Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria - General

I just wanted to provide an update on that student I spoke with the other day. When I came in the following morning, there was a note on the whiteboard behind my table: "Thank you [my last name] Thank you!" and a smiley face. I already knew it was probably him, but I still asked the teacher I assist who wrote it, and he confirmed it for me- the kid had sneaked into our room through one of the adjoining classrooms and wrote the note right after he got to school. Notice the lack of "Mr." in the note. :') Later on, he came to my table while everyone was busy. He said "I talked to my parents... It didn't go well." Despite the message, he didn't seem too upset. He elaborated that they mainly talked to him about the bullying issues, but weren't receptive to him questioning his gender identity. Unfortunately, I'm not really surprised. Despite all of his behaviors, I get the impression that he doesn't know where to go to get information about transgenderism, and lacks the ability to articulate his feelings in a way that a parent would properly understand. The poor kid is only 11 years old. If his parents are ignorant of the subject, like mine were when I first came out to them, then how is he supposed to defend his position from their questions? I barely held my own at twice his age. I told him to hang on for a few more years, since middle schools and high schools allow students to schedule appointments with guidance councilors on their own time and without parent approval. Without telling him exactly what the councilors might recommend, I simply told him that he might find an advocate among them. I asked him if he knew what an advocate was, and he said no, so I told him, "it's someone who will listen to you and help you if they can. They might be able to talk to your parents about it." He was sad about having to wait a while before really getting the chance to push the issue, but I think he'll be better off in the end because he'll have more time to explore the issue on his own. I hope he takes it seriously and researches this stuff on his own accord before he gets councilors involved. He was also really happy to hear about all the freedom he's going to have as a high school student down the line. I told him about after-school clubs and how I used to be the president at my high school's video game club, and that afterwards my friends and I would walk to the local McDonalds and hang out until almost dinner time. So that's where we left off, and the issue hasn't been brought up since. I'm also confident that he'll keep my secret. He's a good kid. As for me, I'm pretty sure I'm safe in this district even if he did spill the beans. I'm happy I was able to do what my conscience told me without it coming back to bite me.

Are there no private blood testing services you can go to?

I wish I had the confidence of that kid to speak to my teachers and parents back when I was their age. I'd pretty much cemented what I felt back when I was only 7 years old - but my utter total lack of any confidence, fear, and discomfort in myself made me just hold onto it until it was too hard to bare any longer; and at that point almost 10 years had passed. I can never help but feel a little upset at how different things would've been for me had I just been able to speak my mind back then... Glad for them though, they might have the chance that I always missed taking.

I got my hair cut and I feel super cuute, I might post pictures later~

Chest has felt a lot more sensitive and sore on the last couple of weeks, feeling my shirt rub against it when I wear non-oversized shirts feels weird. But hey, at least that means the meds are working, which is nice!

happy trans day of visibility everyone

I was going to retweet some stuff about TDOV on Twitter but then I realized that I have it linked to my professional portfolio and I follow some recruiters and personal local friends, so I was worried about them seeing it. Which is silly but w/e I'll reblog some stuff on Tumblr probably.

claiming first selfie today with this great one from the bass pro shop geofront where i am exceedingly visible https://files.facepunch.com/forum/upload/58204/b21c8832-204b-4f84-bb82-9593a66ac4cc/image.png

I may as well post one too from a few days ago https://files.facepunch.com/forum/upload/110469/7b376fd2-bfeb-40f8-a39e-c6bf4863a67a/DZUy22oWsAAt4AS.jpg

I really want to get my ears pierced, but tattoo shops are so intimidating... lmao

https://78.media.tumblr.com/04c68f31a2a67eaf4fa59a0293a91801/tumblr_p6h9p8mqYf1ql7e99o2_400.jpg https://78.media.tumblr.com/352d3a1bba92d9f60f2eb180bd0eb81e/tumblr_p6h9p8mqYf1ql7e99o1_400.jpg here's some shitty pics of me if u must know what I look like some day I will look more masculine that'd be gr8

Right after I got my hair done! Nearly 4 months into my E~ https://files.facepunch.com/forum/upload/110253/c1c03fed-5e82-47be-a5f8-03af9f9f482a/image.png

Not gonna lie, you're looking pretty badass in those pics, like I'm getting a real sense of "This dude could kick my ass" Cool af. Makes me wanna get a decent beanie too, some guys rock them real good and I've never tried! Also just realised I've only been lurking this whole time, hello you lovely people! I've got a lot of thinking to do. This is going to be a weird year.

You and me both. I have to have someone to go with me or I'll sweat buckets the entire time and flake out

One very closeted and very invisible trans girl showing her face (i'm supposed to be working shhh) https://files.facepunch.com/forum/upload/157/ff801af1-4291-4bde-bd02-748f6dbd6973/20180331_193541.jpg

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/335972920306302976/429696385437138954/20180331_132302.jpg had a RADICAL TDoV at the cincinatti zoo

I adore all the tdov selfies I'm seein'. Ill contribute (and kinda come out in a more public space) My gender is something I'm still trying to figure out. I mark myself as nb currently and I have no real preferred pronouns, but I do lean more feminine. Maybe I'll figure myself out soon. I don't have any pictures I like of me wearing girl stuff cept this one lol. Sorry if the outfit is silly, I dont really own any normal girl stuff https://i.imgur.com/hLVTJbR.png

Is it possible to feel genderless while at the same time not having body dysphoria? I feel completely satisfied with my male body but at the same time labeling myself as either a boy or a girl feels weird. I strongly suspect that I am a well disguised extraterrestrial cyber Sasquatch from the Andromeda galaxy.

really don't see how complaining about a transphobic slur being used in the name of a user-mad facepunch theme counts as being a baby or a snowflake but ok

why even have the snowflake rating

It is kind of a dick move honestly, why not just name it tyrannosaur's parent or something?

do s q u a t s

Imagine pivoting from the theme thread into this one to vaguely insult posters with ratings while also being too much of a gigantic pussy to actually post

imagine the owner of the fucking forums thinking it's a non-issue and rating people snowflake for complaining about it

reaaaallly gives ya confidence in this place doesnt it (p.s sorry for rating you asshole phygon, misread ur post sorry)

And now three people are in here literally just rating snowflake and baby bottle? How childish.

I just ignore it tbh.

So posting back on this since it's been a little bit crazy this week. Got a promotion, had to worry about my coworker slashing my tires cause he left in a fit of rage when he found out I got it over him, saw Ready Player One with those friends, went to a bar, and then I got hammered last night. Anyway! I wore my cute white/pink socks to work on Friday, hiding them per usual, and then before the movie one of my friends saw them and commented how she liked them. Then after the movie when we were at the bar she near the end was referencing to me like "If we were in High School you'd be the prom queen due to how many of these guys are on you" or "You're a popular girl Nooky!". That made me happy, but part of me wonders if she actually knew, or it was part of the joke. Movie was good btw, highly recommend it!

Father "accidentally" pried into my mail and saw my hormones...along with brother and sister. Father ( I think ) bought the lie that they were herbal weight control shit. Brother and sister knew immediately. Brother confronted me and believes I'm rushing into this despite having been thinking about this since I was around 19 or 20. This coming on the heels of being let go from my job. Now I don't know who doesn't know Holy shit, my desire to flee has never been this high.

Please be safe and don't rush into anything. The last thing you'd want is to end up with your entire family alienating you - just try to avoid the topic with them as much as possible, and if they push it then try to reasonably explain it as carefully as you can. I'd recommend still applying to jobs as much as you can, even out of state. What are you trying to do job-wise?