I didn't mean to come off as a bit of a prick, I'm sorry if I did. I was just genuinly curious how you came to the conclusion.
Ah, it's all good man, didn't mean to be hostile.
Maybe I just have a shitty experience.
It's pretty simple
text for regular talk an shit when you aint together
talk fo yo serious luvy dovy shit
better yet meet in person, if she only be texting you, it prolly aint gonna work
Both MrJazzy and Reaper33's avatars look sad about arguing with each other. And then A_Pigeon's is like "and so life goes on"
[QUOTE=Rofl my Waff;43530613]You are everybody
[editline]14th January 2014[/editline]
How long were you affected by this fear? Because that is exactly what I stated in my post. Most people with a phobia that get over it are afflicted by it for a long period of time but eventually get over it.
Why didn't you just instantly get over it?[/QUOTE]
I had my fear of rejection from the first time I asked a lady out and she said no, which was probably in elementary school I'd guess. I got over it in high school after thinking it logically through, which most people don't do, since most fears are irrational fears. I didn't get over it instantly because I wasn't thinking logically at first. It's the same way I got over my fear of spiders, I thought to myself, "What can the average spider to do me? Make me slightly itchy from a bite?"
With heights, it was, "I'd have to be an idiot and cause myself to fall from a height, which isn't always easily possible"
With swimming it was "If I just learn how to swim, I'll be fine" and I jumped into the water (with friends obviously)
Now I don't have any real fears. Use logic when you're afraid of something and you'll get over it.
[QUOTE=Naota1248;43518948]And then they never believe the j/k, and you just waltz your merry ass into the [B]friendzone[/B] and are never heard from again[/QUOTE]
stop using this term
the video was pretty funny
[QUOTE=Quark:;43550540]I had my fear of rejection from the first time I asked a lady out and she said no, which was probably in elementary school I'd guess. I got over it in high school after thinking it logically through, which most people don't do, since most fears are irrational fears. I didn't get over it instantly because I wasn't thinking logically at first. It's the same way I got over my fear of spiders, I thought to myself, "What can the average spider to do me? Make me slightly itchy from a bite?"
With heights, it was, "I'd have to be an idiot and cause myself to fall from a height, which isn't always easily possible"
With swimming it was "If I just learn how to swim, I'll be fine" and I jumped into the water (with friends obviously)
Now I don't have any real fears. Use logic when you're afraid of something and you'll get over it.[/QUOTE]
So it took you rejection to get over rejection?
Should be pretty obvious now why people have a fear of rejection if they have never tried before.
[editline]15th January 2014[/editline]
I'm glad you are an ultra logical person but sometimes phobias are just way too extreme and take more to get over. Your brain is not the same as bob or toms brain.
For example
[video=youtube;-LIbDbFs7Ak]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-LIbDbFs7Ak[/video]
[editline]15th January 2014[/editline]
How the hell do video tags work anymore?
[QUOTE=Alec W;43551916]stop using this term
the video was pretty funny[/QUOTE]
the friendzone is a real place
I've never really liked the idea of asking someone out out of the blue, I always thought I should develop some form of friendship with them. There was this one girl who I'd really come to like over a few years, then my sophomore year I thought would be the time I would speak up because sometimes I thought she was sort of reciprocating affection. Of course then it comes to a fork in the road where I could've spoken up and either been happy with her or I would've damaged that friendship. It ultimately didn't matter though, her family was moving for financial reasons and would leave that summer. At that point with a ticking clock I couldn't bear to speak up because I thought it would only be painful had she liked me or no.
To me it's not the fear of rejection, it's the aftermath.
[QUOTE=The Spike;43552414]the friendzone is a real place[/QUOTE]
it exists at my school, it is in the library and it is a place people go to meet others with the same interests
The "friend zone" is real. Liking someone who sees you as a friend happens.
Its just misinterpreted by idiot neckbeards as "I am nice to her but she won't let me stick my weewee in her FRIENDZZZZOOONED XC"
facepunch dating 101
[QUOTE=Skyward;43560900]The "friend zone" is real. Liking someone who sees you as a friend happens.
Its just misinterpreted by idiot neckbeards as "I am nice to her but she won't let me stick my weewee in her FRIENDZZZZOOONED XC"[/QUOTE]
It just being a term for when you fancy someone who doesn't fancy you back and just values your friendship sure. But it isn't when it's use is in the whole "oh man why do girls always put ME in the friend zone!" Like that one comic of a guy who is on a train, he asks a girl for her digits and she says no. The girl says "sorry I already have someone" and then it pans out to see the guy, but this time he is a fat neckbeard and it says "Yes, that must be why." or something along those terms. It's not an excuse is what I'm trying to say. It's also not a physical place of no escape. Although almost always it's just better to move on. There are ~4 billion females in the world. There is always someone else.
I don't think asking someone who's a friend out would necessarily just be 5 seconds of awkwardness. Like, I think if a friend I wasn't interested in asked me out, it there'd always be an awkward tension knowing they might want something from me that I can't really give back.
[QUOTE=Skyward;43560900]The "friend zone" is real. Liking someone who sees you as a friend happens.
Its just misinterpreted by idiot neckbeards as "I am nice to her but she won't let me stick my weewee in her FRIENDZZZZOOONED XC"[/QUOTE]
in my day we used to just call it "not interested"
unrequited love
I think the obvious mistake that puts you in the friend zone is when you agree with a girl all the time and you're too afraid to disagree on something and not having your own opinion, being too nice, etc. Not saying to be a dick, but you have to be a challenge sometimes and be your own person, not being there all the time at their beck and call. That's what causes attraction a lot of the time, wanting what you can't have. Doesn't apply all the time though, some people avoid all that mind game shit and I personally hate it but it works I guess..
FP Dating 101 now over
[QUOTE=Mr. Agree;43569749]FP Dating 101 now over[/QUOTE]
No, FP Dating 101 is "A hand works just fine you fucking loser." :v:
[QUOTE=Mr. Agree;43569749]I think the obvious mistake that puts you in the friend zone is when you agree with a girl all the time and you're too afraid to disagree on something and not having your own opinion, being too nice, etc. Not saying to be a dick, but you have to be a challenge sometimes and be your own person, not being there all the time at their beck and call. That's what causes attraction a lot of the time, wanting what you can't have. Doesn't apply all the time though, some people avoid all that mind game shit and I personally hate it but it works I guess..
FP Dating 101 now over[/QUOTE]
I think an obvious mistake is to obsess over a girl after she's turned you down. You're lucky she's even still your friend if you actually believe she's relegating you to "dating limbo" until further notice. She just didn't like you
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