[QUOTE=Aetna;51088967]What the hell is wrong with him? How do you make it to 27 without ever kissing someone?[/QUOTE]
Whoops, wrong forum to ask rhetorical questions like that. It's pretty hard kissing anyone with a gasmask on, don't poke the bees.
[QUOTE=Joazzz;51089136]i'm well on my way to that, sorry for being a huge fucking loser[/QUOTE]
I never said it makes you a loser, it just surprises me is all. I genuinely feel like if your goal is to kiss someone you can make it happen.
[QUOTE=Aetna;51088967]What the hell is wrong with him? How do you make it to 27 without ever kissing someone?[/QUOTE]
this was like me yesterday before class except i was trying to start a casual conversation.
it ended with "i'm going to sit over there now" as i backed out just like the guy after the kiss.
[QUOTE=gufu;51090480]It's okay, soldier.[/QUOTE]it's not okay and it's never going to be okay
[QUOTE=Joazzz;51091334]it's not okay and it's never going to be okay[/QUOTE]
Stay with me, damn it! We'll make it happen. That's an order!
to each their own, but it's a tad bit odd if you're 21+ and have never had physical contact with a woman that isn't immediate family. just my opinion.
[editline]23rd September 2016[/editline]
if I were in that boat, I'd do my best to get out of it. feels like the kind of situation where the longer you leave it, the harder it is to break out of your shell and conquer the fear.
[QUOTE=loopoo;51091831]to each their own, but it's a tad bit odd if you're 21+ and have never had physical contact with a woman that isn't immediate family. just my opinion.
[editline]23rd September 2016[/editline]
if I were in that boat, I'd do my best to get out of it. feels like the kind of situation where the longer you leave it, the harder it is to break out of your shell and conquer the fear.[/QUOTE]
I'm in that boat. It's a little hard to get out of it when you're out of college, unemployed, and you live in a smaller city where a lot of the girls your age are already married and/or have kids or look like their parents are brother and sister so it's kind of useless to put myself out there anyway until I at the very least find a job, and even then it seems kind of futile until I save up some money to move to a better city. Besides, I'm mostly into Indian and Middle Eastern women and there's not a lot of those around where I live anyway.
[QUOTE=loopoo;51090605]Probs not doing it right. Kissing with tongue is awesome, as long as it's not a tongue-fuck session and you're not ramming it down each others' throats. I personally prefer just biting their lower lip, I'm not hugely into the tongue stuff, but it's nice when it happens.[/QUOTE]
Or maybe we don't like it? I'm not a fan of the idea in general, and neither is he.
This thread turned into a virgin trauma group.
[QUOTE=loopoo;51091831]if I were in that boat, I'd do my best to get out of it. feels like the kind of situation where the longer you leave it, the harder it is to break out of your shell and conquer the fear.[/QUOTE]speaking from first hand experience: it's horrible. for me it's because the first time i tried to get along with a girl she backstabbed and used me, and being the sensitive little wimp i am i was left traumatized for years, i didn't want to even try to approach or make contact with anyone of the opposite sex because i was afraid they'd hurt me somehow or i'd hurt them. the latter fear is still going strong. now i've reached an age where everyone, especially if you're male, is expected to know the basics of relationships and i know nothing about any of that. things that happened early in my childhood left me severely socially impaired and bad at making contact with people, and i still don't want to talk to girls because i feel i'm extremely unattractive, and i'm afraid i might say something wrong or come across as weird, and i don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. worst of all, i'm an aspiring musician and a guitarist at that. you know that obsolete stereotype about how rock guitar players get all the women?
i can't even wank anymore because it reminds me of something i've never done, something i've never had, and something i'll in the worst case scenario never get to do or have, and i just start crying
sorry for getting so stupidly personal about this but i have to get this out of my system
[QUOTE=DrVivi;51092017]This thread turned into a virgin trauma group.[/QUOTE]it's facepunch, a gaming forum full of nerds, what the hell do you expect
[QUOTE=simzboy;51089163]Oh, god. I'm 21 and never kissed anyone. Is this the fate that awaits me?[/QUOTE] Same here. And to answer your question, [sp]yes[/sp].
[QUOTE=Joazzz;51092307]i've reached an age where everyone, especially if you're male, is expected to know the basics of relationships and i know nothing about any of that.[/QUOTE]
This is probably one of the bigger contributors to my social anxiety. Not having any experience by 25 always seems like it's some huge social taboo that is extremely off putting to people.
[QUOTE=Joazzz;51091334]it's not okay and it's never going to be okay[/QUOTE]
You'll be alright man, stuff just happens.
[QUOTE=Anderan;51092622]This is probably one of the bigger contributors to my social anxiety. Not having any experience by 25 always seems like it's some huge social taboo that is extremely off putting to people.[/QUOTE]
It's not so much social taboo (more socially weird and strange) as it is people just wanting to be with someone who will be relationship-mature (if that makes sense). I guarantee if you're 25 and you've never dated, the first time you date, you'll be acting like how most everyone acted when they were 17-18 and had their first serious relationships. People who have been through all that before don't want to go through it again when they're so much older. Maturity when it comes to sex and relationships is a big bonus.
If anyone looks back at how they behaved during their first serious relationship at 18 to how they behave now in relationships, they'd behave completely different. You'd have had the experience and maturity to iron out all the dumb shit you used to do (overly clingy, overly jealous, overly flirtatious, whatever it is) and kept the good aspects (good communication, giving each other space, letting them be their own person and not being codependent).
should of raw dawged her
[QUOTE=DrVivi;51092017]This thread turned into a virgin trauma group.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]Facepunch's guide to kissing girls[/QUOTE]
The comedic timing is outstanding
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51092709]Kissing is just a natural thing, usually you're only bad if you're trying too hard or worrying too much[/QUOTE]
or if you're too drunk to feel your own lips
is this real? this can't be real. Please
[QUOTE=Aetna;51088967]What the hell is wrong with him? How do you make it to 27 without ever kissing someone?[/QUOTE]
18 year old here: had a bad experience with a girl (kinda both our fault) at 15ish, and despite many, many crushes I never actively sought out anything afterwards and being a relatively ugly guy nobody actively sought out me. In hindsight if I'd done things differently I wouldn't be here but yeah, I am.
I guess this isn't nearly as surprising as 27 though.
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;51093006]or if you're too drunk to feel your own lips[/QUOTE]
Getting extremely drunk to hook up with someone while lacking experience in general is the worst shit ever, I've seen that so many times I developed an immunity to second-hand embarrassment, I just don't feel it now.
[QUOTE=loopoo;51092779]It's not so much social taboo (more socially weird and strange) as it is people just wanting to be with someone who will be relationship-mature (if that makes sense). I guarantee if you're 25 and you've never dated, the first time you date, you'll be acting like how most everyone acted when they were 17-18 and had their first serious relationships. People who have been through all that before don't want to go through it again when they're so much older. Maturity when it comes to sex and relationships is a big bonus.
If anyone looks back at how they behaved during their first serious relationship at 18 to how they behave now in relationships, they'd behave completely different. You'd have had the experience and maturity to iron out all the dumb shit you used to do (overly clingy, overly jealous, overly flirtatious, whatever it is) and kept the good aspects (good communication, giving each other space, letting them be their own person and not being codependent).[/QUOTE]this is the sum of all my fears right now, that i'm going to embarrass someone or make them uncomfortable, or that i'm ridiculed for being what's, essentially, a complete failure as a man
and everyone who says it's "normal" or that "it's going to be alright" or that "it happens to everyone" is lying out of their ass. i know it might be pathetic but i've contemplated suicide over this. shrinks haven't helped, they just keep telling the same "it's okay" white lie over and over again
[QUOTE=Joazzz;51092307]i've reached an age where everyone, especially if you're male, is expected to know the basics of relationships and i know nothing about any of that.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=loopoo;51092779]if you're 25 and you've never dated, the first time you date, you'll be acting like how most everyone acted when they were 17-18 and had their first serious relationships.[/QUOTE]
As someone who didn't have a relationship until 23, this is seriously the most terrifying and debilitating aspect of being an 'old' virgin. You get to not only be crushed with a kind of grief of not having experienced some of the good things about teenage years, but you also get to feel like that lack of experience is actively preventing you from making up for it.
[I]As an augmented transhuman soldier, I'm not even sure what's real anymore.[/I]
Jokes aside, I know from my instincts I won't fuck up my first kiss this bad :v:
I just have to make it happen, someday soon. Currently am trying to turn into a confident human being without too much inhibitions.
Reminds me of this
[video=youtube;U-SRcCGsBbc]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-SRcCGsBbc[/video]
But also of this :(
[url]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences_in_suicide[/url]
I refuse to believe he wasn't taking the piss. Entire timing of it was just pure comedy.
I'm 22 here and a kissless virgin. I'm at least average looking and decently smart enough, and I've had female friends and I hug friends sometimes so I'm not totally autistic or anything. I just don't socialize much and suck at furthering relationships past anything more than "okay friends" even when there might be potential. Is something wrong with me? Maybe, but from my experience everyone has something wrong with them it's a part of being human.
A piece of advice for all of you virgins and socially anxious people out there: sharpen your style (change everything: clothes, glasses, haircut, etc.). It makes the rest way easier.
Girls will be way more willing to chat with you if don't look like a potato sack.
Also makes you more confident.
I want to see a show where they conceal a bunch of socially awkward people with masks and whatnot, then make them pick their preferred person after some activities together, revealing them after the choice is made.
It would be interesting to see how temporary anonymity affected their performance.
22 never kissed or anything and i dont care
[editline]24th September 2016[/editline]
lifes easier if you dont have to worry about this kinda shit
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