• Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: The amazing Egg cracking station
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Yeah 'male and female' are more scientific terms than they are social. Male and Female refers to sex, i.e. what junk you have when you were born, and man/woman/other is the person's gender identity and expression. While the vast majority of the human population fit into either male or female in terms of body features there are those with intersex conditions who slip through the net for that definition. For example, I identify as a woman but I was raised as a man (or boy really I was young but whatever) but I was also born with an intersex condition with female sexual organs but (mostly) external male characteristics so I don't really fit the category of 'male' or 'female' scientifically/medically speaking. I sure as hell don't want people calling me intersex/hermaphrodite. What's important is that you address the person with the correct gender identity. If you are unsure feel free to ask, so long as you're not a turd about it people won't mind. Another issue that has caused some English-only speakers some concern through misunderstanding is that several languages have no distinction between the terms of 'sex' and 'gender'. This has caused some English-only speakers in the trans community to become (unintentionally) offended as they feel they are being misgendered, when in reality it's just a simple difference between the way that languages work. My native language (Flagdog is correct but I am not Dutch) for example has no separate word for male/man or female/woman.
I'll try to respond to as much of this as I feel comfortable with. Masturbating to feminization stories isn't something I would worry about in regards to transitioning. People have their kinks, and generally speaking they stay as just kinks most of their lives. I've read a bunch of stuff about straight men getting 'bored' with 'normal porn' and going to gay porn, but they don't turn gay. I would definitely not worry about "gay and straight" in regards to transitioning, because sexuality and gender identity have nothing to do with one another. It is also perfectly fine to be turned on by wanting to be a woman. It would allow you to be sexual in a way you find appealing, so of course it would turn you on. That bullshit spewed on 4chan about AGP or whatever the fuck it is, is just that: bullshit. It has no statistical backing of any kind. Crossdressing and make-up are a nice measure to start with. Corssdressing is not a slippery slope to transitioning. Plenty of men crossdress for a sexual thrill and don't go further than that; the only reason it would make you want to do more is if you already were keen on doing so. Make-up and women's clothing are a temporary and fun way to quickly exaggerate your features to appear feminine, which can certainly help you with discovering how deep your feelings toward it really run.
I'm sorry - I didn't intend to make anybody uncomfortable - it's just I've only explored this through my sex drive, so that's the only perspective I have at the moment. This doesn't really worry me all that much - I just thought there could be some correlation between me being attracted to stereotypical "feminine" things, and my past relationships, so that's why I brought up being sexually attracted to a woman. Thanks for your input. I have a therapist I've worked with before, and they helped me out of ditch at one point, but I never really talked about, well, whatever this is
Wow corsets are surprisingly comfortable when laced up correctly. Who knew.
They sure are, I wish I had more opportunities to wear mine
Dad tricked me and isn't supportive after all.
I got to wear one for a few days in a row at a convention a few weeks ago. I had a friend who worked in the costume department in new york theater help me out with lacing it up and everything. I had worn corsets myself before, but having one properly laced up by someone who's done it many times before was great
That sucks, especially more if he was just doing it to mess with you. I hope you can find some way to continue even without him not realizing he's being a shit human being.
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they probably meant it non-specifically.
I'm from Russia. The thing is, the whole childhood aspect of it paints a certain picture that I feel I may be okay with, but the sudden realization that this is a possibility is a big shock by itself, plus it's hard to avoid thinking in the direction of "if I am trans, what will it take to get to a point (financially, infrastructuraly, you know?) where it's possible for me to transition?" And that's scary.
I did not mean to say it made me uncomfortable, just that I have no useful or valuable information, or I do not feel well enough versed on the topic to say anything.
I'm not from Russia where I assume things are way worse (actually I personally know the kid that sought asylum and got their foreign exchange program shut down. I went to school with him and my best friend had a massive crush on him before (I mean even after) finding out he was gay). I have these worries too, I feel we all do especially getting started. I think like others said you should try to escape Russia if at all possible first. I'd really hate for anything to happen to you for just trying to be yourself. Please stay safe regardless and I'll at the very least root you on. I'm sure others here have better advice on what you should actually do.
I know breast development can take a year or so to fully form, but I'm still afraid mine will be too small. I've been on medication for roughly 6 months now, and mine are still easily hidden under my shirt and probably look more like manboobs than actual breasts, even despite my skinny body.
I had some random vulgar thoughts. I am a guy and I have rather thick ass hair. Women usually have less ass hair. So that brings me to my question: Some transgender people take supplements, what does that do their arse hair?
1 year? Try like 3-5. You have tons of development time remaining still.
I don't know if any one remembers but: I felt weird about myself and couldn't really put my finger on it. I started growing out my hair, lost a little weight, bought some outfits, tried some makeup, started shaving my legs and shit. I still feel a little confused about it but like, I had a good time doing that stuff. I felt good about myself (not enough for anyone else to see tho) I feel like I just kind of want to float in the middle, and that's what I think i'm going to work towards. i don't know
Cross dressing is great!
tbh i feel weird even thinking of it like that or calling it that labels like that make me uncomfortable but maybe its just because i don't like thinking about it
Hey we're all different, ya just gotta do you.
Jesus does it really take that long? I need to measure my bust. I know I've done it before taking meds but I think I lost the numbers.
I'm not transgender, and I don't have a hormonal issue that would require HRT. I'm not after hair removal either, I'm being inquisitive. Another hair question that came to mind: Some people who are FtM take testosterone supplements. Does this make them go bald in the long term?
Oh, you are just curious. Baldness is not a uniquely male trait, but when it is testosterone is usually the cause. I've never heard of transmen going through male pattern baldness, because they wouldn't have the chromosome with the genetic trait on it as far as I can figure.
Anecdotally, I've never heard of this happening.
This has been answered but the most common and 'basic' combination of MtF hormone replace therapy consists of estrogen and an anti-androgen to suppress testosterone (normally spironolactone in the West). Most (but not all) forms of male pattern baldness are linked to male hormones and quite often people who start MtF HRT find that their scalp hair loss either stops after some time or otherwise slows down considerably. Sometimes a drug called finasteride is used in MtF HRT either as an alternative to AAs like spironolactone or used in addition to other AAs, because it is fairly weak as an AA it is usually used alongside other drugs. Finasteride in particular is very effective for combatting scalp hair loss, but finasteride also has the effect of loss of body hair because it supresses a male hormone called dihydrotestosterone (DHT) that is responsible for stimulating growth of body hair which starts falling/thinning within about 3 months or so. Most people who go for MtF HRT and use finasteride will probably still want to seek out laser or electrolysis treatment for complete removal but it's the most effective drug for body hair loss currently in general medically approved use that retains scalp hair. It has only a very mild effect on facial hair however and the eventual answer to removing this is just laser or electrolysis.
I moved from Wiltshire to Wales and I'm pretty sure now being treated by NHS Wales has probably put me even further back in the queue, thanks to different funding :c On the bright side and an unrelated note, last night I realised I've gone from being a quiet, nervous drunk to being approached by women in clubs and having long heart-to-hearts I love it and it feels so much more like the actual me!
It's so wonderful and validating!!
Shared my interest in crossgender stuff (and other recent realizations) with a friend, got help with choosing types of clothes, shoes and wigs to try out. It was generally a great experience. Also googled around, and read that a bunch of people had intense reactions to seeing gender-swapped neural network edits of themselves using FaceApp, not just me. But quite a few people reported not really recognizing themselves, while I mostly looked, well, like myself? I should try making more direct comparisons between photos, I've been told I have a feminine face before, but it's hard to believe the app doesn't change get facial structure. In either case, the images do make me feel quite good
Had my final NHS IPL session today, went in a skirt and a cute shirt had a couple of stares but it was worth it
One of my siblings just recently came out as transgender to me and my other siblings. Is it normal if they say "I decided to be a guy/girl" as opposed to something along the lines of "I want to let you know that I've been mentally a guy/girl this entire time."? Granted, it was my other brother who announced this in those words rather than the sibling that came out as trans. Also, I was keeping the gender of this sibling ambiguous so that no one happens to find out about their identity by chance.
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