• HBO's This Is What The Life Of An Incel Looks Like
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I was wondering the same, because if I don't fap / have sex in a while, I start getting wet dreams and boy is it great to cum in your pants in your sleep. And considering the "you are a failure if you're a virgin at 23-or-something", I lost my virginity at 25. Though I admit there was a pressure whenever women were mentioned and I was still a virgin. I even lied that I wasn't a virgin. Though that was mainly because if I admitted it, the entire point of the meetup now changed to getting me a girl and I absolutely hated it because I didn't know what to do at all and that was way more embarrassing than saying "YE I'VE FUCKED" even if it was a lie. Now I'm married at 29 and I'm the happiest I've ever been.
Yes I am.
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the problem that most of these online communities share is that theyre all in an echo chamber where theyve invented problems for themselves, problems that will never be solved so they can just keep on feeling that theyre fighting for something, as a result they never improve at all you absolutely cannot reason why them because any attempts will be written off as "concern trolling" or "raiding the community"
imo Every single time I've been ridiculed for not having a girlfriend or losing my virginity has been always because other guys and not by women themselves. Maybe it's a cultural thing, but here in Mexico most dudes seem to be ultra-obsessed with anything sexual and place sex as the pinnacle of everything. From the double-meaning jokes they make to the point where all popular songs are about sex and you're considered a winner for having too much sex, regardless of the status of your relationships, because it's better to get laid than to live in good terms with anyone. Worst part is that it's often mexican millenials who judge you and pressure you into talking about this sort of stuff. (People between 24 and their mid 30s). People my age often give zero fucks whether you get laid or not, and middle aged people and the elder always advice the youngest that it's more important to improve yourself, find love with the right person than only getting laid and risk having children at young age just because you rather struggle raising your unwanted kids than be made fun of at drunk parties because your dick hasn't gotten wet yet. This as lead me to the point where, in order to gain confidence, I decide to simply speak to women directly than ever ask any dude around me for advice, because from their perspective. Any approach you make to a woman that doesn't lead to sex is automatically a failure. It's very disgusting when my co-workers see me talking to a female co-worker about work related stuff, and the first question they ask me once I'm back is when I'm gonna take her to bed.
I thought so too in the opening few seconds. But then it all became very clear.
Sex is like pretty great, though.
Kinda missing the point hugely there.
stop making such a big deal about having sex / having gf and this wouldn't be a problem
sure, but it won't bring you peace of mind for more than a day or two. If people would rather leave that out of their lives to focus on things that are actually important, than all the power to them.
I mean. I was under the impression that being sexually inactive as well as active when not in a relationship was equally normal. I mean, what you're both discussing here sounds more like sexual adiction or using it as a substitute for something else in life. That's not what Incels do and it's not what normal healthy adults do either. It's not either having all the sex or having none of it. It's one of the core pillars of a healthy relationship for the majority of couples. It's how it works.
No. Casual sex amongst people with sociopathic tendencies, probably. With people invested each other you could not be any further from the truth. It is both means and method for keeping things absolutely simpatico.
While I wasn’t trying to make a serious post, the “sex isn’t important”-line is just false. Sex is important - you shouldn’t let your sex life dictate who you are, but sexual intimacy is hugely important to so, so many people. The idea that sex is just 10 second of orgasm and then that’s it is just wrong, it’s a way to appreciate and explore another person as well. Sex is a pretty natural extension of love, and for most people they’re basically intertwined. I’m happy for loadingue that it works for him, but most people aren’t asexual, and telling people that “oh you don’t need sex, you just need love” is pointless, because if they aren’t getting one, usually they aren’t getting the other. If we’re talking about how great friendships are, then it’s easier to see his point. And yeah, sex can’t substitute love, but even then, I’d rather have no love, but have sex, than have neither. They’re not exactly mutually exclusive.
No-one's saying it's not important in an intimate relationship... The point is that these people put it up on a pedestal thinking if they get it once then they've suddenly succeeded at life and become functioning members. You're STILL missing the point hugely.
It’s not like sex is unimportant outside a relationship either. You shouldn’t be ashamed of being a virgin, and having sex won’t fix all your problems, but peddling this idea that sex is unimportant just seems silly to me. Sex is fun, and like it or not, it can help your confidence and self-image - knowing that people is attracted to you is not a bad thing. Doesn't mean society doesn’t overemphasise its importance, but let’s not run too far in the other direction either.
I'm struggling to figure out what you mean by this statement.
No one has ever flirted with me or been attracted to me IRL. That fact really doesn't help my confidence or self-image.
It really isn't the same thing and I think you know that... not that I have a problem with it anyway. If you're agender or whatever then fine, good for you, my point is that people who make up a gender are simply looking for as much attention as possible (as mentioned previously, a sign of mental illness, which was really just a tiny part of my point that niche online forums can cultivate/intensify latent mental illness). I hate how people on this forum assume you're wholly against something (i.e. different genders etc) when you criticize one part of it.
this thread makes me very depressed
I think you're trying to see 'mental illness' where there is none. Attention seeking does not make one mentally ill.
there's so many girls that would fuck this guy solely because he has the skinny white boy with dark circles under his eyes look.
Man, I can't wait for this thread to pop up 5 months later with a new manifesto by caamib.
Oh my fuck caamib Motherfucker writes so fucking much about incels that I bet you could make a Marvel Cinematic Universe out of it
Still got the Caamib post right here.
the day I realised that "skinny, always tired/sad looking white boy" was a look that was desired in certain circles was the best day of my life
This one is still my favorite
https://i.imgur.com/FFbIome.png I wonder what kind of woman would be with this man.
A bunch of convoluted theories relating the decline of society, rooted in sexual frustration, the sheer complexity of it all masquerading as moral clarity.
Check out the two posts linked a few posts up and judge for yourself
Either he broke down and got a prostitute and that normalized him offline, or else he met a girl who was filled with pity and also has a gun hidden somewhere on her at all times.
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