Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria - General

Well and it's why I get cute posters, figures, etc. It just makes me happy and I like looking at it way more. I admit putting decals on my car may be a little too open, but I accept that I'll get teased for that. But it just makes me want to scream sometimes. I've been applying to jobs anywhere out of state, just to make my life easier. So I can get away from it and be more open to myself without fearing this shit. Hell even having them joke about being gay and I'm just sitting there like "Well, I mean you're not half wrong...". It really just isn't a friendly environment to want to come out to with anything.

Yeah. It sucks. When I was younger my "friends" used to make fun of me for playing girls in every game. I made some dumb excuse like "I think they are hot" just to leave me alone. It really sucks that things have to be gendered.

Your persona is cool as fuck, very expressive.

Honestly at this point, even if I decide I'm not trans, I'm still going to lie and say I'm a girl on the internet, just because it feels much better and more natural. Online personas are weird.

I'm an instructional assistant working in exceptional student education. One of my 5th graders came up to me yesterday in tears, complaining about bullying, and asked to speak to me privately outside. Outside, he told me that he felt like he was supposed to be a girl, and that he told the other students in the room that he felt this way, and that's why they were picking on him. He broke down sobbing, telling me "I should have been born a girl. I'm a mistake, I'm disgusting." I always suspected that this particular student might be trans, or at least very effeminate, but I hadn't ever spoken to him about it. I couldn't help my conscience. I've been living in the closet, without only my family and close friends knowing about my transition, but I couldn't let this kid go on thinking that he was alone like this. So I told him that I'm trans, and that even though I can't do anything to help him aside from intervening against bullying, I wanted him to understand that I know how he feels and that he shouldn't be ashamed of himself. I also told him that there are people who can help, but he needs to talk to his parents about it and get in touch with his therapist. From the sounds of things, his household hasn't confronted the issue yet. I'm basically hamstrung; not only can I not help him any more than this, but by revealing that I'm trans I've endangered my own professional future. I told him not to tell anyone about me because it could affect my job, and I hope he understands. Today, I'm going to call the HR department of my school district. I've done some research and it looks like the school board passed a bylaw in 2016 that should protect me against discrimination, but the language is a bit vague- it seems to imply that its policy is based on state and federal law, but since the Trump administration reversed a lot of protections Obama put in place, I worry that my district has reverted as well. I just need to survive for a couple more years in this state so I can get my certification and become a full-fledged teacher, and then I can move somewhere safer.

I did this for 10 years, alt tabbing when people would walk in or opening game windows to try and occlude my character because I didn't want them to make a scene.

I wish it was that easy on a few things, but when a new stepfather has already made deragatory remarks as "jokes" and has wholeheartedly embraced everything Trump has done... Well, you already know what you're getting into. I do agree however though that you shouldn't give up on family unless they give up on you. Just don't let it destroy you like it destroyed my father.

apple news (iOS Newsfeed app) has a spotlight section that currently has tons of pro-trans articles since this sunday is trans visibility day. covering stuff like India's third gender, a trans teen music idol, US military stuff, etc.

I've been there too given I play as a girl in pretty much everything given the opportunity, but tbh it's much easier to blow off nowadays and nobody even really gives a shit anymore now that we're older

Ahh thanks for your experience, both of you. I'm a little concerned about dosages but most people say they just put on a new patch and leave the old one on for an extra day or so. I'm not a big fan of needles and have a hard time administering my shot so not having to rely on my husband to take my medicine is a plus (He's doesn't enjoy it either lol, poor guy).

I still get teased for once in awhile but yea, definitely nowhere as bad as it used to be.

Leave old patch on for extra day while applying new one I actually didn't know about this. Thank you for that! Also yeah, injection types are pretty iffy, but the best in terms of getting the greatest effect

To provide an anecdote for the last point; my significant other's parents were pretty against it early on (I'll spare you the details). Over a period of 3 months her mother has come to fully accept and support her as a girl. There's still a little work to be done in regards to her father, but it's not something that can be rushed and it's overall significantly better than before. While I'm not suggesting every family can be as accepting, it's worth a try.

I'm mad as shit because I was meant to be starting HRT this month and suddenly I am on a 20 month waiting list.

Why? Did they give a reason?

I was meant to have a transfer of care agreement sent over to the public health service from the private clinic I was with, but now the public service has decided that they want to do their own diagnosis to see if I really have gender dysphoria and it takes 20 months to even see someone, despite assuring me that my diagnosis was fine and setting up all my blood work. I mean I have been living as a girl for the past 10 months but apparently I and my original doctors don't know what we are talking about. Pulling shit out their ass.

I eventually gave up on following the NHS process after getting screwed around with forgotten referrals, lost appointments, and being sent back to the end of a two year waiting list twice (years apart!). Took me 4 years almost to get anywhere and that was all by my own initiative and with no help from the NHS, I don't regret self-medding for a second as its fairly easy to manage, understand, and source. Though, I'll probably try and go private at some point to take load off. tl;dr I can sympathise, the process I was shoved through was infuriating

Yeah it was the NHS who has fucked all this up for me (I know FP says I in the Netherlands, that's true but I am a British citizen and receiving NHS care) Only thing holding back is the monitoring; I am a pretty active and generally healthy person but I am also kinda paranoid about risks. Did you find any way to monitor stuff when self medding?

Personally, I don't think anyone should self-medicate under any circumstances. But it depends on your situation - if you're like my psycho-ass neighbor who the local PD knows self-medicates with meth (but can't do anything because they don't have proof), and what you're using as a "med" isn't helping, you should stop. But in this case, there are tons of estrogen and testosterone pills you can buy online from Amazon. I don't know if there's testosterone or estrogen blockers, though - and it may be illegal to buy them in the UK. I hope your transition goes well, hun.

I don't know how you can say that when it's so hard for many people to get treatment the "legit" way

I would much prefer to medicate under supervision of a doctor but that is just not happening thanks to the NHS losing all my shit and kicking me to the bottom of the pile for no goddamn reason.

As far as i know, really all you need are blood tests for your hormone levels. Get one done before you start, for a baseline, then get them done every 3 months or so. That's how my doctor handles my HRT.

I would always endorse going proper monitored routes (either privately or through NHS / insurance) but a lot of the time they can do as much harm as they do good. As long as you do your research, are aware and understand the risks, and get tests regularly either privately or through your GP; it shouldn't be a huge issue to do it on your own. It's not a very complicated process in all honesty, I've certainly not had any issues. Though as I said I intend to possibly move private soon to take a load off, as that would be preferable.

waiting 20 months on something that causes the individual considerable existential pain on the daily basis is completely fucking insane. 20 FUCKING MONTHS, it's possible to build like 5% of the great wall of china by that time for fuck's sakes.

I got some women's shoes for the first time. (a pair of super cute mary janes) Which means for the firs time I was able to wear girl stuff head-to-toe. It was so incredibly nice.

Problem is that my GPs (both my home GP in Scotland and my current GP in the Netherlands) will not do blood tests until I have a diagnosis through a NHS service, and I have to wait 20 months to even /start/ seeing about that. I have a diagnosis through a registered gender specialist, and at first they were like 'oh yeah that's fine' but now they suddenly changed their mind saying that the policy means I need to start at square one.

When don't girls have the upperhand in fashion?

It's settled: Cross-dressing will be a must in future anime games and stuff. No one will feel left out when everyone can wear that sailor moon outfit!

Hanging out with friends tomorrow and we're gonna eat, watch Ready Player One, and then bar crawl after. I'm debating letting it slip to them while drunk, since I met them online. But a part of me is telling me not to.

What is your configuration on friendships? do you prefer to have a small quantity of extremely close friends or a large quantity of kind of sort of friends? If they are the true friends type then revealing it to them should not be an issue, otherwise they are not really friends, and should probably be done when sober. If they are kind of sort of casual buddies then probably absolutely not.