Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: The amazing Egg cracking station
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In my mind I'm still flip flopping as to what it means, so I'm not 100% adamant transition is for me.
I've talked with.a supportive friend, and I'll continue to talk to a therapist, of course - even if I do need to make drastic changes in my life, it's still years down the line at best
I know that there is some therapists specialising in gender identity who can do online sessions. Seeing as Russia is super bad for LGBT rights at the moment that may be easier.
This is kind of weird, but lately I've been able to "see" myself more. Before, I would look in a mirror and I wouldn't see "me". I mean, I know it's me but like, sometimes I would glance in a mirror and get a glimpse of my feminine side.
Now, I can actually stare at myself in a mirror and actually see myself more often. It's boosted my confidence knowing that I'm starting to look better and feel more like the person I should be. I still have a ways to go, and I'm far too scared to dress up in public. I really need to start exercising and get rid of some of this body fat. And even though I have some breakdowns here and there, I'm doing way better than I was before.
I just wear sweatpants and a hoodie all the time lol. I really hate jeans, they're not comfortable enough for me.
baggy jeans and hoodie life for me
cant fit into anything else
jeans and flannel all the time, hides my pecker and my piece
i created an account not using my old name
feels great man
Dress, shorts, tights twenny four seeeev!
I can't pretend anymore so.
I guess I'm trans.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Only took me 12 years of denial to admit it publicly.
How did you discover it or decide?
I get to dress as myself again soon! Been living at a christian retreat in Florida for the last month for disaster relief because there aren't really any other places that have room for 100 plus people for that long
So it's been about a week on Vaniqa.
Not noticed any real visual changes yet (it can take up to 8 weeks for it to start in some cases so that's not really a concern) but I've noticed that my facial hair is becoming a hell of a lot softer and easier to remove.
Oh yeah. My own little corner had 2 heavy snorers and people left their shit everywhere. Not to mention the dysphoria from being in a gender segregated dorm
I'm super late but welcome to the club.
If it's not too personal, is there anything in particular that led to this?
Not sure if I understand the question. I've been feeling this on an off for years, it's only after my breakup did I finally decide to stop trying to live my life in fear of judgement from other people.
I just wanna be happy, y'know.
I want my girlfriend to start HRT (and so does she) but she's deathly afraid of the needles/blood tests that are required to start to the point that talking about HRT sometimes causes her to have mild panics.
What can we do? Are there any alternatives to getting blood tests done or do we just need to work on bringing that fear down as much as possible? I'm not trans, so I know nothing about the process, but I assume there's no way around getting blood drawn.
Fellow NZer here.
Yeah there are 0 ways around it. But they only stab ya once for blood then you don't have to get stabbed again until they need to check which could be a varying degree of time. From what I know from other trans members here in my town(Whangarei) you can get prescribed HRT in whatever fashion you want.
Curious as to which part of NZ you're from and if there's anything I can do to help you both out.
I had a blood test done on my first visit, and then another year done 3 months after. My next appointment is in May, which they'll probably do again. It only takes a few seconds for them to take your blood.
It's entirely worth it though. I would say work on overcoming the fear.
I see, thanks a lot. I live in Auckland, we might talk about the needle stuff with a GP first to see if there is anything we can do (therapeutically or otherwise) to alleviate it, since I'm sure it's a pretty common thing.
So you always knew but tried to hide it?
I would absolutely do that. My nurse just told me to look away and keep talking to her and that's a tip I'll give to ya. It was over before I knew it.
Known since I was about 15/16. So 12 years.
Didn't know that transgender was a thing when I was a teen. When one of my friends came out as trans I had already kinda pushed it back down and believed that that was it.
I tried to talk about it countless times later with people I knew on the internet and even almost came out again when I was 22/23, but got scared of what my ex would've thought and again pushed it back down.
If 12 years of doing everything you can to make it go away doesn't work, then it's pretty safe to say nothing will. You can't really rationalise or even list off all the bad things that could happen when you transition to talk yourself out of it.
Because no amount of fear, excuses or long lists of why you shouldn't do it can make the feeling in your heart go away.
It's a part of me.
getting over that fear of judgment is one of the greatest displays of strength that can ever happen imo
Ahhh, had a really hot bath to soak away my problems, then cried like a bitch in the middle of it because I felt severely dysphoric.
At least my hair looked cute when I got out of the bath.
Funnily enough, that's what's happening right now. I'm trying to fight it though.
I wish I could buy these cute socks from work or some some nice conditioner because we sell it way cheaper than the other stores but I feel like every purchase I make is scrutinized by my coworkers.
”You know that’s a women’s scented scrub right?” Bitch I don’t care I just want to smell nice leave me alone
I'm sick as hell from the flu but reading this thread always make me feel a bit warmer inside so just wanted to say you guys are a nice bunch.
crying in the bath is trans culture
Making out with nearly everyone you meet is my trans-culture. Honestly it is a little unnerving because I end up with a distinct lack of friends who I am just able to hang out with.
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