Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VIIII: I Don't Know Good Titles
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Well I mean I can't blame you for thinking about it, but realistically what would it change if you told him? I can't really see much good come from it. Either you're gonna sow some doubt in his mind (perhaps unfounded), maybe he'll break up with her because of your pseudo-suggestion, then regret it because he didn't see any reason to retrospectively, or worst case he'll just assume you're against her for no good reason, and that could work against you if the whole thing actually turns out to be exploitative.
I mean all of those are pretty unrealistic scenarios, but I just can't really see the benefits of bringing it up preemptively. Just keep yourself posted on his relationship, and if you pick up on a pattern of issues ("yeah actually she kissed this guy at this party but it totally wasn't a thing..."), give him advice on it then.
Realistically she's probably a nice gal, and worst case she's just a bit confused about what she wants because she just came out of a relationship. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's probably a positive that he gets a little relationship experience, even if it doesn't end up working out long-term.
I haven't really done the whole sex-on-the-first-date kinda thing, except yesterday.
Tinder is pretty much an awful shit-show. You spend forever swiping, then you might get a match, whom you write to. After that, if you're lucky, the conversation attempts to go somewhere.
But then usually for me it dies out, especially if I try to suggest that we should meet up in real life. I'm being quite normal there, not like aggressively saying 'lets meet up n fuck' or something like that (maybe I should go for that strategy though).
However I got a match that actually wrote me first, which never happens. Fast forward, we meet up and it turns out we're each other's clones. We think the same way, we're both computer scientists and somewhat fucked up, listen to the exact same music, play the same games etc etc. Really surreal, because I never met anyone that was even remotely close to my own personality and so forth, except that she's 4 years younger and I'm a guy. Then we got wasted and had sex. I guess the weeks of swiping at nothing finally did something, hooray.
Better that you know who she is now than later.
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