Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v10 - Don't send any TELEGRAMS. - General

You can fix that though, try following Reg's advice It's worse when the only thing you're attracted to is their physical attractiveness. It really just means "I wanna fuck you, I don't even actually like you". At that point just rub one out thinking about them, once it's out of your system so are they

I pretty much know the general answer already but I am looking for something a bit more specific. Over the last 2-3 weeks I have become close to a girl, we get along well, yadda yadda. Considering that we seem to be growing together as friends and getting to know each other, how would I ask them out to date casually but see where it goes? I think I am really beginning to like them as a person, and I feel it might also be the same the other way around. She is pretty introverted though, and I have no idea what I am doing. I am simultaneously shy but can be bombastic and a bit strong willed, so i don't want to scare her. any specific suggestions for how I could ask her out?

Shamelessly stolen from another user: Beginner mode: "Do you wanna go out with me?" Normal mode: "Hey, are you free on Saturday?" Professional mode: "Hey, I'm doing ___ on ___, you should come with me!"

I mean we already do the last 2 with each other. I just feel some chemistry happening but I simply don't know how to approach that specifically.

I just hope I can fix it in time

In time for what dude? Its fucking high school. Wait til college for girls, it's way better.

You literally have your entire lifetime to improve yourself & find women to love. Don't sweat it, it's okay to not feel ready for some things. If you don't think you can stay with this girl then by all means, don't, you'll manage to not break two hearts. If however you feel like gambling, go for it. It's what I did and it paid off immensely, found a friend I wouldn't give up for the world, and I couldn't even tell before breaking up with her and somehow manage to keep our intimacy and friendship instead of giving into the "hate all your ex's" idea of society baby steps, and move past the spoonfuls of shit life gives you

Well my friend got buzzed on a bet that was put onto her by total strangers and after a bit of recovery is now driving back home. One hour away. As a friend I feel very concerned about this, but really it's because I never ever want to or even be dared to do those drinking games even after the pressure kicks in. Hope she makes it home okay this late at night. She did mention at one point she has anxiety and has trouble with peer pressure so I don't want to rag on her for taking that bet. Sometimes I wish the friends I make aren't such heavy drinkers.

Deleted all my video games and deleting social media again. Going monk mode. I want to run, swim or row everyday. Rowed ~6k today and trying to also stretch 30 minutes a day. Also studying my ASVAB. I can't be fucked to focus on girls right now or intimacy. I've spent so much time in other peoples' world and not my own. I never had control of my own life and direction and I really want that. https://youtu.be/BvWB7B8tXK8 This guy got me to get on the path towards the military. Looking at CRO (Combat Rescue Officer) right now.

Question for the guys in here. I guess it's kinda NSFW? Anyway. For those of you who do it, how do you go about shaving your junk? I'm not a particular fan of my own jungle down south, so I trim it regularly, but I've never completely shaved it. If I was to do that, how should I approach it? What do I use? Is there some secret technique to make it perfect?

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Don't shave it off completely, it'll look very weird and very unnatural. If you don't want it to be long you can do like me. I just use a regular trimmer. 5 or 6 mm length. It's short but not too short.

Shaving completely will also result in a few days of crotch sandpaper while the hairs grow back and form an abrasive stubble that you really don't want.

Basically crotch hair is there to protect our private area against chafing and that knowledge is a good basis on making a judgement on whether it's a good move to shave it off.

I never had that problem, and that's the hairiest part of my body I don't shave it in any particular way, but I much prefer trimming. Doesn't save time anyway

wait till you get hair growing on your penis tis is wierd

Jeez, that must be one of the biggest ironies of the human body. Like how eyelashes are supposed to prevent things from falling into your eyes yet are probably the thing that gets stuck in the eyes the most.

Eyelashes get in your eyes the most because they're doing their job :wink:

don't have to wait still didn't get such a hassle

I already got hair growing my dick, it's awful. :V But right. Well I currently trim it way down to ~3-4mm. I just hate it. I guess the biggest factor is that I have some insane levels of hair growth. I'm not even exaggerating, a week after I've trimmed myself down under, it's already starting to become difficult to see that I did anything.

This group of 6 just robbed me Managed to get my keys back & keep my wallet, but the phone is gone I'm fucking pissed, I gotta block a shitton of shit and fucking hell

did you go to the police?

Maybe its just me but I've pretty much given up about the thought of relationships. Its tiring when I haven't even gotten to the stage where I ask someone out for a date, and they just ghost me. Like it could be in the middle of a perfect conversation and people just ghost you. I may had been too late to the whole relationship thing but it just drains your energy. I'm happier just having close friends around, they give me a better time than to be searching for somebody. Plus I feel pretty alright being single.

Still pondering if it's worth it I already got a new SIM and phone to spare, changed all pw's and remotely blocked it, disconnecting from all apps and such. I don't think they could break into it as for myself, I don't think anything will come up if I went to the police. Don't know the guys and won't get my phone back

1) It's still theft 2) If it's a gang they're probably known, making the odds turn in your favor 3) Police needs to know, incase it's a gang, how many crimes and where to help investigators

Getting odd dates here and there, loads of chemistry on the day which slowly fizzles out over the course of the next few days while we wait for a day to see each other again. the same happened just now. She came out and said she got the impression I wasn't that interested in her even though I was, I tried to express that but it fell on deaf ears. I can't tell if I'm the problem or I just haven't found someone that's right for me. Shit happens I guess!!! I feel the same. Been going out with my friends a lot and I've been in a much better mood just doing that and working. I think I'm at a stage in my life now where I'm comfortable being on my own, but I completely understand what you mean about having your energy drained, it's so tiring when every new Tinder conversation has already been done 100 times before.

I think imo I think relationships is like a play, you or someone had that time to be on that stage. Some return to it to have another go at it, others retire.

How do I function normally within a conversation. I don't understand how people are able to socialize so well. Every conversation I participate in, I feel as if my presence suffocates any and all chances of making a new friend. What's the secret?

Basically, what I've learned is to do more listening then talking in general, but when ylI do talk, it's to either ask someone a question, say something related to an experience they shared, or comment on something they said. This has made people think I'm a "good listener", even though I have a shit memory and will probably forget what they just said. A lot of socializing comes down to body language and eye contact, which never came naturally to me. For instance, if you avoid eye contact, people will think you don't want to talk to them. If you give intense eye contact, people get creeped out. I had to do a 5 second "look in eyes" then two second "look away" method of eye contact before I really got the hang of doing it automatically. In addition to eyes, arms also give off an impression. If you hold your arms crossed, it supposedly signifies being guarded, closed off or confrontational. Sitting away from someone when talking to them shows a similar guarded impression. Additionally, don't get too close to people you don't know well, as invading personal space is a great way to creep people out, so always keep some distance between you and other people. On the flip side, if you want to show romantic attraction, getting close is a good test to see if there's chemistry - if s/he backs off, then either they're not feeling that connection or they're nervous/guarded (a lot of body language comes down to noticing patterns of behavior, not just single isolated behaviors, so one behavior can mean multiple things). There's never been a "now we're friends" moment for me, I just end up being friendly and seeing people often enough that people just consider me a friend. It's a lot harder to make friends if you don't see the same person often enough or do any sort of activity or experience with them. Basically, be around people often enough, show positive body language, be nice, listen more and talk less. That's worked for me, but your mileage may vary.

I've had a supplementary math course on B-level (second-highest level in Denmark, don't know how it works in other countries) for the past 4 months. Today I finished the oral exam, which was also the last. But that said, I only just passed with a 02 (literally the grade just above "failed"), which, frankly, I'm neither proud nor happy about. My question was about differential calculus, which is the one thing I absolutely have no idea to do, but I tried my best regardless. My teacher tried so hard to help me along, and honestly, if not for him, I definitely would've failed. In fact, I feel so bad about it I'm going to write him an email. He's been one of the best teachers I've ever had, and I could always tell he was really passionate about what he taught us, and wanted us all to succeed. So I'll let him know. That aside, at least now my path to studying psychology at uni is open, assuming I can actually get past the entrance requirements.