• Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: The amazing Egg cracking station
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Everyone has different circumstances but I am empathetic to your current situation. My dad died of a heart attack 7 years ago and I was very close to him. If you need someone to talk to, I'd be glad to be there for you to the best of my ability. I'm no substitute for an actual mental health practitioner of course but I can listen, and I understand some part of your pain.
Honestly, its not the death that bothers me, I just don't wanna deal with any extended family, especially after coming out, cause pretty much most of them are conservative as all hell and i'm just ever so slightly worried there'll be a physical confrontation over that.
I understand. I hope things will go well at the funeral. My condolences.
For all of y'all that got laser, how long did it take for the blue shadow to disappear? From the looks if it, I have no more facial hair, aside from a couple here and there, but I still have that dreaded blue shadow.
Looks like maybe it's a blessing I only have my mother and two brothers as family anymore after hearing what you guys deal with. I don't think I could handle anyone on my father's side as they're massive dickheads.
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I'm quite fortunate my mum is hella open about these things, as is one of my cousins. The whole of my Dad's side is gonna be hell to tell especially my Gran. Though she was fine with me being bi so idk.
my doctor think i am a cisgender
Also that possible cisgender + intersex?
It's kinda weird that you consider other people, not even related to you, as family. They're more accepting than my actual family too. Just never really considered the concept of it. Cannot wait to fry these hairs off my face, though. Shaving everyday ruins my skin... I'm glad you had fun! And your hair is fine :p I mean, yeah. It's all about what you want and how comfortable you are with that. Never be afraid to question and explore!
So have you heard about the syndrome digreogre? is a intersex condition!
For what it's worth I would seriously recommend Dr. Webberly's service if you go private. They are absolute great guys and move at a pace you are comfortable with. If you do not have a Gender Dysphoria diagnosis they do ask that you do some counselling with them, but it is only a few sessions in my personal experience and I found them really useful. They also have very cheap medication and will make concessions to students/help with costs if you have difficulty with payment. I am not with them anymore since I am under Dutch system now, but my time with them was excellent.
You mean DiGeorge? Not until today, no
In my experience the blue shadow exists because of either (A) dead hairs that haven't been pushed out yet or (B) hairs in a different phase of growth. How many laser sessions have you had?
https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/245379887479652353/479389010825969666/P_20180815_211554_BF_p.jpg incredibly, hair makes an absurd amount of difference to how i look
Just two. Growth is very sparse, I've noticed since my last session three weeks ago. You're probably right though. I'm probably just too eager to finally have it completely gone and I just need to be patient.
So something to be aware of is when that laser hits the follicle correctly, it damages it and cooks it to a crisp. So because of that, until the hair is pushed out not by growth, but by your body's mechanism to push stuff out that's stuck in your skin, it's going to be a whole lot darker, pokey-er, and generally just more noticeable. So really, when you start to notice a lot of blue shadow only AFTER laser, that's a GOOD thing. That's cooked hairs under your skin! Give it a few weeks, and when you wash your face/apply any skin stuff to your face (which if you don't have a skin care routine get on that like.. right now) look at your hands for little hairs that start to shed. Most should fall out by roughly three weeks. Also, two sessions you should see some, but not a whole lot of progress. A few weeks after four is when it should be v noticeable, depending on your hair type. But yeah, I know it sucks but ya' just gotta be patient.
You guys look great. On another note I hate this. It just gets worse for me with any scheduling, or anything regarding wanting to come out. I'm so terrified of coming out I laughed the one time my mom asked me if I was gay. I'd move but I'm legitimately at the worst financial position atm. It just doesn't seem like it's gonna get any better.
I just got back from a vacation visiting my aunt. It was really enjoyable, we went shopping and now I actually have enough girl clothes to wear a variety for day to day. Unfortunately after I got back I heard from a relative that she still seems to think that I'm just trans as a way to subconsciously get attention, due to my sister getting more than me. Hoping that's just outdated info, since I remember her mentioning it when I first came out, but it did make the whole thing feel a little worse. On other bad news, I did my injection today and a small dot of blood came out after I pulled the needle out. I made sure to aspirate (although I'm really bad at it), but after I pulled it out I realized the needle wasn't 90 degrees. I'm worried I did something bad, considering that the other two times I've done the injection, I didn't bleed at all.
Speaking as someone who sticks themselves with needles often for diabetic reasons, even a shallow injection with a thin needle can cause bleeding if you happen to nick a blood vessel, which is purely a chance thing. You probably did nothing wrong.
Is repression a viable strategy for the medium-to-long-term? :c
this is kinda me. I mean, not like I have any access to HRT at all, but if I knew I'd pass I'd be a lot more enthusiastic. As it is I'm pretty confident that I won't pass. I don't know if that makes me a bad person or anything
I'm going to be entirely honest, anyone can pass. Some of my moms friends who are cis females sit on what many would say is borderline (square jawline, broad shoulders, deep voices etc), in the end it all comes down to who really cares, be who you want to be. You don't have to look like a fucking model to "pass".
Give it some time. I noticed my cheeks getting sparser around the 4th session and stopped needing to shave them regularly (that is, every day) by the 6th. Chin and lip started to get actually smooth after shaving around the 6th and I don't get any shadow at all now at the 8th. I have some bothersome areas that still grow a couple hairs right below the corners of my mouth but I'll get those cleaned up over winter after I lose my tan (oops). It all just depends on how thick and dark your hair is.
That's pretty much the biggest secret. I think I'm accepting I won't pass and get clocked on the daily :p I just wanna get my goddamn candy and call it a day.
I yeah I mean it's a necessity at this point.
Honestly, I don't think I pass and I don't know if I ever will but but effects from hrt on just my general outlook on things and myself have improved 100x, I actually want to improve things and get fit and look after myself. If you can start I would if you think it would be safe to start. I still boymode like 90% of the time and it's a big factor in my daily dysphoria but I've been slowly changing my closet to more andro/femme clothing and paint my nails and just generally act in a way that makes me happy, sometimes I can look in the mirror and see a cute girl but most its just a gross boything but like I said it's still 100x better than not being able to look in the mirror at all. As a bit of context I also repressed it from when I was like 8/9 when I figured something was different until 16 when I had my first breakdown to then have 2/3 more at 17/18. I just turned 21 on the 10th and I'll be a year on hrt in september so yeah I really hope you don't have to repress it but if you need to for safety reasons I can 100% understand, growing up where I did taught me a lot of self hatred/transmisogyny Best of luck friend.
I kinda hate the term passing because it means you're limiting yourself, just be who you are. Then again I've always hated conforming to standards so that might be biasing my view on this a bit. But still the whole "u got 2 pass 2 be u" annoys the fuck out of me. Long as I can wear what I want and get rid of all of this natural fucking body hair GOD HELP ME WHY DO I HAVE TO TAKE AFTER MY DAD FUCK MY LIFE. I'll be good.
This was a big problem for me before I started HRT. What worked for me was to shave everything to an inch of it's life and then generously apply hair inhibitor spray. Do bear in mind that this does not work for everyone but it has massively reduced my body hair and I have bear person genetics. Hair inhibitor spray does fuck all for facial hair but it's useful for the body if you can find one that works for you.
Facial hair is probably one of the worst things I could wish on anyone. Like goddamn, these shits start coming back after day 1. Fuck off, I wanna be pretty :C
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