• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VIIII: I Don't Know Good Titles
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Christ my ex and I just fucked and she regretted it so much she cried after until she fell asleep holding my hand. I never knew my life would end up so fucked a year ago this is truly awful.
With some restrictions (clit only, doing it when blood flow has died down so at least the start wouldn't be as fucked up, have her be the one lying down for obvious reasons), I could find it passable enough to try it once. As my partner told it, sensitivity is quite different when you're on your period. Seeing the reaction could be worth it.
Well, it's up to her. Personally I'm too fussed, but I reserve the tongue for the clit, and then I just use my fingers for the rest.
My ex was ok with it and got insanely horny sometimes during her period. Basically nothing was off limits at those times. If she's mortified by the idea then don't.
So this took a turn for the fucked up Since it'd been a couple of months, we decided to talk again once just to clear the air and remove any lingering shit, seemed like a good idea at the time right? Turns out she's fucking crazy. She didn't just cheat on me, she manipulated one of her close friends into having sex with her and then once she was bored of that, started alternating between stringing him along with flirting, sexy pictures, etc and reminding him that they would never end up together because she was with me, which kept up for multiple months until he was utterly obsessed with her and started cutting himself on camera for her. All because she thought it was "fun". And then after I broke up with her, she'd started fantasising about letting me end her life as "penance" for hurting me (She still doesn't care about what she did to her friend, the only part she's ever expressed regret over is that I found out and it hurt me). I guess the cheating was a blessing in disguise, if that never happened I might have ended up actually spending most of my life with a manipulative, lying psycho.
How do you guys even find these people, that's legitimately fucking terrifying. Good you got out when you did, at least you won't have any reason to look back.
Yeah, right. I should.
she still cheated on you buddy
This shit is way too scary to think about tbh, but sometimes there's no good way to know just how big the iceberg is compared to the tip.
i get worried if i was with a girl like that and still stayed with her
So I tried that for a week and it didn't go quite the way I wanted it to. It did feel better during penetration, but she came before I did and was too tired to continue... She tried to finish me off by giving me head but that didn't really work, it was pleasurable at first but I couldn't get to that point (didn't help that I could feel her teeth sometimes), then she tried a handjob for like half an hour before giving up out of exhaustion and asking me to do it while we made out. It did result in a lot more semen I guess... Not really what I wanted to achieve.
people are fucking scary
Any alcohol or other kinds of drugs beforehand? Also, I know this is way too personal, but did you feel any forms of anxiety or stress before or during? I recall having random moments of anxiety (feeling doubtful about the relationship is the best way I can describe it) and that fucked up my sex drive for the moment. That's interesting though. Not doing anything for a week has effects that are more than just increased sensitivity obviously, but I wouldn't have expected that.
Nope. Not really. Only once she started giving the handjob I knew it wouldn't work because nobody has ever managed to finish me off this way, so it's not the best situation. You can't really force yourself to cum, and you know the girl is going to get frustrated trying to do it, so that doesn't really put you in a very comfortable situation.
have you tried jerking on you on own with your girlfriend there?
Can't manage to make sense of this sentence, sorry. Could you rephrase?
"have you tried jerking yourself off with your girlfriend present", I believe.
Well, she's not really my girlfriend, I think, though we haven't exactly cleared that up yet. And yeah, that's what we did in the end. It did work, but I'd rather not have to do this every time. Reminds me of my ex with which I couldn't have sex and who only gave me unsuccessful handjobs before we tried out titfucking.
I mean, you could try jerking yourself off before fucking her? Get yourself decently far along, then finish in her? Or, considering the issue was she came too quickly and got tired, use positions where you do all the work? I mean worst case maybe she comes twice, I don't think most people would complain about that.
is its an medical issue that you can't cum to sex but cum to masterbation?
Not at all, otherwise a metric ton of women would be considered sick
It's in the ICD-11 in some form, so I would consider it a medical issue. Obviously it's in more of a grey area, but if you consistently can't cum during sex that could pose psychological (and social) stress, and in pure practical terms it makes it impossible for you to impregnate your partner in the way nature intended. I don't know how many men are consistently unable to cum during sex, but I would say it's a fairly small share.
I did this the other day. I've never seen her happier. Stoked.
Good job man and congratulations! Exciting times
After 9 years, you're emotionally married anyways. Now it's just legal!
Man, I finally feel more happiness than depression after breaking up. I never thought breaking up would actually breathe new energy into my life. Long distance without physical intimacy is the worst thing I've ever experienced. I wouldn't wish it upon anybody tbh.
My distance relationship of two years is soon coming to an end. We're moving in together.
My younger brother (23) has just gotten his first girlfriend. They've been dating for 8 days now and she's already sleeping over tonight. At first I wasn't too interested (obviously I want him to be happy and all that), but after chatting with him about her (we've not actually met yet because I don't want to kick the door down into his room to force a conversation), she seems to be talking about her ex a lot. I bought it up with my girlfriend and she said "Well that makes sense, they did only break up 3 months ago and it was a long relationship". My immediate thought was "that's really creepy wtf", but then I had the realisation that my brother may be a rebound. I don't want his first relationship to be coming from that angle really because it's not exactly the healthiest of positions to begin a relationship in. I'm sure there's counterarguments about how rebounds are great 10/10 times, but I have a concern my brother may be being used. Should I bring it up with him? Not sure where to go on this one, or if I should even do anything.
I say just let him do whatever. He’s 23, and obviously he knows about the ex. If the relationship gets toxic somehow (maybe she cheats on him or something), and he really just takes everything lying down, talk to him about it, but otherwise I’d really stay hands-off. I got with my current GF 4 months after a break up, and we’re still together a year later. Either way, he’s a grown up man and he doesn’t need your protection. Doesn’t mean you can’t talk to him about his relationship (“how’s it going with you and XYZ”), but warning him of her especially when you haven’t even talked to her is just silly. If she turns out to be a manipulative bitch, perhaps bring it up, but people need to make their own mistakes to learn from them sometimes.
Cheers, I felt like that was the best course of action. He can be a bit of a doormat, his friends take advantage of him quite a bit sometimes and he never brings it up that it bothers him until afterwards, and never to them. I'll sit on my hands for now, my mind was running away from me a bit there.
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