Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria - General

i definitely stand corrected !! but ye getting on medicaid is pretty easy if yr broke as fuck, @AtomicSans i haven't navigated CA's system but having done both OR and WA there's more illegitimate ways to get coverage if you make a little bit too much money to get state insurance // if you need that info yr welcome to DM me about it.

Your cities or counties may also have their individual laws that can make access to services either easier, or more difficult. Like I know Austin has some really good lgbt services here and there, but not so much Texas. Its a gamble to figure it all out.

The most annoying part about getting FFS is the psychological, and partially physiological toll. As you have to go off HRT for around 2 weeks before the surgery, and stay off for like a week, rarely 2 afterwards. Because of concerns over bleeding factors, clotting, healing, etc. But oh my god my mind has been a clusterfuck of emotion, anger, depressions and so on in the absence of my HRT regiment. Only mentioning this because I got into a silly fight/argument with my partner and how he puts the bed sheets on the wrong way, I was plain livid over bedsheets, and the my emotions immediately did a huge swing and now I"m crying the fact I can't find my hair ties. Not really sure what my point is, but oh my god I never realized how much HRT stabilized my psyche.

I'm debating whether to stay up until 9am and call this transgender institute and try to schedule an appointment, or not. My dad will be home around that time and I would prefer not to talk over the phone with him around.

I was able to make a trans person happy yesterday. I work in a corporate office, more specifically one for a rather large but still local retail chain. I had a customer come on our live chat service. It started off pretty normal at first. They just wanted a discount because they thought it was too much money. The kind of shit I don't care about and have a no bullshit attitude towards. But the person also was very upset about the way they were treated at one of our stores. By what they told me it seemed the employees at the store were very short with him. They didn't inform her properly of a policy and he felt their attitude was disrespectful and it felt like a "hate crime." Normally I don't buy into this shit as its usually the person is blowing it out of proportion when they were the ones being assholes. However something about the way they were typing and what was told to them gave me this vibe that perhaps I should hear this out fully. So I ask why he felt this way. I was thinking it was something about poverty because our employee told him if he wants cheap he should go to Wal-Mart. Like ouch. What a shitty thing to say. However, he tells me his spouse his transgender man and he feels that it may have had something to do with his appearance. Jesus fuck that took me for a loop especially because this store is located in the same building I work at. But I pass so may be that's why I don't get treated like crap. He even told me that he complained to the manager and they didn't care. I felt so bad. I told him I was transgender too and I know how it feels. I apologized to him on behalf of his spouse and told him if he wants to still do business with us I'll give him $50 store credit. Its not a lot given what we sell but he can still get a nice home accessory free on us. He thanked me and was super stoked and appreciated my kindness. I wish I knew a bit more but I didn't want to ask any probing questions. If I had to guess I imagine that the guy married this transman when he was a woman and he came out during their marriage and he's still staying with him. If that's the case that dude is q bro. Seriously.

I know I'm late, but I confronted her during our nightly walk. She said she realized what she did wrong shortly after she said it and apologized. I'm over it now, but it seriously fucked me up for a few days and I didnt talk for a while. I think what hurt the most was that I don't think she would have apologized unless I brought it up. Whatever, I probably would've done the same thing... Anyway, we went to Costco today, and the receipt checker dude said "Good morning ladies," so that was nice. I'm far from passing yet, and still in boymode, but we both had a good laugh about it. I just chalked it up to the fact that he didn't look back up, but it was still well appreciated.

Legal name change is doooone

Does anyone know the typical wait time to get a therapist through your healthcare provider in the US? Im waiting to get a therapist through them that does outreach.

God, that sounds absolutely fantastic! Nothing in there would strike me as "not cis" if I wasn't listening for it.

Excellent work on the voice. If I didn't know you were trans in this thread, there's nothing about that recording that would have made me suspect it.

Your voice is absolutely gorgeous, nice work!!!

Lia I have played Tarkov with you for months and never realized you were trans, I just heard a woman all of that time. Good fucking job, you go girl!

I really wanna work on my voice but every time it occurs to me to do so I just don't feel up to it I'm never gonna get anywhere

what the fuck

My voice is probably one of the things that gives me the least actual dysphoria just because like, you know how your voice sounds really different to you than to everyone else? By some fluke the version of my voice that only I can hear sounds actually kind of okay to me the way it is But it sounds pretty crap in recordings, so I still want to work on changing it so I don't get insta-clocked whenever I want to say words

I had like 3 separate dreams last night about calling that institution, all of which were bad. The only one I really remember was one where I was talking to a lady on the phone and she was asking some very rude questions that I couldn't understand why she was asking them. She got super angry at me. This whole situation is giving me bad anxiety...

I haven't started voice training because I'm afraid of failure and my brain doesn't like the effort-to-reward ratio despite it actually being very reasonable like, it would really help my mood if I could sound like a girl instead of garbage trash, why am I like this

im just terrible with schedules and thats why i havent constantly worked on my voice its just off and on really. also i got sick for like a month due to allergies and im still trying to fully get over it

What guides did you read or whatever you used because you are sounding really great! would love to sound as good as that

Likely getting approved for HRT on may the 17th

I started altering my voice because I didn't like how deep it was, some months later (not sure of exact amount of time) it was slightly higher than before and I liked it a bit more. This was back in 2012, I think. Now that my voice is "good enough" it's hard to find the motivation to train it daily, even though I really should do it

I'm trying to hold out hope that I'll improve but realistically, no, I probably won't achieve any of them

It sure is funny how I can go from having pretty much zero genital dysphoria and actually kind of liking the damn thing... to not being able to sleep because I can't stop focusing on how it feels and how much I hate it, over the course of just one year please it's two in the morning

i feel this strongly lmfao, early transition i remember screaming at a friend who was being shitty to me that i just wanted to cut my own junk off, to not caring, to kinda caring again, to getting on bicalutamide instead of spiro so that i could get solid erections again

I did it. I called the place and got an appointment. I could have gone in this Friday but that was actually too soon, so I got the 25th instead. Lady on the phone was super nice, and was actually the founder of the place too.

((also y'all, if you don't like spiro bc it makes you feel, dizzy, run-down, or in general shitty, and you Don't have bottom dysphoria, bicalutamide is FUCKING AMAZING. it's given me NO nasty side effects while effectively blocking my T, and allowing me to regain and maintain function down there which has been fantastic on my end bc sex has gotten waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better again))

That sounds like a godsend since I love my cock, but the issue is the spiro libido killing stuff is kind of helpful to me because my libido is EXTREMELY EXTREMELY powerful and spiro helps supress that a bit to a less overwhelming state, and I get headaches from orgasming. Guess I have to weigh cost/benefits of this lol

What kinds of questions can I expect them to ask when I see a counselor? I want to be ready for anything.

yeah i can't imagine it'd be easy to navigate being able to take migraine medications before every orgasm lmfaooo

Hey so i'm getting closer to having my first meeting with a therapist about this stuff. I know i'm trans 100%. Should I be upfront with them and tell them my end goals right away? Or should I kinda keep things simple for the beginning. I live in the US in a good state so I don't think gate keeping or anything would be a problem.