• Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: The amazing Egg cracking station
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What is wrong with wanting to be a guy or girl?
Nothing I guess. I was just under the impression that being trans was something you were born with rather than something you decide to be.
Some people don't feel uncomfortable in their body... They just feel more comfortable as the other gender. Also, it is a very stressful and sometimes even dangerous thing telling your family. I would not worry about wording.
How do you feel IPL works? I've had mixed reports from being who have undergone it (assuming you are doing this for hair removal) and generally come out pretty negative. Right now I shave to an inch of my life twice a day and I'm pretty good at using makeup and concealer but it still would be nice not to have to deal with that shit. I know the NHS now offers hair removal and while NHS guidelines state hair removal should be the first thing done before socially transitioning, I was told I had to socially transition first when I lived in Scotland. I don't live in Scotland now anyway so it doesn't really matter.
I go through Sandyford in Glasgow and I've never been asked to perform rle I'm really surprised to hear that but I was also refered when I was around 16/17 by another therapist. My ipl sessions went decently, I still shave every morning but most of my hair is now around my chin, grows a lot thinner and slower but i cant really tell if my dysphoria makes me see myself with a shadow or if I actually do have a shadow so I usually wear a small amount of make up to help. To be honest I'm surprised at how well it worked considering I'm very pale and my hair was a gingery/brown Im still probably going to try afford laser since it seems a little more permanent.
I was also with Sandyford clinic, still technically am because they won't remove me from their books even though I don't live in Scotland though I do go back quite often to visit. I go private with a Dutch doctor at the moment which has been alright. Not amazing but I don't have any real complaints although sadly hair removal is not covered here. I've been getting away with shaving and applying this kinda hair inhibitor spray afterwards. It stings like hell but does make hair grow back ever so slightly slower and fairer. Combined with makeup (I only use makeup to hide masculine features, don't really care about anything else really) it conceals it fairly decently but it's still a bit of a pain. I might look into IPL since there is a few clinics in my town here that do it that I can afford, so thanks for your input.
no worries~! I'm trying to get in contact with the hospital legal team to get a hold of the photo they took before my first session, mainly for my timeline collage but I wouldn't mind posting the differences here too if you'd like to see them if I can get a hold of it
Definitely start with the face like Clovis said! It was one of the few main focuses of my dysphoria as its like, the most visible, so it feels great having to worry about it so much less. Now just need to sort out SRS, body hair and voice (maybe making progress on that though? Might post a clip on discord at some point) Keep your eyes peeled for offers too, the SK:N clinic in Cardiff often has 60+% off!
Basically in terms of clinical hair removal (as opposed to basic stuff like shaving/waxing etc.) in terms of effectiveness is goes IPL>Laser>Electrolysis. At the moment Electrolysis is pretty much the gold standard in hair removal as it can permanently remove hair to a far greater degree than laser and IPL, although it is much more uncomfortable and a lot more expensive. Generally the further up the scale you get the more facial hair gets suppressed from growing in the future, electrolysis ultimately just kills the entire hair so there's no way it's gonna grow. The downside to that is pain/discomfort, money and time. I've heard about vaniqa and tried it myself; sadly I can't really report on it's effectiveness as I had a skin reaction to it so couldn't use it. To be careful though as it does not actually permanently kill hairs; when you stop applying it it stops becoming effective. That being said, while I have heard it can take several months to start to see effects, it does end up preventing a lot of hair from growing and the people I've talked to who use it say it works well for them. I know some people who used vaniqa as a stopgap while looking for electrolysis.
My doctor had told me that the effects were not permanent (as in, you won't get hair growth after a while of using it but you need to keep using it). There is people out there who are fortunate enough for vaniqa to work well enough that they don't need to seek out laser or electrolysis provided they keep using it, although a lot of people use it between sessions of laser/electrolysis.
Probably not practical or feasible to everyone, especially since everyone's body different and all that, but to anyone who find IPL or similar treatments costly at the moment, consider sugaring, waxing, tweezing and/or an epilator if shaving just goes by too fast. They can be painful but it's worth it especially after the first time once you get used to it. Dab some warm water to the area where you're going to remove hair first to soften and relax the skin and make it easier to remove hair. I started with sugaring to cover larger areas, then proceeded to use an epilator, then once the hair growth has gone significantly slower and softer, I only have to use tweezers now every odd week or so (sometimes a month before any noticeable hair pops up again) and I'm pretty much hair free both facial and body.
my IPL doc told me about a creme I can get from my GP to help with hair growth but it can also cause your skin to break out.. only thing is I can't for the life of my remember the name of the stuff, all i remember is that it started with a "va", vasa-something. Gonna ask my gp either way. Also voice therapy is amazing???? everything is happening so quickly, im kinda nervous but i got this <3
Got a couple of skirts, blouses and dresses. I kind of like it, but that's not exactly a surprise to me (never did it before, but after deciding to "figure myself out" bought some stuff). I guess I kind of hoped everything would just clear up once I tried crossdressing, lol. Don't have makeup or a wig yet, but I'm okay with what I have so far. Tucking hurts? I mean, duh, but I thought the whole point was pushing testicles inside, and if I do it to the extent where I get a smooth-ish front, I can't even press my knees together while sitting. I'll guess I'll get the hang of it after some time.
Tucking is never gonna be totally comfortable, but if/when you start HRT your junk often does become smaller and it's not as difficult.
What are possible reasons for the bra looking "weird"? Even under dresses it looks off. I can't quite put my finger on it, it either looks like it's too wide, or it's too high up, or it's too big compared to my body.
Nothing to keep it down, try stuffing it with a sock or something?
nsfw question I've been on medication for about 6 months now, and while my libido has dropped significantly, I can still get hard occasionally. However, sometimes when I get hard, I start to feel pain on one side of my shaft. It almost feels like a really stiff muscle. The pain will go away after a while, but it feels like it's not being "stretched" out long enough, if that makes sense. Anyone else get this?
Are you using it at all? Neglecting it can (and will) lead to atrophy and death of the tissue making it up, and cause it to shrink and wither. The pain is the feeling of the tissues that haven't been used in some time being triggered to function again.
You made that sound way more serious than I thought. I went from doing it once a day to like, once or twice a month.
Once or twice a month is not much at all, if you consider that men get erections several times during each night of sleep (typically 3-5 times) on top of usually practicing masturbation/sex, but during female hormone treatment you stop getting erections during the night. You're going from "exercising" your penis ~90 to 200 times a month to only doing it one or two times a month, which is a huge reduction.
I used some tissues, but eventually removed them, as it seemed better without them, weirdly enough
Hey so we talked about Vaniqa for facial hair removal/reducation recently I just got a skin allergy test back and I'm being put back on Vaniqa. Since there was a fair amount of interest I'll report progress if anyone wants.
So like, should I just do it more often or is it something to really worry about?
entirely up to you, the pain I had when i first started made me want to get hard even less often so i was happy to do nothing but i can still get hard if I really try
I'd personally recommend exercising it more, at least a couple of times a week. If you're looking to get SRS at some point, the tissue used for the surgery should largely come from your penis (as far as I know, at least) so it might be a good idea to maintain your penis' health at least to some extent. There's also the issue of feeling pain when you get erect/potentially when you use and touch your penis if too much atrophy occurs, which sounds unpleasant as well.
Does anyone know if there are any bras that are more like tank tops? It sounds kinda weird, but some of my shirts are kinda see through at work and I don't want to be seen wearing a bra or training bra.
you could just get tank tops for women, they usually hug your body pretty well so it should be enouhg i think
So I've been having these weird shaking/panicky attacks when smoking weed for about a year - usually it comes seemingly from nowhere, I start shaking like I'm shivering at 4x rate and super strong. Then I lay under a blanket for a couple of minutes and I hopefully feel better. I've realized pretty soon that it's mostly psychosomatic, but the realization didn't help "stop" it, I continued to experience this. So I was a bit worried as to what it was. Fast forward to now, I'm continuing to "experiment" and figuring this shit out, instead of compulsively thinking about porn and jacking off, I always read shit from reddit about trans stuff; and obviously, it takes up more of my time, since that was the plan - I work and do home stuff while in a skirt, with a bra, and trying to walk/act sorta femme. So recently during one of these days I get high, try doing voice stuff, because acting femme and talking to myself out loud (which I do all the time) with my usual voice is getting weird. Then I try singing songs by female singers that I know and like - and it starts kind of clicking? I subconsciously tried to mimic the singer, so it kinda went feeling somewhere closer to the between chin, upper neck area, kind of? I feel quite good singing some songs, and the bra starts melting into my body, I'm feeling a bit electric, so I sensually can't separate the bra as well, and I start freaking out a bit, this continues and then I start shaking wildly again - I go lie down under a blanket, think "when will this stop, what is wrong? is this about me possibly being a girl?" and when I get to "girl" I feel instant fucking gratification. And it was like a whole fucking experience, you know? Like a mind and body kind of feeling that lasted pretty long and it was hard to let go. So yeah, I guess I figured it out, I'm trans
Vaniqa starts today. I've got my voice almost to a point where I'm happy, soon as I get facial hair under control I'm good to go and I'm hoping vaniqa is gonna do that.
might be a good idea to try talking to any LGBT friends or acquaintances you might have, really helped me out when I was adjusting to my realization. Talking about things in person might help more than typing.
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