Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v10 - Don't send any TELEGRAMS. - General

It's like horoscopes, a lot of it relies on every option being relatable to some extent and confirmation bias.

Work made us do one with a business psychologist. She described at as an "indicator" and that really regardless of score you are "whichever category you most relate to" so pretty much what the above two posters said, but with the addendum that it was to get people more talking about their different preferences when it comes to presentation of materials, conversational styles etc than an absolute "I am an ESTP therefore xyz"

I took a 500 question+ questionnaire for my MBTI assessment at college and it had a 30 page breakdown of my personality in combination with my SII (Strong Interest Inventory). I felt like it was quite accurate and really allowed me to better understand what sort of career I wanted to pursue based on my temperament.

Halfway between complete pseudoscience like astrology and real psychology. It's definitely used in the same way as zodiac signs as in descriptions that fit everybody, but the thought functions behind it do have some reality to them if you dig a bit deeper.

the internet ones are BS. i've heard the 'proper' one makes the myers-briggs foundation a ton of money, but is still very questionable. related: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barnum_effect The Barnum effect, also called the Forer effect, is a common psychological phenomenon whereby individuals give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically to them, that are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people.

I get what you guys are saying, I've struggled with my personality for a long time now and I do only see INTJ has an 'indicator' of sorts but its helpful to understand the way I think and do things isn't exactly abnormal. It was nice to read and if anything understand the things i've been trying to figure out for a while now

I still for the life of me can not ever feel okay with my social situation I've been going to Couchsurfing and Meetup events but I am always the youngest by far, so I always have less to share with the rest of them And holy hell do I still feel rage when I hear people talk about their past and possible relationships. I am at 0 since I was born and I am sick and tired of feeling like I am not part of society Sorry for the rant but I desperately need to vent

Sanity slippage. Sanity slipping fast...Felt like lots of projection was at play during our game session. I think it's high time to essentially leave now before I let this get a hook on me and drag my mental state down.

The longer you keep dragging this on the more it's gonna hurt. Abscond from that group ASAP fam, it bears repeating.

Just get the hell out of there.

It is done. Contacts gone, status gone, chat logs done barring some comments in case of leverage, and everyone didn't throw me under the bus this time! https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/821/753/baa.jpg Now I feel like I can finally fucking move and look forward again as I did when that group started years ago.

Drive thru girl didn't work out. We went to a brewery and had a good time but it's clear that she wasn't what I'm looking for. Jesus she is incredibly good looking, but she has literally zero hobbies almost nothing interesting to say. Despite that I did invite her over to my place to smoke weed which she enthusiastically agreed to but texted me at the last minute saying she wasn't going to make it three separate times in one week. Would have taken it as a sign she's not interested but she immediately set up an alternate date every time (and she did ask for my number first). I think she's interested, she just is god awful at time management due to being immature. The third time, I just didn't text her back. Would have been nice to get physical with a girl like her but I'm drawing the line. I can't stand immaturity and I can't stand it when people don't respect my time. I'd rather stand up for what I believe I deserve than desperately try to fuck any girl no matter how she treats me, and I'm proud that I've come this far. I know the right one will come.

God what boring person, maybe one of the ones that just expects to be entertained. Id give up after the first arrangement was missed because then ite evident how important you are to them.

She had a good excuse the first time. The second time was annoying but I let it slide. After that, I felt a line had to be drawn. It's hard winning a battle against your dick-brain but it can be done.

Pingu, meet infatuation. Infatuation: Pingu.

short version: you're thinking with your dick not your brain

Infatuation

do you interact with this girl? what was the last time you talked? do you have a history, were you good friends, did you share a lot of experiences?

I'm happy in my relationship, but I also kinda want to see what else is out there. Why can't I be okay with just being happy?

I just moved out of my Mum's house yesterday, to another town 3 hours away. God damn I miss her so much, I miss my brother there too and my dog. I've cried a lot, is this normal? I want to give myself a week before deciding to go home (I am living with my other Brother) Is there anything I can do to get rid of the homesickness?

Go out somewhere, enjoy yourself in stead of wallowing in sadness.

Xonax post reminds that my folks take some trips to the summer house to keep things in shape while I hold down the fort. The time alone feels great but it feels like it's preparing for the inevitable when I move out to an apartment for my studies and the homesickness sinks in. The outcome doesn't feel as painful as when I imagined college would be like after high school, but it still hurts a bit that I'll see my parents less and less each year. Make time for your parents, enjoy their company while it lasts. One day you're in elementary school being dropped off then the next day you're in Baltimore with a Bachlor's in Simulation.

Nothing cures homesickness like indulging in something you wouldn't be able to get away with at home. No joke, when I first moved into my current apartment for grad school (no roommate, so I've got a whole place to myself for literally the first time ever), one of the first things I did was toss some of those really high-quality chicken nuggets into my shopping cart while out grocery shopping; the kind my folks would never bother picking up, since they'd never spend that much on frozen chicken nuggets. Spend an afternoon day drinking, invite some friends over and hang out until the sun comes up, just revel in the fact that you're now the master of your domain. I go home to visit regularly, but I always breathe a sigh of relief when I get back to my own place. It can get a little lonely at times, but you have no idea how freeing it is to have 100% control over what goes on under your roof, especially when there's no one there to judge you if you just don't feel like wearing pants.

Jacking off whenever you like

I've been really concerned about getting too drunk and being inappropriately pushy around girls. Having an experience where I lacked any sort of awareness of the vibes that were going on between me and a girl resulted in basically ending a friendship. From then on, I've been really vigilant about how much I'm drinking and counting how many beers I have. It's scary to me because I turn into someone I really don't want to be, and I'm not sure if it's an actual indication of the person I am (but hiding). All the parties since that incident I've been pretty sober (1-2 beers), taking care of my friends who are fucked up, and more recently I've been just chef-ing it up in the kitchen. Honestly have a lot more fun that way, however I can't feel anything but extreme guilt about how much of a creep/prick I was.

Have you apologized to her? Unless you outright sexually assaulted her I think there's still room for forgiveness if she was your friend. Besides, it's the right thing to do, and it should ease your guilt as well.

I just want my own Pam Beasley. pleasepleasePLEASE. The amount of girls that view me as attractive mean NOTHING if the one girl I find funny/attractive/dorky doesn't view me in the same way. She doesn't even talk to me bros. I've tried to talk to her, but EVERY time, I sperg out or someone else ruins it. Fuck me this shit sucks. She'll stare at me occasionally, lads. What does it mean?!??!?!?!??!?!

keep trying but understand that if someone doesnt like you, you will never change their mind no matter how you frame yourself, and it would be best to move on

Just try to be her friend first, don't put so much pressure on yourself to succeed immediately. Just try to start a casual conversation and be friendly. Try to find a mutual interest and talk about that. If you go in with the attitude of "this girl is my future girlfriend or bust" you're setting yourself up for failure. If you go into it with the intention of making a genuine connection, your odds are much better in the long run.

but also honestly i'm not a huge fan of that viewpoint either, especially for someone with a warped view of romantic interest "but i was her friend, why doesn't she want to fuck mE"