Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria - General

You got this! HRT appointments always tend to be fucky no matter where you are, but only worry yourself sick when they haven't said something in daaaaaaays. Find things to distract you for a little bit. Just gotta have patience c:

I spent a month hyping for this one session and it isn't even my usual therapist, it's some male dude, with no sexological background. I want to bang my head into a wall

Between looking for insurance, employment, and starting school, and going through transitioning, I kinda wanna curl into a tiny ball and just roll down the biggest hill in PA. Because god damn.

life feels like a lot when your perspective pulls back and you're watching yourself from a distance and just taking in everything around you taking things on a day to day basis is all i can manage bc as soon as i look at the bigger picture i collapse too you will make it thru this tho

So I bought some cheap textiles and sewwed my own pair of panties and a nice half-thigh length skirt, it feels nice to wear but I am too shy to show it especially because I don't have tiddies yet

That's still pretty neat! Making your own clothes sounds kinda fun actually

Is it normal to be worried about uneven breasts? I realize the majority of women have asymmetrical breasts, but honestly I was really hoping mine won't be like that. However, the right one is SLIGHTLY more full on the bottom than the left one, so far. Now they're both fairly similar, it's just the bottom part of the left one feels like more of a pronounced curve into a breast, where as the right one more smoothly flows up like a hill, because it's fuller. Sorry if that didn't make any sense. Wondering if any other girls here have their self-confidence muddled with by things like this?

Left breast is WAY bigger than my right one. But also they are tiny, so way bigger means pretty much barely more noticeable.

I'm asymmetrical all over (please end me), but it's actually quite normal to have asymmetrical growth! Sometimes both are rounded, the next day one is sniffing for blood and concerning the other. All else fails, talk with your doc and maybe they can tell you more c:

Is there a discord for TGCD? Please give me an invite then

It's on the first page! Here's a link to it for ease of navigation c:

Is it normal to sometimes feel male and other times feel female? Some days I feel like a man and some days I feel like a female.

That's absolutely normal and fine. IIRC that's what most people call genderfluid.

i've personally seen "non-binary" used a lot more than "genderfluid" in the last few years

Everyone in my close family now knows, long story short from how my dad reacted. Figured it out over a year ago (guess got more noticable within the last year?) and essentially get on with my life.

Wait, what did I do that was disagreeable? Was the discord link wrong? Probably should've tested it before pulling the link

Yeah but like, it makes me upset... It confuses me and I find it hard to explain to anyone that one day I might be femmy and other other manly.. ugh :c

These things can be a bit confusing and upsetting at first. It's a bit of a normal reaction. Is there anyone that you trust that you'd feel comfortable explaining your feelings to?

usually i go off of what pronouns i want used for me during a period in which i'm feeling differently about my gender, i'm genderfluid and float thru a lot of femme and masc feelings- like lately i've been tellin people to use it/itself and he/him pronouns for me, and when you have good people around you they'll follow through on switching for you

I used to feel like this before I had a psychedelic experience that made me sure I was a girl.

oh!!! also good news~~ i've got my breast augmentation surgery in two weeks!!!! 500cc gel implants here i come baby

Part of me still wants to call the place I have my HRT appointment scheduled at here in July, and see if they have a sooner opening now. But I'm also afraid to.

you should call back in and ask if they have any cancellations!! the sooner you make progress on this, the less waiting around in fear you do!! i know it's hard but truly honestly stagnation alone can be super harmful i believe in u

Euuuugh I dunno. Like I don't wanna be annoying. Plus I guess the worst they can just say is no but oofh...

i know this is a hard suggestion, but being annoying and forceful is part of how you get things done quicker when yr trans and dealing with the medical system, n also as someone who has worked phones, that's a super standard thing to get a call-in about and very much usually a non-issue for the person on the other end as long as yr not a complete dick

Got'cha. I can try calling then, I'll probably have to do it tomorrow though because it's past 5 and they're likely closed. If they do hopefully it doesn't fall on a day I'm not in state.

Well, on the upside, my therapist found two more gender therapists that can do letters. And they're local too. Now I just need to stop being so goddamn nervous and call one already. From what I've heard, you have to be 100% with the therapist. Any kinda wishy-washiness and they'll deny you. I'm really hoping that doesn't happen...

My appointment is in 2 days and I'm super nervous. I'm afraid I'll say the wrong thing and not be taken seriously... Should I just tell them I want to start HRT and try to speed the process along?

Be cooperative through patience and understanding that this is a very very involved, long and extensive, intensive and potentially expensive treatment process. Doctors are limited by hippocratic oath and a few other things like that, they need to make sure they are giving you the right treatment first. It's like that for me. There is no "wrong thing" to say at these appointments, speak out your heart, there are no transphobic sexologists out there, that would be like a jew working in a hotdog stand.

this is patently false. There are plenty.