Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria - General

No worries; I was just wondering if anyone has experience with doing it because it is literally my only option other than self-medding. (I do not count having to wait 3 years to even get an initial appointment in Scotland as an option but I've already bitched about that here last week)

I have experience with self-medding. Other than it being somewhat expensive and long wait times (as well as getting the stink eye from others if they happen to open the package because they're nosy cunts), it's not too bad. Can be dangerous if you dive face first.

I was very close to turning to self-medding recently; I left the private practice because the NHS said they would take over my care but then turned around and spat in my face so I felt like I had no options but to self-medicate (the drugs are surprisingly cheap and easy to get in the UK which is normally pretty stringent about that sort of thing; can't even get my asthma inhaler without a prescription in pharmacies) Luckily the private practice I was with was understanding and took me back on. I would much rather have a professional monitoring me if possible.

Passing is something I know I will need in my life, and desperately crave. I can only wish and hope, but I want to take as many steps as possible. And who knows, tech may get better.

Honestly wouldn't trust the NHS with anything lately, you're not the only one they've done this type of shit to.

It shouldn't be painful at all. If you're experiencing pain you might be pushing your voice too hard, and should probably take it a little bit easier to avoid damaging your vocal chords.

I'm trying to come out to friends but turns out that's really hard when you haven't talked to most of them in seven months because you isolate yourself due to dysphoria

Came out to my friend. He was actually really worried about me (because of my depression spell), which was sweet of him.

He also didn't know I was turbo gay. I guess I'm better at hiding it than I thought He was somewhat resistant to the idea of me being transgender, which kinda frustrated me, but I know he just had a ton of questions and wanted to be sure I would be okay. I think.

Just want to vent a little. I like where I live, but I also don't like where I live. I like it because it's a small town, doesn't have big city problems. But I hate it because my friends live an hour away. The nearest McDonalds is 40 minutes away, and the place I work at is 45 minutes away. And then I have to drive back home... Basically, there's nothing to do in the town I live in, and I have to go out of my way to do things. That might not seem like a big deal to most of you, and it usually isn't, but driving around so much really drains me. Not only that, but because of work, I'm usually waking up around 5pm or later on my days off (I work 12 hour days) and by the time I get around to do something, most stores are closed. Also, I'm having some ~gender identity issues~ that keeps plaguing my mind. I guess it's not really gender identity issues. I could care less if I'm a guy or girl, but it's mostly that I want to look and feel like a girl (basic explanation). Being referred to as a guy doesn't set off any alarms in my head. As of this post, I had to text my friends saying I wouldn't be around for D&D night so I could have some alone time. I want to come out to them, but I'm afraid I might ruin everything because of it. They're super cool people though, so I don't think they'd be against it. But it's awkward for me because from my point of view, I have no way of pursuing the HRT path unless I start self-medicating which seems dangerous and not something I want to do without a doctor's supervision. The closest trans related clinic is 2 hours away from me, and I absolutely do not want to go through months or years of "therapy" just to get medication. I barely have enough time to do laundry let alone see a specialist. If I was able to make a one-time visit to a doctor to get medicine then I'd be able to do that just fine. tl;dr - I drive a lot and it drains me. Friends live far away, so does work. Very little time to myself. Want to come out to friends, but afraid it'll just make things awkward.

You should call up the clinic. Most clinics in the US have informee consent, which can give you like 2 weeks wait to start instead of months. Let alone years.

I hate talking on the phone... Wish I could just text them.

I've been holding out on coming out to the rest of my family until early May. I decided on this because I feel safer doing it when I'm close to the rest of my family, when we are ordinarily across the entire country away. But there's a bit of a problem, I didn't think about hair cuts at the time, and I had let my hair grow pretty long. My dad really wants to take me to get a hair cut, but I'm not really sure how to say no. I know he will seriously attempt to grill me about it, but I don't really know what to say. Sorry if this post is super un-descriptive or rambley. I haven't really been able to put my thoughts to words for a long time now. I don't know why but I just have a terrible time explaining anything at all.

It is your body and you hair. Just tell him no means no and you won't.

tell him you're in a glam metal band

https://files.facepunch.com/forum/upload/249570/d905fd1a-4455-4bf6-9e33-8b3ca7a78b1c/image.png Glad to see that we have the full confidence of the mod team

I've never seen Shendow post but I swear to god I get a dumb from him on every single trans-related post I make outside of this thread. It's making me mildly uncomfortable.

jesus, what thread is that?

I just don't post anything. Seems the attitude is "haha, what a funny bunch of freaks" and anyone protesting it is "a snowflake". I'm still waiting for an ignore function.

4Channer blackmails people to sending nudes of themselves on Hor..

Which, as I understand, turned out to be fucking nothing anyway. The press should know better by now than to pass unsubstantiated 4chan rumors off as news

The worst thing is that that thread isn't even news. There is no press. The news source is a knowyourmeme page.

One person does not represent the entirety of the moderator team when it comes to social topics.

Of course not. It's still disappointing to see a mod regularly agreeing with bigoted views and rating a bunch of trans-related posts outside of the thread dumb, though.

Sure, but it's still disappointing and disheartening to see an attitude like that from a moderator in the first place.

Oh how fun the same mod that agreed with the bigoted post banned the person the post was about https://files.facepunch.com/forum/upload/249570/38970255-a583-4bae-a63d-38c3221b0187/image.png

That post is legitimately bannable but yeah. It looks really bad. Frankly I get rated dumb by Shendow so often in so many threads I'm starting to get creeped out by it.

I know, I'm just incredibly worried that he's gonna start seriously questioning me. He had historically grilled me for being interested in some girly things before years ago. I often still wonder if I'm the bad guy, the person who causes all the trouble in the family. I can't help but feel like a failure, but at the same time I can't really stop being one when I can't even focus on anything for any extended period of time or ever have any decent control of my emotions. Thank you though, this is probably what I'll do.

I suppose it's possible that there are some people out there who literally never get offended by anything ever that is not a brick hitting them in the skull, but I am pretty sure they are not the majority.

The only thing I meant by it is that Shendow's opinions on trans topics do not align with my opinions. I can propose certain things be done but I am one moderator. I'm not sure why you're putting me up as someone who doesn't see an issue with transphobia, considering I'm dealing with trans issues myself. I want to be upset about that but I generally disassociate myself with things I do on this forum for that reason, so I can only hope that you understand that I'm not sitting here trying to defend transphobic comments rather than stating that what one moderator does does not mean that the rest of us feel the same. I don't pretend to know the stance on trans issues for the rest of the mod team. I'm not sure what you would have me do. If you're genuinely concerned, I would contact Hezzy.