged infidelity and thus did not have ‘the Othello Syndrome’. They assert that the term is a misnomer and thus should be abandoned.
[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Morbid_jealousy[/url]
Thanks everyone, it helps to know that people are giving suggestions.
And I should thank facepunch for being there for all the times in the last five years that I had nothing better to do that sit around.
Gentlemen, I believe I have found a solution to the problems of demotivation. The answer? Candy.
I know, it sounds like a hair-brained theory, but this article on PsychologyToday.com features a piece by Kelly McGonigal that describes some of the benefits of candy.
[url]http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-willpower/201010/the-superpowers-candy[/url]
What caught my eye the most was point #2; [B]A shot of sugar can restore your willpower.
[/B][quote=Kelly McGonigal]Studies show that consuming sugar makes people perservere longer on difficult task, better able to focus, and more likely to delay gratification. Assuming candy isn't your biggest willpower challenge, a few pieces of candy corn might keep you on track.[/quote]
Another bit of evidence backing this up was that today was Wednesday, and that's when I traditionally go to my local newsagents to purchase candy, mostly chocolate. Over the last couple of days I was just sitting around the house in front of the computer, and I was a bit depressed for some unknown reason, but most importantly I wasn't working on my coursework that I needed to work on for college. But this afternoon I went to grab some stuff, and after a Snickers Duo, a Double Decker, and a rather small bottle of Irn Bru, I got to work on my Importance of Research essay, and i think i'm making good time.
Hopefully if i'm feeling indifferent tomorrow, I could just pop down to the shops, buy a candy bar, and continue to work hard.
All in all, one of the solutions to depression is simply chomping some candy. Get your blood sugar up and running, and you'll be up and running again!
Speaking of Blood Sugar, anyone remember this?
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1in7aKt-exU[/media]
And with that I conclude this post.
[QUOTE=Hanibal;25660965]make your own country in minecraft[/QUOTE]
best thing you can do
Here's a suggestion, try warming up physically for 10-15 minutes(jumping jacks, push-ups, things like that) before you sit down to do something. It'll release endorphins into your body which will improve your mood quite a bit for some time. Sometimes just being happy is more than enough motivation.
A professor at DigiPen, [url=http://www.facepunch.com/showthread.php?p=25218755]B.J. Becker[/url], does that to his students as well, and from the amount of respect the OP has given in his thread about him, I'd say it works.
Find something to do on every day of the week. That makes you not mind sitting through school because you know what awaits when you get home. Currently, I have a TV program for Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday, and I'm also working on a website, so I always look forward to the next day because of a new episode of a TV show and/or getting closer to finishing my site.
In terms of getting your grades up, you need some inspiration. Find out what kind of shithole you're likely to live in if you fail university/school, and find out how great university is by watching films and such.
I assume OP is not in possesion of a penis.
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