Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v10 - Don't send any TELEGRAMS. - General

Just... Just leave! Just leave now! And talk to those people as individuals! Who cares what the group thinks? If those "good people" can't see how the system is BS and somehow don't want to deal with you after you quit, were they really your friends in the first place? Seriously, just quit the group alltogher and contact each of your real friends individually. What you're describing sounds almost like how a street gang organizes.

This sounds like a cult of sorts to me.

if they're decent people and your friends, talk to them about this. it's quite clearly unhealthy behavior, bizarrely controlling and not something i've ever seen in a functioning friends circle.

Oh and the fact that during a day to shop for holiday food, they took $20 that my mom gave them for a pie, bought a small one for $4, and pocketed the change. So yeah not only are they "setting us straight", mind you the 'leader' has no card status making the individual immune, but they're thieves too. $20 is $20 but fuck the least you can do is give a bit back to a bunch of aging parents.

Pardon my french but these people sound like absolute fucking cunts.

It's funny because after the party was over and they were gone was when my parents asked me about what happened when they gave her the $20 to use was when something wasn't right. I felt a bit dumb to see some of the signs of an abuse of power now than sooner as they were not as clear. She(the leader) can talk nice, be energetic, zany, nerdy, and fun to be around, but behind the scenes it feels different. Like its another mask to hide supposed "good intentions" that frightens us three and to get people like her on her side. I hear stories of people that are nice in public but behind the curtains they got problems they can easily hide, and this kind of feels like it.

Bruh how did you find such fucking pricks for friends. Drop them, there are so many cooler people that would be down to be your friend if you make yourself open to it.

yeah hi if your friends are still using the card shit from 1st grade find new friends

For psychology (at university I'm gonna assume). And yeah, you'll just have to pass - it'll be fine my man.

Here's hoping. I'm beyond rusty in math, so it'll be tough and exhausting I imagine.

Where can I buy a bf

Heres what you do, if you live on campus 1. Leave your door open. 2. Get an old wii/gamecube/wii u 3. Put in a smash game 4. Let the main theme play for a minute 5. Count the guys that come in curious 6. Pick Works for me every time

I was at an event in Indianapolis this weekend, a group of people did exactly this at the venue.

I'm for sal-- https://i.imgur.com/XTIeHA9.png oh.. terms and conditions apply to uk only

The Breakfast Club is on TV, I was gonna watch it but the last time I saw it was with my ex, don't wanna open up that box rn

I know that feel; Labyrinth and Interstella were straight-up no-goes for me for a while. It'll pass eventually.

Yep. I just watched an episode of Arrested Development Sunday about 7 months after the berakup.

Ignore this, can't delete the quote. Had a 1 hour flight today, had a chat with the girl besides me that lasted until the airport lobby. When it came to exchanging contact info, though, she more or less subtly refused to give me her number. Hope I didn't come off as creepy or pushy. It's in times like these that I realise my self-esteem is a bit more fickle than I think.

Not every bird wants to give their deets away, some are just down for a chat. Don't feel down because a stranger didn't put out for you! Hope you genuinely enjoyed the convo, that's what matters from all that.

10000 gp varrock. flat deal and ill literally follow you everywhere.

Nah unless you kept pushing after she said no then it's fine. Don't overthink it man, you just had a nice conversation.

Maybe should give some serious thought to wether you are actually pushing it, judging from your posts in this thread you seem like a dude with a pretty clear objective for socializing with the opposite sex. A smart girl will catch on to that and toy with you more often than not, can't play a player etc. etc. On the flipside, sometimes people aren't in the mood for getting intimate, or maybe you're just not her type. But that's not the end of the world, if you could befriend her and maybe go to the same bar, party what have you and meet her friends or something it's not all for naught and you're still 1 step closer to boning some random.(Having a girl wing you for one of her friends is basically an instant win in my book, she'll know which of her friends are in dire of need of some loving.) Don't take my words as the absolute truth it's just my 5 cents

I didn't answer my girlfriends texts for seven hours and she sent me a final text trying to guilt trip me for it "You're not very reliable I could be broken down somewhere hurt myself or in the hospital for something you don't answer your texts be more mature please thanks". She knew I had a busy day and was going to appointments too. Like what the fuck. If I'm busy I'm busy besides I'd rather talk in person then over a stupid text messages anyway.

have you talked to each other about this and communication needs/wants? for her to say something like that is not cool especially if she knows you're busy but if you ignore her just to spite her that's not great either if you don't like texting/would rather talk in person or feel like she's smothering you you really need to discuss it with her directly because if you're just busy she's seemingly not taking it that way

I've brought up my feelings on the matter in the past. I don't try to ignore her on purpose, sometimes I'm just busy. IMO texts shouldn't be the primary method of communication and you shouldn't expect instant replies. Especially when the texts she sends aren't even about the relationship and are meaningless crap about something happening in the news.

You got me, I do put emphasis on socializing with women (though I don't mind talking with male strangers for the fun of it either). That doesn't mean that I'm doing PUA or some other shit thought, I just go with what feels right, and sometimes I just want to get to know someone more. In the present case I never even got flirty, we just discussed the trip and our respective careers, she's older than me (I'd wager something like 28) so she had some experience to share on that point. At the end I just said "We can exchange numbers to keep in touch if you want", she looked hesitant for a few seconds and then replied something along the lines of "Maybe we'll cross eachother's path at some point". I do enjoy having female friends, though. In fact, I chat with them more often than I do with my dude friends, I find it easier to talk about deeper topics with them. It also doesn't hurt to get insight and feedback. I haven't had any set my up with a friend yet, though. Either way, it's not going to happen with this one bar a coincidence. I did enjoy the chat, though, not every conversation has to lead to others down the line.

idk i personally feel like while of course talking in person is immensely better, texting shouldn't be something that just has to be "about the relationship". I feel like you should enjoy talking to your SO in general and it seems kind of weird and apathetic to me that you don't seem interested in texting about anything other than the relationship itself i know people who hate texting and i get it, (i'm usually shit replying to anyone other than someone i'm dating, and i especially get that no one should expect instantaneous replies) but it doesn't seem like she understands just how negatively you view it, and just likes chatting. i assume you disagree but for me it's nice to be able to still just chat about your day or interesting things if you're not going to see her for a bit

Happens to me all the time as well. Makes it become more of a chore that I have to text her and constantly check in, rather than want to.

More recently I have had a lot more confidence than I have had in months. Part of this is due to making important changes in my life (picking up a job with a lot responsibility and socializing, taking daily supplements, eating healthier) but also recognizing the circumstances of my own being. I have really started to realize that the reason for many of my faults is my failure of an initial action. Quite literally - "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". And it's not like I've always known that in that quote my entire life but it's that I got so sick of doing just about everything else right (or trying the hardest of my ability) but failing so hard socially. That's the problem with incels, I believe. They believe that social interaction is entirely based on a hierarchy of perceived attractiveness on the basis of looks, wealth and power. It's true that these are important aspects but they also do not recognize the correlation of failure to these goals. You cannot have success without failure. So I made it a goal to talk to people I don't know about... anything (within reason) fully expecting to get pushed away. This started out with my dm'ing a meme to a few girls that I thought were cute or were people I wanted to get to know. I talked to more parents after swim lessons I teach. I tried to get to know my students better. I tried to get know my co-workers better and form better bonds with them. To my surprise, it worked out. It seems obvious why it worked but my issue was my ability to do it at all. But since I have experienced so much failure in expecting that things would come to me if I dressed a certain way, looked a certain way, did certain things; I needed to try something need. It made me really reassess my preconceived notions of what it means to be an the ideal man and being appreciated by other people and moreover, women. To be a good person, or in my case a good man, means the predilection to make mistakes and keep moving. To take chances when the odds seem dim. To learn from your mistakes. Just keep moving forward. The worst mistake I could have made is following societal tropes of relationships in high school and at large. We are incredibly complex beings and I think a guiding light for our lives should not be following a clique but findings a further meaning in your life and allowing that guide your life while understanding that everyone else (more than likely) do not understand life just as much as you. We are all in this world lost, stupid, afraid, and sometimes void of meaining. We are not alone in our feelings regardless of the perception that everyone has it figured out. We, in most cases, are trying to find someone to relate to and share our experiences with. Go into relationships with people with that mindset. Make mistakes. Understand that you are living a low-resolution image of the grander picture if you do not attempt to look for new experiences. But be cognizant of the consequences of your decisions as well. Try to experience life if it means you have to fuck up to get there. But most importantly, keep moving forward.

I don't mind texting in general, but when the only thing she wants to talk about is the news... like, constantly. It's never about us or making plans or anything about what's going on in life. Regardless, was legit busy the other day and wasn't ignoring her on purpose.