Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: The amazing Egg cracking station
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I think I'm trans
I like to think I'm a cis dude but I was looking at myself in the mirror yesterday and I switched up my hair do and all I could see was a girl?
The math doesnt add up but like... idk. I was pretty content with myself until recently
The joke is the "trans girls hang out in discords" stereotype/joke
Do you feel uncomfortable as a guy? Did you prefer seeing yourself as a girl? Couldn't hurt to try talking to a specialist, see if these are just one-off doubts or something more.
Not a doctor or counsellor or anything of the sort but generally speaking people tend to have long-running issues with gender identity (not always tho, plenty of people who only found out later on in life)
I'd go see if you have any counsellors or whatever in your area who deal with transgender stuff. Even if you are not transgender I'm sure they'll be able to help you out with questions etc.
why is it some days I can see myself as a semicute girl but then others its awful?
Dysphoria and other self-image disorders literally change how the brain sees an image, and those things wax and wane with time. So it's not that you're responding differently to the same image, your visual processing centers are literally feeding you different, distorted images of yourself.
Just wanted to express these thoughts, make them concrete to better process them.
I feel like, with the exception of a few parts, my body would suit a "woman's" figure well, as if it were able to swing in another direction given the choice. My face, but also particularly my silhouette -- my shoulders and hips line up vertically and my legs have some nice curves. If i could to snap my fingers and make an instant change, i would love to embody androgyny. So, I'm frankly curious about the idea of an unfixed gender identity, but, at the same time, feel almost totally satisfied thinking of myself as cisgender now, and looking back on how i've grown into it throughout my life. Maybe i'm just romanticizing or exocitizing the idea of experimenting?
I can't really contact any counselors since I know its gonna go on my parents' health insurance and if they even suspect I belong to LGBT they'll kill me
This is my exact situation. Stay strong ;_;
Mom is insisting on having a talk with myself and my two brothers, to the point that my step father is guilt tripping me and my older brother (while positively receptive) is saying we really need to.
I just want to drop all this now. It's not gone how I want at all. I hate this.
I'm assuming you dont have a safe place to go to? This sucks though, I'm sorry you're going through all of this.
update: i discovered there's an LGBT center at school... so imma go over there on wednesday and see what's up
I live on my own - but there's just nothing I can do.
It's my family, and they're not going to let this go. I'll be told how sick and such I am by my mom.
I just want to curl up, die, and forget this all happened.
It'll get better. I think you need to talk this out with your therapist honestly and see if they can advise you with something. I feel like your older brother isn't doing this because he wants to force you into this more like your parents are doing this as well.
It's my mom to begin with whose freaking out, granted it wasn't the best time but I had to say something.
There's nothing to do. It's just my mom anyway, my dad is dead.
There's no point in me continuing.
I'm feeling the pain from it now, and it doesn't feel good. I hate it, I hate me because of it.
I feel like I have no idea what I want anymore, and am being told I don't.
Nooky I’ve said this in steam and I’ll say this again. You can’t let others decide what’s good for you and what makes you happy. That’s up to you yo.
Transistioning for you clearly made you happy. Stopping now and reversing everything because your family just doesn’t get it or is confused sucks. I don’t want you to fall for this guilt trip.
You need to be your own person here.
I come from a shitty family so I can see where you're coming from. But the fact of the matter is that this is your life and they don't get to control that. You've just started coming to terms with your identity, they don't get to take that away from you.
The fact of the matter is that if your family is mistreating you because of this then they aren't worthy of being your family. You should go to that meeting and tell them what you feel, and if they don't like it or agree with it then that's their problem.
No one ever gets to tell you what YOU are. Thats only something you're capable of.
I feel like I am in denial and it sucks butt.
like someday I look in the mirror and feel like the manliest man that ever lived and I could hug the whole world, but then for the rest of the week I feel ugly and miserable.I don't know if it is just a character i made up as a coping mechanism or I really just want to feel cute and not be strong and just enjoy cute clothes and being feminine. I told all about it to my therapist and she just dismisses it as fear (she is usually really useful but i am kinda wary of her opinion on transgenders issues because of past comments). I don't know what to believe anymore and i am scared and feel completely isolated goddammit... Sorry for the venting, probably snip this later
This so much.
My extended family is chill but almost all members of my immediate family have been nothing short of disgusting about this whole thing. Just because you are biologically related and grew up with them doesn't mean you should put up with bullshit.
so, sorry to interrupt someone else's problems (which I don't really feel comfortable weighing in on when I'm lacking context so much), but I've got a much smaller dilemma of my own.
I got a summons for jury duty a few weeks ago, and I need to call in for information on orientation tomorrow. now that it's actually bearing down so close on me, the anxiety is hitting super hard and I'm stressing out a lot.
mainly, I'm super anxious over having to formally dress up as a dude to meet the dress code, on top of just the regular garden variety anxiety over the potential of getting in actual legal trouble if I do something wrong.
is any of this valid grounds to request an excusal, or do I just have to deal with it? on the one hand, I imagine they can't really get much use out of a juror who's hyperfixated on literally everything around them except the case being tried, but on the other it's a tricky thing to prove since I'm not currently in any sort of therapy and I'm not sure if confirmation from my endo would suffice.
I mean, dress how you want. In jury selection, they typically have everyone picked out before you even get there so it's whatever. I was summoned for jury duty and didn't even get picked after sitting for an hour. I think you'll be fine regardless of how you decide to dress. If you don't feel comfortable, request to be excused and see where it takes you.
i got my first therapy appointment scheduled yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
endo is gonna hit me up tomorrow
closer to titty skittles...
i s2g missy q i'm gonna give these coins back to you >:c
also [spoiler]i'm pretty sure i' m a female. I CAN FEEL IT IN MY BONES.[/spoiler]
I wanna be a girl and that makes me a girl
just puttin that out there
I am working on my thoughts
Hi. I'm a Trans Woman who hasn't transition yet and tried to look a feminine as possible despite economic troubles.
So went to my therapist for the fifth time (i think) last week. During that, i talked to her about my mom using my deadname She told me to correct her by myself (by talking to her or probably putting a sticker). I tried but it seemed awkward and it's hard for me to try again.
Hi. All you girls are cute as hell and all you boys are handsome as hell and I wanna hug all of you! c:
i'm getting someone to draw on my face later weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
And then endo never calls me. Guess I’ll harass them on Monday again.
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