Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria - General

Okay, as somebody who had something similar happen to them; Please do tell him. There's no risk, just explain what happened without even hinting at something more and even if he's in a relationship now, he'll still appreciate knowing.

It’s alright, it’s not a huge deal. I just miss having a little bit of attention I think lmao. Its hard for someone like me to get someone interested without an ulterior motive. Especially since I’m ace. Things like Tinder are pointless. And I can’t really look to my friends to provide me with that kind of attention because that’s weird I guess? Lol. Who knows. I think these are just “It’s 1:30Am, I’ve been sick for a week straight, and am under appreciated in my home” feelings.

I get it, and sorry if I'm being.. overly caring? I've been drinking and whenever I do I just get into these moods of "I love everyone and want everyone to be happy!", ha. And yeah, I could imagine that'd be tough, is there anywhere for an ace person to go to like.. meet people? I feel like there should be... And yeah, I mean, friends can only provide so much. And hey, I don't know you but I appreciate you and this conversation! I haven't been on facepunch in like... ages, so it's nice to see that the little trans community here is still going strong! Sorry you're sick though.

Don’t worry! I appreciate the conversation tbh. I don’t generally have many people to talk about gender feelings with and sometimes I forget this thread is here. I know I’ve been invited to the Discord before but it’s harder for me to carry on a conversation in real time since I tend to get up and wander a lot. Yeah I’ve been sick since last Monday. Started at a cold and developed into acute tonsillitis. I’m on antibiotics but my seasonal allergies aren’t letting up and I’m still miserable lol. I took a week off of working but tbh I might take another’s off. My life has been chaotic this past month.

I went on a date for the first time as a woman (as opposed to feeling more like I was just crossdressing in public, and that I've been on drugs now). I asked her if she wanted me to pay for us, but then when we finished she ended up paying the bill instead. I've never had anyone even like want to go 50/50 with me before so that was super strange. Then I got wasted on accident watching her play my Rift and woke up in her bed while she slept on the couch. So, uh, good night I guess?

Its sundayyyy! Time to be lazy in bed

It's sundayyyyyyyyy time to tell my grandparents i'm a girl

Oh shit good luck!

Just told my cousins and they're super supportive, offered to kick anyone's ass who gave me trouble and they complimented my hair Now time for grandparents...

It terrifies me to imagine having to tell anyone, especially cause my brother makes fun of all the "cutsie" things I do/have. Like my avatar on Steam, that was a focus yesterday for a little bit. I don't know how he'd even react. Honestly if I had it my way I'd just not tell anyone and disappear. Very proud of you!

Good job!

success, finally out to everyone.

how did your grandparents take it?

i wasn't there in person actually, my parents told them, but they said they took it really well

Yaaaay! Happy for you! You're way braver than I could be.

i am dying of anxiety here

Hey I'm back from being not migrated

Honestly considered myself a femboi for a while, then shifted to transgirl, but I guess that was kind of to justify myself getting HRT at all in the first place. Now that I have it I kind of just don't give a fuck, I'd probably call myself a nonbinary dickgirl/femboy/trap at this point. If you want to take HRT for any reason, you should be able to if you think it'd make you happier. You should do what you want with your body if you think you'd like it and understand the risks. You don't need to follow some super specific guidelines besides to maybe get past some bs gatekeepy shit.

I'm trying to internalize this but I'm being really fucked by this issue I have where I feel like I'm not allowed to feel emotions without asking somebody's permission and that extends to professionals diagnosing me with things.

Feel free to message me on Discord if you want someone to talk to.

Im just gonna repost this from another thread Had a mental breakdown. Got into a heated talk with my brother. i need to start the process of medical transition sooner or later but to do that i am going to have to break away from my family entirely but my family still controls a good chunk of my financial stuff so this means I'll be risking very real homelessness and once i do this my brother can't house me because of the complicated obligation he has to his wife and my family. So i have a choice: i live miserable like this forever or live miserable like this and end up possibly homeless. I have nowhere else to turn to and i have no friends. I am going to die like this but it seems i don't have any choice but to slowly rot in this disgusting body. I'm actually breaking down into tears

Family is garbage and anyone who says you're obligated to appreciate them is garbage. I wish I were in a position to help.

https://twitter.com/wresnocontext/status/978400347428356103?s=19

I like to say blood is garbage not family. You are free to choose who is your family, or not. I learned that one real quick.

I started when I was 23, 3 years later I'm unintentionally stealth at my work, co-workers and friends all treat me appropriately. Side-note, I'm having to swap over to patches due to Valerates being discontinued. Anyone have any experience with estrogen patches?

I've used patches for about 2 months now, can't say I like them too much. They leave glue stains on the skin which have to be scratched off in the shower, which easily makes the skin feel more sensetive. One time I got a rash from the patches too.

That's a common trend with patches. Some things I've learned: Apply some alcohol wipe to the area of choice to prevent bubbling of patches Throw some baby powder so the residual adhesive sticks to that instead of your clothing. If you want that extra stick, Tegaderm. Those are super helpful adhesives themselves. Water resistant too. Bandaids work in a pinch Sometimes you'll have that residual itchiness/rash-like feeling afterwards. It fades after some time, but it is irritating and is a result of the adhesive itself, which I don't have a fix for, sadly. Other than switching to a different method of ingestion :s

its not that I can start at 23, id have to start way later

walked past the neighbor's kids when getting the mail today, one of them teased the other about liking me lol, small thing but very validating.

So my brother makes fun of this whole persona I have created online (the purple haired chick) and it results in our coworkers making fun of it. I played it off as "it's like any big social media person, they have this sort of persona to draw people in" and just got laughed at more. Why is it because I like cute things I gotta be ridiculed? This is the shit that reaffirms me not wanting to tell anyone in my family. I'll just have to be hiding it once I start HRT in July..